Do You Have 'Quick Fix' Dieters In Your Life?

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By: , SparkPeople Blogger
5/16/2013 12:00 PM   :  81 comments   :  13,117 Views

When it comes to losing weight and living a healthy lifestyle, everyone has to do what works best for them.  I can give all kinds of reasons why a balanced diet and regular exercise is the way to go.  But in the end, everyone has to find a style of eating and activity that they can live with for the rest of their lives.  It’s not my place to judge whether or not someone is right or wrong if they choose to go about weight loss in a different way.
 
Let’s face it:  I’ve got opinions, and I’m usually not afraid to share them.  If someone asks me for the best weight loss tips, I’ll tell them what I know.   But it’s always gets a little tricky when friends or family members share their weight loss secrets with me (without asking what I think) and what they are doing goes against everything I’d recommend.  I’ve had friends on the “certain number of days” diet, raw food diets, liquid diets and more.  I have friends doing workout programs that (to me) seem less-than-effective.  In the back of my mind I’m thinking “There’s probably a better way to go about this,” and I’m tempted to ask the question “Can you live with this style of eating (or activity) forever?”  But instead of saying something, I usually stay quiet.  I figure that most of my friends and family know where I work and what I do.  If they wanted my advice, they’d ask for it.  Right?
 
Most people know that there is no magic pill or machine that’s going to make weight loss easy.  Even so, we’re tempted by all of the infomercials promising big results with little effort.  Maybe, just maybe, we hope the claims are true and it’s not going to take any hard work.  Those individuals who’ve lost weight the healthy way and kept it off know that’s just not the case.  The hard work is worth it, but it is work and it does take time. 
 
If someone in my life was doing a diet or exercise program I thought was dangerous to their health, I would certainly say something.  But most of them are just trying things that won’t likely lead to lasting change.   It’s hard to bite my tongue, but most of the time I don’t think it’s my place to say something unless asked.
 
What about you?  When you see a friend or family member starting the next crazy weight loss fad, do you say something?  Do you suggest it’s not a good idea, or just wait for them to ask for your opinion?
 


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  • 31
    I usually don't say much - 12/29/2011   8:16:34 AM
  • ONEWAYSTREET
    30
    My lips are sealed... ;-) - 12/29/2011   7:57:58 AM
  • 29
    I just grin and bear it, I have relatives that go on the Atkins and lose weight and six months later they are back on the same diet or a different one, the workouts are minimal or non existant and I see them lose muscle mass. Meanwhile I keep to my daily workouts, watching what I eat and recording it, the weight is coming off slowly, but I know I am stronger than ever. I don't see that there is a point in causing more angst by offering my opinion, instead I listen to them lecture me on what I should do and smile and go on my own way. I find it interesting that I have brought the SparkPeople site to their attention and none of them have gone to look at it much less join. :-) - 12/29/2011   12:42:16 AM
  • 28
    its really hard for me to keep my mouth shut recently i had my in law in town and we were kinda of going back and forth and it does get me a little bothered because she doesnt like to work out she is a little heavy likes to eat out all the time and she want to be telling me how to eat so then i just said people wont change unless they really want to and like i told her i wont go further with a client unless they really want to go through the hard work and change their eating and that ended the whole disaster. It is a touchy subject for everyone but quick fixes are only going to get you to gain double the weight - 12/28/2011   9:09:40 PM
  • 27
    I keep it to myself, unless someone asks, then I just give my general opinion on cutting carbs, hcg, whatever the diet is, and mention what I do for myself. I usually leave it at that unless they ask follow up questions. - 12/28/2011   4:44:57 PM
  • 26
    :) - 12/28/2011   1:05:43 PM
  • 25
    I find it telling that all the Sparkers know its pretty useless to try and tell people that the best way to lose weight and be healthy is eat normal portions and exercise. People don't want to hear it because its not a quick fix, takes effort and consistency which is hard work and pretty boring LOL - 12/28/2011   1:05:34 PM
  • 24
    My MIL and most of her 2nd husbands family. Whatever the newest diet craze, they are on it. She has a medicine cabinet full of diet pills, and a basement full of crazy exercise equipment. She saw some crazy doctor that put her on pills and a "restricted" diet. She only eats once per day so yeah I would say it's restricted.

    They always say "I lost 10 lbs in the first week", "Sherry's lost 25 lbs taking these". All I say anymore is, "let me know how you're doing with it in 6 months". I don't suggest health eating and exercise because they aren't ready to hear it. - 12/28/2011   12:51:35 PM
  • WHEELS54
    23
    My best friend is quite overweight and for a month went to the gym 3x week for an hour and then quit because she gained 5 lbs. I asked her if she had changed her diet and she said no. I suggested committing to 10 min a day and she said that wouldn't do any good. I suggested Spark and she said someday. Now am leaving it alone. It's just sad; she's a great gal. - 12/28/2011   12:17:27 PM
  • 22
    Scientific findings change all the time so I don't get into whether it's a good diet or not. I just say "Well, keep me updated on your progress," to show I care about them. If they ask my opinion I suggest they use the Spark tools to help them along. - 12/28/2011   10:28:20 AM
  • 21
    I read everyones posts and was hoping for a get thin quick plan. Lol just kidding. - 12/28/2011   9:57:12 AM
  • 20
    I should probably bite my tongue also, but they know what I've been doing and they are saying it to me and not someone else...that's the same as looking for my opinion, in my opinion...soooo, I generally quote an article that I have recently read and tell them the potential impact or lack of it... :~) - 12/28/2011   9:25:41 AM
  • 19
    Live and let live - only offer an opinion if asked - 12/28/2011   8:27:33 AM
  • 18
    I don't like to get into endless discussions about weight loss and plans for it. If they ask me what I'm doing I just say, "I eat everything I want...just not a lot of it!" I tire of the over analysis of this vs that vs the other. - 12/28/2011   5:56:08 AM
  • 17
    When I first started out I used to give my opinion without being asked, after a year and a half on this journey I keep my opinions to myself. I've realized that those around me want a quick fix they are not interested in a life long committment. - 12/28/2011   5:55:07 AM
  • 123ELAINE456
    16
    Im trying to get my son Ernie interested in the SparkPeople Site now. He lives with 5 other people all way over weight. Time will tell if he will or not. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. - 12/28/2011   5:33:49 AM
  • 15
    I think I'm going to try "Gee I'm glad that works for you, we are all different. This is what worked for me."
    If that doesn't work I'll live and let live. - 12/28/2011   4:50:15 AM
  • 14
    "Live and let live" is a motto that has served me well through life. - 12/27/2011   11:28:40 PM
  • 13
    Oh, God! My mother....

    What's the nutritional content of blood from a bitten lip? I agree with you that if they want your advice, they'll ask. - 12/27/2011   10:58:51 PM
  • 12
    I would only offer my opinion if asked... or if I honestly thought they were endangering their health (but even then I would tread carefully... its their life to risk, not mine!). When I first started weight watchers I kept it quiet - mostly because I wasn't sure I was really going to stick with it and make it a true lifestlye change...which I knew it had to be to do any good... but I think a year and a half into it I can say I've shown some commitment! LOL... Anyway, I used to keep quiet about it..now I won't talk on and on about it but I will mention it in an offhand way...and if people ask I answer questions. But I don't want to push because I know how I hated that. A person will only change when they are ready and not before. - 12/27/2011   9:58:29 PM
  • 11
    I also have a friend who used HCG and she also has lost a lot of weight! It's tempting, but I believe Sparkpeople has the right plan for me. And who knows what might be down the road for people who are now using HCG? Have any long term, double-blind studies been done? - 12/27/2011   9:33:06 PM
  • 10
    I have this problem with my eldest son, who is the one who got me on Spark... I don't wait, I just keep reminding him there is NO magic bullet! Sure wish he would come back to Spark! - 12/27/2011   9:16:25 PM
  • 9
    I don't say anything against someone's "quick fix". I just talk about getting regular exercise, eating lots of fruit & veggies, limiting take out and " I " can feel it's working for "ME"! And invite them to come work out at the gym. - 12/27/2011   9:10:00 PM
  • 8
    I try to remind them that they didn't put the weight on overnight. It will take more then a pill or drink, or magic soup to keep the weight off. I also know first hand how hard "yo-yo dieting" is on your heart. - 12/27/2011   9:02:06 PM
  • 7
    I just mention that it's about eating a healthy diet and including some exersice in the mix and leave it to that. They can see by what I do that it works. - 12/27/2011   8:48:40 PM
  • 6
    I keep quiet about other people's weight loss methods. My friends and family know my background and what I probably think about "quick fix" plans. I'm not the diet police and I sure don't want people working MY plan for me. - 12/27/2011   8:33:28 PM
  • 5
    It's hard to envision a point where I'd pipe up and ask someone whether they could stick with it as a lifestyle change. Mostly because if they're doing ANY quick-fix diet, it sort of negates the idea that they want any change other than the loss of weight.

    I think it also depends on what it is. Any of the drink systems (Isogenix comes to mind) and I'd keep my mouth shut. Something really loopy like the "cabbage soup diet" and I'd be more likely to ask if they were serious and what they expected to have happen when they "finished". - 12/27/2011   8:09:40 PM
  • 4
    A relative is losing weight on an all liquid diet after buying a super juicer. Yuck. I can't imagine that approach leading to any longterm lifestyle change that will keep the weight from coming back once it's off. When someone is convinced their way is THE way, it's not worth discussing. - 12/27/2011   7:08:28 PM
  • 3
    If I know them pretty well, I would give them my opinion, because they are probably asking me for a reason. But there is one woman at work who is constantly talking about going on this crazy diet or that crazy diet. I don't say anything to her because I know that by 9:40 AM on Day 1, she will be cheating. - 12/27/2011   6:26:05 PM
  • 2
    My sister still thinks starving herself is an effective way to lose weight, what is so funny is she is the biggest i have ever seen her. I wish I could talk to her. - 12/20/2011   9:57:36 PM
  • VANANDEL
    1
    A friend of mine started using HCG. I didn't even know what it was, but SparkPeople did an article on it a few weeks ago, so I sent him the article. He's not mentioned it, but I hope he took the time to read it. He has lost a good amount of weight, so I'm sure he thinks HCG is very effective. He knows I promote SparkPeople's lifestyle changes. - 12/20/2011   11:45:37 AM

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