My Body, Myself: Loving the Skin You're In


By: , – Glennon Doyle Melton, Family Circle
  :  4 comments   :  9,568 Views

Editor's Note: Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of the New York Times best-selling memoir Carry On, Warrior, and founder of the online community

I want to make peace with my body. I want to love it. I don't mean that I want to improve my body and then love it. I don't want to weight train it into submission or lotion away my cellulite or train for a triathlon. I know these efforts are healthy for some people, but to me, too much improvement just feels like more war.
I'm nearing 40 and that seems about time to get over believing that I'm not good enough yet. It's probably time to accept that the people telling me I'm not good enough are all trying to sell me something. A revolutionary workout! Miraculous cream! A new juicer! Improved cross-trainers! I have a friend who's always running. Running, running, running like she's trying to escape from something. Aging, maybe? Death? She runs for the same reasons I write, I guess. She tried to get me to jog with her recently by saying, "G, every mile you run adds five minutes to your life." No thank you, I said. I'm not a mathematician, but I'd rather have 12 more minutes now than five extra minutes when I'm 90. 
By making it to 40, we've earned the right to laugh at that "improve yourself!" advice and tune into a message that actually interests us. Forty is when we start running out of folks we have to impress, thank God. It may also be the year that I finally give myself permission to start thinking more about what I'm looking at instead of what I'm looking like.
So when I say I want to love my body, what I mean is that I want to learn to appreciate and honor this part of me—my body—that helps me do what I do and know what I know. Without it, I wouldn't be able to lose myself in some of my life's most astonishing moments: the smell of my little one's neck after a bath, the reassuring touch of my eldest's tweeny arms wrapped around me, the velvety sensation of warm ocean water lapping my toes, and the weight of my puppies on my legs at night making me feel so safe and grounded. It's amazing how wisdom sometimes starts on the surface of our skin and then settles so deeply into our minds and hearts.
It's been good to me, this body. And so I want to take some time to make intentional peace with it, because I've not honored it in the past. As a matter of fact, I've abused, ridiculed and taken it for granted for decades. I need to make amends. My body is owed an apology.
When I was 8, my body started dragging me down like a piece of awkwardly shaped, oversize carry-on luggage. I felt oafish compared to all the wispy girls. I was never wispy. They flitted; I trudged. My spirit was light and ambitious but my body embarrassed me. So I dragged it into hiding. I became bulimic and stayed that way for decades. When I got my period at 12, I kept it a secret because I was ashamed. I felt messy and inappropriate.
Then, in my late teens, sex started happening to me and honestly, it still feels like something I let happen to my body while my mind thinks of other things and my soul feels confused—unconnected to my body or my spirit. And as a mom to three, I've been either pregnant or breastfeeding (or both) for 7 of the past 10 years. It seems like for as long as I can remember, my body has existed to make people and to serve people.
Click here to hear more of Glennon Doyle Melton story from Family Circle.

More from Family Circle:
Tell us your story. Do you love your body? What helps you to be comfortable with your self?

Click here to to redeem your SparkPoints
  You will earn 5 SparkPoints
See More: family circle,
Got a story idea? Give us a shout!
NEXT ENTRY >   5 Cooking Tricks That Make Vegetables More Nutritious


    Great blog. I feel that I need to keep body up because it beling to God. That's why I exercise to make sure I am pleasing God. - 11/21/2013   12:17:10 AM
  • 3
    what wonderful articular thank you for sharing we should all be doing this a every age - 11/20/2013   7:32:43 AM
  • 2
    I think it all depend on how you love your body. For me weight lifting class is a way for me to love my body. Eating a clean diet is another way to love my body. I do these things for me and no one else. I am learning to accept the things I cannot change and change the things I can............ - 11/19/2013   6:35:15 PM
  • 1
    My 7 year old grand niece weigh 90 lbs last time her Mother told us her weight, she seem heavier every time we see her. She has complained to her Mother several times as kids tease her at school but her Mother thinks she will grow out of it. She eats 3-5 bedtime snacks. I think your blog tells how this little girl must fee. - 11/19/2013   12:59:23 PM

Please Log In To Leave A Comment:    Log in now ›


x Lose 10 Pounds by September 4! Sign up with Email Sign up with Facebook
By clicking one of the above buttons, you're indicating that you have read and agree to SparkPeople's Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy and that you're at least 18 years of age.