You Didn't Reach the Goal, But You're Still a Success

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6/21/2013 12:00 PM   :  81 comments   :  21,269 Views

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Instead of being thankful for the things I can do, it’s much easier for me to get frustrated about the things I can’t.  I’d love to be able to run an 8 (or even 9!) minute pace comfortably.  I’d love to be naturally flexible without having to work at it, and it would be great if I had endless energy for my early morning workouts.  I demand a lot from my body, and honestly, it gives me a lot in return.  I think I need to take a more positive attitude towards my body and my accomplishments.  How about you?
 
It makes me tired just thinking about all of the things I do on a daily basis.  I take care of three wonderful (but exhausting) children.  Most days I’m up at 5 a.m., either working out or getting work done before the kids get up.  I try to make the most of my days, whether it’s getting things done at home, having fun with the kids, or working on something for SparkPeople.  I know there are thousands of women out there just like me, and many with even more responsibilities on their plates.  Yet, I still find reasons to criticize my lack of progress or the fact that my body doesn’t look like it did before I had three kids. 
 
Every day I see posts on the site from members who are frustrated.  Perhaps they aren’t losing weight as quickly as they’d like (“I’ve only lost 10 pounds instead of 15 like I’d hoped”), or their 5K training is progressing slower than expected (“I should be walking 20 minutes by now but I can only walk for 10”).  I understand what it’s like when your body isn’t doing exactly what you’d like it to do.  But I also think it’s important not to overlook what you have accomplished.  As long as you’re continuing down the path to a healthier lifestyle, is it okay if it takes you a little longer to get there?  I think so. 
 
If you can’t Be Your Own Cheerleader or your Own Best Motivator, who else will?  Maybe it’s time to start celebrating all of the wonderful things you can do, instead of being so hard on yourself when you fall short.  Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to challenge your body and keep working toward bigger life goals.  But if you didn’t reach the time goal you set for your last race, or you still don’t have the body of a supermodel despite reaching your weight loss goal, did you fail?  Not at all.  I’d still consider you to be a success.
 
What do you think? 


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  • COLLEENHUDSON
    81
    I've just recovered from a ruptured aneurysm. In the three months since, I've found out how important little achievements matter. Each step is important, don't sell yourself short. You will get there. Smile, one more step closer. - 3/18/2014   8:56:10 PM
  • KL6705
    80
    You must know me!

    I'm always beating myself up for not reaching my ideal weight. I've come a long way, and I need to pat myself on the back more often.

    Thanks for reminding me to celebrate where I am! - 11/8/2013   11:39:47 AM
  • CHERBOO1
    79
    Needed to read this today. I am just down thinking I will never get to my goal. The perfectionist in me only saw how much I had to lose rather than the fact that I have lost 25 pounds so far. So I am stuck right now. My body is adjusting and it will start losing when it is ready. My job is to track and exercise and let my body do its thing when it is ready. I also need to love myself on the way to goal... every minute. - 9/3/2013   2:43:29 PM
  • 78
    Self Acceptance...SUCH a challenge for myself and many here among our SparkFamily. I loved this webpage shared by BAZOOKABOBCAT:

    gokaleo.com/2013/06/24/im-awesom
    e-and-so-are-you/

    Cheers to our AWESOME SELVES!!

    Don - 6/26/2013   6:46:12 AM
  • TIWATZ
    77
    I completely agree. We're way too hard on ourselves when it comes to losing weight and eating right. We should be proud of our accomplishments however small. - 6/25/2013   6:45:11 PM
  • 76
    "Not sure I'm convinced here. What is the source of motivation for change for a person who is thrilled with their present situation?"

    Frankly, I'm thrilled that I went from struggling to carry a 20 pound bag of dog food to handling a thirty pound bag with ease and being able to tumble a fifty pound bag of feed out of my car trunk into the wheelbarrow, trundle it into the barn and tip it into the feed bin.

    I'm thrilled that I'm down 40 pounds and two pants sizes, although I'm still ten pounds from goal.

    I'm thrilled that at age 63, I had the courage to take on the challenges of a hobby farm and all the physical work involved. Don't tell me that moving 80-pound bales of hay isn't exercise!

    Does all this mean I'm complacent? No, it just means these are landmarks on the way to a healthier me. - 6/22/2013   6:45:38 PM
  • DELLMEL
    75
    Thank you sooooooomuch for this great article today. - 6/22/2013   2:18:49 PM
  • 74
    Awesome advice!!! Thanks - 6/22/2013   12:09:39 PM
  • DENNIS5983
    73
    Great advice that I will try to take to heart when thing don't go my way. Thanks!!! - 6/22/2013   11:04:19 AM
  • 72
    Great article!!!! I have learned to celebrate my successes--no matter how small I may think they are, they are still successes. Those will get me to my ultimate goal and keep me going past that goal. Thanks for reminding all of us to celebrate ourselves. I believe that I am my greatest cheerleader--who else is with me 24/7? - 6/22/2013   9:47:39 AM
  • 71
    Amen and amen. =) - 6/22/2013   9:18:30 AM
  • 70
    Down is down - I always say - even if it's only one ounce.

    Keep on keepin' on. - 6/22/2013   6:46:46 AM
  • 69
    Thanks for the reminder to be grateful for the little things. Needed that. - 6/22/2013   3:46:27 AM
  • 68
    This is a good message that everyone needs to remember. You don't have to reach your goal to have accomplished something. - 6/22/2013   2:16:20 AM
  • 67
    Thanks. - 6/22/2013   1:08:52 AM
  • JUNEBUG1956
    66
    WOW!! Have you been following me around, Jen? Great article! Just what I needed tonight! Enjoy your kids and have a great weekend! Keep it Sparking! - 6/21/2013   10:30:05 PM
  • 65
    Just like BLKLLY this couldn't of come at a better time. I needed that little boost. I'm going to focus on the positive, the things I have achieved and not so much on the negative, things I can't do. I'm saving your blog, so I can go back and read it when I need that little boost again. Thanks - 6/21/2013   10:05:38 PM
  • 64
    This could not have came at a better time; thanks! - 6/21/2013   9:23:55 PM
  • 63
    Great article. - 6/21/2013   9:16:51 PM
  • 62
    A thank you from me too. Sometimes I do forget that I am progressing, however painstakingly slow it is.
    - 6/21/2013   8:23:04 PM
  • 61
    Thanks for the reminder. It is so easy to me down when things aren't progressing as quickly as we would like but as long as we are moving in the right direction we are a success.
    I love this quote: Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be. We can all get there! Just enjoy the little successes along the way! - 6/21/2013   8:08:36 PM
  • 60
    That's a great reminder that many of us need. It is hard sometimes to be positive even though we may not be where we wanted to be. Some of that has to do with setting unrealistic goals. We need to take a good look at those goals and make sure we are setting realistic, down-to-earth goals. - 6/21/2013   7:56:21 PM
  • 59
    Thank you so much for a great reminder - 6/21/2013   7:53:35 PM
  • MISSJANE55
    58
    great post: we have to remember that we are changing lifestyles, not just trying to loose a few pounds. I appreciate the line: 'I demand a lot of my body and it gives me a lot in return' yep! Thanks - 6/21/2013   7:45:41 PM
  • 57
    That was terrific and I needed to be talked to. Now I'll start having this conversation with myself. Thank you.
    Lee - 6/21/2013   7:41:28 PM
  • JDOWLING88
    56
    What a wonderful thing for us all to remember! - 6/21/2013   7:16:34 PM
  • 55
    You're absolutely right, thanks for the motivation to keep going even when progress is slow in coming! In the middle of my workouts, when I think I can't jog up hill for another second, I tell myself "this is good for me, I am getting healthy" and I find I can keep going a little longer. I can't wait to reach my goals, even if it takes a little longer than I feel that it should take. - 6/21/2013   6:52:09 PM
  • 54
    I've lost over 70lbs,,, I just think of "what if I'd NOT done a THING???? I would of GAINED MORE !!" This is like $$$ in the BANK !! Only it's BETTAH for it's for my health :) . GO ME !! GO MEEEEeeee !! my health is spiraling downward and FAST, but IMAGINE if I hadn't lose this weight, and the MORAH to come :) what a MESS I'd be? Again,, GO DIANESE !! GO !!!!

    So I guess you can say "I am positive" about what I've accomplished. Instead of looking at it as "What I CAN'T DO" look at it as "Looked what I HAVE DONE". WOOHOOOOOO !!

    THANKS For the nice blog. GR8 remindah - 6/21/2013   5:10:56 PM
  • GA2NEGIRL
    53
    Checking and tracking my morning pulse has made it easier to see the fitness progress I'm making even though the scale moves slowly and my times are slower than I'd like. Celebrate the successes however and whenever they come! - 6/21/2013   4:08:02 PM
  • 52
    I'm always pushing myself and forget where I'm at until someone guesses my age 10+ years younger or women at the gym tell me how much I inspire them with my Olympic lifts. - 6/21/2013   3:22:18 PM
  • 51
    Not sure I'm convinced here. What is the source of motivation for change for a person who is thrilled with their present situation? - 6/21/2013   3:19:17 PM
  • 50
    OMG YES! The mere fact that I am actually making an effort to eat healthier and exercise should be celebrated at each moment I'm making that choice! Imagine, you can turn around a negative feeling to a positive one in an instant! - 6/21/2013   2:52:56 PM
  • 49
    Agreed! Recognizing what I HAVE accomplished and CAN do is a great way to turn things around when I'm down on myself for what I sometimes perceive as a lack of progress. - 6/21/2013   2:17:02 PM
  • 48
    I agree! It's been a long road, finally losing 55 lbs, and maintaining for 3+ years now. There is a long list of accomplishments that I never realized going into it to "just lose 70 lbs and keep it off', that other changes would become more important than the number on the scale. I never thought about things like seeing my toes again, or my waistline, having nice curves again, losing 3 clothes sizes, getting fit, toned, loving healthy foods, having an active lifestyle, etc. There is so much more like living a balanced, healthy lifestyle, and loving myself for who I am. I could let myself stress over the other 15 lbs, but I've succeeded far beyond my wildest imagination. If the rest comes off within the realm of living balanced and healthy, that's fine. But if it doesn't, it doesn't matter. I was just a number I picked early on. Everything else is much more important to me. I love where I am. - 6/21/2013   1:00:54 PM
  • GPEOT78
    47
    This is a good blog to read. I've been down on myself for not continuing to lose. I tend to forget about where I've come from. I no longer eat the big meals like I did with all the calories, I've learned to eat & prepare more fruits & veggies. I can wear clothes that flatter my body rather that buying clothes that fit me. It makes me take that time to appreciate me & what I've accomplished. Thanks for your thoughts! - 6/21/2013   12:39:01 PM
  • 46
    This hit me also. I have lost 165 lbs and am struggling with my last 15 lbs. Now just the other day I was asking myself what is the matter with me? I get down to the last 5 lbs and then I gain a few but that is wrong thinking. I have accomplished so much during my 4 years on spark. I have learned to eat healthy, do more exercise than I have ever done in my life before and am able to wear the clothes I like, do all the the things that I love to do so I have no reason to complain. I'm comfortable in my own skin and that is what counts. If I reach the goal I have set for myself so be it but, if not and I can maintain what I am now I will be more than satisfied with myself. I am a success. - 6/21/2013   12:11:35 PM
  • AMBER461
    45
    You are so right. We have to take every little accomplishment with thanks, and praise God that we are able to accomplish some small goal. - 10/15/2012   7:07:14 PM
  • CREATIVEMILTON
    44
    I was very encouraged reading this. The beginning of the year I started another attempt at losing weight, so with the help of Weight Watchers, then South Beach, then The Belly Fat diet, I managed to lose 30 pounds. All summer long I have maintained my weight by eating healthier and swimming and gardening. Now I'm here with you and this will be my last stop! I've finally found where I want to be and where I can continue on to reach my goal. No I didn't reach my goal I set for myself at the beginning of the year, but I didn't backslide and gain any weight back. I think that is an accomplishment in itself. Now I am here and am ready to continue on to success! - 9/19/2012   8:09:19 AM
  • 43
    Thank you. - 9/18/2012   10:33:29 PM
  • 42
    This is appropriate for where I am right now. I am such a perfectionist so it is much easier to acknowldege the stuff I didn't do right instead of my overall forward progress. You don't have to go fast, you just have to go. - 9/17/2012   7:46:00 AM
  • NIMI1234
    41
    I am glad I got a chance to read this article. It is so important to shift ones focus from what's not been done to what has been done. It increases ones self-confidence and gives one chance to not be so hard on oneself and focus on ones accomplishments and give oneself a breather. - 9/16/2012   1:08:04 AM
  • 40
    Wow, Ok back on track.
    But always reflect what
    we have done. - 9/14/2012   1:34:19 PM
  • 39
    I tell people all the time to think about how much better off they are because they are trying to make healthy choices, exercise more, and live a healthier lifestyle. Try and doing better, even if you aren't where you want to be, is still a lot better than not trying at all. Sometimes I don't take my own advice and get discouraged, but losing weight is a process that takes longer for some than others. Thank you for reminding us to count our blessings more than our failures. - 9/14/2012   12:43:01 PM
  • BANDMOM2012
    38
    Yes, I am still a success. I haven't reached my goal for this month, but I am making progress and continue to do so! Focus on what is working people! - 9/14/2012   10:14:42 AM
  • 37
    Yes! I Went Back Several Weeks Ago And Saw The Pictures of Where I Start And Where I Am Now And I Celebrated. I'm Patient and I KNOW I'm A WINNER NOW! Thanks For The Encouragement! - 9/14/2012   12:59:56 AM
  • 36
    Great Blog! We are so quick to focus on the negative and overlook the positve. - 9/13/2012   10:01:52 PM
  • SFRIES2
    35
    Just beginning and consistency is a goal. Busyness of life seems to creep in and then I do not enough. I am sure as I chart , journal, and read the consistency will also improve. - 9/13/2012   9:31:34 PM
  • 34
    Thank you for the reminder it reminds of two sayings I taking out of my file and posting where i can see it each
    weather its 5 minutes or 15 minutes a mile is a mile
    I don't have to go fast i just have to go and keep moving forward to my goal. - 9/12/2012   1:06:05 PM
  • 33
    I needed this today! Thank you! - 9/12/2012   12:35:23 PM
  • 32
    VERY good reminder! being self-judgmental is not a useful life attitude. - 9/12/2012   11:35:31 AM

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