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KATHUGGS SparkPoints: (41,579)
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6/16/12 7:38 P

I don't fear being thin. I fear that I won't know that I'm thin. I'm at my lowest weight I've been since high school and I struggle with seeing it on some days. I'm afraid that when I hit my goal I won't feel as thin as I will look. I think my mental journey is going to take a lot longer than my physical journey.

DIVIERO968 Posts: 184
6/16/12 6:44 P

I'm not afraid of being thin. What I am afraid of is that I won't be able to stay thin. It is a scary feeling going from being a big person to finally being small.

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6/16/12 6:28 P

Yes for sure. But I am really trying to surface and deal with my fears as I keep sabotaging myself. Anyone else feel the same way?

CHICKYWANNA SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 6:28 P

I also have to add that I need to concentrate on the matter at hand which is weight loss, get in concentration mode...And so should we all ! I hope all this makes sense cause I'm not talented at writing( but this sure made me think...)

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6/16/12 6:25 P

Actually I have a fear of being successful at anything. If I am successful at one thing then I have no excuse for everything else in my life I cannot fix. My weight is the first thing I want to fix.I am learning to just be me and be proud of my failures and least i am trying to change for the better.

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6/16/12 5:53 P


CHICKYWANNA SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 5:31 P

I also think I'm afraid of being thin-- but want to so bad..I have had to strugle for along time now..I also know you can't have fear and faith in your heart at the same time, I also know the thought of being fat sets me into a panic mode..Then when I go into panic mode I can't think stright and then I start to worry--I also know that worry attracts bad .I've seen it happen in other people's lives, I had a friend once that bought a new car and every time she came to visit she would get up a few ( if not more-- to go check on her car ) Well some one had to steal it one night ! All that worry about the car did attract bad in her life ( it really does attract bad )..So why wouldn't it attract bad in my weight ? I just need to relax and have faith and not panic and worry, and so should we all ! Just have faith that everything will be okay and still work at weight loss , but don't panic and worry...Chicky

BLEGNER1 Posts: 3,483
6/16/12 4:44 P

Never thought of this, there is that possibility, will meditate on it and see what I come up with

6/16/12 4:23 P

I fear not being able to see my thin self, always seeing the fat girl!

Great topic!

Edited by: MEESHINTHEUK at: 6/16/2012 (16:23)
MNJONES2 Posts: 2,038
6/16/12 4:04 P

I just want to be at the middle of healthy BMI range. Not too thin not too heavy. Then with that I want to be healthy.

6/16/12 3:53 P


LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 4,690
6/16/12 3:47 P

I think that it's hard to be happy and obese at the same time. As someone whose maximum (known) weight was 272 lbs, I can tell you that I was not a happy person. I did my best to seem like I was happy, but that was just an act that I put on for others... But, I had hope that, if I lost weight and became thin, I would be happy. I struggled with the fear that, if I lost weight I wouldn't actually be happy and that I would find out that I just was an unhappy person. I was afraid of that happening. So, yes, I was afraid of losing weight. I was afraid that I'd still be unhappy and no longer have anything to "fix" so that I could have a happy life. BTW...yes, I am much happier now.

ANELAKANOA Posts: 4,221
6/16/12 3:37 P

I'm loving all the replies so far!

JOJOLALA88 Posts: 226
6/16/12 2:59 P

I have been thinking about this a lot lately. I have been fat all my adult life after having anorexia as a teenager. I was abused by my first boyfriend, have PTSD, and am still afraid of men. I think I have been using my weight all these years as a sheild from attention. First trying to literally disappear and then later trying to hide behind fat. The new attention I am getting now that I am losing weight is scary. I also have also felt that I am a failure and not deserving of the good things in life so the fear of failure of not being able to lose weight or to gain it all back really stresses me out. But I have gotten so much stronger in the past 6 months with every goal I have met and realized that maybe I can do this, I do not have to be a victim of my past any longer, and I do deserve a new, healthy like, it's just up to me.

KIKIRINI Posts: 13
6/16/12 2:45 P

I can't say I'm really scared of being thin, but just slightly unnerved by what that means... my father was large, and so I fear that I am always going to have to struggle, just to stay at a healthy weight.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,525
6/16/12 2:43 P

I am also more afraid of gaining it back after I lose it.

LESLIELENORE Posts: 41,901
6/16/12 2:40 P

I have been aware that I was hiding behind my "fat self" for quite a while, so on one hand I love being thinner and stronger, but on the other hand I am no longer invisible. I think a little fear is healthy, but mostly it just feels better to be thinner and more physically capable. I guess I fear losing the progress I have made so far, more than I fear being thin.

RUBENB2003 Posts: 14,837
6/16/12 1:53 P

I am not afraid of being thin as much as I am afraid of not staying thin

CLARK971 SparkPoints: (29,686)
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6/16/12 1:49 P

I agree with ONLINEASLLOU.

I spent most of my life thin. Then in my mid 30s, the pounds started slowly creeping on. it was so gradual, that I didn't pay attention to a pound here and there. I saw losing weight as getting back to "normal me". getting back to the old me.

Edited by: CLARK971 at: 6/16/2012 (13:50)
KKLENNERT809 Posts: 10,742
6/16/12 1:42 P

Not at all

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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6/16/12 1:39 P

It seems within the responses so far that most of the people who are afraid of being thin have been heavy for a long time. Our identities are as "fat people" or we have used eating and being overweight as a psychological tool or protection for a long time. Being overweight is "normal" for us.

Many of the people who say they have no fear have lived much of their lives as thin -- and see losing weight as "getting back to normal."

Of course there are exeptions, but I suspect that is a common theme.

BKURBAN Posts: 234
6/16/12 1:25 P

No can't wait to hit 170lbs.

DARWHOHOO Posts: 3,459
6/16/12 1:22 P

I have read all these comments and noticed most persons are not afraid of being thin. I believe that is based on the society in which you live. I live in a society where too thin is ugly and if you are overweight you are considered sexy even. Maybe that's why my weight gain never really hugged me as it should until now when I decided that I wanted to lose it.

That being said I sometimes worry that I will look at my new size and not like it and not like me all over again. I am as some persons said here, am afraid of failing too so even now I sometimes justify why I should not lose the weight.

I say forget about being thin, fat etc and love your body now and listen to your will tell you your optimum weight regardless of whether or not society, whichever society you belong, will approve.


Edited by: DARWHOHOO at: 6/16/2012 (13:23)
JSLATE2K SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 1:12 P

No, as long as it's a healthy weight. That's not my biggest goal, but it's an important part of being healthy.

6/16/12 1:06 P

I am afraid of being thin.
I have been heavy all my life and when I lose weight I tend to overeat to gain that weight back. I think that I use the fat as a comfort thing to keep me in the background .

JEANNEBOYD1 Posts: 482
6/16/12 1:03 P

Absolutely not. I was thin for my entire life until I gained weight a few years ago around age 50. I hate it! I can't wait to get back to my normal weight.

MISSCHRISTINE1 SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 1:02 P

I am afaid of not being able to maintain once I get to my goal weight. : (

CHOOWY Posts: 4,240
6/16/12 12:26 P

No, I've always been on the high side of a healthy BMI to overweight. I'm not carrying any illusions that my life will be happier if I lose weight. I know that it will be one less thing to worry about, if I can get to and maintain a low/healthy BMI. My heart, my arteries, and my joints will thank me.

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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6/16/12 12:19 P

I am just as afraid of success as I am of failure. With me, perhaps the biggest fear is that I will regret so much of my life should I find that life is "better" thin. If I find that I am happier, etc. as a thin person, then I will regret the many years I have lived as a fat person.

I became overweight at puberty and am now 57.

I fear the regret. I fear wondering how much better my life might have been had I been thin.

STARDUSTD SparkPoints: (46,157)
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6/16/12 12:18 P

Absolutely, and I think this is a fear you really have to address head-on before you arrive at your goal. I spent my entire life overweight (or at the very least, identifying myself as fatter than I was). When I finally stripped away the fat, it was like having to form a new identity for myself. While that task sounds very liberating—and can be—it can also be extremely overwhelming and terrifying. "If I'm not fat, what am I? Who am I?" I've struggled with maintenance in part because I didn't adequately address those fears while I was losing weight. I've had to really analyze what purpose overweight served me psychologically. If life as a thin person still doesn't look/feel the way I want, then I can't use my weight as a scapegoat. It's a reflection on me as a person (or that's how I often interpret it), and that really plays on my insecurities.

I'd suggest really brainstorming strategies for addressing your various fears.

ETA: If you're afraid to be thin, I'd say it sounds more like you're afraid of success than of failure.

Edited by: STARDUSTD at: 6/16/2012 (12:20)
CAMEOSUN SparkPoints: (86,617)
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6/16/12 12:12 P

Not afraid of being thin, but "too thin." A few lbs. left on to keep some curves are nice.

But for you - - take it one-day-at-a-time you will meet your goal. Don't give up. Watch your calories and get your exercise in, even a little bit of exercise a day is better than none at all.

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6/16/12 12:11 P

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BOOKWORM27S SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 12:07 P

That "fear" is actually a good thing, I use that as a constant reminder to keep my weight in check. The sheer terror of being a size 26/28 again keeps me on track to stay a size 2. When people stop fearing weight gain and relax, that is when they gain all of their weight back and then some. If you have been overweight most of your life, it will be a constant battle to keep the weight off for the rest of your life. We will never be able to relax and eat like "normal" people who have been a healthy weight all of their lives. Studies have shown that a formerly obese woman has to eat 300-400 calories less per day than a naturally thin woman of her same new lower weight. Our bodies were programmed long ago in our youth to make extra fat cells, and once they are created, we never lose them.

WILSON1926 SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 12:02 P

I'll let you know in a few

ANELAKANOA Posts: 4,221
6/16/12 11:57 A

I'm just afraid of failure! Always having to watch what I eat or I'll gain weight.

6/16/12 11:24 A

I guess it's taken me some time to actually answer this question.... deep down the answer is maybe. I have run the gamut of weights in my lifetime, I can tell you that it is a little weird to get attention when I did not get it before after losing 60 pounds of the weight that I need to lose. Being fat, I am able to stay in a shell, albeit a painful one to carry! It has also been weird to get attention from men who are not my husband, compliments, looks, etc. I don't know. Maybe not afraid so much as getting used to something different that I haven't known in a long time.

SKINNYMISSKASEY SparkPoints: (114,139)
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6/16/12 11:22 A

I am afraid of getting to my goal weight because I can tell a difference already now on how people treat me from how I use to weigh. Plus, I'll always be scared I'll get back to how I use to be.

KISSFAN1 Posts: 6,257
6/16/12 11:17 A

It was strange being "somewhat thin" after a few years of being overweight, so that was scary as I had to get used to it again. I don't fear being thin or thinner anymore, I fear being overweight! emoticon

6/16/12 11:06 A

Afraid to admit this, yes there were times where weight loss scared me. There is the unwanted attention once the pounds came off. And there is always the fear of regaining the weight.

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6/16/12 10:09 A


LORTHOM2001 Posts: 3,676
6/16/12 10:06 A

no way

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6/16/12 9:48 A


ADIOSALL Posts: 5,197
6/16/12 9:47 A

No, I'm afraid of staying fat. I've been thin my whole life until I married my current husband 8 years ago. It's then I started to pack on the pounds. He's the one who is afraid. He's afraid he'll lose me and find someone else. He's voiced this a couple of times. I try to reassure him, but I think deep down he still feels that way. Only time will show him something different.

BILLTMAN Posts: 822
6/16/12 9:42 A


JEFFGIRL Posts: 11,255
6/16/12 9:40 A

No! I would love it.

BOOKWORM27S SparkPoints: (0)
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6/16/12 9:38 A

Growing up obese, I never knew what it was like to be thin.... until now. I was never afraid to be thin, but I thought I would feel differently and everything would be "perfect" if I was thin. Wrong!! I'm still an unhappy "fat" person in a new thin body.

MLAN613 Posts: 18,807
6/16/12 9:31 A

Thin just feels good. I like having muscle and wearing thing clothes. I have unfortunately put some pounds back on and that's what feels gross to me. I hate being fat.

ANELAKANOA Posts: 4,221
6/16/12 9:22 A

I posted my own personal blog about this, but I was curious as to what everyone thinks? Is anyone afraid to be thin? Any fears?

For me I have been overweight/obese since 9 so I don't know anything else. My weight has held me back so much in life. At 28 I feel like I haven't lived my life! My biggest fear is what if I fail.

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