Thanks for posting this. This is what I need to hear as well. I have lost 7 lbs in the past 8 weeks, it has been hard and for some reason right now I want to give up!? Why do I feel like this? i don't understand? Why do we feel like this? You would think after losing weight you would want to continue in the same habits that got you this far but right now I just want to drive to target and get some oreos. I think I'm just nervous for Thanksgiving? Maybe I am subconciously thinking that I'm going to blow it so eating bad now isn't going to make a difference anyway? I don't know but writing it down definitely helps.
It's gonna be okay. Really. You have worked very hard at your weightloss from what I can tell. And you WILL continue to lose. It's breaking the cycle of doubt and shame in your head. Remember that these few pounds the scale is showing will come off pretty soon. More than half of it is probably water weight as a pound of fat takes 3500 calories. And even if you have gained a couple "pure fat" pounds, this is what we call "soft fat": it's easier to lose quickly because it's fresh. So keep moving, eat your veggies and extra water, and be gentle with yourself. You have come so far--you can do this!
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42 11/16/12 2:46 P
Lately, my life has been undergoing constant change. And in the recent years, I've tried my best to welcome change as best I can and not fight. After all it's the only thing in life that is constant. But with all the change, stress and a sense of powerlessness kicks in now and then. And I am back at the beginning, feeling that intense urgency. Feeling out of control, and at a lost of what to do, although I know logically it's not to run to food. I know that I am emotional eater. I know that I have tools I could use to combat these feelings. But last night, and the last several days. I feel like I've failed miserably. I've been mindless eating, and yesterday evening, I just completely binged. I felt awful. I feel ashamed. And I had that thought, that since I've lost an incredible amount of weight when I wake up the next day it will all be there to greet me again. I know that's not true. But what scared me about this binge is that feeling of I can't stop, of feeling out of control. I haven't felt in a long time, I guess not to that intensity. I don't want to undo all my hard work. And I don't want to fall that deeply again. I need to start incorporating the skills and tools I've learned again back into my life. I've become lax, and when you don't practice things, you get complacent and therefore when situations come, you have nothing to ground yourself on.
It absolutely happens to most of us.. just pick yourself up, dno't waste time on blame or shame... and practice moderation.. you'll be back on track almost immediately.
Hang in there!
11/13/12 8:39 A
Deprivation definitely can lead to uncontrolled eating. I agree with the others.
Give yourself a well-balanced menu; and not the mindset that certain items are "cheat" or you'll be continually in a battle against them (what we "can't" have is usually want we want)
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11/13/12 7:19 A
I agree with NancyPat, if you're trying *too hard* to lose weight, it could be your undoing. When I lost weight after my first pregnancy I was far too focused on just losing weight rather than making changes I could maintain for the rest of my life. As a result, I avoided so many yummy things and killed myself doing boring repeatitive cardio. I was incredibly prone to binging and did, often. As soon as I became pregnant with my second I very eagerly threw in the towel.
This time, my approach is a lot different. I look at the changes I've made to my diet and fitness as changes I could keep up for the rest of my life. Which means having small indulgences and modifying my favourite foods to be healthier and finding cardio and ST I enjoy doing. As well as not overdoing my fitness to the point I loathe it so much I actively avoid thinking about it and use any excuse to get out of it.
This time around I've only had two small binges and it was in the first month of my diet changes. I haven't binged in 4 months now.
I don't know if you can relate to any of this, but just throwing it out there in case my experience applies to your own situation.
Edited by: JENNILACEY at: 11/13/2012 (07:20)
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11/12/12 10:52 P
You're not alone in this, a lot of us have had similar struggles and setbacks and can totally empathize with your situation. I know what has helped me is focusing on the memories of how terrible I have felt after binging, and how great I feel when I eat a clean diet and stick to healthy options. Sometimes I'll feel a little hungry or I'll be tempted to go and eat the whole bag of animal crackers I keep stashed under my bed, but I know it's not worth it because as soon as I succumb to the temptation I'll just feel awful. Try easing yourself back into a healthy routine, and as the previous poster said - make sure you don't deprive yourself. You can incorporate plenty of healthy foods into your diet that are also delicious and satisfying!
If you have been losing as much as you say, then maybe you have also been feeling deprived or like you are on a DIET. Look at what you ate and why. Then think about what you would like to do in the future and how you can make it more likely to happen that way. For instance, if you realize that you were missing certain foods, find a way to fit them into your eating plan. If you just started grabbing a quick snack and found yourself getting drawn in by all those yummy unhealthy snacks around the house - maybe you want to try to avoid having the unhealthy stuff in the house, or only keeping individual serving size packages of those treats around so if you WANT one, you can have it without going wild. Think about whether you are eating enough if you discover that you were REALLY HUNGRY and look at the kinds of foods you have been eating.
A small setback - yes even a couple of days of crazy eating is a SMALL SETBACK - is to be expected occasionally and the trick is to have a plan that makes it less likely to occur the NEXT time you are in a similar situation, by looking back and making adjustments as you need them.
Don't beat yourself up, move forward, and only look back to help you understand yourself better so it doesn't happen too often. None of us are perfect and these things happen and don't make you a terrible failure or anything like that.
For the past month I put myself on a kind of "month-long" fitness/losing weight challenge - and the results have been great - averaging a kilo a week weight-loss. BUT, it's been very hard work, and just 2 days ago on Sunday night, it began... I had a big dinner followed by more food. Yesterday the "weakness" also continued - less exercise, more food, junk, carbs.. :/ AND, this morning I told myself I would exercise as soon as I woke up, but instead went straight to breakfast.. and ate.. and ate some cake-type snacks after this (no exercise)...
AAaaagh.. Feeling so guilty and terrible, being that I've put so much hard work in recently, only to slip up in a big way just as my personal goal is about to end.
I know if this was someone else writing the same thing I am writing now, that I would tell them to just get back on track, but I guess that is what I need right now - some support and encouragement from others to give me some hope and remind me that all is not lost!!
So, please.. Lend me some of your advice and/or support!
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