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723 9/28/12 10:13 A
Both dh and I quit drinking 30 years ago this year on different months. I quit for similar reasons as you. It is possible and you can have alot of fun without the spirits. When we got married we toasted each other with sodas. If your friends respect you they will leave you alone about it. Our friends didn't question our sobriety once they new we were serious about it. Dh has even bartenderd while sober. We have days we miss it but not the aftereffects. Good luck on your sobriety and remember alot of us are behind you.
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50 9/28/12 9:22 A
I have seen some really good advice in your responses and appreciate all the support. I'm going to give it a shot, and probably the worst thing will be the peer pressure. My intention to address that however is to approach it as a leader. That I might be able to be strong, show my friends my strength, and maybe even encourage some of them, whether it is to stop drinking or just make some other change for the better in their life.
i think you've gotten some pretty good advice already. and if you try it out and don't like it, odds are you'll have just upset your habits enough that you can remake better ones.
the thing about volunteering to be the dd is really a knifeblade sort of decision. it's a really, really good idea or a really, really bad idea. if you really can use that as your excuse to turn away all alcohol [a much better idea for you since you "only have one or two beers except when you don't"], that's great and you should do it. but you have to be able to turn it all down. and be okay with that. because if you do start drinking you have the potential to make a much more serious mistake than eating a thousand or so extra calories. and how long do think that would last on your conscience?
I don't drink much because of the calories. This month I have had alcoholic drinks 2 Fridays in a row, which is highly unusual for me. Usually I have one every few months.
I don't think it has to be an all or nothing thing. As soon as you say "I don't drink", you are committed to it. If you want a glass of bubbly at a wedding reception you will be questioned. It is like when you say you are watching what you eat. As soon as you have a bite of cake everyone says that they thought you were on a diet, and why are you eating that.
That being said, sobriety is a good thing, and if you want to commit to it then I say good for you!
I'm almost 18 months sober and won't go back to drinking. It was getting out of control for me after the death of my 2 closest friends. To me one or two wasn't interesting to me. If you are feeling guilt over having more than you planned, quit. The guilt is not worth it. I tell myself I can always choose to drink again but whenever I think about it the pros of not drinking outweigh the cons, I'm always in control, never have to worry about having one too many and getting pulled over, I spend less money going out and have more energy.
I do visualizations where I plan on how good a cup of coffee or diet pepsi will be when I go out-that's what I treat myself with, there are plenty of non alcoholic drinks to treat yourself with. If you are thinking about committing to sobriety, give it a try, you have nothing to lose.
I personally like the taste of the occasional beer, cider, or glass of wine so I'm a casual drinker and I certainly don't think you have to give it up entirely if you like the taste. I think you make excellent points as to why you shouldn't drink until drunk and it sounds like you're able to have a drink or two during the week and stop, so I'm not sure what is different when you're drinking till drunk, but the points you made you should definitely keep in mind in those instances as it sounds like the issue isn't the occasional drink, but too many drinks.
You could always have a drink or two and stop. If you make yourself DD, that helps too as you know you can have your drink or two at the beginning of the night and then have to switch to soda. One thing I think people miss is that you're going out with friends to socialize which doesn't have to include alcohol; it's purely a social gathering so it shouldn't make a difference ultimately what you drink. I certainly still go out with my friends and sometimes I can make it out till bar time, but I just drink soda all night and it's fine cause I'm still hanging out with them.
You can't beat yourself about it though either and that's a good lesson to learn. It happens to all of us, whether it's booze or cake. Tomorrow's another day. :)
Edited by: SCTK519 at: 9/27/2012 (20:47)
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6,715 9/27/12 3:13 P
I gave it up years ago and have no regrets. Your *good* friends will understand your reasons completely. The few times I felt the need to explain myself to those who gave me a hard time, I was usually able to get away with, "I'd rather get my calories from chocolate!" and leave it at that. Good luck to you - I think you'll be pleased with the results if you follow through.
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638 9/27/12 3:04 P
If you see no benefit, don't waste your time and calories on it!
Personally, I always said wine with dinner is the one thing I wouldn't trade during a diet. I said that and said that and said that. Then I had one epically horribly drunken night of regret and calories with a band of my new co-workers and I realized that I needed to be much more careful if I want my new-found health to last.
After that night I went about a month and a half without drinking anything. Now I save alcohol for special situations and am careful there as well. When I am out with friends I either drink other things (no one cares) or if it is one of the special occasions, I start off with a pint glass of sletzer and then have another glass of it between any drinks. I usually can't get past two beers like that and I am well hydrated to boot.
If you like having a good time with friends while drinking on rare occasions, just make alcohol something that is for those rare special occasions. On rare occasions I eat cupcakes and they are all the more special and fun because they are so rare.
I gave it up.....kind of. I never had the problem of overreating as often as other people - I don't like to eat when I drink, but I am doing a revamp of my life. Smoking, drinking 4-5 nights a week wasn't making me happy. I dropped both and started at the gym as a natural mood booster. It worked for me.
I still miss going out and interacting. You will truly find who are your true friends and who are just drinking buddies. True friends will still call and want to hang out - some where different when you explain it to them. I still go out from time to time - once or twice a month maybe, but definitely not to the degree I used to. Sometimes I will go directly after work and just drink water. That is definitely hard - not gonna lie. I get some comments, but mostly, they just leave me be. It is a sports bar, so I expect some ribbing from the bar acquaintances. I am ok with this.
There was even a rumor going around that I was pregnant! lol. Basically if it is going to make you happy, do it. It will be hard, but it will be worth it in the end
I know exactly how you feel! Not to mention the amount of sugar in alcohol. I too experience lowered care factor when I have been drinking. I have quit drinking at home and when I am with friends if I do choose to drink, I don't put anything else in my mouth. It is too easy to go over the limit for the day on the snacks that people put out for company.
I think if you consider alcohol as a desert (because it is) then it is easier to not over do it, you can put it in the food tracker just like it was a desert. If you know you will be consuming 4 glasses of wine or beer that evening, you are going to have to find ways to cut those calories somewhere else. But the food tracker is only as honest as you are. Good luck!
I feel like I could have written exactly what you just wrote. I like drinking and eating bar food so much, that I often overindulge. This is why I no longer drink.
You will be amazed at how much better you feel when you give up alcohol. I've been abstaining for 4 months now and due to this I'm making better choices and losing more weight.
Every year, for the past 3 years I give up alcohol for 4-6 months. Then, for the other half of the year I drink only twice a month. (and I usually make those nights count!)
I rarely feel guilty now, and that is a wonderful feeling!! As for your friends....they will give you a hard time about it, some to be funny and some because they are concerned. You will be surprised. Don't listen to them. Once they see how happy you are, they will lay off. You could find some other people through meetup.com to hike with or do other fun activities.
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50 9/27/12 2:05 P
I am a casual drinker, and I drink at most once a week. Even then, it's only a beer or two. So I don't think my drinking habits are bad, but what has me considering giving it up are my habits when I drink.
Occassionally, we go out with friends or go to a party and I drink a few more than usual, or worse lol. In any case, when I reach that level of intoxication where my inhibitions begin to slip, I lose my self control. I can have an amazing week dieting, but once I reach that point, anything and everything edible seems to find its way into my stomach.
Since alcohol is a depressant, also, the next day I wake up feeling horribly guilty, on top of hung over. The few hours of fun the day before leave a lingering guilt concerning my diet that lasts often the better part of the week.
I always have a good time with my friends, and I'm just losing sight of any benefit to drinking alcohol. It will be hard, since all my friends like to drink, but I feel this is the best move for me and maintaining my healthier lifestyle. Any advice?
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