First of all I want to make it clear I am in no way saying I and how I am as a parent is how we should all be with our children, I am giving my opinion and not everyone will agree but this is what makes us all individual!!
So what is really starting this rant is my best friend, I love her to bits and have known her all my life, grown up together, school together and now mums together! But I think she needs to relax we are both 1st time mums but have both taken completely different routes - I, as she is now, was very over protective for the 1st 6 months but as my daughter grew and became more independent I learnt with my child that she needs to make mistakes, she needs to fall on her bum lots until she walks, she needs to gag in order to learn how to eat, she needs to learn what is right/wrong for herself.
And with this challenge that my daughter is on each day of her life, I myself am learning what a smart, stubborn and independent girl I have but my frustration with my friend is she is NOT letting her daughter make the same mistakes, her daughter is now over 1 and she still has not been able to just go for it, she is frustrated and when my friend says all she seems to be doing is having temper tantrums - I, as sensitively as I can, remind her that she needs to learn what she can and cant do for herself, if she hovers over her all her life she will not thank you for it. Now I'm not saying just leave her to fend for herself but everyone in life has got to take risks.
This is what moulds us and I got thinking we are continually flooded with information about the right way to parent and the right way children should grow up so it’s not surprising as parents, with our jobs being the most challenging of all, we feel anxious and over-compensate by being too protective but I think our children must be helped to take ‘responsible risks’ in order to develop into well-rounded adults.
But when did we all become so paranoid? I am going to hope I don't become a hover parent and enjoy each stage of my child's development. She will climb trees, she will make dens, she will fall down, she will graze her knees and there will be tears but i believe she will know her limits of what she can and can't do as she will have learnt what common sense is...
there is phrase ''it never did me any harm'' - and to be fair, it didn't!!