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ARCHIMEDESII
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5/16/12 10:35 A

Linda,

You really have to do your best to maintain a positive attitude. I know that's not easy when a person is under a lot of stress. But, you can't look at weight loss and good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself was to drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction.

Set some simple goals for yourself. Don't make them too ambitious. If you do, you're just setting yourself up for failure. If you're having problems sticking to a regular exercise routine, then set a goal to walk for 30 minutes each day for one week. If you're not eating enough veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings of veggies each day for one week. If you're drinking a little too much soda, then set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses of water instead of the soda for one week.

We set simple goals to help us maintain healthy habits. You're going to have to learn to be kind to yourself as you would to others. Would you tell your best friend all those negative things you've been saying to yourself ? I sure wouldn't. So, if you're compassionate to your friends, you've got to learn to be kind and compassionate to yourself.

Earlier this year, you'd lost over 25 pounds. You CAN do that again ! Go back to that time. What did you do earlier this year that helped you lose that weight ? Whatever motivation that was, get that motivation back.

If you feel like you're going to lapse, post on the forums. We'll help you get past any rough points. You're not doing this alone. We're all here to support you if you need support.





READY2DOIT58
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5/16/12 9:59 A

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I know how frustrating it can be! I am losing and gaining the same 5 pounds over & over. I was doing good, losing 2 a week but then vacation, then holidays, then physical pain, then whatever I let get in the way. I am trying to start again, I figure each day is another chance, don't beat yourself up, just do one thing each day to make a healthier choice & build on that. I also had the "slim by summer" mentality but I am doing short term goals until I see a difference again. Good luck Linda, hang in there! Pat

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NESTISEMPTY
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5/16/12 8:55 A

Having the desire is the first big step, I believe though that there are several other things that are important to help achieve what you desire. I once made a comment to a professor when I was in grad school that I needed to "put a date on a dream to make it a goal". I believe it is important to put dates on those dreams otherwise they will surely only remain dreams. I do believe the other important part of success is being accountable to someone. Someone in your family, a friend, or a partner online here at Sparkpeople whom you will check with and who will check with you each and every day.

It can be done, you can succeed, continue to believe in yourself and you will achieve.



LUANN_IN_PA
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5/16/12 7:55 A

'Wanting' something isn't enough... even if you want it so badly.

You need a plan.
You need an attainable and specific goal.

Then...
What will you do TODAY that will get you to that goal?



LINDAANNB1
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5/16/12 7:43 A

A couple of weeks ago, I posted about the importance of the "Serenity Prayer" to me. I was so inspired by reading that prayer that another spark member wrote about.
That prayer really does have a special meaning for me, I really thought it was just what I needed to "spark" me up and get me going. Well, I did well for a few days but then old habits have quickly taken over again.
I really don't know what is holding me back, I really want to lose weight, feel better, look better, and get healthier.
Last summer I said no way will I go through another fat season again. Looks like it's going to be another summer of no shorts or bathing suits which is hard considering we boat all summer. :( I am so upset and disappointed in myself. Now I've got the idea in my head that oh well, starting now for the summer won't make much of a difference anyway. I
know this is a terrible way to think I just can't seem to think any other way.There is always so much food when we are out, it is so hard to eat well.
I want so badly to get off this roller coaster, I am so disapointed with myself. I am worried that I am never going to get my act together until it is too late someday. Why can't I just do this if I want it so badly....



 
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