Do You Have a "Supervisor"?

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12/21/11 3:35 P

Hi TLCOVER1,
My name is Kennygene and I live in Richmond,Virginia, Where do you live?
I am looking for a work out partner and I just want to know if you live in virginia?
Thanks,
Kennygene

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10/3/11 7:52 A

Sometimes. Both me and my wife are stubborn, so it really only comes out when we both are working on a project together.

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10/3/11 7:52 A

Sometimes. Both me and my wife are stubborn, so it really only comes out when we both are working on a project together.

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9/5/11 1:36 P

Yup. I ignore him usually. There comes a time though where I have to tell him to shut up. I stop doing whatever he's giving me flack about doing. So his harping backfires on him big time. Because now I won't do it. I don't think he is aware he does it. But I point it out to him so he can correct himself. So he knows it is a problem. Doesn't happen very much though. Thank goodness.

Edited by: SARAHO228 at: 9/5/2011 (13:37)

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8/23/11 11:29 A

A suggestion if I may, we set up a "house fund" many moons ago for this very purpose. It's a separate savings account. We have a predetermined amount that goes into that account each month. What's interesting here is that you would think as soon as money went into that account, it would go out. But for some reason, it doesn't. In fact, we've had repairs that probably need to get done, but she's holding off for the bigger improvements that would cover the repair. She's looking at things long term now (like you are and want your wife to). It settles the problem where a simple repair turns into a shopping list. One time we had a kitchen faucet that she wanted to replace and her thought process turned into a complete kitchen remodel. If it's not in the account, it doesn't get done. So set priorities. And now she does. And we're still living with the half busted kitchen faucet. heh.

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8/23/11 10:00 A

My thing that bugs me is when my wife keeps suggesting doing improvements to the house.

Cliff notes version: Women have a VERY hard time seeing the big picture.

Full notes version:
Don't get me wrong, I like doing that stuff but we have put a lot into our house already and we at the point were we aren't going to get it back out when we go to sell. Our current house isn't going to be our last, and I don't want to keep dumping $$$ into it when we will be selling it in a couple year. We have already put in new carpet in the entire upstairs, put a wood floor in the kitchen and dining room, tiled the laundry room, master bath, basement hallway/entry way and main level entry way, painted ever room including all the ceilings, put in a 10'x30' cement block (12"x12" tiles) patio, re-painted the deck and fence and bought all new kitchen appliances. I also put in 6 can lights in the kitchen on dimmer switches (2 of them eyelets over the sink), new lighting in the dining room and main bathroom. We've done all this in 3 years.

She wants to put in new counter-tops, put in a kitchen backsplash, new sink and build a new deck and fence and change some of the landscaping next spring.

I do all this stuff on my own so we save on labor and she helps do some of this stuff too and is good at helping and I enjoy doing it with her but like I said; we are at a breaking/stopping point. I keep telling her that its best financially to wait and put the $$$ towards our next house and she thinks I'm being lazy and says she wants the house to be little nicer.

I try to tell her that instead of spending another $12K-$15K next year it would be much better served in the next house that we'll likely stay in the rest of our lives. So far, I've held her off. If I can make it one more year on those last few items she should see my point when we try to sell the house in a couple years.

Edited by: GETNFITGUY at: 8/23/2011 (10:02)

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8/23/11 5:24 A

Other than my wife?

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8/22/11 7:31 P

Stop it! LOL!

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8/22/11 6:40 P

If anything I'm guilty of doing that to my wife.

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8/13/11 9:54 A

I try to start a project when the wife is away or engaged in something else she where she can't "help". I am able to see the end result many steps ahead and she doesn't. Sometimes I just want to be left alone so I can get it done, she comes in a changes my vision. I was doing laundry last night, she complains about doing it all the time,(she does it the majority of the time) but she was over my shoulder last night adjusting my piles.

The other thing that occurs often around here is the following statement:

"We need to...." what that really means is "YOU need to...and I'll tell you how to do it"

Matt

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8/6/11 3:25 P

I know man, doesn't that just make you want to puke? I hate that. Most of the ones telling me how to lose weight is overweight themselves so who the H-E-L-L do they think they are trying to tell me how it's done? I have one in particular that I work with. He says he wakes up at 5 most mornings and goes to the gym. Work starts at 9 and he's late every single morning. That doesn't seem to bother my boss, though, cause he kisses his A$$.IMHO, I think he has something on my boss cause he would have been fired long ago. Anyway, I know his sorry a$$ doesn't go to the gym, he's too lazy and he's overweight, so if he did like he said, he would be very muscular, or at least have some muscles and be of normal weight by now, anyway, I'm venting here.

Edited by: TURTLESDOVE at: 8/6/2011 (15:26)

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8/6/11 2:22 P

Yeah I have a skinny-as-hell roommate who won't shut up about how I'm "dieting wrong," and that I should just "practice moderation. She eats pizza and drinks beer every single night of the week, and not in moderation. All I apparently need to do is be a 20 year old girl with a naturally high metabolism.

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8/5/11 12:38 P

Sometimes my wife likes to think she's "supervising", which automatically activates my "ignore" mode.

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8/2/11 1:47 P

Oh yeah, I have that. My wife "helps" me all the time. She was too "helpful" when it came to lawn mowing, so I quit. I don't mow anymore, it's her job now.

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8/2/11 9:41 A

it bothers me all the time. When I vacuum, my husband is sitting there drinking his beer and watching me. Oh, you missed a spot. It really aggravates me, so I see where you are coming from.

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8/2/11 9:28 A

I recently commented on a blog that spoke about a nice woman trying to help her man correct his sit up form. The man wasn't having it and she was confused by his response to her "trying to help". But I totally get it. I have someone who is always "just trying to help". I'd much rather have a task and be left alone. They always claim they're not our mommy, yet they like to follow us around and see what we're up to and "help us". Now I don't have it that bad, but it's because I've been working on it and keeping it at bay, but I was witnessing my neighbor across the street mowing his grass. The woman was basically following behind him and barking out orders and corrections ... surely all under the guise of just "trying to help".

Does this happen to you, guys? Be honest. Does it bother you? How do you deal with it productively?