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208 7/8/12 10:22 A
I was the same way to, If i have my healthy groceries at home I usually eat right. But it sounds like you need to get your emotions under control. Do you have a therapist? or a support group? Have you read about other people going through the same thing? Do you have an action plan? Having a plan really helps me alot in getting my emotions under control.
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. Thomas Jefferson
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262 7/5/12 2:27 P
You might think you can't, but yout body KNOWS BETTER, You CAN do this!!! :)
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2,370 7/5/12 2:17 P
You definitely have a lot going on, but by joining spark and wanting a change you can do it. It is ok to have ups and downs and better days than other. WIth some accountablilty, tracking and use of the forums/pages/etc. you can be a great success! Put yourself first and do this for you! You can do it!
One day at a time.
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7/5/12 1:17 P
I totally agree with what everyone has said so far. Not even a month ago I was feeling similar to what you are (when it comes to be a compulsive eater). I initially didn't think I could actually do it for more than a week, and actually 'failed' on the first day...many times. So I first decided to just track what I was eating. Making myself aware of what I was putting into my body. What an eye opener! Then I slowly started introducing fruits and veggies into my meals. Half a cup here, a quarter of a cup there. I'm in no ways eating ideally even now, but I know that I'm eating a lot healthier than I have in the past 20 years, and it's starting to show. I have more energy, I feel better, and I actually WANT to eat healthier things now. I still crave some of the 'junk food', and I still allow myself to have some, but in moderation. As irritating as measuring things, and counting stuff is (at least for me), it makes a huge difference in what we ingest. I think it's great that you are wanting to make some healthy changes in your lifestyle, but don't think it has to be all or nothing. We all started somewhere, and I'd guess most of us have stumbled many times along the way. As mentioned by other people, the forums, or setting up Spark friends is a huge help. Not only can you get great advice from other people on any topic under the sun, but you can also realize that you're not alone in this, and can feel good helping other people when they're feeling out of sorts, just as they can help you at those times too. Feel free to add me a SP friend, and we can motivate each other, and ask for help, when ever its needed.
Esther Guelph, Ontario, Canada Eastern Daylight Time
"Your body is the product of your habits. Stop focusing on changing your body. Change your habits and your body will follow, as if by magic." ~Go Kaleo
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7/4/12 5:54 A
Enya, you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. At one time or another, every single member of Spark People has experienced what you are experiencing. But you know what ? You CAN make a change. You can get a hold of your life and make improvements. How ? You start with some simple changes you can stick with. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
What to do ? Start with some simple goals. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how good health starts. That's how we begin to change our life. We do it with a few simple changes.
Do you need motivation ? Look no further than your fellow spark members. In particular, I'm going to recommend you read the Daily Spark Blogs from member INDYGIRL. If anyone knows about adversity, it's her. At her highest weight, she was 460+ pounds. In two years, she has lost half her body weight !
As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and DON'T beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Just start with a few simple changes.
7/4/12 4:59 A
You can get through this. Things may be tough right now. But you are strong and you can conquer this. It may not happen overnight but the healing will eventually happen.
If you need someone to talk to, just continue opening up to these forums. You may even PM me if you just need a friend. Trust that you can do this, okay?
Best of luck,
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7/3/12 10:51 P
First...accept the fact that you DESERVE joy! Second...accept the fact that you are SMART ENOUGH, WORTHY ENOUGH, & COMPLETELY CAPABLE to have the joy.
Next, tell yourself your sorry for everything you have done that made you feel like you were a failure.
THEN...start healing minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year.
Sparkpeople is full of people who feel or have felt the same way you do. But just like all of us you have taken the first step towards healing and allowing yourself to be joyous. Take advantage of the tools, read the success stories, go through the teams and find others who have similar weight issues/life issues; there are specific teams for overeaters, binge eaters, emotional eaters, compulsive eaters, also for divorcee's, parents of all ages, etc. And sparkpeople are some of the sweetest and kindest and UNDERSTANDING people you will ever meet.
We are here, if you need to talk anytime just hop on...someone is always here to help.
I've admitted to myself that I'm a compulsive overeater. I cannot get control over my eating for more than 1 day. I don't know how I'm going to lose weight. The last 2 years have been rough - separated from my hubbie, our daugher lives with him (only because he works from home so takes her to and from school and he bought a house beside her school). I had to sell our family home and move. I'm depressed and I keep gaining weight. I weigh more now than ever in my life (even when I gave birth). I am outgrowing all of my clothes - I only wear 2 or 3 things now.
I don't think I can do this and I'm so sad and embarrassed. Funny thing is all my friends turn to me for support. If I lose weight I'll have more energy but I just don't think I can do it. I am really really depressed about this and wondering if my life will be miserable from now on.
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