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ZELDA13 SparkPoints: (37,826)
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2/16/13 12:57 A

I am so grateful that DH has decided to join me. He's only on day 2 but seems motivated which is helping me get back on track. We plan on doing this together until the end of May, and we'll see how it goes from there. I think it's easier knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know his support will help me.


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2/15/13 2:57 P

Recovering bulimic here. Although it would be great to have your hubby participate, I am always under the impression to never try and get someone to realize that they may need to loss weight or eat healthier. Lead by example and maybe he might join you, then again, it is all up to him :)

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WDWCHICK Posts: 751
2/15/13 2:44 P

I agree with that he needs to want to do it. My husband is either really into diet/exercise or really NOT. I don't push him either way. But, when he sees me work out, it motivates him, too. And the kids!

Give him time. He may come around. And if he doesn't, don't let that discourage you!

2/12/13 6:18 P

My husband works out with me, and I think he only does it to encourage me, which is awfully nice. He could definitely stand to lose the weight and get fit and in shape, but he doesn't care, he's a man. However, he DOES care about the weight I've put on with my last pregnancy, so this is his subtle way of saying he wants his sexy wife back.

Discipline is just choosing between what you want now, and what you want MOST.
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2/11/13 3:20 P

DH got really into it in the last few months after seeing me drop a lot of weight. Strangely, I think seeing me do it by ONLY tracking food (no working out at all) was the kick start he needed. He was always eating whatever he wanted after a 3 mile run. I told him that food is just as important, if not more, than exercise. But it never rang true for him until he saw me do it.

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JADOMB SparkPoints: (128,680)
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2/10/13 6:00 P

For those that finally decide for themselves to get off their butts and get back into shape, then complain that their spouses aren't doing it, ask yourself this question. When they or others were doing it and trying to get you to fall in line, DID YOU DO IT?.. LOL This is a lifestyle change and is not done easily. It takes a spark or driving force to just get started, then constant motivation to continue. If you are fortunate to have it, great, DO IT. Hopefully your spouse will see you mean it and follow suit. Until then though, don't nag, just show by example.

I question, therefore I think; I think, therefore I am; ........ I think?

Life is tough, but it is tougher if you are stupid. ;-) John Wayne

We can always find reasons to quit or not do what is needed to maintain a healthy and fit lifestyle. The trick is to fight this tendency. NOW SHUT UP AND SWEAT.

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KIMBERLY19732 Posts: 287
2/10/13 12:20 A

My husband recently joined and I am so happy. It has taken every bit of willpower not to push it on him for the last month!

GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
2/9/13 2:30 P

I couldn't agree more with NAUSIKAA more. My kids' father compained(s) that he wants to lose weight, and hasn't really done much about it until recently. He'd have all sorts of (bad) advice for me about how I should lose weight, even though he really doesn't know much about proper nutrition. He is starting to see, after my 32lb weight loss, that-hey-maybe I DO know what I'm talking about!!!
*eye roll*
He's starting to make some better choices. Not great, but one step at a time. :) You lead by example. You do what you know what you're supposed to do, love him as he is, and just encourage him to be healthier. If you do the shopping, you control what comes into the house. If you do the cooking, he can either eat what you cook, not eat, or get himself something. He'll eventually eat what you cook.

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NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
2/9/13 8:04 A

He needs to make the decision/realization for himself that he's really ready -- you can't really do anything at all to push him to it. What you can do is model by example. When he sees your successes, he may be inspired to follow in your footsteps. But nothing you say or do will work to make him ready, unless he is truly ready in his own mind. Just be patient and stay focused on your journey. Watching you transform yourself will be greater inspiration than anything you could possibly say in words.

SHAMEAKIA SparkPoints: (3,044)
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2/6/13 8:40 P

I have been trying to get my significant other to participate in Sparkpeople program, but it's hard when he's content with the is. How can I encourage him eat healthier especially when he's an emotional eater. He would always say that we would go walking together that we would go bike riding together, but it never happened.

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