seems the time frame here is anywhere from 7 days to a decade....go with your heart, your mind and your gut but let it be something you both want and be honest if it is not! Engagements can come quick and be long or take a while and be short and there are many engagements that never come to fruition. My mom always told me "You are only single once so enjoy"
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18 5/13/12 8:14 P
2 years almost exactly. He proposed to me last Mother's Day and we got married in the fall. I think you should spend a minimum of a year together...get to know each other through the four seasons. But if it takes longer, so be it....marriage can be tough so take your time dating!
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998 5/13/12 7:02 P
Great stories! Thanks for sharing.
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443 5/11/12 2:21 P
My husband and I dated for 11 months before getting engaged, and then we were married three months later (for military reasons). We have now been together seven years and married six years. We also have a 20-month old son.
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3 5/4/12 6:21 A
7 days - and we've been together over twenty years now!
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98 5/3/12 9:07 P
The official engagement happened when we had been dating for a year, but it was clear to both of us that we were meant to be "mates" within a couple of months.
My husband and I dated 3 months before we got engaged. We started dating in june, got engaged end of August, got married the end of October. So we dated about 5 months before we got married :)
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129 5/3/12 6:43 P
We dated for 8 months until he proposed. I was a freshman in college and he was a senior going into grad school. We had a three year engagement so we could wait till I finished college. I graduated May 9, 2009 and we got married June 6, 2009. :)
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178 5/3/12 5:21 P
Together 3 years- known him for over 7 years- he proposed in Disney World in front of the Magic Kingdom- were getting married in August- so 8 month engagement :)
When I met my husband I was at the end of a relationship and he had been separated for about 6 months. He was my supervisor at my part time job. I met him at the interview. By that time, I had ended that relationship. We started dating, I quit that part time job, and we moved in together. We lived together for a little over 2 years. During that time, he got his divorce. He proposed (sort of) during Christmas at his Dad's house 6 months after we moved in together.
We will celebrate 20 years on August 14, 2012.
I had the proud duty of cornering my uncle just before the wedding. He had told me my hubby wouldn't buy the cow if the milk was free. I announced to him, "Well, he bought the cow." Didn't realize how that would be interesting wording once I gained all the weight I did.
My husband proposed on the second anniversary of our first date, and we married 11 months later. Before this, my last relationship had lasted six years without a ring, so the early (to me!) proposal was a very pleasant surprise. But every couple is different! A friend from college just married her college sweetheart after 10 happy unmarried years together.
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396 5/2/12 11:37 A
I knew my husband my entire life. He was my brothers friend, live across the street from me and 'liked' me when I was in fourth grade. We finally started officially dating when i was 17 and we were married when I just turned 20 (way too soon by the way). He never really asked me to marry him we just loved each other to death and assumed it would happen. I still love him to death and Saturday we will be celebrating 33 years of a lot of work but all well worth it!!!!
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2,304 5/2/12 11:26 A
We were high school sweethearts - together 5 years before getting engaged the weekend before he went on deployment (he is active duty Navy) - got married in Nov 2007. Been together for 12 Years this Sept and married for 5 in Nov. And still just as much in love today as ever :-)
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6,371 5/2/12 11:20 A
We were together for three years before I asked him, lol. (It was "we're going to Hawaii, we might as well get married while we're there" - an agreement more than a proposal.) We had talked about it many times before and agreed it was something we wanted, along with children. But we're both in our 30s, so it was definitely time.
Make sure talk about it with your significant other; you should be able to talk about anything with him. You should have the same goals and dreams because neither of you will change after marriage. Make sure you're on the same page and don't rush it. Commitment is commitment, whether or not you have a piece of paper and the same last name.
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789 5/2/12 11:09 A
We were together for about a year. Normally that would have been a little shorter than my comfort level, but we had been friends for a couple years before we started dating. We had also been dating long distance and had just moved in together (when you move from one province to another to be with someone, it's a pretty good sign that things are serious), and we stayed engaged for almost two years. We're also in our early 30's, so we've both had more than a decade of living on our own, building careers, and establishing ourselves.
By contrast, my little sister just got married a few weeks ago after seven years. She and her hubby started dating in high school, and are in their mid-20's now. Even though they've been a strong couple for years, it made sense for them to wait until they were a little older before getting engaged.
I've been married 43 yrs, and dated my husband for 3 yrs before we got married. We didn't "live together" back then, but I got a shock once we were married and I found out he'd gone along with what I'd wanted, but once we were married HE was running things. Oh, I got the "bait and switch" as Dr. Phil calls it. So, if I could go back, I'd never had went through with it. There were "red flags" as Dr. Phil calls them, especially over talks over money, which I didn't "clue into" and once we were married, his ideas about money were nothing like mine. But, because of religion, I stayed. Not a smart idea. But today, thankfully, women have lots more choices. Get your OWN career and finish your education for yourself so you always have money. That is my advice to any young woman. Marriage isn't vital.
First hubby...asked before moving in with me (6 months after starting to date) but then he said we should wait and we did...2 yrs b4 we got engaged officially and 2 more b4 we got married. 4 yrs later we were right smack in the middle of a divorce
Fiance, asked before we hooked up. :) Then we hooked up and within 3 months, he got me an engagement ring (a souvenir from London) but after 4 months he got me a "real" one (which I picked up). Getting married at the end of May.
I guess it depends on the couple. But if you want to get married and he doesn't have a clue, it's time to talk!
Edited by: KYRSTINRO at: 5/2/2012 (04:00)
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13,136 5/1/12 11:33 P
a bit over a year...
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9,646 5/1/12 10:55 P
My husband never really asked me to marry him. :) We just kinda assumed. We dated for three years before he bought me the ring. We went shopping together and I picked it out.
We married after four years, and have been together ever since. We celebrated our 10th anniversary in January.
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285 5/1/12 9:24 P
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