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NEPTUNE1939
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4/22/12 11:17 A

no - My guardians are forever with me



TAMRA707
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4/22/12 11:16 A

all the time



MONTREAL12
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4/22/12 11:06 A

Yes!



BEACHMOM_3
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4/22/12 8:27 A

yes



ALBAUGHMO
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4/22/12 7:44 A

yes



MASE72
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4/22/12 6:31 A

yes



RIET69
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4/20/12 10:56 A

Sure. I believe it is quite natural once in a while. Would worry if I felt like that all the time.



HAPPYWRITER7
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4/20/12 10:52 A

yes



PARKERB2
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4/20/12 10:47 A

I really use to feel this way but things have improved in the last year or so. I still have this, just not as bad.



MOM2ACAT
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4/20/12 10:46 A

As someone living with stage IV breast cancer, it's easy for me to feel that way sometimes. What helped me was joining a couple of online support groups for women with the same disease. My cancer is incurable, and it's hard for others to understand what it really like to live with it unless they have the same thing themselves.



REBCCA
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4/20/12 8:50 A

Hello Racewalker,

We are alone and can choose to embrace ourselves and come to thoroughly thrive in the connection with ourselves. As I traveled around the globe on my own, I coveted those who were with others until I decided to embrace my solitude. It switched my energy field and almost instantly I found people approaching me in friendship. Being the best possible friend to yourself invites others to share that glow.

Getting outside to take in the sky etc while walking or bicycling, starting each day by writing 5 gratitudes, eating clean organic unprocessed food, listening to music and my heart, feeling appreciation for my good health and those I love in my life is what works for me.




JOY73YL
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4/20/12 8:48 A

Yes



JASTAMPER11
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4/20/12 8:16 A

I have been avoiding my family....they will be watching TV and I will be in the kitchen. I don't seem to be actually with them. I really enjoy my being home during the day. Don't know if I am depressed or what.



ALBAUGHMO
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4/20/12 8:02 A

yes



DLDROST
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4/20/12 7:02 A

yes often



TRYINGTOLOSE64
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4/20/12 6:49 A

all the time



NEWGAL78
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4/19/12 10:35 P

I've felt this way just about all of my life. I know that I have family and a few friends that really love me but at times I feel they don't understand me or what I'm dealing with. These type of feelings tend to be overwhelming. We just have to realize that we're not alone. There are good people out there with the same issues and if we give each other support. We can make a difference and move forward. I feel a little better since I decided to get help(my church offers free counseling with therapists) and of course SP has helped me. Hang in there...........life gets better!!!! emoticon emoticon



ABBIEUNSTUCK
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4/19/12 9:59 P

I totally get where you are coming from. I have struggled with depression my whole life and I am all too familiar with the feeling of being alone in a crowded room. For me there is no one thing that always helps but someone suggested that you may need more time to yourself.

I actually agree with that to an extent. Sometimes I find that I get overwhelmed with helping the people in my life deal with their problems and forget to focus on myself, Then I start to feel like "Hey what about me?!" Those are the days that I remove myself from everyone else's drama and try to find time to focus on me. (go for a walk, read a book, just sit still and relax, go have lunch by myself, etc) Then when I feel recharged I can come back to reality and deal with people again.

I also love love love listening to music. Especially really loud music with awesome lyrics that gets me pumped up and makes me want to move. You have to find your thing and make time to enjoy it once in a while.

Also take comfort in the fact that you are not the only one that feel like this, There are so many people here that feel the way you do. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Finally, if you truly can't shake this feeling please seek professional advice. It is ok to ask for help. Asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness. You are worth the energy that you put into yourself. emoticon



70LBSTOGO2
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4/19/12 4:12 P

this has been me all week.

Let me know what works for you.




MONTREAL12
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4/19/12 3:45 P

Yes I've been there.



DROPCONE
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4/19/12 3:05 P

This is going to sound strange, but maybe you actually need more time to yourself? It sounds like you have a lot going on! Maybe you need more "rest & recharge" time (or even just sleep!) than you have been getting.

I also find that some kind of physical activity helps a temporary sadness. Walk in the park, housework, running errands by walking or riding my bike instead of using a car - all those things can help distract me from a temporary sadness, even if the activity is not fitness related.

I also like to read funny stories or jokes or look at silly pictures or videos. If I can laugh, I can usually forget about what was making me sad, temporarily at least.

There are people who understand your journey; you just need to find them. That might mean meeting new people. Or it might mean having new conversations with people you already know.

And, if this becomes a chronic thing, bring it up at your next regular checkup. Depression can be a symptom of conditions that can spontaneously happen and be easily treated. It sounds like you are making some good efforts to try to use "self help", but if it's a medical thing, it needs medical treatment.

Good luck, I hope you can kick your sadness in the butt.




TACDGB
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4/19/12 2:44 P

I agree with the last post about finding a dr to help you figure it out. I to have felt that way more times then you can count. I just try to think positive thoughts and surround myself with positive people who care about me. Good luck.



PETITGABRIELLE
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4/19/12 2:39 P

I could have written that post (only 2 kids though). Sometimes these feelings are normal and sometimes they're not.
Sometimes the journaling, self help books, etc. help, sometimes they don't. Sometimes talking to a friend about it, or talking to a friend about anything but how I'm feeling helps.

I've found that I need to listen to my gut which is really hard to figure out when I'm in this place. But when I'm in this place and it's just me, what does my gut tell me the cause is?

If the normal remedies don't help snap you out of it, talk with your doctor to make sure nothing medical is going on. Your thyroid, your hormones, all play a big part in how you feel. Once you determine that it's not a medical cause, find a good therapist. You're not crazy, sometimes we need intervention to help us get back to living our life again.



MATTHEW0498
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4/19/12 2:26 P

I think we all do at some time or another and I think there is no one trick to snap out of it. Perhpas talk to a counselor..?



LOSE4LIFE47
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4/19/12 1:52 P

yes, of course



STLCARDSFANS05
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4/19/12 1:45 P

yes



APPLE5610
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4/19/12 1:41 P

I feel this way every now and then as well (a lot more these days) and i have many different triggers for feeling this way. I often find myself surrounded by people in a social setting but feel completely isolated and alone, only because i dont feel im connecting on some level with the people i'm with. I also feel lonely when i have a huge life decision to make and i feel that no one understands what i'm going through. Even feel lonely in my relationship sometimes because i would love nothing more than to be understood but it doesnt feel that way.

I also try to be "optimistic" and occassionally try to write out lists of my accomplishments or things i'm grateful for, but that only helps temporarily. Wish i had a solution too :(



SWEETSUGAR7
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4/19/12 1:23 P

Yes



REGABA
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4/19/12 1:18 P

I feel that way most days at work. I sit at a help desk and in a four hour shift I maybe only have about 15 minutes of interaction with people. The rest of the time I just sit there in a crowed room. Everyone is talking, but no one is talking to me.



PEGGY-BEE
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4/19/12 1:15 P

I feel this way more times than I can remember and have for years. I am sorry to say I have not found anything that works long term. I would love to be one of those optimistic people that just glow from being alive, I can honestly say I have tried, but the sad, loneliness always comes back. But for short term, I rely on music, worship or getting outside and consciously experiencing the weather, sun, wind or rain, taking note of everything I can. It feels like I am flooding myself with sensation or emotion. Then I feel better for a while. If you come up with some thing, please post it. I will be checking back for ideas.



RACEWALKER37
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4/19/12 12:58 P

I am a wife and mom of 4 kids that keep me going. I also volunteer 20 hours a week in the community, but I've never felt so alone. I feel like there's no one I can talk to that understands the journey I'm on. I've tried to find solace in reading self-motivation books and tried positive thinking, but truly, I'm just sad and can't seem to shake it. How do I get myself to snap out of it? What works for you? emoticon

Edited by: RACEWALKER37 at: 4/19/2012 (13:00)


 
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