LACARPER - First of all, at 50 you are NOT old!!! The Hot Flashes and feeling miserable I can understand, altho' I went through menopause a few years ago I never had this at all, but know a lot do! There are some things that you can do, for example, look at the type of material in all of your clothing - preferably cotton! Reducing processed sugars can help. When you say you are not allowed to use a fan... is this your husband telling you this? For summer I have a fan that I use at night-time - it has a timer so it turns off after I have gone to sleep. You mention ..."never pleasing any more...I hate me...." It really sounds to me like there is a lot of Depression going on. I strongly suggest that you make an appointment with your Dr and talk with him/her about EVERYTHING - the Hot Flashes, the Depression, the works. It is possible that there is something medical - i.e. Hypothyroidism, which can contribute toward depression and weight issues. Simple bloods are often all that is needed to determine if these could be problematic. If you aren't on meds for the depression your Dr will look at whether something might help, including helping you to sleep. A Therapist could also be beneficial for you - particularly your low esteem.
There are things that you can do for yourself, tho'! Ensuring that you start off with baby steps, but gradually change your nutrition so that it is much healthier, and incorporating more exercise into your day. This can actually help you to sleep better, too, and as you start to notice that your clothes are fitting better and that you have more energy, you may find that you start to feel better about yourself - including even proud:-)
I have to say, I was older than you when I started my weight-loss journey - check out my weight-ticker. I have been maintaining for quite a long time - it CAN be done!! It took 16 months to lose just over 50lb - the healthy way to do it, and I happily sat there for a year before deciding to move on down again. I HAD been overweight for about 30 years. All it took was a little tweaking, and I had NEVER been one to eat a lot or a lot of unhealthy foods. I have skeletal issues (Arthritis of the spine and hips, and Scoliosis) so altho' I do exercise, it isn't anywhere near as much as is normally recommended, and the exercise regime DIDN'T change because of this.)
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I agree with other posters who advised you to start with small changes. I can relate to how you are feeling. I'm 53, and 3 months ago I could hardly walk due to back pain. Today I am walking 2 miles at a time and exercising on my Wii almost every night. I had to start slowly and push myself a little more each time. Exercise really does help you to feel better both physically and emotionally. The endorphins released when you exercise will help more than you can imagine. Start slow and work your way up, and rejoice in the small victories. Before you know, your life will be changed.
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8/31/12 1:19 P
You are not too old to make a change to your health ! I know everything seems overwhelming right now, but try not to get discouraged. What to do ? Start with some simple changes first. Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself was to drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction.
You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future. All it takes is a few small changes. Because one small change will lead to another and another and another. before you know it, all those small changes add up into one huge accomplishment.
Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones. And that's how good health starts.
I'm not far behind you in age. So, I know about those menopausal symptoms. Do you get any regular exercise ? If not, I'm going to recommend that you start with that daily walk. Studies have shown that a regular exercise program can help reduce some of the symptoms of menopause. You can read more about that here.
There is a lot to learn and you're not going to learn it all overnight or in a week. This is going to take time. Thus the need to start with some simple changes first. This doesn't have to be all or nothing. You can change you life !! But you have to start slowly.
Be patient with yourself and your body. And it's okay to have a fan at night. The fan will give you some comfort. Honestly, as you learn to eat healthier and get some regular exercise, the menopause symptoms do decrease.
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From one 50 year old (soon to be 51) to another, you can change. You are not destined to a life of misery. The thing to remember is that when you take the focus off the number on the scale and put the focus on changing your way of living, you can't help but change. It is no more difficult today to change than it would have been 20 or 30 years ago. It starts by integrating small, healthy permanent changes into your lifestyle. Starting with eating a healthy breakfast and a nice 10 minute walk can lead you down a path of continuing changes.
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8/31/12 11:48 A
Please help....what do you do when you are overweight, old, and tired. I am now 50 and in menopause...hot flashes are miserable and I can't sleep. I'm not allowed to use a fan because it's not hot....I never please any more....I hate me because I'm fat and can't change.
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