I am going to start by saying that negativity is counterproductive to becoming healthy.
I WAS old a year ago. I am now one year OLDER but I am actually YOUNGER (meaning healthier, stronger, in less pain, more able to move, and more energetic - than I was a year ago)
I WAS FAT - OBESE actually - I am still technically obese but I am moving my body more, making healthier choices, and while a long way from perfect and a long way from my goals, I am ON THE ROAD TO A HEALTHY, ENERGETIC, STRONG life.
I was UGLY - but while I don't really look any more esthetically pleasing, I no longer SEE myself as ugly. I don't quite see myself as beautiful but I do see myself as having a beauty that shines from inside of my shell that is gradually being converted into a healthy body.
I was also starting to think of myself as STUPID, because after all no intelligent person would allow themselves to become so unhealthy, obese or to be in so much pain if they could avoid it. Now, I am making progress to changing those circumstances and am regaining health, so I KNOW I am not stupid.
As long as you beat yourself up and talk badly about yourself, you won't be likely to make permanent changes. Why would you? Why waste time or energy taking care of something worthless, useless, old, fat, ugly, and stupid? Why not just discard it? Once you start caring enough about yourself to be KIND to YOU, to be GENTLE with YOU and to LOVE YOU enough to CARE for YOU in a way that is loving, you will notice that you start to SEE yourself in new ways.
There are few of us who respond well to negativity, hostility, and abuse. Those things make us shrivel and die inside.
Positive affirmations and an upbeat attitude can help you recognize the YOUNG at heart, fit, beautiful and smart person that is hiding inside your shell. LOVE that special person who deserves and wants to be treated with respect and kindness.
Love and warm hugs go out to ALL of you out there that wrongly feel these negative things.
With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.
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4/7/13 2:49 P
Thank you for putting into words so beautifully how I often feel.
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Thank you so much for posting such a motivating article. I was feeling old, fat, ugly and stupid. So I came here for some motivation and waalaa, your post :)
I have been feel pretty good about myself. Consistently tracking my calories, exercising and looking for new recipes. I am learning about calories by checking out other peoples calorie trackers.
Edited by: JAVAJENN at: 4/10/2013 (08:44)
I think life is not so much about waiting for the storms to be over, as much as it is, learning how to dance in the rain.
When I thought to myself this morning "I'm old, fat and ugly, now what?", I was half serious and half laughing.
Age, size and beauty are big issues in our wonderful America; I won't be able to solve them in this little message! So, just writing a few brief thoughts.
I'm not a chronic self-criticizer. I keep a positive attitude and a sense of humor. But I guess we all feel down on ourselves sometimes.
It's no crime to be "old", but I made a conscious decision to avoid some "old" stereotypes. I think about today, not yesterday. I try new things, I learn new things. I dress appropriately for my age, but in a youthful way: great colors, fun accessories, etc. I talk about happy, positive things, not complaining comments.
It's no crime to be "fat", but I can change my weight if I choose to. I'm here on SparkPeople, changing my eating and exercise habits because I want to.
It's no crime to be "ugly", but I can improve my appearance if I choose to. Christie Brinkley and I happen to be the same age, but I don't look like Christie now, and I didn't look like her when we were both 21!! But, I put on a little makeup and fix my hair NOT so I can look like her, but just so I can look like a prettier version of myself.
Hmmm, wrote this inspiring message, but guess what: I'm still "old", "fat" and "ugly"!!
Thinking about it and writing about it didn't change it!!
I better get up from the computer and go do something about it!!
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