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DOCTORB
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10/8/02 10:56 A

I know what you mean about just a few years ago not knowing what the internet was all about.(smile) Things have certainly changed! Yes, I think we really do need to stay with this site for our motivation and entertainment. It's not so much what you didn't do for those days you weren't connected but what you did do when you decided to jump right back in. That's the key here.....Just don't quit getting on with your goals. We must allow ourselves a certain amount of flexability with all things in life and this is no exception.I admire your sticktoitiveness!!!
Wah00ooooooooo oooo oooooo ooooo...........



KKG71NY
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10/7/02 1:50 P

WELL--It is good to be back, I gotta tell you. Thank goodness I wrote all my goals and stuff down before I was alienated from the internet. I can't belive how important it has become in my life, when only five years ago, I didn't even know what "log on" meant!

Being without this site, too, sort of watered down my resolve as well. Okay--I got completely washed ashore! But it's Monday, it's never too late to start again, and I'm ready to get back on track! WaHoo!

(Yes, Doc--thank the powers that be for Kinkos--open 24/7 here, too!)

Edited by: KKG71NY at: 10/7/2002 (13:51)


DOCTORB
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10/7/02 10:22 A

Ah Kinko's, Ya I practically lived there while I was going to school. They are open 24hrs. out this way. Is it the same there?
Great to get some regular cash coming in I bet. Just post when you can cause we miss your input.

Edited by: DOCTORB at: 10/7/2002 (10:24)


KKG71NY
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10/3/02 9:37 A

Sorry sorry sorry!!!
I've been working Crazy hours at an investment firm, with no internet access, and my computer at home finally kicked the bucket. So...I'm in a kinkos right now checking my e-mail, etcetera. I've got a new machine on the way, so I should be back on track Very soon! Thank you so much for your concern, and I can't wait to get back on "board." (pardon the pun!)



DOCTORB
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10/2/02 4:29 P

KK?????????? OK..........OKK........Where are you? What's new?



OLAMAC
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9/26/02 10:32 A

you know, I'm always trying to get my boyfriend out of the house to do something fun, that I like, and I think this might be the way to get it done!!!! Thanks for the idea!!!



DOCTORB
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9/25/02 2:31 P

Oh Cool.....Please do and then tell us all about it! Can't wait to hear!



KKG71NY
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9/25/02 10:31 A

Doc--that is wonderful. I will put one together this week!!! I think he'll appreciate the thought, the attention to detail. That's so imaginative! Putting the "adventure" back into the ordinary...Thanks so much, Doc!



KIMBIBEE
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9/23/02 4:47 P

Wow doc thats a realy great idea, adventure tours. It would just be nice if I could get my husband to go along with it.



CYPRINODON
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9/20/02 9:56 A

Adventure Tours!!!!!!!!!!! Fabulous idea!!!! I just love creative people - you all show me how to have all kinds of fun in addition to the only thing I ever come up with on my own, reading.



DOCTORB
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9/19/02 9:27 P

I have an idea there KK. Put him on your goal list. Say..... Perhaps once a week plan something special together. Surprises work well for me. I have a guy that veto's all my ideas I think it's because he can't visualize the joy in them. So I started this thing called Bethy's Great Adventure Tours. How they work is that I plan something ( usually costs very little as money is scarce) and then I blindfold him and take him there. Sometimes it's to visit friends (BBQ or whatever), at other times it's to check out a cool park that we haven't been to before, or one time I took him on a ferry to a small island near here ( cost about $20.00 ). He had no idea where he was even though he knew he was on a boat when I took off the blindfold all he could see was water until the "Welcome to such and such island" sign came into view. It's not the time spent but what you do in that time that counts I believe.



KKG71NY
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9/19/02 2:42 P

It's funny. My boyfriend and I are going through some "growing pains." For the past seven years, I have been so...available. But recently, I have become so active that we haven't had as much time together. He sees how happy I am, and I know he's happy for me, but...I think he misses the way it used to be. Sometimes I feel so conflicted...Again--I hope it's just all part of the process.

Edited by: KKG71NY at: 9/19/2002 (14:43)


DOCTORB
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9/17/02 5:16 P

Oh YA !!! That's perfect.....so convenient for you! I loved the part about singing early .... it's like stretching ...... what a great way to start the day! And all the other stuff about meeting with the theater company etc. sounded like just the things to do. Like you said ; Now you are active. And by going down a different road you have opened yourself up to different results. Way to go! OH Wahoo!!



KIMBIBEE
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9/17/02 5:01 P

Sounds like you have it under control, good for you. I know how hard time management and planning are. It seems all of my time is spent with my daughter and when I plan something a crisis usually occours. A 3 year old is very time consuming and can be very tedious. Im going to be visiting NY in Feb. and me and my husband want some fun things to do, have any suggestions? We both love Karaoke bars and I want to have much needed fun! Were not taking our daughter and were just going for the weekend. We will be staying in the Milford Plaza in Manhattan.



KKG71NY
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9/17/02 12:51 P

Thanks to your encouragement, Doc, here's what I managed to do this weekend. I found a rehersal space to practice my singing without irritating all the neighbors in my apartment building. It was right underneath my nose--literally! I wait tables at a bar/restaraunt about two blocks from my house--I've worked there for about seven years now, off and on, and I'm very close to the owners/management--they sort of took me in when I moved to the neighborhood. So, after a significant Spepiphany (spark people epiphany) I asked if I could come in early on weekend mornings and sing in the basement! And that's what I did this weekend--for like an hour and a half each day. It was so liberating to not worry about who could hear me screw up, and sound like a dying chicken every once in a while! On Sunday evening, I got off my bum and went to a reading of a new play (it was quite good) and met with the members of the theatre company themselves, asking if they were looking for new members. They are! So, I'm going back next week to join their script club! I've been on the phone with a few working actors I had managed to lose touch with, and they're all putting my name into various hats...so although I still haven't managed to go to an audition, I feel like I'm involved, you know? There's still a lot I want to be doing, but I'm trying to take things one sparkstep at a time.



CYPRINODON
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9/11/02 3:23 P

Wow Doc. I read through your post three times and will read through it again and again. Your post can be helpful for everyone as it can be applied in so many situtations.



KKG71NY
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9/11/02 10:49 A

Oh, Doc. The thing about not auditioning--Most of the "Big" auditions (Broadway, Off-Broadway, Tours) are held Monday through Friday, 9-5. As a temp, the majority of my work comes day to day. I have scheduled an audition day before, only to NOT work for three more. Hence my debt!!!I feel like, until I get on my feet again (which IS happening) I should take all the work I can get. But there are other ways of getting auditions. Sometimes, there is the rare call scheduled on a weekend day. Also, many of the not-so-big companies ask for mail-in submissions, and they choose their auditionees from that--I get called in on at least one of every ten pictures and resumes I send out like that. *confession* I just haven't been submitting because I haven't set aside the time. And I don't have an agent. Not for lack of trying. BUT. It's all in the works...as long as I have Sparks at my back!!!



KKG71NY
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9/11/02 10:38 A

Wow.
I think I read that Mandela quote ten times just now.
Schedule it like a job. I think you really hit on something there--I think (probably because the pursuit of my passion doesn't bear monetary fruit) I have been treating my practice/work/research as more of a *gulp* glorified hobby...because often, that's how other people see it. And hobbies are something you do in your spare time!!I have never considered going outside my home to "work." That's such a precise, elegant solution, I can't believe I didn't think of it myself. Thank you so much, Doc. I am looking into private rehersal space right now!



DOCTORB
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9/10/02 10:55 P

Yep I know exactly what you are talking about with the time management and the boyfriend trip. I had that problem big time and I solved it! You must either book some time alone at home for your practise for auditions or find somewhere to go for that time. Schedule it in like a job because it is and stick with it. I work out of an office in my apartment and although I love to see my new husband I had to just go ahead and schedule appointments anyway or else my practise was never going to grow and guess what...I have noticed a big increase already and I have just been firm about this for the few weeks that I have been with spark people and something about my example has him changing as well and we are both happier because of it. Paying the bills is necessary and a good thing . Find time however to keep your focus .......The other stuff may be necessary for now but stay focused on your goal.Also, Why no auditions? Are you waiting for the agency to call you? They have so many people to promote...take things into your own hands and practise, practise, practise......then
go see.....you know.... do the rounds...promote yourself first by giving your agents something new to look at and then by seeing others. Brainstorm and see what you can come up with for them to notice you and also try to spend time with others in the field. Hang around a studio and see if you can be of use or just to be a familiar face and who knows from there. I spent some time in the arts and I speak from experience here.I am sure that your talented, motivated,artistic nature is one of your greatest appeals to your boyfriend as well.Don't let either one of you down.Pursue your dreams !!!!Here is a quote from Nelson Mandela's inaugural speach: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant,gorgeous,talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be. You are a child of God.Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same.As we're liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.

Edited by: DOCTORB at: 9/10/2002 (23:08)


KKG71NY
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9/10/02 5:48 P

Just knowing you understand helps, Cyp. Thank you.



CYPRINODON
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9/10/02 5:26 P

Seven years and still all of that great desire to be with him every second. How Cool is That!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still no ideas from my end on how to get it all done - - I've never been great at balancing things.



KKG71NY
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9/10/02 5:07 P

Believe it or not, Cyp, we've been together for 7yrs. The problem is that he's inbetween jobs right now. His next one starts at the end of November, so when I'm home, it's like he's been waiting all day to talk, and I have so much I want to do...but I (obviously) enjoy spending time with him! And I feel bad that he's so bored and lonely, but I get frustrated when I realize I've put my own stuff on the back burner. Again. It's so hard to balance it all, isn't it!



CYPRINODON
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9/10/02 1:24 P

By your post, I assume that the boyfriend relationship is still in the new stage. My experience is that everything is secondary to spending time with him. The good news is - - this wears off. The bad news is - - this wears off. (Not really bad but it sure is a great thing to miss.) I have no suggestions for you. Just wanted you to know that I hear you and I've been there.



KKG71NY
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9/10/02 1:13 P

I was so excited, so revved up at the beginning of last week. But come Sunday, I came to the frustrating conclusion that I had, once again, bitten off more than I could possibly chew. While I had accomplished a lot, I had set the expectations too high. Tried to do too much. And much was left undone. Let me tell you what I've been trying to do, and perhaps you guys can offer up some scheduling suggestions. I'd really appreciate the input.

My Big Goals are...
1)To get out of debt.
2)To work as an stage-actor/musical theatre performer in NY.
3)To lose fifteen pounds, and maintain a healthy weight through diet and exercize.
4) To maintain a healthy relationship with my boyfriend.
5) To maintain a healthy relationship with my family (Mom, Dad, Brothers, Stepfather, Sister, Grandmother--all out of state.)

My very first streak, which I had to re-start because I missed a day, was simply to look at my goals once a day. Strange as it may seem, this has been the most beneficial thing I have ever done for myself. I can't believe how much that simple little task has transformed my life. But...like many others of you, the exercize streak has yet to last more than a week or so. The diet streak (food-management, I prefer to call it) works great during the week, but I inevitably blow it on the weekends when I'm spending time with my significant. I was so smart--so in control the whole week last week, but somehow I ran out of time to cook...and we ordered takeout...and that is all I need to say about that! Debt management is coming along sweetly. I've been working my patootie off! But career work is suffering as a result. I find it incredibly, painfully difficult to ask my boyfriend to leave our apartment for the afternoon on a Saturday so I can practice audition technique and work on my music and run through my monologues--especially when I'm not even in a show, and recently have had No Time to actually audition. I feel Silly asking him for the space when I don't seem to even have the time to actually perform!!!I mean, I'd much rather snuggle up and watch a movie and eat lots of buttered popcorn, you know??? Especially when I haven't seen him all week! And I hardly ever get the chance to talk to my family because when I'm home, I'm either sleeping or spending time with you-know-who. ACHK!! I'm so sorry this is so long, but I'm feeling overwhelmed. HELP!!!



 
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