Your bf sounds like my husband who for 45 yrs has always had to make critical belittling remarks to me about my weight. He took fat pictures of me when I was 130#. So, just do this for you. My husband is 65 and he will still break his neck to turn around and look at some "hot" chick when we are walking somewhere and say "Boy, she's got the goods." I just ignore it. Critical people have to criticize because that is what they do.
Congratulations, on the birth of your new baby. There is no doubt things have changed in your life.. With advice from your Doc. and /or SP see how many calories you should be eating and what types of exercises you should be doing..Share this info with him, and ask for his support and physical help. Be patient with you fiance, I think he just wants to be part of all the new things that are happening around him.
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7/4/12 2:22 P
Congratulations on your baby boy! That's what is so great about this website, is that there are so many people on here that can support you and help you through it. Ignore your fiancée, he is being very rude and I'm disappointed in him for not supporting your fantastic choice to be a healthier you. I know how it feels to feel bad at home...my mom doesn't make fun of me WHEN I exercise, but when I don't. She's not home all the time she doesn't see the workout videos I do, the jogs I go on, and the time spent at the gym, and when I take a break she always makes a comment. I'm lucky enough to have a boyfriend who even though he has the fastest metabolism in the world and doesn't need to work out, he eats right and works out with me. But my mom has made many comments about me looking pregnant and heavy as well as my dad. and you know what I do now? I ignore them and I push through it because I have goals and I will accomplish them. You can do it. I believe in you!
"If you never try you'll never know, the seed of fear is one you sow." -Me
Don't give up.
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7/2/12 12:35 P
Lovingmama1, congratulations on your beautiful baby body. As far as your fiancee is concerned, some people are afraid of change. There are probably a bunch of negative things going through his head about how his family is going to change if you start losing weight. Stay strong!
Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its shortness. --Jean de la Bruyere
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7/2/12 11:37 A
You are going to have to stay strong. My husband is always the downfall of my healthy eating habits as well, but when I am persistent, he comes around. It has taken about a year, but he is finally on board and actually decided to check out SparkPeople himself. He even started logging his own calories for a while, and this has really opened up his eyes and helped change his diet. Keep up the good work and he will come around!
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7/1/12 11:01 A
Aw, sweetie! Your fiance will eventually come around. You know how guys are... and their brains are locked on sex, especially when you just gave him a beautiful baby. He's seeing himself in that chid and not realizing how close to acting like a child he is coming.
Guys communicate different from us. I agree with 6INHIGHHEELDIVA, you need to keep working the program and maintain. Make sure you are getting enough nutrition regardless, even if you aren't breastfeeding.
Ask your doc next time you go to the doc, ask him what calorie ranges he believes you should be in. Having "the doctor said" excuses has ALWAYS worked out for me. :)
Angela, Sparking since 6/18/2012 Jacksonville, FL *Keep moving forward! Ask for Peace, Believe in Love, & Give Understanding!
I just wanted to take a moment and encourage you. Keep going! You need to do this for you and your emotional and mental well being, not for your fiancee. You just keep doing what you need to do and when he sees that this is important to you and that you're serious about it, he'll come around and hopefully give you the support you need. As a mother of 3, I can tell you from experience to try to get rest when the baby does. Be kind to yourself. Make sure you're eating well . . . especially if you're nursing, and just keep on going. You'll get there :-)
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
6/30/12 7:41 P
Seems like all I have is this computer to talk to. I just had a beautiful baby boy May 20, 2012. I had started a weight loss plan before I found out I was pregnant and I was doing great at it. But, due to the pregnancy I gained 19 lbs. After I had the baby I was happy to see that I lost the 19 lbs + an additional 13 lbs. I was thrilled to see the extra 13 come off. Yes, that did motivate me to continue.
Well, I'm guessing it's due to the postpartum but I'm tired, I'm having headache all the time, I feel sick almost everyday, and no willpower to do anything. I just stopped with all the healthy stuff. That changed when I decided to go this site. I have regained the motive to do it again.
It's hard when there's no support at home. My fiancee. Every time I do any exercises, he has to make sexual comments or laugh and it makes me stop and not want do it any more. I try to talk to him and let him know how it makes me feel. Then, he saw that I am counting my calories. I told him that I am only able to eat a certain amount. He thinks I'm not eating enough. He thinks, since I just had the baby and that I'm still trying to heal from it, that I should eat a lot more. I argue with him about how important it was for me to eat less than 2000 cal. He thinks I should eat the same way I was when I was pregnant. He even brings home food that I don't need to eat and he knows it. I told him it doesn't work that way. I wish I had more support from him.
I hope that he would follow me in this and it will help him as well.
I know one thing. I will do my best not to let him or anyone bring me down or stop me. I have to keep in mine that this is for myself.
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