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12/6/02 11:41 A

KK .... Where are you? We all miss you here. Hope it's all good !

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11/24/02 7:59 A

That's a great quote there KK ...... Yep...

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11/22/02 4:23 P

"When a group of people come together who are focused, aware, and share the same values, miracles can really happen."

Well said KKG.

Edited by: CYPRINODON at: 11/22/2002 (16:23)
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11/22/02 2:11 P

Cyp--I think it's because most people
A)are unfocused,
B)are unaware of anything going on further than one foot around them,
and
C)don't value their time as much as we do.

When a group of people come together who are focused, aware, and share the same values, miracles can really happen.

Doc--The four D's are a great way to look at "the task list." I especially like the 'dating' aspect. It makes everything so much less daunting.

Thanks!! I'll let you know how things go.

CYPRINODON Posts: 7,586
11/22/02 10:17 A

Wow Doc. I've had the "Do It" and the "Date it into the Future" thing going but to commit to delegating/designating and dropping is a great idea to put me in the mind set of actually doing these things when necessary. Your story of the group with the attitude problem sounds too familiar - - why is there so much of that going around anyway?

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11/21/02 4:31 P

Those are four seperate ways. Take a good look at the tasks and if they are not all that necessary or you find that you just aren't all that interested really then put it in the drop category( I was volunteering for a group that was so disorganized and I was so frustrated with trying to help but being put off by others lack of experience and courage to try change and I found it so frustrating but continued because I felt that they needed so much..... they still do need a lot but I dropped my volunteering and felt so free with two evenings a week extra now for myself instead of doing this frustrating work for other people who didn't really appreciate my time and value my time as was evidenced by their carefree attitude to any forward thinking suggestions )...Also, say for example that there is something that you just have to do but can never seem to come up with the time to do it like for walking the dog ...well,then maybe you can choose to delegate it (get someone else to do that task)and if it is something that must be done by you but there is no rush then put it into the date it category and set a date to do it in the future and that leaves you with the really important tasks that must be done right away and because you are not overloaded with tasks you can see your way clear enough to "do it"

Edited by: DOCTORB at: 11/21/2002 (16:32)
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11/21/02 8:46 A

I have always wanted to explore aromatherapy--thank you for the ideas. I bought some orange essence lotion yesterday to try out in the morning, since that's when the blues seem particularly present. Maybe just *doing* something for myself made things seem a little brighter this morning...It was certainly a lot easier to get up!

In your four D's, doc, are those four separate ways of dealing with a task, or the order in which you deal with them? Would you mind elaborating? I'm really interested!!

Edited by: KKG71NY at: 11/21/2002 (08:54)
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11/18/02 11:02 A

Great that you whittled down the goal list
I work with the four D's
1/ Do It
2/ Designate It
3/ Date It (into the future)
4/ Drop It
This has really worked well for me.
I'm so happy for you in regards to the play. You never really know with those sorts of things just when one might simply take off. It sounds like this one might be a very successful play.That would be so good. Remember every day do at least one thing towards your higher purpose (sounds like the acting is your higher purpose) and before you know it you are ahead by leaps and bounds. Also KK , If you suffer from the blues especially winter blues then use some light therapy and colour therapy in your day. Spend time in lots of yellow and light even if it is artificial light and visualize the sun energy warm on your body. I am very serious about this. I have used this type of technique with some people and had wonderful results. Also use lavender and yling/ylang essential oils before bed at night perhaps a drop in the bath water if you can't get the drop in massage oil and a good massage before bed and in the am for more energy try a drop of citron (lemon or orange) In a good aromatherapy blend one drop will do....careful not to put too much... Enjoy :)

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11/18/02 10:11 A

Doc- I took some time the other day, as per your suggestion, and I whittled down my *massive* goal list. (There's just so MUCH I want to be good at!) Since then, I have had much less anxiety about what I get accomplished and what gets shunted to next week.

I have two mini-streaks going right now, which is helping me regain consistency, but I'm struggling with a touch of the blues the past few days. Nothing huge...I'm sure it's seasonal, and that it'll pass.

The play is a tap-dancer's story about his pushy, foul mouthed stage-mother of a father. The playwright is also the narrator, and the story is acted out in flashback form--mostly about his childhood. I play his shy, quietly strong mother who finally gets her say at the end (great scene!!) The play itself is a work in progress, and the producer wants to put it up again in January at a bigger theatre. (It closes this coming Sunday.) So who knows...this could end up being my big break...

Edited by: KKG71NY at: 11/18/2002 (10:25)
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11/17/02 11:34 A

Please tell us more about your play. I love to hear about it . How are you doing in your goal tracking?One step at a time consistently..... I'm rooting for you !!!

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11/15/02 2:34 P

Cyp--I would LOVE to be in a tour (I audition for a lot of them) so I'll definitely let you know if something happens...And you're so right about starting from where you stand NOW as opposed to where you stood before. So much of happiness really does come from accepting what you can and cannot control, right? Thank you for the virtual pat on the back. It really helps.

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11/15/02 2:21 P

Man...I think you're right. My goal list is ridiculously long. I think one of my tasks for the day will be to minimize it for now, until those goals left have become like the water drinking (more automatic) and then maybe add more. I just want to be doing ALL of these things well!!!(Again, the hidden perfectionist in me!) Thanks so much for your input...

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11/13/02 10:54 A

Isn't it great how little things become a habit. Make sure that you have just a few short term goals at a time and that should help also. I realized after I read some of the examples of what other spark people were doing that I had an awful lot of short term goals so when I changed them to just a few at a time I noticed it gave me more momentum to finish them.Good luck to you ..... I'm just so happy that you are back !

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11/12/02 1:28 P

That's a great idea, Doc. Also, I have to remember the things I AM doing right. I forget to give credit for the good habits I have developed. I started drinking two large bottles of water a day as one of my first-ever streaks. It was such an easy thing to do that it quickly became automatic. Even through all the insanity, it's something that...stuck. So That makes me really happy!

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11/11/02 11:47 A

That's it .... Just keep at it ... If you are going to bed with the best intentions then add stretching before jumping into bed as a goal and then when you awaken you have already completed one thing. :)
Don't forget to keep posting because it really helps when you have to write down what has been happening and also you know how motivating it is to be able to give advise as well as receive it. It's the universal connectiveness of all things... the yin/yang theory. Stretch Girl Stretch !

CYPRINODON Posts: 7,586
11/11/02 11:45 A

Great Quote by Doc: "Choice NOT Chance determines our destiny And if we don't choose we simply live by default."

KK: How cool that your dreams are becoming reality! Wahoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'd like to see those plays myself. If you ever get in a touring company, be sure to let us know so that some of us can see you in action.

When I fall off the wagon, I get the urge to get back to where I was when I fell. This attitude is crazy-making. I have to tell myself to just start again and don't think about where I was, only where I am going.

Edited by: CYPRINODON at: 11/11/2002 (11:45)
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11/11/02 10:21 A

Thank you, Doc. I think you're absolutely right. A few times ovet the past week or so I have gone to bed with the best intentions, and wound up at the end of the next day disappointed with myself, because I'm trying to be pick up exactly where I left off. But I've lost momentum, so I keep falling flat. I will start small again, with a basic streak, like I did before, and add others to it. Thank you so much for your encouragement. It means an awful lot.

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11/10/02 1:17 A

Yep.... Just get back in the saddle! And you know how to do it KK .... You start with just a few goals... don't overwhelm yourself and do them consistently. I am still making so many changes in my life and although they are not the ones that I thought I would be making when I started this spark system tracking they are nevertheless important changes that have made me so much happier and more organized and all that. I sure wish that I lived closer to N.Y. so that I could come and check out your plays/musicals. That was so cool that a friend of the first producer asked you to be in his play also. Keep at it ..... just keep following your dream .... Remember.... You can live your Life by choice ... Choice NOT Chance determines our destiny And if we don't choose we simply live by default. So glad to hear from you again and I am so glad that you are back on the board. You make a difference KK . I find your posts very stimulating , interesting , and motivating.

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11/8/02 10:37 A

Well!

*Something* is working! At the beginning of September, I was cast in a musical with a fairly reputable theatre group called The Actor's Alliance. If you'd like to see what they're about, the website is www.theactorsalliance.com

The rehersals were intense, and because everything happened so quickly (I auditioned on a Saturday morning, and rehersals started that night, and continued for every night from 6-10, except Fridays, until the show opened. WHEW!) The show ("Another Round")went extremely well, but only ran for two performances--all that work for two shows...

But: a friend of the director came to see it and asked me to be in HIS show HE was directing, which was already in rehersals. So I jumped right in (the rehersal process was just as intense) and that just opened last Sunday (and will run every Sunday for the rest of this month!)

I SWEAR this all happened because my focus and determination and confidence were as pinpoint as they have ever been--maybe even clearer, and it's gotta have an awful lot to do with the SP system!!!

Now...the downside. All that great work I'd put into exercize, diet, re-connecting with my family, budgeting...pretty much fell apart. Maybe because it wasn't firmly established enough before everything happened? I don't know...There were some things that held on. My eating didn't really fall completely apart (which it most definitely has) until maybe two weeks ago, so I still feel like I can get back on that track without too much of an adjustment (I just have to get to the damn grocery store!!!) But exercize? I think my running shoes actually collected dust! And because I was eating out, my budget went to you-know-what! I look at the goal system I have set up and feel a little discouraged, a little overwhelmed. This is pretty typical, right?

Any suggestions on getting back in the saddle? Or is it a matter of just getting back in the saddle?

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