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HELLO_SUNSHINE2 SparkPoints: (283)
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9/4/12 12:14 A

I think what you need to do first is to accept who and what you are. Your self-esteem is so low at the moment and you don't deserve that. I tell you this, my cousin is overweight as well but she is so confident in herself and knows how to deal with her weight. Its good that you're trying to shed off some weight. Just don't be tough on yourself. I think also one of the reasons why you're not losing weight is you're too stress out about this weight thing. As long as you practice eating in moderation plus with the proper amount of exercise, I think you'll be good. Good luck! emoticon

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (138,100)
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9/3/12 6:13 A

DEVESTATIONDOLL, - you WILL NOT look ugly on your wedding day AT ALL! You don't now, either!

Using the Phentabz is really playing with fire! In part because that does NOT teach you a healthy lifestyle, and also because the weight-loss you are aiming for is at a dangerous speed. I am sure that you have heard of people blacking out because of this - I know I have heard of them! I am equally sure that you don't want this to happen on your wedding day!!! THIS is what you will be risking, apart from, as Coach Nancy said, the risk to your basic health - the supplements are NOT regulated like most people think!

I really think that part of what is causing your concern is anxiety issues and a low self esteem, masking as 'weight loss NEED!' I ALSO believe that you are seeing that fat girl you ONCE WERE staring you in the mirror when you look at her! A lot of people suffer from this - it is a form of Body Dysmorphia and is very common when we have lost a lot of weight. This is partly why some people don't know when to stop the weight-loss journey and transition to maintenance. I would be far more inclined to get your Dr's input with those issues, rather than risk your health with the drastic weight-loss regime you are obviously getting yourself into.

Please take time - slow down and smell the roses, otherwise you might not be in a healthy state to do so!

Kris


Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 9/4/2012 (00:21)
DEVESTATIONDOLL SparkPoints: (50)
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9/2/12 10:10 P

Because I am not looking ugly on my wedding day is why

HONEY777 Posts: 198
9/2/12 7:19 P

I always enjoy reading the suggestions and support that others give to us when we are down on ourselves. I agree with the others on congratulating you for all the weight you lost and have kept off.
I especially enjoy all the comments that Coach Nancy always gives; she is a very compassionate and educated lady!

IWANT2SLEEP SparkPoints: (4,652)
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9/2/12 4:53 P

I think the OP meant that she was burning 2500 calories including those calories one burns just living. (ie. BMR plus exercise). This is not an outrageous amount of exercise when it is looked at this way (around 1750 plus 750 from exercise) but this would not be enough to loses 29 pounds in 29 days.

I agree your fiancee sounds like a keeper. Your weight does not change who you are.

Why not try losing a sane 29 pounds in 29 weeks. This sounds healthier and more likely to stay gone!

SP_COACH_NANCY SparkPoints: (158,833)
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9/2/12 2:53 P

Hi,

Firstly, congrats on your success so far. That is AWESOME!

I do want to let you know that what looks good on paper, does not transcribe to our bodies. It is impossible to lose 1 pound of fat every day regardless of how many calories you attempt to expend or elect not to eat. If your body feels threatened by such drastic measures and does not receive enough calories to perform basic biological functions (growing new cells, fighting off illness, regulating body temp, heart rate and blood pressure, etc), your body will begin to conserve the calories you are consuming. In fact studies have shown that those eating 800 calories per day versus 1200 calories per day showed no greater fat loss. However, what can happen is your body will also be forced to breakdown lean body mass (bone, muscle, connective and organ tissue) to keep suffice your biological functions. Over time your body's metabolism may slow due to the loss of muscle, because this is metabolically active tissue.

I will also add, the closer one is to his/her goal weight, it is not unusual for your progress to slow. But remember this is not a diet, but a means of developing life long healthy habits.

As for the phentabz--remember supplements are not regulated by the FDA, therefore, you may not be getting what you think you are getting. As long as a supplement does not promise to cure a disease it can be sold over-the-counter, but that does not mean they are safe for human consumption. Ephedra and first generation Hydroxycut were both over-the-counter supplements that were pulled only after people started dying from heart issues and liver failure.

Remember weight loss is not a goal...living a healthy lifestyle is. When we incorporate healthy habits into our daily lives, things will change, maybe not as fast as you would like, but nothing worth earning every is.

Take Care! And by the way, I think you have an AWESOME fiance...I hope you see that your weight does not define who you are, but putting too much emphasis on the number on the scale or tag will and you may find yourself on a life-long journey of dieting. Take it from me...after 30 plus years of dieting, when I gave it up is when I started to live. It took me 3 1/2 years to lose 80 pounds, BUT I have kept them off for over 4 1/2 years now and I have never been on a diet. This is my way of living.

Coach Nancy

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (142,995)
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9/2/12 2:53 P

DEVESTATIONDOLL,

How many hours a day are you exercising that you're burning 2,500 calories a day ? That's an awful lot of exercise. At my current weight, I can burn about 500 calories running five miles in an hour. In order for me to burn 2,500 calories. I'd have to run for five hours a day ! I'm pretty fit, but even that's way too much exercise in a day for me.

How are you measuring your calorie burn when it comes to exercise ? How many hours a day are you exercising ? Here's the thing, exercising too much and eating too little can hinder a person's weight loss, not help it.

The reason you may be stuck at 179 pounds is because you're not eating enough to sustain all the exercise you're doing. Let's say the Spark software recommended that you eat 1300-1600 calories a day to lose one pound of fat in a week. If you burn 1,000 calories a day with exercise, that means your body is only netting 300-600 calories a day ! That's not enough for a grown woman to function properly.

Your body doesn't care if you're trying to lose weight or not. All your body cares about is having enough calories to keep your heart pumping. Remember, your body requires a MINIMUM of calories just to be able to lie in bed thinking. Those are your BMR calories. When you get up and start moving around, the amount of calories you need to function increases. Add exercise and it goes up even further.

In short, the reason you might not be losing is because you're doing too much exercise and eating too little. You're forcing your body to decide which is more important. Having calories to keep your heart pumping or having calories to do all the exercise.

You should be proud of yourself for losing 100+ pounds ! BUT, you also have to be practical. Now that you're closer to a healthy weight for your height, it's going to take longer to lose what's left. that's not unusual. When a person is morbidly obese, they will lose a lot quicker initial. however, with time, that loss does slow down. And that doesn't mean they or you are doing anything wrong. Weight loss really IS a slow steady process that takes time.

Trying to lose 29 pounds in 29 days is not out of the realm of possibility (we've seen it done on the Biggest Loser). BUT, it means spending your entire day trying to lose weight. And that's just not practical for most people. Most of us have jobs, school, family, etc... that's why a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week. not a pound a day.

I know you'd love the weight to be gone, but it's just not that simple. you really do have to weight come off on its on. Don't force your body on a schedule. you'll be miserable if you do. let your body slowly lose the weight. because here's something I've learned from my own years of yo yo dieting. the faster you take the weight off. the faster it packs back on.

This isn't a diet. if you want to take the weight off and keep it off, this has to be a life style change. And change takes time.

So, let me ask you, how many hours a day have you been exercising ? How do you know you're burning 2,500 calories a day ? Because what happens when you get injured and can't exercise ? The weight packs back on. you have to eat right first.

Why aren't you losing ? Once again, my suspicion is that your body is conserving fat instead of releasing fat. Why is it conserving fat ? because you're not eating enough to sustain the amount of exercise you're doing. In short, you're either going to have to cut back on exercise or increase the amount of food you eat.

These are just some guesses since we really don't know anything about you. we don't know what you're eating. we don't know how many calories you eat each day. we don't know anything about your exercise. The more you can tell us, the better we can help.





Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 9/2/2012 (14:54)
DEVESTATIONDOLL SparkPoints: (50)
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9/2/12 2:33 P

Hi guys so I have been trying to lose the exact same amount of weight since I was 16 years old. I posted this earlier under diet and nutrion and am not reciving any help so Idk how to remove it but eh.I cannot get anywhere lower then 179 pounds and I found out that this it due to the fact that supposedly my body thinks this is what I'm supposed to weigh. Well long story short I don;t want to weigh almost 180 pounds as a female and want to be down to 150. I am a vegetarian, don;t eat processed foods or any "white" foods ( sugar, flour etc), I only drink water and don't cheat on my diet as well as measuring everything. I also work out every day and burn at least 2500 calories leaving me a 1000 calories gap to fill to hit my goal of 29 pounds in 29 days. I also take phentabz and I started all over again yesterday. So far no weight losss though. I am about to find out what plastic surgery options I have if I can't lose the weight so what can I do. I am tired of being fat ! Also my fiance found a picture of me when I was fat as a teenager ( 282 pounds at 16 years old) and I just basically broke down in tears and he told me that I was never hideous just overwieght and that he is so proud of me for losing and keeping off 102 pounds. I just feel even more unattractive now even though he insists I'm beautiful because now he knows my secret and I feel exposed.

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