My advice would be to not compare your weight loss journey with anyone else's.I am someone who loses weight very slowly so I used to get discouraged when others seemed to be speeding past me.Now, I am working on my goal in a slightly different way.My measure of success each week is whether or not I'm following my plan and am heading in a downward direction.I can tweak that as need be.If I set a goal to lose a certain number of lbs. by a certain date, I would feel like a failure if I didn't reach that goal. I know that is a huge motivator for some people , but it doesn't work for me. And, I urge you to be patient.If you have a lot of weight to lose (I do), it's going to take a while. Enjoy your life along the way.
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1,304 9/7/12 10:33 A
I agree that you have to treat each day as a chance to "do things right". Never dwell on past mistakes. But, you have to do one day at a time within a plan for the next n months. If you do not have a goal you are working towards a great deal of your motivation is gone. My overriding goal is 225 by 2/1/13. While I treat each days as a project, I look at how my successes fit into my overall plan.
I was talking to a friend of mine who does weight watchers. Within weight watchers they look at calories more from a week long view than a day long view. Overages can be made up within a week. I like that approach because it allows you to have that day when you you may not splurge, but you may have that favorite meal that would look really bad with a single days context.
In the end we all have to do what works best for us. Winning each day is importatn. Jast make sure you do not win daily battes and lose the overall war on those days you lose. Good luck.
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I torture myself with the scale..what a free roller coaster ride.....the joy is in the workouts ...yin Yang ....be nice when I get rid of the scale....less torture more joy in 2013
I had a friend who lost 40 pounds by doing nothing but replacing pop with seltzer water.
Do not be afraid to fail. You are going to try things, and if they don't work out, try something else. You are going to make improvements to your life, and they will feel good.
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55 9/3/12 11:45 P
That's the spirit! Nobody's perfect and the more you torture yourself of sticking to this kind of diet or this kind of exercise, the more likely you're going to fail. Concentrate on your goals and take it one step at a time. There is no perfect diet because the more you restrict yourself in eating those tempting foods, the more you will crave for them. So I guess its really okay to have cheat day sometimes as long as you're up to burn all those calories you digested in. Good luck on your journey. And what as Archimedes has mentioned on his/her post, make yourself a priority.
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If I had a dime for every time I gained, lost and regained the weight, I'd be filthy rich ! Start with those small steps. One small change is all it takes to change everything else. The all or nothing attitude has to go or you'll be stuck on the weight loss roller coaster forever. You CAN break the cycle. And all it takes are a few simple changes.
Don't beat yourself up if you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Taking a walk is one of the best things you can do for your mind and body. Try to eat a couple extra servings of veggies. Keep some fruit on hand when you feel like a snack.
Be kind to yourself as you would to others !! Make yourself a priority.
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I always think of my previous attempts as a learning experience. Each time I tried, I learned something about what doesn't work for me, and what does. Each time I try, I'm going into it with the lessons learned from last attempt. From your post, I can see that you learned from your last attempts, so don't look at them as failures, but as education.
Another quick word about drinking pop....I am a serious Coke lover. When I figured out how many calories I was taking in, I switched to diet. I made the switch by mixing regular and diet at first, slowly increasing the diet until I was drinking just diet. I now drink one diet Coke per day, and water the rest of the time. I think that depriving yourself completely of something you enjoy is counterproductive, better to find a way to work it into your eating plan. I tried giving it up all together at first, and felt like I had lost a friend...lol.
Good luck to you on this new stage of your journey!
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I think you're on the right track. Small steps show you that you CAN set and meet goals. You need that confidence and reassurance!
Good job for taking those first steps. Try not to look at setbacks as failures. They were pauses. You didn't fail, because you're back and working towards things. Nobody's perfect, and it sounds like you have willpower and strength.
I have decided once again that it's time to smarten up, start eating healthier and take better care of myself. I have made this decision so many times I've lost count. I've been thinking alot lately about why things havn't worked for me before, I know a big part of my problem is my all or notthing attitude... That definitely does not work. I have decided to try some of the advice I have been given on here many times before to start out with baby steps, small changes, not everything at once. I started yesterday with going for a walk, it wasn't a real long one but it's something I havn't done in a long time. This week I am going to try to replace the junk food I have been shoveling in lately with some healthier options, especially pop. I don't mind drinking water at all, I just enjoy pop more. I am scared to fail, again,,,,, but, like the say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. I heard someone say yesterday, you never hear anyone say they regret looking after themselves and trying to live a healthier life. How true... It's time for me to start living my healthier life, if I fail I'll just have to pick myself up, dust myself off and keep going I know I can do this, I've done it before. "One day at a time"
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