Thank you to everyone who posted support. I can only take one day at a time and work through these matters. Over the weekend, I was cheered up listening to a speaker start singing "This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine" and encouraging the audience to sing with him. God will give me the strength and courage to cross this bridge, (S)HE always does. My troubles are nothing compared with Jonah or Job's problems described in the holy book. The spark support did help! Thank you!
3/19/12 8:11 A
I just saw your post and wanted to say I hope you are hanging in there. It's a new day of a new week so maybe that helps a little? The best advice I can give you is take things "one day at a time" and even if necessary one hour or one minute. If you are a believer, ask God to give you strength and since I am a believer I just said a little prayer for you and your family. Life can be hard but you need to take care of yourself. If you did fall off, don't beat yourself up. Be your own best friend and forgive and move on. If you did stay strong, give yourself the "hug" you deserve. Keep us posted. This SP family seems to be a really caring group that will support you especially during your crisis time.
KT from Erie, PA
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." Stephen Dolley Jr.
"To get something different, you have to do something different."
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3/19/12 12:26 A
Don't give up on yourself! Once you've taken care of yourself you will be much more helpful to those who need you.
you are a great person to others, don't forget to share that greatness with your SELF.
3/19/12 12:18 A
It looks like your 'panic' was 7 hours ago, so I don't know if this is the helpful, immediate feedback you were looking for.
In the last 7 hours, did you give in and give up? Looking back, was it worth it or was it easy enough to stay on track?
It's so very easy to give up in one moment, but picture yourself a month from now. Will future-you be be any closer to your health goals? Or will you have wasted a month? What about a year from now, after 12 'moments' of giving up and setting yourself back another month?
I've yo-yo'ed for 10 years. My overall weight loss is much less impressive than yours, but the mentality behind it is the same for everyone. One step at a time (and not one step forward, two steps back!)
Hang in there, and don't forget why you started this! Best of Luck.
It is a very hard situation I can imagine that. But think about it this way: you do your best, and you will have results! It takes long, but hang in there!
3/17/12 4:34 P
I will be getting my final unemployment check from the state this week. A whopping 99 weeks of unemployment, who could have imagined! I have been diligently searching for a job since Feb 2009. This calendar year has resulted in some interviews..but no offers. I am signed up with multiple temporary agencies around town, but they have had no luck in placing me either. My spouse is suggesting drastic steps such as selling the house or cashing in my 401K.
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When I'm feeling overwhelmed and can't focus, I do small portions. If nothing else, small portions don't take planning ahead. This isn't all or nothing, I've never been successful when I thought that way. Nobody can be perfect all the time, just keep moving forward and don't make failure an option. If you mess up, start over. As many times as you need to.
Hi DARRONA, I hope you're feeling better now, I just saw this, but wanted to agree with REVSERENA, if people are taking all your time, you have to give them less time to take from you. Not to say you don't love them and want to help them, but make it "ok, as soon as I get back from the gym/back from my walk/done with this exercise tape, I will come over and help you with that problem." If you give them one half hour less per day, they won't love you any less. HUGS!!
So many of us spend our lives taking care of others. When it comes to taking care of ourselves it can be hard. You DESERVE to take care of yourself! Remember that and speak up for your needs. This sounds like an overwhelming time for you- maybe maintenance is a better goal. Try to get in some exercise- it can really help boost your outlook. Big hugs!
Make it a great day!
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3/13/12 9:20 P
I read somewhere on this site: "Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Maintaining is hard. Pick your hard!" Makes sense, no? Hey, at least we get to pick!
Your motivation is inside you. Keep coming to Spark. Make sure you visit the success pages and the Woo-Hoo board for they will motivate you beyond belief. You can do this!
Visit Spark's sister-site, dailySpark.com (click on the Healthy Lifestyle tab, then choose dailySpark.com from the pull-down menu - it's on the bottom). It has some awesome articles that will not only enlighten you, they'll lift you up! Here's a link to some from Dean Anderson, who's written some of the best articles on motivation I've ever read:
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Your health is something worthy to be selfish about. If you aren't able to have the energy/health to help your family that's no good either!
You sending a post to SparkPeople shows that deep down inside you want this for yourself! Yes , it may be hard now, but if you give up it will be harder and you will feel worse.
We are here for you! So don't give up! Life sucks sometimes but its the little fights we win that make it worth it.
It takes 4 weeks for you to notice your body changing, 8 weeks for you friends to notice, and 12 weeks for the rest of the world to notice. Give it 12 weeks. Don't quit!
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COme visit Spark People as often as you can. There is a HUGE amount of support here.
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Don't give up! We all can do this together. You have people to take care of and one of those people is you!
You aren't any good to anyone else if you aren't happy. You need to do something for yourself.
Sending you BIG healthy Hugs!!
I may not be there yet but I am closer then I was yesterday.
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3/13/12 4:22 P
If you give up, what will happen then? People won't demand less of you. In fact, they are likely to suck up whatever time, energy, and attention you have available. If you don't take care of yourself, you are gradually going to have less energy, and ultimately there will be less of yourself to give.
Long view? If you give up now, before long the people demanding your attention now will not get anymore from you than they are getting when you do take care of yourself AND you will be less healthy, energetic, and resilient, and more resentful!
Deep breath. When people depend on you, you owe it them (as well as to yourself) to keep on the road to health.
Take a break, take a detour, take a day to smell the roses, but then get back on the path toward the healthiest you possible. Even if all you can manage is baby steps, keep taking them. If you give up you will regret it. If you keep going, even if it's slow going, you will benefit in the long run.
Sending positive thoughts your way!!!
Get up offa that thing! - James Brown
"The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands. " - Robert M. Pirsig
"Christ has no body now but mine. He prays in me, works in me, looks through my eyes, speaks through my words, works through my hands, walks with my feet and loves with my heart." - St. Theresa
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3/13/12 3:43 P
Take things one day at a time. Don't look at weight loss with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
I know you're under stress, but now is the time you really must take care of yourself. Stress can break down our bodies. That's why it's important to try to avoid the comfort food and eat as healthfully as possible. Because if you keep eating the junk, you're going to feel so much worse.
Do the best you can. No one is perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.
Hi there Darrona! Please don't give up. Just do one good thing for yourself today....nap for bit, watch a TV show that you really enjoy, take a bubble bath. Don't worry about doing everything perfect every day. We only need to follow our eating and exercise program 80% of the time. The other 20% of the time is for going easy on yourself. If you are needing to indulge yourself just have a couple of pieces of dark chocolate or I find 2 fig newton cookies and a nice glass of milk is very comforting. But don't throw in the towel. I am cheering for you!!!
Edited by: MAUREENIE1 at: 3/13/2012 (15:50)
The key to me eating healthfully is eating mindfully. This means reading labels, making balanced choices, and most importantly, listening to my body's hunger cues.
I have no face to face support (online support can only do so much), my kid's illnesses take up so much of my time and we've been dealt a financial situation that has my getting healthy goals so far in the back of my mind I almost don't even care anymore. I can take care of everyone and everything, but when I finally choose to care about me it turns the world upside down for everyone else and they all look to me to fix it (by fixing it I mean not myself...but whatever is not going right for them.) I'm so down right now and am trying to avoid a serious binge. If whoever is reading this doesn't mind I'd love some encouragement.
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Spring 2014 Start Weight: 231 lbs
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