Ah yes.....your situation sounds so familiar....mostly because it is similar to mine! Only I've been out of work for 19 months now and my child is 5 years old.
But the bingeing....it's been a problem, especially as of late. I know better but can't seem to help myself. I either say "to heck with it!!" out of anger or sadness or I make excuses and eat everything in sight.
I also understand about the lack of spousal support. He tries but doesn't know quite what to say or what to do. He's damned if he does, damned if he doesn't.
I agree with the others - seeking outside help from a professional is likely the way to go. It certainly can't hurt, can it? Meanwhile, I would say get on here and vent whenever possible! For me, sometimes purging my emotions onto paper (or in this case, onto the monitor) can be very therapeutic.
My situation was similar to yours. I would do really well with my food intake for a week or two, then I'd get stressed out or upset and binge. It would go on for several days. The thing that has helped me the most has been eating within my recommended calorie range. In the past, I would always try to go in under on my calories. I'd lose weight faster, but I'd be prone to binges because I'd feel deprived. Now, I make it a point to stay within my recommended range every day. I also plan for a treat every day. Trader Joe's makes 100 calorie chocolate bars or Arctic Zero is an ice cream that is 150 calories for the entire pint. There have been a few times where I had the urge to binge, but I'd allow myself a portion of my desired food and then I'd be okay. Once you get into a groove (I've been doing this for about six weeks binge free), it's easier to talk yourself out of it. Best of luck to you! :-)
I have learn from loosing and regaining... ITS all a mental thing. Emotions lead us! We need to learn(its not easy) to control them. there are some great advise below. use them! Good luck and remember your not in this alone!
Sounds complicated, I hope you're able to get some help for the health of you and your family
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Binging is a very complex and multifaceted issue and if you are eating so much to the point that you are making yourself vomit, this issue may beyond the scope of what the experts and members here at SparkPeople can advise you on. I have included a couple of links to some SparkPeople articles that may help, with some references of where you may want to get some help.
WOW, your comments made me cry because they are all 100% true.
I am trying to write out a list of how I am feeling, before talking to him about this very sensitive subject.
If you know the "true Colors" analogy, My husband is very green, believes that he is right and doesn't understand why people should just do things his way, where as I am very blue, emotional and sensitive.
I also have past issues with depression, so from your statements brought back some of my past issues that are probably adding to everything.
Thanks again, I wish I had more time to talk to people on these message boards, they really do help!
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Is it possible that part of your binging is your emotions "punishing" your husband? It almost seems like your marriage is a parent/child relationship. It sounds like there could be some baggage going on in your relationship which could do with a qualified 3rd person - either couples counseling or some one-one-on for yourself. Explain in an even voice (don't raise it, point fingers etc. etc.) how you feel and why, but don't make accusations. It may be that he hasn't really thought about how YOU may be feeling about what has happened in your life, and how you are affected by what is around you. There has been a lot happen - loss of a job and a 16 month old - the two makes for a lot of stress in their own right!
I have been on a continuous uncontrollable roller coaster.
I have lost 20 since January, but my husband has lost 50 lbs. I have also lost my job with a 16 month old at home.
Exercising is not the issues, a great stress reliever and a way to get out of the house.
I will do great for a week or so, but once I slip, I can't stop for days. Usually I slip when sitting at home alone working on/ stressing about job applications. I'm a very emotional eater.
Then at the end of the day, if I go over a bit, then I just say F**K it and go crazy. Eating til I am so full I make myself vomit to relieve the pressure and because I hate what I am doing to myself.
Because my husband has done so and has not hit his goal, it is actually not helpful, I kind of resent him, he is constantly telling me what to do, eating so much good food in front of me, instead of being supportive, so when he leaves the house, I will bing until he gets home. If I tell him what I am doing, he just says to stop, and only I can change things,
I have tried motivational quotes and pictures on my fridge and desk top. Small, medium and big goals with time lines and rewards.
The biggest problem, is I have NO TIME. During the day, I am working on job stuff, getting outside with my daughter exercising, cleaning house, running around doing errands.
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