I think it would be a great idea to find a counselor who can help you find your own identity--a full and complete person separate from anyone else. You have the right to be happy just for being yourself!
For me, the best way to make myself feel good is to help others. You obviously love kids, how about volunteering at a school, youth center, homeless shelter, after-school program, literacy center, peds unit of a hospital, etc.?
Your daughter will be so proud of you when you hit your stride and are living your own life, instead of living through her. Think what a burden that must be for her. Send her out into the world to discover herself, free of the "guilt of abandoning" you. You will have so much more to talk about then and she'll call because she wants to, instead of because she feels she has to.
Your relationship with her is a beautiful thing! Now put some energy into your marriage. You could try all kinds of things together: dance lessons, tennis, sailing, surfing, missions--the sky's the limit!
Edited by: MRSJOCCO at: 3/13/2012 (12:28)