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JESSICAMONT32 SparkPoints: (9,904)
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10/31/12 10:20 A

Hi All,

Thank you all for the great reply's. It been a challenge but this week I have forced myself to take a step back from the excessive exercise ( cardio) I have cut it down to only a hour a day
( from 2 hours) and taking one day off and one day of very easy walking and that is it. I have also started picking up weight lifting again. I hadn't done that in over 6 weeks, because my head was thinking the more cardio the better. I feel better in the energy departments. But i am seeking out treatments for this behavior because i know that it is not normal. It control my thoughts and actions through out the day.

Also I have cleaned up my eating alot this past week. I have gone back to writing in a journal and watching the mindless eating. This halloween candy has been the hardest to advoid. I am ok all day and then when my daughter goes to bed i am so anxious that i find i can't control myself. my husband tends to be a real grump at night and I just get so anxious that I start reaching for anyhting that tastes good . I am trying to really be more aware of what I am eating. And starting to try to eat for fuel, not out of boredom. Its a struggle everyday and even every hour, but i am hoping with some professional help and some encouragement on here I will gain some control back again. This past year and 3 months have just been so difficult emotionally that I think i have forgotten that I can do this.

KTISFOCUSED Posts: 1,480
10/30/12 12:24 A

I read your blogs and I have to say that with everything you have been through, I think you are doing amazing. You have been through so much and yet you are still fighting along. Is there any support groups in your area? I know this isn't a direct answer to the weight loss issue but I think everything is connected and like some others said, I am really impressed with your fortitude in such difficulty and I so wish your husband would be a little more supportive but men often aren't.

Keep going and the plateau will eventually end. I've been on one myself and am also stuck in the 150's. I do attribute it partially to my age and the meds I take for after cancer so I try to see other improvements from my diet and exercise like feeling stronger, more endurance, etc. I also am an over exercise, maybe that is part of our problem? Let's just keep going one day at a time ok?

L-RIOT Posts: 348
10/29/12 7:29 P

Welcome to your plateau! I'm there too!! I've been at 150 forever now and through advice and progress I've been able to get past it. I was working out maybe 3 times a week and I was eating what I should but I just couldn't get past it. Advice through SP, I needed to jump start my metabolism. I now walk 7-10 miles a day and I have my metabolism starving so I find myself wanting to eat every hour on the hour. I've seen progress though. Pump up the workouts and you'll get through it! Be sure to update us!

1EMMA2011 SparkPoints: (25,423)
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10/29/12 1:15 P

I was a stay at home Mom for 14 years. There is no more important job. Part of being a success is taking care of you and I think you are making great strides in this area by being a member of SP. Take it from someone who has been there. Take little steps at a time to go the distance. In the long run, model taking care of yourself so that your children will learn that. Also be sure to put money away in a retirement account just for you. You will want that one day.

OK, You have a lot going on. I'd pick one area to work on. Sounds like you have the nutrition down.

Perhaps focus on the exercise. What can you do for 10 minutes at a time that will build up to 250 minutes of exercise a week? Are you covering all 3 areas: stretching, aerobic and lifting weights?

Support from your husband. Here's what I would do. I don't know what it is that you are looking for from him however I will assume that you might want to go for a 30 minute run and want him to watch the kids while you do that. I'd not call him at work, I'd prepare him a nice dinner. I'd wait until he came home, changed, looked at the mail, ate and guessing he might sit down to check his computer, look at the TV. I'd give him 30 minutes from the point that he sits down. I'd tell him I loved him and was going to go for a run. I'd say the kids are here with their toys and I'll be right back. I'd tell him how much I appreciate him working so hard for the family, watching the children for 30 minutes and when you get home you'll be giving the kids their bath and putting them to bed. He can have his quiet time then. Tell him again that you love him.

See if this works for you.

I can really relate to all you are going through. I feel proud of you that you asked for help. Keep going. I think you are awesome!


SHADOWROSE45 SparkPoints: (4,845)
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10/28/12 3:05 P

I've found the best exercise is walking, and that's something pretty easy to do with a toddler in a stroller, even jogging.

There are some pretty good 20 minute mile videos around for during nap-time, too.

I stalled in my weight-loss, then just dropped a tonn all at once. Don't despair.

Make sure your body doesn't think it's starving, and that you're eating every few hours, change things up if that's what you're already doing.

I'm 52, and the older we get, the harder it is to lose, but hang in there, 150 isn't obese, so it's going to go slower now. Weight comes off quicker when you're heavier and slows when you're closer to a normal body weight for your height.

Good luck! And, please, you shouldn't be obsessively exercising til you are hurting. Part of the weight could be water build up in injured muscles!

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (129,520)
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10/28/12 4:40 A

Jessica - please do NOT despair - you are losing, therefore you are winning this war!

My weight losses were at times much slower than yours. Rather than focusing on the scales and what you think you SHOULD lose per week or month, why not just focus on the fact that the weight is coming off, and in a healthy way - slowly!

When I was in my weight-loss mode, I only had treats once every two weeks. That day I would eat what I fancied that I wouldn't have normally been able to have. That way I could stick to the calories my Dietitian set for me (no range) all the other times. Since I have been at my goal (quite a long time) I allow myself to have whatever I want, weekly, but without going overboard. Sometimes it takes what we perceive to be big sacrifices, but believe me, the end result is worth it.

Where it comes to the exercise, you mention "compulsive" with it, even tho' you are sore. That is not a good sign - either the compulsion or the soreness. I would be inclined to talk with your Dr and ask for a referral to a Therapist - especially one who deals with compulsions, and possibly eating issues so that you have the proper emotional tools to help you through this. You don't seem to have the support of your husband with this and you DO need support in your real life, too!

The other thing that I am wondering - are you on any medications which could be affecting your weight-loss? I note from your SparkPage that you are a Cancer survivor - sometimes the medications used for that can increase weight, as can other meds.

Hang in there - you are worth it!
Kris

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 10/28/2012 (04:48)
INKSPATTERS Posts: 41
10/28/12 2:52 A

Whoa, PURECOUNTRY29, your weight multiplied by seven? That would have the OP eating only 1050 calories a day! At my weight I would only be allowed 826 calories, which is about what I was eating when I was struggling with disordered eating. I certainly hope that "7" was a typo: otherwise this diet sounds very unhealthy, and certainly unsustainable in the long run.

PURECOUNTRY29 Posts: 866
10/26/12 2:32 P

I started the biggest looser lifestyle change, and I have to say it is amazing. I started at 166, and one day short of two weeks later I have lost 8 pounds. All you do is take your weight and multiply it by 7. that is the number of calories you eat per day. If you go online to the biggest looser family cookbook, it is under $5, and has recipies that will make it really easy for you to eat enough so you arent really hungary, yet still stay under your calorie count. And you arent eating just fish, and nuts or spinach, they are great recipies that the whole family loves. My mom joined me 4 days ago, and has lost 4 pounds. It is just a suggestion, i am very vocal about it because it has worked so well for me.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (139,514)
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10/26/12 2:03 P

Hi, Jessica !

I know you're frustrated that you don't seem to be losing as fast as you'd like, but how tall are you ? Depending on your height, you may be at a healthy weight. Let's say you're 5ft 5" tall, that would put your BMI at 25. That's the high end of healthy, but still healthy.

The closer a person gets to a healthy weight for their height, the harder it takes to lose those last few pounds. So, don't assume something is wrong because the weight isn't coming off as fast as you'd like. Ask any member trying to lose those last few and they'll tell you, they might lose a pound a month, IF they are lucky.

Because you have less to lose (even though it may seem a lot to you right now), your loss will be slow if you're BMI is in a healthy weight range for your height.

Also, don't assume you're not making any changes because the scale isn't moving. Can you run a mile faster today than you could a month ago ? Can you do more push ups today than you could a month ago ? Do you have a bit more energy ? Has your stamina improved ?

There are many ways to gauge success that don't involve the scale. If you could only do 10 push ups two months ago and today you can do 30, that really is a success.

Also, what does your dietitian think ? Do they feel you should be losing a half a pound a week ? Talk to your dietitian and let them know your concerns. they know your eating habits much better than we do. Can snacking ruin a person's efforts at weight loss ? Depends on how much snacking you're doing. too much could hinder your loss.



SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
10/26/12 10:03 A

"Though will admit that my snacking is a little out of hand but not enough not to lose." Read this statement again and see if you can find the contradiction. You are not losing as you would like, so perhaps you are consuming too much. Are you keeping detailed food logs and being honest with your dietician? Have you discussed your goal weight? Is it realistic for your body type? Have you had your body fat measured? That can help you more accurately assess a realistic weight loss goal. For example, if you are 150 but only have 24% body fat, losing 20 pounds is not realistic unless you shed muscle mass, which is not a good idea for a healthy metabolism. If you have 36% body fat, you have more fat mass to lose.




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10/26/12 9:24 A

Hi Jessica,

What does your dietitian have to offer? She would probably be in the best position to offer you dietary advice as to how to make the changes in your specific diet to bring about changes.

As for your exercise, remember the effects of exercise are cumulative so if you can only find say 10 minutes here and 10 minutes there, that can be just as beneficial to your weight loss as one longer session.

Losing weight is a part of healthy living. Unfortunately many of us make losing weight more important than incorporating life-long healthy habits into our life...the latter which tends to take the most time. It took me almost 3 1/2 years to lose 80 pounds, but I am proud to say that I have kept the weight off longer than it took me to lose it. The reason, this is now my new way of living. I still enjoy an indulgence from time to time, I just have learned to make healthy living my way of living.

Be strong!

Coach Nancy

JESSICAMONT32 SparkPoints: (9,904)
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10/26/12 8:53 A

Hi all,

i am exteremly frustrated, i have been stuck in the 150 since July. I have lost 6 lbs in 3 months but feel like it should be coming off more than a half pound a week. I go weeks without seeing anything change. I have been consulting a dietian and eating plenty. ( Though will admit that my snacking is a little out of hand but not enough not to lose)

I am so down about this that I am struggling not to go to the extreme. I know I need to seek out help because some of what I do is compulsive such as working out even though i am super sore. Or feeling like I must burn a certain amount of calories a day. I am just finding it hard to fit into my schedule , i am a stay at home mom that doesnt have a sitter. My husband is not supportive, i tried to talk to him about what was going on last night and he literally changed the subject. i am frustrated at myself so much that all i want to do is cry non stop.

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