Meditation, exercise and talking about what you are feeling with someone (friend, family member, pastor, therapist).
My dh and I have started meditating 20-25 minutes each day. Dh has had a lot of problems with anxiety and stress after his sister's death a few years ago even though on the surface everything was "back to normal". Things weren't really fine though. Dh was on medication for awhile and it helped but felt it didn't address the underlying problem. The meditation seems to be helping him find peace much more.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose a sibling and now the added worry of an ailing parent. You will be in my thoughts! "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference." To deal with stress, I must take a breather - get some quiet time - pray. Outside of that time, I try to surround myself with a mellow environment - religious music helps me to put what I am going through into perspective. The other suggestion about yoga is a good one. Walks, yoga, etc - anything to burn off stress and anxiety is so helpful. You already know it - Good Food! It's so important for your stressed body. The food choices that are not healthy will take such a toll on your immune system and mental health. Take care of yourself, even if it is 5 minutes for a cup of tea. A GREAT laugh is also a fabulous way for me to deal with things that are out of my control. While you may not feel it with the grief and worry, try to think on things that make you happy. Perhaps it could be remembering great times with your brother. Honoring a loved one with fond memories has always helped me come to terms with my loss.
Courage is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway. - John Wayne
I am sorry for your loss. Siblings kind of get lost in the shuffle when their brother/sister die especially if they are adult siblings. Please check out the bereavedparentsusa.org/ to see if they have a chapter near you (it's for parents, grandparents and siblings). They are a national organization that was/is very helpful to my family, I was a person who said "I don't do support groups" but because these people were either walking the same road or had been there it helped in ways people who knew me could not. There are also other resources that might help you on the site.
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My personal best suggestion is to make sure that you take time out for yourself.
I have a few of the same challenges that you have - an elderly parent who I don't see as much as I should due to my work schedule. My job is very stressful, however, I always remember that people are who they are - we can't change people, all we can do is change ourselves.
If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're right!
The truth is the truth and you can't change it.
"Success and Failure are both choices. Choose Wisely". ~~Sean Smith Certified Master Results Coach
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Yoga is my go-too stress reliever these days. NOt only does it make me feel physically better (the stretching improves my arthritis and other body aches and pains) focusing on my breathing and the poses improves my mental stress, as well.
Heather Writer, mother, wife, and breadwinner. I love to run, but running doesn't love me, so I'm switching to my low-impact bike.
In the last month, my brother died, my father was diagnosed with COPD and was hospitalized for a short time, my niece has left to play ball in the Netherlands for two months and my three kids and myself had head lice. Needless to say I reverted back to my old ways, and although I'd like to use the saying "food was my friend" its not true. I feel crappy (physically and emotionally) and my body was not impressed with some of my choices. I took a week off after my dad was hospitalized so that I would have time for myself but spent the week treating and being treated for head lice.
If anyone has suggestions for how better to handle stress I'm all ears. Coping day to day has been difficult, who can think of cooking when I can't get it together to do the grocery shopping. I'm hoping me going back to work will actually bring some normalcy back for everyone.
Fingers crossed the worst is over, but since I'm to be the executor there are more hurdles to clear.
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