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80 2/23/12 6:41 P
Wow, thanks you everyone! Such great advice, this has been really helpful. Your comments made me realize how much my attitudes toward eating reflect my attitude toward most of my life -- textbook perfectionism! And self-awareness is the first step. Thanks for indulging me and wishing you all lots of success in your journeys!
I can relate to this. I've always said in my past attempts, "I wish I could just fast forward like 3 weeks, fast forward to when I've gotten used to eating smaller meals and exercising every day so that it's not so hard, or scary." I'm going to attempt a metaphor here, let's see if it work, lol!
It's kind of like the whole journey is comparable to a single workout: When you first begin your workout, you're "excited" in a way, you're fresh. But after about 10 minutes, when your body starts to get heated up and the sweat beads start dripping down your forehead, you're kind of feeling like "Oh man, and this is just the beginning, I have to power through this for 30 more minutes!" But you keep going and you keep pushing through. And then when you're done with the workout, you feel fantastic. You're energized and sweaty and out of breath and you couldn't imagine not doing that every day. It's kind of the same way with the entire journey. At first, you're pumped up, you're excited about your new adventure and the good things that will come of it. But then after a few weeks, or a few pounds, or maybe when you hit a plateau, you begin to realize what a challenge it really is and you begin to feel weak. But those are the times when you have to push yourself through. Because you will come out stronger than ever, more energized, feeling fantastic.
I read a quote not too long ago that's kept me going so far.
It takes 4 weeks for you to notice a difference, 8 weeks for your close friends and family to notice, and 12 weeks for everyone else. Give it 12 weeks.
You *are* being too hard on yourself, and trust me I've been there. You need to refocus, and remember that this is not a fad diet promising you'll lose 30 lbs in 30 days. It's taken your *entire life* to form the habits you have now. So how long do you think it'll take to form new ones, especially habits that you may not be all that fond of yet!
Give yourself a chance to see what you're capable of before just giving up. Surprise yourself.
Be your best friend and be kind to yourself. You'll figure it all out and it will make you so happy when you do. Be proud of your accomplishments and build your self up. You are a wonderful person. Believe in yourself.
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20,645 2/23/12 9:25 A
You're being much too hard on yourself. Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's STILL a step in the right direction. Today, you drink 8 glasses of water. Tomorrow you drink 8 glasses of water and take a 30 minute walk.
Take baby steps literally and figuratively. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Start with some simple goals. If you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to walk for 30 minutes each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, you set new ones.
As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do and try not to beat yourself up if you do something you think is negative. The goal is for the positives in your life to outnumber the negatives.
So, no more beatings, the beatings aren't productive. How about starting with some simple goals to help you become a healthier you.
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10 2/23/12 7:11 A
I know what you are going through. I constantly think about what I should be doing and what I should not have and did I exercise. I did really good exercising every day for a 2 weeks and now I am like okay if I do 4 - 5 days of something I am good.
I also get discouraged with the weight totals, I lost 3 lbs two weeks in a row and then I gained 2 pounds. I was like really I exercised but ate a little more. Then had no gain but no loss. I have a couple of friends that keep telling me to stick with it. It does help with the encouragement. One of my friends when I was whining I only lost 1/2 a pound she was like be happy a loss is a loss. And remember you will have ups and downs.
I read an article that said people that fidget lose more weight. So I try to shake my legs while watching a show or work my calves by rolling on my toes up and down while waiting around. It is just a little but I think it helps.
Keep telling yourself you will feel better. we all want the numbers to go down but remember that at first it is about more energy and feeling better. Good Luck
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80 2/23/12 2:21 A
i'm increasingly frustrated at my inability to keep on track. the only time i've lost weight in the past was by accident; i feel like when i try too hard, when i'm constantly thinking about my progress, i can only stay on track for about a week at a time without getting derailed. how do i balance keeping track of what i eat and my exercise without thinking so hard about it that i obsess myself into getting derailed! does anyone experience this?
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