Cynthia, I lost my mother last year. She had lived with us for 11 years and we had to watch her succumb to bowel cancer. Thus I can really empathise with what you are going through right now. Time is a healer and you will get over this but you will never forget. Next week I am taking our church service and my theme is the journey to God. One of the readings is the whole of Revelation 21, and no doubt you will be familiar with it. Now your mother is with God and in the new heaven and on the new earth. As with my mother and years ago, my father, we can, a least, be thankful for that. God bless you Cynthia..
Maybe you should have used the scooter when you go out? It was a major traumatic surgery and I can easily see it getting cranky. Also your healing will be slow because you are so immunosuppressed. This is also why you are having trouble fighting that infection :-( They may have to take you off the RA drug to allow you to recover. They took me off all my meds when they thought I had the infection in the arm. I was getting IV vancomycin therapy every day! Turned out to be a waste of time as I didn't have an infection (and never thought I did) I don't get infections. Ever. No colds, no infections in the ton of surgeries I have had. Nothing. I have recovered in filthy conditions (where everyone else was getting infections) and still nothing. One small blessing, but perhaps explains why the RA was so efficient at trashing my body. Have you done Orencia? Not new, but very effective. I subscribe to a RA newsletter that always comes out with a chart of the latest approved drugs, will have to see if I can find it. I used to do a banana a day in my smoothie, but stopped when I couldn't get the calories low enough :-( This vegan diet is really high calorie because of trying to get protein from nuts, seeds and beans which are pretty high calorie. I think a keto diet would have been better, from all accounts its a miracle cure for a lot of ailments, including RA, but requires supervision of a health professional who knows what they are doing and constant blood monitoring. Sisters in strength