I am really sorry about your Mom and your Dad. That is rough.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, indeed.
My daughter would NEVER say these days that she is beautiful, even though she is. My Mother's influence on that is fairly strong. I agree with some aspects of it...that you should be modest about your attributes...just let them show, and let others notice, but there's nothing wrong with confidence.
After I wrote that blog about my Mom, I talked to her on the phone. She is 84, and sometimes i think she is losing a step. She asked me to TAKE DOWN THE BLOG. I asked her why and she told me that she didn't want to be a "braggart" and that she didn't want her friends to read it.
I told her that her friends coming to this website, finding me, without a name, and reading my blog were VERY remote. She asked me to take it down, regardless. I didn't, but I took her name out of the title. She won't know the difference, and I am not sending her any more blogs.
She is 100% Norweigan, and they are BIG on not drawing any attention to themselves, and being humble. She ALWAYS takes it too far, and never complimented us for anything, so we didn't get big heads. She was wrong.
She got mad because everyone told my daughter when she was a little girl that she was beautiful. She IS beautiful. She was looking in the mirror at my Mom's house, and said, at age 3, that she was beautiful...she has heard it from strangers so many times. My Mother looked at me, AGHAST, and said what are you going to do? I looked at my daughter, and said you ARE beautiful, darling, but we don't have to say that. WE just know. My Mom was FURIOUS, and she was VERY WRONG.