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1091 days ago
I saw a recent post of yours on the Living Binge Free team and felt I had to jump in.
I just have to say something about Intuitive Eating. There are a lot of good things about it but the truth is that very few slim people in the world actually live this way. Even if France, which has basically been a slim culture that very much savors and appreciates food, as recommended in IE, without overeating it, there is little support for the idea that people will eat well if left to their own hunger and satiety.
Most slim cultures (that are not just poor) believe in meal-based eating at relatively routine times, sharing meals as much as possible--NOT just eating when an individual is hungry. In company, slim cultures support each other to eat moderately and savor all food. They don't serve huge amounts so that people end up picking and eating more, unlike here. The Japanese, French, and Italians do very little snacking, if any, between meals and rarely eat snack-type foods. And they don't wait until meal time and they are very hungry to decide then what they will eat. They have rather set traditions for what is eaten at each meal, and only one meal a day is large. They don't worry about blood sugar or metabolism or starvation mode even if there is quite a gap between meals. They don't eat at the first sign of hunger! And they eat about 1/8 the sugar we do on a yearly basis.
I tried to use IE on and off for decades! It wasn't until I committed to three meals a day, eating what I liked at those meals but eventually moving toward balance and few low quality manufactured foods, with sweets or extras at weekends or on two extra days a month at most only, that I was actually able to experience hunger and satiety in a way that worked with my life, including my social life. I would sometimes go much longer without eating than I would have on IE, and it has been a real boon, as my appetite has decreased considerably. I just don't like overeating much now, though as just about all people do, I do occasionally. And I've been able to do this while living alone. This is quite similar to slim cultures, but with some added rules because of the lack of cultural support here and because it takes awhile to get really good at not letting exceptions derail one, But it fits in quite well, and many people have no idea I'm following a plan. But they do notice the weight I've lost over the years.
I encourage you to try planning to eat meals at regular times, or in a window of time, and to learn OVER TIME, what combinations of foods at those meals will leave you appropriately hungry for the next one. This will bring a peace to your eating that it can be hard to imagine!
Hope I wasn't too preachy, as I know you've had some very good runs at times.
But I very much support you in not dieting and, if you are trying not to binge. to not have a calorie limit to start. Or if you do, have it at an amount to maintain your weight for now, until you get more used to regular eating. It is very likely you will spontaneously want to eat less as time goes on, with some exceptions. Exceptions do not mean you are not changing!
1164 days ago
I hope and pray that you can conquer this eating/body image issue now and save yourself decades of misery. I think when I was in college, it was the beginning of really disordered eating by a great number of young women, and I know from the boards that things got worse for that generation. I think the paranoia is even more pervasive now. It takes a lot to free yourself from the media and other cultural pressure, but what else is there to do? It really doesn't take all day to plan some good meals, fit in some moderate exercise, and get on with other pursuits. There is so much more to life than that! Feel free to contact me separately, if you like, but the Living Binge Free team has some great members, too.
Remember, don't diet and don't swear off any food.
1308 days ago
wow, you've been binge free for a long time!! Excellent!
1524 days ago
Here's a great book about Intuitive Eating that I read and used and still highly recommend if that interests you!
1649 days ago