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    I use Flylady.net to help me. There are times due to pain that I can't do much, but learning from her, I manage. I am just putting this here for your information. I know how hectic caregiving can be. Please, don't ever feel that you have to answer anything that I write. It is important to have time to yourself to recharge.

    I was in the Air Force from 1970-1972 also during the Vietnam era. I never was trained to use a weapon and never carried one. I could have taken the carriage off a manual typewriter and thrown it at someone, lol!

    Don't worry what others might think, just help Ray. This is one area where others are quick to give advice, but don't know the half that is entailed in another's care. May God strengthen you as you do.
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    Comment edited on: 12/7/2016 7:40:29 AM
    I enlisted for purely selfish motives. I didn't have a job and I owed a bit of money to my Dad. I wanted to see the world, but I never left the USA and I hadn't traveled that much.

    Social Services would do an annual evaluation of whether my mother was eligible for help due to her health.

    Social Security got involved when I put Mom into a nursing home. I became her payee, I signed her checks and they had to be signed a certain way since she was no longer mentally capable of managing her own money. I also had a huge problem when we sold our old house and moved into this one. Social Security thought that Mom had been moved. I had to get affidavits that she was still at the nursing home as a resident from the nursing home and her doctor. Such a simple thing like an address change for me, became a major headache.

    I let the nursing home take over being her payee, then they received all of her Social Security check and I had so much to spend monthly on things for her. Before I did that, I had to say if I used the money for clothing, shoes or other things, what each expenditure was for and had to submit that paperwork to Social Security yearly.

    I think it was Home Health Care that came to Mom's apartment twice a month to clean and to check on her. She would not let anyone bathe her, but me, before she went into the nursing home. The woman sent was qualified by them to do that if Mom would have consented.

    Mom locked herself out of her apartment a few times and there was an outrageous charge for opening the door. She also went to a friend's apartment to ask for help when she had trouble breathing. I got calls asking me to tell Mom not to do that. She couldn't remember anything, so it was pointless.

    The housing where Mom lived had put notices of past-due rent on a neighbor's door, but never opened it. My mother, called the police and told them she thought someone was in there. They opened the man's apartment and he was in bad shape. He was taken to the hospital where he died. Then housing tried to get his brother to pay his past-due rent. He told them that he had never rented anything from them. I couldn't imagine the gall of them to do that. They didn't even check to see if the man was there inside of his apartment.

    When Mom went into the nursing home, they tried to have me sign paperwork that I was the tenant. Well, I remembered the man that died and gave them an earful. I wondered how many gullible people they had gotten to sign papers, that had never lived in their housing. I get angry. Many of my mother's generation were not high school graduates and many people that they deal with are aged and would not notice the wording.

    It's over now, but Oh, the lessons I learned!

    23 hours ago
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