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On June 7, 2013 I lost the love of my life and partner for the last 21 years of my life. My darling husband died suddenly while he was at work. His heart simply stopped beating. It was the kind of heart event that you hear of young healthy athletes having. Gone in seconds. He was only 59.

Since that horrible day I have been trying to learn how to live in a world that is completely and permanently changed. There is an endless aching in my heart.

In the first ...
On June 7, 2013 I lost the love of my life and partner for the last 21 years of my life. My darling husband died suddenly while he was at work. His heart simply stopped beating. It was the kind of heart event that you hear of young healthy athletes having. Gone in seconds. He was only 59.

Since that horrible day I have been trying to learn how to live in a world that is completely and permanently changed. There is an endless aching in my heart.

In the first days I had to remind myself to breathe in and out. My therapist told me to just do the basic basics to get through each day... remember to eat three times a day.. to drink water... to have clean clothes... to sleep.. and nothing else matters.
I've gotten a little stronger each day. Although I very much do not want to be here, I know that he would want me to carry on and so I will do so to honor him. So I'm doing the best that I can. I'm starting to focus more on my health. I had made tremendous strides in turning my health around in the last couple of years before he passed. I had my diabetes in complete control and I'd lost 75 pounds. He was so proud of me. I don't want to lose ground now. I want to continue to live in a way that would make him proud.
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Member Since: 5/13/2008

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Overall goal: To continue to improve my overall health and sense of well being.




My Program:
I'm done with diets that turn me into an accountant. I get enough number crunching at my job. I don't want to count grams of anything, nor calories, nor points.
I'm also done with the whole "good food" vs "evil food" programs that eliminate entire food groups.
I'm trying the No S Diet with hopes of regaining some normalcy and common sense about food.


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My name is Marti. I've lived on Cape Cod in Massachusetts for nearly all my life.

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Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world.
Helen Keller

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PAMAPPLE
2/22/2015 10:21:33 PM

Marti, I just read your reply to Oolala, and I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I do totally agree with you about being so strict with your diet, that after some crisis comes into your life, or even, just getting tired of adhering to a fanatical diet, can bring on binge eating. I found that out for myself when I was diagnosed with food allergies, and for several years, ate strictly how the allergy doc told me to eat, then when I felt better, I was basically out of control with my eating. I hope the S diet is working for you, and I will have to experiment a little more to see what works best for me. I am glad to hear that you are able to follow the diet, even as a diabetic.



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1PHATPHOENIX
2/17/2015 8:47:20 PM

Thanks for the Sparkgoodie Teapot and the Herbal tea suggestion. I read a bit of your story. You are a stromg and a wise woman! Your beloved (rip) would indeed be proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too.

Keep Shining!



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OOLALA53
2/12/2015 8:38:38 PM

From your profile blurb: remember to eat three times a day.. This was advice from your therapist when your heart was breaking. It turns out this is good advice for most days of the week. I've been living it on the No S Diet for five years. I've found that the freedom to choose anything I want at my meals makes up for not eating more often and it sure simplifies life not having to plan for the perfect snacks. Hope to see you on the team threads!



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CRAMPERELLA
2/9/2015 6:31:32 PM

I love the Helen Keller quote. Haven't had a pity party in quite awhile and it feels good. emoticon



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NEVERGIVEUP57
12/3/2014 4:51:26 AM

This is a great website, there 12 steps document is free, as well as other things. Similar to OA but no restrictions, as in abstinence from certain foods, focus is on mental healing.

You can copy and paste into your search tool. :)

http://www.eatingdisordersanonymous.org/
meetings.html

Sorry to read about your husband, I hope you are feeling a little better about life. I lost 3 siblings all younger than me and life is not the same without our youngest sister...everything does change doesn't it. My heart goes out to you.

Comment edited on: 12/3/2014 4:54:56 AM

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