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10 tips On ways of learning to love yourself.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Received this from a friend the other day. Do not know where it came from so I cannot give credit. It is so helpful to me that I am wanting to share it.

If anyone knows the source please let me know and I will add it.

PS. I now have it on 'good authority', thanks Sue emoticon it is written by Louise Hay.

"10 Steps to Loving Yourself

1. Stop all criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are always positive.

2. Don't scare yourself.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (like yellow roses or a waterfall), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. Be gentle and kind and patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. Be kind to your mind.
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

5. Praise yourself.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds up the inner spirit. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing. Remember that recovery is a process; sometimes you will falter, slip into old, unhealthy behaviors, or fall back into self-destructive patterns. Don't give up and don't beat yourself up! Instead, remind yourself that the learning curve is never straight, and then get back on the right track. There is a difference between "slipping up" and being a failure!

6. Support yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it most.

7. Be loving to your negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. Take care of your body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. Mirror work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. At least once a day say, "I love you, I really love you!"

10. DO IT NOW!!
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job or the new relationship. Begin now-- and do the best you can!"


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    Thank you for sharing!

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AJDOVER1 8/20/2014 12:15PM

    Wow, those are huge. I'm still a work in progress....

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    Thank you for the reminder! emoticon

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NOWYOUDIDIT 8/19/2014 2:30PM

    This is very a very positive way for us to be kind to ourselves. Thank You for sharing it. I think many of us spend so much time caring about others we forget about us! We will run out of giving that way! I am guilty of that myself.
emoticon Sending you LOVE and prayers from northern Minnesota! :o)

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RITZIBROWN 8/19/2014 8:44AM

    Thank you _WISPY_ for such a positive start to my day. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 8/19/2014 8:15AM

    Perfect reminders on how to treat ourselves and others!

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OMNOMNAMASTE 8/19/2014 6:47AM

The author is Louise Hay, Wispy!
Be blessed today.

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WISLNDR 8/19/2014 5:26AM

    Thank you so much for sharing this. What a nice start to my day!


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LESLIESENIOR 8/18/2014 11:47PM

    This is exactly what I needed to read today.
Thank you, as always, Wispy, for sharing a great message.
I think I'll go do a little "mirror work". emoticon

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DIANE7786 8/18/2014 11:15PM

    Great tips. Thanks for sharing.

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Just found this - it is called 'life changing tips' - loved it - wanted to share -

Monday, April 14, 2014

Here are ten life changing tips inspired by quotes from the great Sufi poet, Rumi:

1. Challenge Fear

"Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious."

2. Be Bold

"Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth."

3. Have Gratitude

"Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life."

4. Take Action

"Why should I stay at the bottom of a well, when a strong rope is in my hand?"

5. Have Faith

"As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears."

6. Embrace Setbacks

"If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?"

7. Look Inside

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

8. Learn From Suffering

"The wound is the place where the Light enters you."

9. Don't Be Concerned With What Others Think Of You

"I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think."

10. Do What You Love 

"Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love."


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    #6 and #10 are my favs.

Great list!

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AJDOVER1 4/16/2014 11:27AM

    Thanks for sharing this. I've printed it off so I can give it my full attention someday....

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ERIN1957 4/15/2014 5:54PM

    Oh to live life so, and as Rumi shared with us. He is one of my favorites.
The Holiness Dalai Lama has a very good list he shares and it reminded me that I should post it soon. Upon my return after my time away I will do just this.
But I snuck in when I saw you posted a blog.
Much love dear friend.

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RITZIBROWN 4/15/2014 2:13PM

    I also like "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there." ~ Rumi

Rumi and Hafiz are 2 of my favorite poets! Thank you for this emoticon

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KALIGIRL 4/15/2014 10:22AM

    So wonderful - now if we could only follow half of them...

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KICK-SS 4/15/2014 1:24AM

    Good lessons to live by Wispy!! Thanks for sharing with us...

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LESLIESENIOR 4/15/2014 1:06AM

    Just what I needed today. I'm going to copy it and print it out for a new sponsee that is really stuck and really struggling. It will knit nicely with the 12 step work we have been doing.
Thank you Wispy!

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NOWYOUDIDIT 4/14/2014 10:34PM

    Truly Inspiring! Thank You! emoticon

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WISLNDR 4/14/2014 8:32PM

    Perfect!! Thank you for sharing this, I added this to a Pinterest Board called "Good Starts" (as in "good start" to my day.)


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Depression and the help of writing

Wednesday, January 08, 2014

I spent a very large part of my life with depression. Not the come and go kind, but the day by day constant companion kind when the world is just a grey, foggy, aching emptiness and time crawls by from one agonizing second to the next. I had everything outwardly. Husband, family, home, my own business - but I felt lost and empty and scared on the inside as if I was at the bottom of a very deep pit.

My life did not change suddenly but very slowly over the last 50 years. I could think of very little to be grateful for at that time and did not feel 'gratitude' at all.

One of the first things that helped was realising and accepting that I did have depression and that if anything was going to change I had to face that fact and stop running away from it with alcohol, sex, food, gambling - all things which gave a fleeting but short lived release, followed
by feeling even worse if that were possible. which ensured that I had to repeat the behaviour.

I started therapy and began to write daily. It was suggested I just sit down and write anything. If I couldn't think of anything then just write that. Thoughts come into our heads all the time
and writing them down where I could see them was the first step. The most important thing is absolutely no censorship. Once I got going I discovered how much pain and rage were all bottled up inside me. I found the courage to realise I hated God if there was one and I was sure I was going to Hell for even thinking it let alone writing down.

This is one of the things, the daily and often nightly writing when I couldn't sleep that began to help change my life. I began to find out who I really was, not who I thought I was, or wanted other people to think I was. I stopped pretending to be someone I wasn't - which I found out is quite different from consciously 'acting as if' in order to work into new behaviour patterns.

There was a lot I had to work through before I even began to feel a smidgen of gratitude for anything at all.

We are never alone once we ask for help. I believe that our heartfelt desire for the answer put out there into the Universe, to God, to whatever you personally believe there is, even if you don't believe in anything at all. That desperate desire from within seems to set in motion everything we need for our own particular journey.

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GREEN_NURSE 12/21/2014 5:00PM

    Dear Wispy,

I hope I'm 1/10th as wise as you if I'm fortunate enough to reach 75. Thank you for your blog entry - it is synchronicity at its finest.

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BECCABOO127 5/6/2014 12:32AM


Thanks for sharing. I've had many episodes of depression and think the last one that came to me in my mid 40s may be around for a while. Your idea of journaling is a great idea.

I also keep a happy thoughts book where I will write down anything that I've done that day that makes me happy--like doing the dishes when I am too tired to do it, or going for walk around the block. It makes me happy that each day comes, and I do whatever I can, and that I do not ever give up!

I plan on starting art journaling, too, as I think I can release a lot through art/drawing/painting, even though I haven't done it in decades.

It is the hardest to accept that depression is part of one's life, I think. Then, I am continuing to figure out where to proceed from that point to have the best life possible no matter what.

I cannot do what I used to do but that is okay. It is just a different stage of my life, and I do what I can and try not to guilt trip myself or ask "why" I can't do what I used to do.


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LARSIL 1/19/2014 9:16AM

    There are lots of Christian writers that encourage us to keep a daily journal - including writing out our prayers, and every once in a while going back to see how our prayers have developed, changed, and have been answered (or not - or not yet). Among them are Rick Warren, Max Lucado, James Dobson, Kay Arthur, and Chuck Swindoll - writers from different "generations" of Christian leadership. You're in good company - and using a blog (like SparkPeople) can be part of that.

Now I guess I'm going to have to journal, too....

Thanks for sharing something that's really important!

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MAESTRAPLANK12 1/13/2014 10:51AM

    Writing in a journal is catharsis, a human need for all of us. What an inspirational blog. Blessings today and always!

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SERIOUSLIM 1/12/2014 3:04PM

    I can particularly relate to "the desperate desire from within" as being the key to setting movement towards change. Thanks for sharing.

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CLEARNIGHTSKY 1/12/2014 2:39PM

    you are so right
you are so right
you are so right
you are so right

I stand convicted!!! (in the best way possible)

I've just placed a journal beside my bed and will be writing a few sentences every night. It's just so true that writing frees the real person you are.

Thank you for writing this blog post, Wispy.



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GOING4GOAL2014 1/11/2014 6:28PM

    This blog took enormous courage to write and I am so proud of you for expressing these feelings! May you always remember how blessed you are to be here and how much we all need you. emoticon

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DREAMWEAVER1637 1/11/2014 1:27PM

    Very well written

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JAE_HENNINGTON1 1/11/2014 11:37AM

  I learned this lesson later in life it has been a comfort to me in my darkest times

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 1/11/2014 11:06AM

    I find many answers come from writing our thoughts. emoticon

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ANNEMARGAR 1/11/2014 7:56AM

    Wispy -- thank you for th powerful blog. Journaling is a wonderful thing. I too fear that someone will find my journal perhaps the book that Kaligirl recommended will alleviate that fear - allowing me to be vulnerable. Thans for sharing!

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ERIN1957 1/9/2014 2:54PM

    What an absolute treasure you have shared here.
I believe this speaks volumes to so many and will help others as well.
The raw honesty is so real when you write, what a loving gift.
Wispy, God Bless you and your loving wisdom,
to share and help us all through your journey here.
Love you!

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AJDOVER1 1/9/2014 1:28PM

    I picked up my journal a couple of days ago and I was surprised to see how long it's been since I've written. I guess I've never seen a direct link between writing and release from depression.

Maybe it's time to approach it again, maybe from a different angle. At least your blog has inspired me to give it some thought. Thank you!

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KALIGIRL 1/9/2014 8:57AM

    I've yet to open myself to the kind of vulnerability you so graciously blog about, but am looking forward to reading Brené Brown's "Daring Greatly" as part of my Early Bird group.
Here's the link her TED talk: "The Power of Vulnerability." www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
and the link to her interview with Krista Tippett

For as you said, "We are never alone once we ask for help"...

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CELIAMINER 1/9/2014 8:28AM

    Wispy, your blog does a great service to all of us out there who are depressed or who have suffered depression in the past. I was about to say I fell into the latter category (past), but I really have to wonder based on my lack of motivation the past few months. Thanks for making me think and, in particular, think about parts of me I'd rather not see. You are a super inspiration, and I hope everyone "likes" this blog so it will become a Popular Blog and spread your message further.

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NOWYOUDIDIT 1/9/2014 4:51AM

    I had a year of therapy where I wrote everything down that had hurt me as a child. It helped the memories fade into memories instead of flashbacks. I love writing and "setting it free". When I was 16 I used to write letters to God and bury them, or wrap them around a rock and throw them into the lake. My abusers told me it was crazy. But I believe it saved me!
I love the therapy of writing! And I believe if you are courageous enough to tell God what you really think, you are courageous enough to realize He loves you regardless. emoticon

Thank you my Dear Dear Wispy for sharing your battles. I Love you!

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KATRINAKAT23 1/8/2014 10:14PM

  I have thought of journaling my thoughts, but I always worry that if something happened to me my sons would find them and there are things I wouldn't want them or anyone for that matter to read.

I do believe though it is a good tool to use, I just don't have the courage.

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TOKIEMOON 1/8/2014 7:43PM

    I'm so glad that you found writing to be an outlet to help you find the inner you amongst the demons. Your writings always seem to be from the heart and well thought out. May you always have serenity.
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LINDA! 1/8/2014 6:17PM

    I can certainly relate to that black hole of depression. You have written a wonderful blog. You express that there is HOPE for us. We just need to find a way out.

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 1/8/2014 6:03PM

    I too have had years and years of severe depression as you have had. Writing also helps me sort through and deal with the pain inside, so I can let it go. There are some who want to fault what they term 'negative writing' but getting that stuff out can leave a clean feeling.

When I went to alcohol treatment many, many years ago they taught us that we had to release that cr#p, or it just sat inside us building steam and affecting us in every way. And, a huge part of treatment was teaching us that we had to let that stuff out, either by writing, by therapy, or by having a conversation with the person. Sometimes that 'conversation' was in the form of a letter that was not actually mailed to them, but helped 'confront' the issues so they could be released.

I too spent many years hating God, and sure too that I was going to Hell. But, you know, God can handle our feelings, and he can read our souls and hearts, and he knows we are but innocent, hurting, wounded people. Inside my heart I actually felt a love for God, but couldn't reach it because of all the pain that humans had foisted on me, which I blamed God for allowing. But then over and over in my life there were instances that happened where there was no other way to explain it other than God was sending me a message that he was still there for me. I will explain 1 of the many instances.

1) I was in a head on collision. I was driving a Corvair Monza (with the engine in the back and the hood containing the trunk). It was a small car. I hit a 1970's Cadilac head on. We were both going 80 mph. My car literally spun like a top.

Here's the God thing. A police car happened to be right behind me, and so he was to me in literally seconds. The cop said I should have died in that accident. And, he also said that in this instance, if I had been wearing my seatbelt I surely would have died.

Here's more of the God thing: I always drove with my glove box open with a cassette player on the glove box, cause the cars radio didn't work. For some reason that night I got this (intense) gut feeling to not use my cassette player that night. So I drove with no music, which made my long drive at night miserable and long. Several times I went to pull over, open my glove box, and set my cassette player there, but for some totally unexplainable reason I felt 'compelled' not to do it. I never understood WHY I was doing this.

Also, I (always) wore my seatbelt, so I didn't understand why that night I just had the 'feeling' that I just didn't want to wear it.

In my accident it turned out that if I had been wearing my seatbelt, I would have ended up with my back snapped/broken. And, if I had not closed my glove box that night, when I went flying around the car I would have been decapitated by the open glovebox. Cause I landed on the floorboards of the passenger side exactly where my glove box lid would have been open.

I am convinced that God coerced me into leaving my seatbelt off that night and closing my glove box. To save my life, so I would eventually see HIS hand in my life, and come closer to HIM.

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PHOENIX1949 1/8/2014 4:44PM

    Right on & write on.

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X_MONICA_X 1/8/2014 3:11PM

    Thank you for sharing pieces of you and what you've discovered about yourself and being so open with us Wispy. I too, find that writing helped me a great deal and I also discovered where the root of all my pain, hurt, frustration and anger started from. Reading, therapy, supplements, writing and support all has helped to get me where I am today. Just one thing still working on though... is forgiveness.


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  I'm so glad you wrote and I found a great deal of inspiration from your words.

Keep writing - keep Sparking.

I find SparkPeople to be so very wonderful in so many ways. The opportunity to post Blogs, receive feedback and have all this support and encouragement for leading a healthy lifestyle.

Take care and have a wonderful day!!! emoticon

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Living in the Present Moment

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

“All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.”

Eckhart Tolle

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LINDAMARIEZ1 3/2/2014 4:29PM

    perfect! thank you! got any more? send them my way! I can use any you might have!
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ERIN1957 1/8/2014 8:11AM

    Wisdom at it's best!
Thank you so much I needed this today!

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    Here's to recognizing the present as the emoticon it is!

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CELIAMINER 1/1/2014 9:16AM

    Wispy, thanks for a great quote to start the new day and the new year!

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WISLNDR 1/1/2014 7:56AM

    What's so awesome right now is that I opened my journal earlier this morning and remembered that I had cut and pasted this same quote a few days ago and put it right at the top of the page to re-read every day. It's a wonderful quote and so very important to dealing with all the negativity that surrounds us.

Happy 2014, our best year yet!!


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SEASONS_CHANGE_ 1/1/2014 7:43AM

    You are so dead-on. Sometimes, it's hard to stay in the present with so much lingering in the past....

Happy New Year Wispy!

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TOKIEMOON 1/1/2014 12:05AM

    What a great sentiment to ruminate about as we end 2013 and start a new year. Have a Blessed and Healthy 2014! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NOWYOUDIDIT 12/31/2013 9:45PM

    Today IS a present!
emoticon and love Dear one!!!

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LESLIESENIOR 12/31/2013 8:49PM

    What a wonderful quote to end 2013 and begin 2014. I love Eckhart Tolle. I think I need to get my Power of Now book out.
Thank you, as always, Wispy!

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PHOENIX1949 12/31/2013 6:44PM

    Wow! Serious food for thought. Thank you.

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CLEARNIGHTSKY 12/31/2013 6:08PM

    Beautiful and true, just like you, Wispy!!

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SHERRY666 12/31/2013 6:05PM

    emoticon I AGREE............. LET'S BRING IN 2014 WITH A BIG BANG.. emoticon ... JOY... HAPPINESS... HEALTH... FORGIVENESS... AND.... LOVE.. emoticon

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SGCSVCEEC 12/31/2013 5:54PM

    Reach for Joy and enjoy.

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Finding freedom ... from me

Sunday, December 15, 2013

I am wishing you all the blessings of peace and joy that so many of us do not find at this time of year. My first sober Christmas I spent most of the time in bed trying not to think about what everyone else was doing. All my pre AA friends were out partying and I was alone, cold on the inside as well as the outside, scared and so lonely and miserable. For me emotional recovery took a long, long time. I used to be amazed at how others seemed to be bright eyed and bushy tailed in a few weeks, or months and finally even years in the AA programme. My progress has been very slow and painful, but these days I am rejoicing for everything I have been through. I would not change what I am finding now for anything else.

Why it takes some of us so long to let go is a mystery. Perhaps I was so used to thinking that the only way to get anywhere was to fight for it, that I was just unable to surrender. The saving grace for me over those early years is that I did not pick up a drink. I so wanted to 'make things work' and be the sort of person I wanted to be rather than look at who I was and accept that and learn to live within those limits.

I wanted to be healed and travel the world telling others about the wonders and power of God. I wanted to be like those, whose names are on everyone's lips. I wanted to be special.

I discovered what others can do is of no benefit to me - or anyone else. What seems to bring peace is being who I am and finding a way through the darkness that leads to peace and freedom.

I know this is something I say many times but it is the very defects themselves (many of them that I actually thought were my good points) were the very things that were standing in my way. I wanted to be good, I wanted to be spiritual, I wanted to be worthy of God's love.

That old saying about "standing in our own light" applied to me 100% but I could not see it. I could not let go of who I wanted to be and accept who I was. And yet it was at that very point, when I reached it, that things started to improve. Being a failure in everything I held most dear was the point at which I surrendered - long after accepting I was an alcoholic, I reached the place of acceptance of who I was and became willing to let go of trying to make myself be someone else.

Learning to love and accept who I was turned out to be the beginning of learning how to love, accept and forgive. I spent so long trying to be 'good' and 'do the right thing'. I am not saying all that time was wasted because it led me to where I needed to be. I can never make myself good enough. The very best I can do is surrender to a Power Greater than myself and accept what is.

Thankfully pain and suffering finally led me to that place of surrender and forced me to let go.
I accepted and began to love and take care of the lost little me that I was.

These days I never underestimate the power of these two great companions - they can be transformed into the most priceless jewels.

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CHRISTASP 12/21/2013 5:49AM

    Beautiful, thank you.
"What seems to bring peace is being who I am". Yes. I know AND I keep 'forgetting' this truth.

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CLEARNIGHTSKY 12/20/2013 10:26PM

    Wispy, you are a treasure! You are right on when you talk about accepting ourselves exactly the way we are. I need to get in prayer and meditation where my HP can reveal to me how to love myself. Thank you for your valuable share.

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WATERMELLEN 12/16/2013 7:50PM

    Thanks to KALIGIRL for sending me over to read your very moving and profound blog. No point in "trying to be good", really none . . . counter productive even. Gotta be the unique being who is . . . me. And you. And each one of us.

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WISLNDR 12/16/2013 5:06PM

    Once again, you've made a difference in people's lives with this beautiful blog. Thank you for sharing all the important things you've learned in this life!

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NOWYOUDIDIT 12/16/2013 4:46PM

    Beautifully said Wispy!

I started drinking at 12, my parents were alcoholics. Alcohol was everywhere. By age 20 I was married 1 year with a 1 year old daughter. I looked around and realized I did not want my daughter to look at me like I looked at my parents. I never looked back. Never drank again. Until 2008 New Years- had a 7 oz. beer after we lost a friend who was closer than a family member.

But my husband had his own addiction demon that he did not give up until 3 years ago- that nearly destroyed us all. His war was our war.

I now see the gift I was given to be able to walk away from alcohol. But it was a lonely existence. Never invited to parties etc because no one enjoyed the sober person's (me)presence.

My precious momma became a Christian (not a religion ;o) in her late 50s and at age 80 I adore her. All is forgiven, and ever so slowly forgotten, wounds healed slowly- but they healed!

I chase peace relentlessly. But JOY always finds me when I most need it!

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MADEIT3 12/16/2013 3:57PM

    So true and for some of us, so difficult to do. Thanks for sharing this part of your life.

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TWINSFITBY40 12/16/2013 10:47AM

    Wow Wispy. That was very well said. You have expressed yourself so well that I can feel your words in my own life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Great to hear you are taking care of you... Have a blessed day... Maria
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KALIGIRL 12/16/2013 9:34AM

    Wonderful as usual, my friend, but also very powerful for those of us who are ''trying to be good'' instead of living our lives "standing in our own light"...
I for one, know yours shines brightly!
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PHOENIX1949 12/15/2013 8:18PM

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Have a Blessed Christmas and Happy New Year!

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CANDOK1260 12/15/2013 6:50PM

    emoticon for sharing this great blog emoticon on putting your life on the right track

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TOKIEMOON 12/15/2013 6:42PM

    You so eloquently described the beginning of the 12 Steps. Until I read this blog, I never realized that the same thing that makes a diet work, is the same thing that living a sober life requires. Namely, that we must 1st learn to love ourselves AS WE ARE. Improvements will come, if and when we truly accept ourselves for who we are today.

Thanks, Wispy, for showing me how this is an all important step to take before we attempt to change anything about us.
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