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Expectations .....Great? or None? That is The Question.

Saturday, December 20, 2014

I spent a little time reading some of my friends blogs and comments last night after i had spent an hour or more writing my own blog. Lately my blogs have been about life... it seems to take precedence over the exercise.... and charting or even blogging or socializing on here lately. I guess living in a reno zone will do that to you.

In one blog in particular the word expectations was mentioned.... and the fact that if they had expectations....in this case losing weight..... the scales went up instead of down. The conclusion reached was have no expectations and you will not be disappointed. Several friends agreed with that advice.. . .

I cringed at this advice. I live my life everyday with great expectations. I expect my government to have all our citizens best interest at the center of their workings.....I expect my family to love me and show respect as I do the same to them. I expect to get a job done as I use my energy to accomplish a task..... I expect others to whom I am paying to give their best to earn their pay and get their job done.

Do I get disappointed.... you bet! Everyday.....sometimes all day long. But I will not stop expecting better of myself............and others.

I expect results............ if I do not get results then I am going to find out why.....and I am going to make any changes I need to to get the results I need to get the job done. I think expectations and faith go hand in hand.....we have to believe that things can and will be different or life is not worth the fight. There are times that it becomes too much.....times I just lay down and say I quit!!! It does not matter anymore. Before long as I lay there in my slothfulness and self pity I realize it does matter......all the things that I care about do matter.... and matter enough to get up off my duff and start yelling and kicking .....and making things move in the direction of "better"!

I am not a spring chick anymore.......my body is worse for ware. But the part of me down deep is strong and stubborn..... it will not be suppressed.

So my message to you who believe that the expectation is the problem.... it is not. Timing is everything..... what you did last week may take till next week to show up. Everyday wake up expecting you will succeed....and if you are not moving forward....then make some changes that will work toward that goal. Don't lose heart and best of all get to love the journey and not just the getting there.

Love you all Spark Friends emoticon ...... and BTW Merry Christmas. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KAREN608 12/20/2014 11:23PM

    So agree with you. I would not get anything done if I didn't expect and plan to do it.

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KING_SLAYER 12/20/2014 6:29PM

    Hmmm, point taken :)

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GRAMMYEAC 12/20/2014 6:14PM

    Expectations, or goals, are an important part of my life. And, I'm with you; sometimes (often?) my expectations are not met and I am saddened. Does that mean I should lower my expectations? No way!

Set the bar high and expect yourself and others to step over it!

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BUSYGRANNY5 12/20/2014 3:44PM

    To choose to have no expectations would be a sad way to live one's life! I choose to have expectations and strive to meet them!

Great blog!

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NHES220 12/20/2014 1:37PM

    I'm with you! We need expectations! Do we get disappointed, sure, sometimes. But that is OK, we just keep trying.

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MONTREALESTMOI 12/20/2014 10:11AM

    Oh my goodness! I have no idea of where I would be in my life if I had not had placed expectations on myself!

To have no expectations is the equivalent of dreaming and not believing they can come true. How standard, complacent, and ordinary would my life be without my having big expectations of myself and working to accomplish them?

How could I EVER hope to lose weight without expectations?! I don't get people who say 'set no expectations at all'. THAT'S INSANE!

I can only speak for myself. I have and will continue to set expectations for myself so that I can continue to move onwards and upwards in life.

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MARGOH12 12/20/2014 9:46AM

    I like your positive thinking

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Not The Christmas I was Expecting

Friday, December 19, 2014

This photo was taken 6 years ago... I do not even have this tree anymore. But I don't have a tree up for the first time in my adult life. No festive decorations inside or outside.

Yes as a matter of fact I do not have furniture or flooring.

It all started in the summer when we went to Home Depot... to get an estimate on taking up the carpet and replacing it with wood. We had been saving for years because of my allergies. The first estimate about blew our heads off. They charged for moving furniture and our big clock was going to be $380.00 to move.....etc and etc. We were never going to get those floors at this rate. So that is when we decided to redo the bathroom....take out the carpet and use it and the walk-in closet to store all our stuff that would fit. That was everything....from 3 closets.....3 bedrooms.....livingroom, den and Dinning room. We filled up that bath clear to the ceiling....turned off the water and filled the tub and sinks ...we were left with the big stuff. ...dressers.....beds.....couch...love seat....and dinning room set.... and three stuffed chairs.

Still needed to cut that estimate to meet the budget so we said we would deliver ourselves....and we would move out remaining furniture...and we would remove and replace the baseboards. Finally on October 29th I wrote the biggest check that I had ever written at one time......and started the process. Hubby got a friend to help take off the baseboards... sadly they knocked holes in the plasterboard. I was so mad I said I was not fixing their mistakes....but as the time for the flooring order was to come in I gave in and started the work. Pulling nails left over with channel lock pliers..and a wonder bar.....then patching holes one as big as an egg..... one bigger.....and we also found damage from a leaky roof...in one bedroom... did not look bad when we started to check it out but turned to a hot mess after we took down the crown molding. Here are some pictures.

Just part of the nails I pulled and holes made by the big boys. I patched all around the walls where there were baseboards...and the wall and ceiling where there was water damage. ..plus those big holes. ...then painted all the patches each and every room.

Holes and patches gone...ceiling and walls. ...painting all the bedrooms.

The wood came in and we borrowed a truck got a couple neighbors to help and delivered our own flooring and sat it in the living room to acclimate. And three weeks we had to wait I finished painting three bedrooms and patched and painted the living room, den and dinning room. The day before the installers were to come ,,,,neighbors came and took our very heavy living room furniture to their garage to me out of the way. Hubby left me a bed and a stand in the living room ...all my other rooms including my kitchen were packed to the rim with stuff. I left so the wood cutting and taking up the carpet would not bother me... and went to Home Depot to pick up my new light. It was around three in the afternoon when I came home....and there was hubby ...and a neighbor taking up the carpet and throwing it our the front door. To make a long story just a little bit shorter, the installers had come and gone. Basically said my floors were uneven and they worked on slabs only....and they said they would not do the job. We were shocked. Hubby went to Home Depot...tried to get them to get someone else...and they said , "NO"! The next day they came and got our flooring..... it took 12 or 13 days for the main office to send my check.

We have now gone to Lumber Liquidators.... we have ordered, and paid for our flooring. Construction people said there was nothing wrong with my floors and they would install the floor but ....all this is taking place after Christmas... I have two pair of jeans and one pair of shoes that are not packed away in that crazy bathroom. I still have my bed and table in the living room and Hubby has a chair. I am sure that the neighbor would love to have their garage back for the holidays....and I sure would like to have my tree and decorations. If there is any good side to this ...crazyness.....I have lost 6 pounds.

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100LBLIGHTER 12/20/2014 9:42AM

    Thanks all for your comments.... I will keep you all informed as we move forward.

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KING_SLAYER 12/19/2014 11:04PM

    Wow! Things may not be going the way you wanted, but you'll probably end up with a better installation now than if the original guys agreed to do it. And on top of it all you managed to lose 6 lbs!! I sure hope things get all sorted out as quick as possible after the holidays.

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DJ4HEALTH 12/19/2014 10:53PM

    Home Depot can be very expensive to have them do anything for you. My gas hot water heater went and I had to get a new one and the installers wanted over $650 just to install it and that did not include the heater. My son knew a friend that had an uncle that did it for me and what I paid him was the two pipes that lead down into the old hot water heater and that is the best price to pay for it.

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KAREN608 12/19/2014 10:36PM

    Wonder bars are the BEST. I sighed in understanding about fixing holes and painting and waiting waiting. I do hope when you get your wood floors they will please you to no end after all this!!!

And people wonder why I put down vinyl planks, DIY. What is funny is everyone says what great wood floors. I tell them it is vinyl planks. I got them from lumber liquidators too. Nice place. But real wood is so much lovelier I think. Just not in our budget.

Great story. You need to keep it with the house so that someday some other owner will understand how hard won those floors are!!! Thanks for telling this.

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SUCCESSN2014 12/19/2014 10:21PM

    I had new windows installed by Home Depot in July. Last night we came home from being out of town to find one of the double paned windows was cracked the entire length of it. We immediately called the people who did the install. They said that they no longer were contractors for Home Depot, but they would call and talk to someone for us. The guy they talked to sat there and said that Home Depot wouldn't do the repair!! Screw that $($*$!! I paid over 10 grand to have all of my windows, front door, screen door,and french doors put in.

Later that evening the jerk called my husband but he didn't hear his phone. He went ot call the guy back and got no answer. He tried twice today and still no answer. He called the installers back and they were fuming when they found out that Mr. Jerk hadn't called us back. She gave us the main number to call and said to call her and let her know if we got it situated.

My husband made the call and within 5 minutes we were taken care of. The good news is they are replacing the entire window. The bad news is although they could have ordered it today, it won't be installed until after the holiday. Luckily it was a double paned window and it was the outside portion that broke, not the inside portion.

Trust me if they would have gave me a lame excuse I would have been marching my happy butt to the store and raising all kinds of heck! In the matter of 8 weeks we did a major remodel on our house and I dropped a pretty penny in that store. They would have not liked me at the end of the day.

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GEORGE815 12/19/2014 9:46PM

    What a story!

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Veterans Day 2014.....

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

My Dad

My Hubby

The day that we set aside for our Veterans is almost over..... Facebook is just loaded with pictures of Dads, Grand parents, Sons, Daughters who have served in the Armed Forces through the years. Every one is saying Thank you.

My hope is that after today is done.....That we not forget ...that guy down the street, or the homeless man you see hanging around on the street.... may be a Veteran too... and he gave his life.....and may never recover fully, for his country. Help! What ever you can do....help. That is the best way to say Thank you. ....give thank you meaning.

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    Great photos. Thanks for their service.

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Bathroom Completed....

Monday, October 06, 2014

Just a note to tell you the bathroom has been completed....and here is a picture story. All work was done by the Hubby and I. .....

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KAB7801 10/6/2014 9:39PM

    Omg it's beautiful!

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RICKHANN 10/6/2014 9:31PM

    Wow, it looks terrific. Love the tile. I just finished tiling around my fireplace today.


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What a Morning!!!

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

You all might know that I have been in a three year small renovation of my bathroom....and part of that three years has been nagging my Hubby to start.....even though we had bought all the stuff three years before. I started to tell you all what that involved but for some reason my computer dumped it three fourths of the way through the story..... OK that is a little too much for most people to handle this early in the morning so I will just say it has been draining for me trying to keep a house with a fine layer of reno-dust being deposited by me (most of the time) all over my house. I have to add that we have since changed the lighting, and the faucets too. We are now finishing the tile floors. All of this is on going.....and has left me exhausted. I am not a neat freak either.....but I do have allergies which flare up when this stuff gets too deep and I must clean it to be able to breath.....that is a catch 22....because when I clean I get worse for a day or two....then I get better.

Monday was one of those cleaning days.....the 3 SHIH TZUS were a stinking mess and I planned to take them to the groomer.....my car was also full of Hubby's clothes he had "out grown"....that needed to be taken to the Goodwill store.....and then I planned on coming home and starting on the doggie beds and crates...the floor sweep, vacuum and mop....and pick up the babies before five. When I go to the groomer she said she may not be able to do them because she was exceptionally busy...... this is the first time I had not called ahead......they say walk-ins welcome. Finally she said she would take them and I went on to the Goodwill store dropped off the whole trunk full and stopped at McDonalds for a breakfast burrito which I ate going home. I got home and started on washing the beds....but the washer was full of Hubby's clothes from the week before (he had just taken them out of his truck) and his weekend laundry ...so I sorted the lights and darks and washed dried folded them while doggie beds were washing. I also took up the rugs in front of the crates and started sweeping the floor around their crates. I went to pull out the table and knocked off the Sunflower arrangement...vase was full to the rim with those flat sided marbles.....they went every where...bouncing and tingling to the far corners of my kitchen and into the pile of stinky doggie dirt that I had been sweeping into a pile around the crate. I had to stop and hunt for the marbles, move my bench ....my computer tower and desk chair....the bar stools etc. etc till I had every cotton picken marble....the flowers were in the dirt so I threw them in the kitchen sink and filled it with soapy water along with the marbles.....finished sweeping ...then vacuumed . I was just shutting off the vac when I thought I heard the phone ring... no one there so I redialed the number and there was a busy signal....... I went on with the vacuuming and mopping when I heard the phone again. It was the groomers.....they closed at 3:00 and it was already 3:20.....I am 30 minutes from the groomers. I hung up the phone and quickly mopped up the soapy water on my patch of kitchen floor....in my house dress, with my hair dripping with sweat....off I went to the groomers. I apologized for being late and explained that I thought they closed at 5:00. True they did ...this was new hours and no one mentioned it to me.
At home I realized that the babies had no place to be till I finished cleaning. I was going to put them in their play pen but someone had pooed there yesterday and I did not take time to clean it because it was late....so I left everyone in the car carrier with the air on and car running...and hooked up the hose and hosed out the play pen. One by one I took the babies out of the car ....to the grass and let them potty and then put them in the play pen to play. I then went to the house and finished mopping the floor, drying there beds, putting their crates back together after scrubbing them in the tub......washing there rugs and drying them putting them down on a clean floor....putting all the furniture back in the room. (I knocked over the fern stand and the fern fell apart) ....washed my flowers in the sink and drained them in the sink...washed the marbles and put them back in the vase and made the arrangement over... My burritos were long gone.... I was hungry and tired....my back ached. I heated a bowl of left over soup ...went out and got my babies and put them in their clean beds and got ready for night time... I curled up on the couch and rested for the rest of the evening.

Yesterday....I awoke with a headache... and decided to take it easy for the day.... I made me something to eat and cleaned up the kitchen...carried the babies out with a leash so they would not get dirty ...and later took them to their clean play pen. Made me a cucumber salad with onion ....and a cheese sandwich. Hubby called and said he was sick maybe with a UTI and would be home in the evening. I made him some brown rice and soup. He went to bed... I did later.

I awoke again with a headache... Hubby is in the bathroom getting ready for a Doctor's appointment. He puts on his shoes and tracts dirt from one side of the kitchen floor....to the frig.....and back over to the computer desk...chunks of dried mud....then he steps on the rugs to make sure he had gotten everything I had done ....UNDONE! Then he left for the Doctor.
I let Cody out to go potty without a leash....and the first place he headed was the bare spot where Hubby parks his car.....no grass and Cody tried to roll.. I yell "no" and then he runs away and will not come back to me. I go inside and get Diva and put her on a leash she and I go potty ...no problem both one and two. I carry her inside so her wet feet will not pick up the mud that is all over the kitchen floor. I put her to bed and go back out to get Cody....he finally lets me pick him up ...he is a mess. The dewy grass and loose dirt....is like greasing and flouring a cake pan ....his belly and legs are a brown mess. I carry him into the bathroom put him in the tub and wash him, towel him off, and comb his ears and tail, ...carry him back into his bed and get the vacuum cleaner to clean the floor. I sweep in front of Cody's cage and front of the sink and the chair where Hubby has put on his shoes....around the computer chair and under the desk where Hubby had come to get his car keys hanging on the wall. This is four feet from Divas cage...... I am just about ready to put the vacuum away when I looked over and Diva is sitting in poo..... she does not like the vacuum and will poo even if she had just pooed outside....she also poos at the groomers.....at Pet Smart......and if she is outside with the mower running somewhere in the yard (I mow 2 acres). And the worse part is she just walks around all over it till she and her bed is a stinking mess. I picked her up by the scuff of the neck and carried her to the tub.......and I gave her a bath....head to toe. I took the bed and dumped it and put it in the washer and turned it on....took out the tray and carried it to the bathroom where Diva is still in the tub, and dumped it in the commode, washed it and hosed it off it the tub...left it there to drain while I took wipes and wiped the tracked poo off my kitchen floor. Then I mopped the rest of the kitchen. Oh yea Diva hates that Vac so much I took the vacuum into the bathroom and let it run while she is in the tub..... maybe she will not think it is so scary the next time. I still have a headache.....my neck hurts. It is noon and I have not had breakfast or my tea. Need to get the two spots in front of the bathroom door on the carpet.. before I forget.

All that before breakfast..... I wonder if Hubby even thought of how walking around in my kitchen with muddy shoes was going to affect my day..... there is a saying .."no rest for the wicked!" I would sure like to know what I did that was so wicked.

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KAB7801 9/25/2014 8:54PM

    I'm ready to start my renovations, but I need to find a place for my daughter. I want to remove the carpet in the basement and put ceramic down and that's where she lives. I've never done it but I'm herring the hardest part is cutting! We will see!
Good luck with your allergies
BTW, I love that cartoon!

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