Wednesday, October 30, 2013
you raise me up to walk on stormy seas,
And I am strong when I am on your shoulders!
You lift me up to more than I can be.
Ok, everyone has problems and I don't like to be a whiner, but there are just times that venting is healthy, necessary, right to do. And this is one such time.
Yesterday, due to the affects of Obamacare (don't worry, I am not going to go "political") my husband was laid off effective 02 December. **SIGH** It was NOT a function of his not doing an outstanding job (I heard that from Jason's bosses lips myself). It was financial. . . like so many things these days. That doesn't make it hurt to your very soul any less, that's for sure.
You see, we ended up here in WI from IL for this job. He had been laid off his previous job for financial reasons, as well. We really took the gamble moving from IL to WI. And, well, that gamble lasted one week short of his being there 7 yrs. It just hurts like hell. That's how **I** feel. Believe me, it's even more devastating to DH.
So . . . where do we go from here? I really, honestly do not have any idea. None what-so-ever. Given Jason's age (61, almost 62) I just quake to my very soul. It was very difficult for him to finally land THIS job he had and that was 7 yrs. ago. Things have NOT improved since then. And don't see things getting any easier any time soon.
So, dear spark friends. Where does that leave us? It leaves us needing many prayers that SOMETHING will break for DH. We took a leap of faith coming here, and it is now so much harder to do that again. But that's what's necessary and that's what we shall do.
I always remember something a dear friend told me. "Don't tell God how big your storm is, tell the storm how big your God is." So . . . that's what my focus is @ the moment.
Thanks for listening. I know there are many, many, many others in the same situation, and honestly, it makes me overwhelmingly sad, because life should not be such a struggle. But I guess it is sometimes. I thank God I have family and friends and spark friends for support.
Just asking for prayers. Thank you all from my heart.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
This was too cute not to share. Every feel like these dogs??? Ever feel like your day has gone to the dogs (or in this case, the cats!) See how these canine cuties deal with their feline frenemies!
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
And that brings me to my topic. Procrastination. Are you a procrastinator? Read on. You are in good company because there are a lot of us out there who, for whatever the reason procrastinate. This is an essay by Marla Cilley that struck a cord with me so wanted to pass it on. (Marla Cilley a.k.a. the FlyLady -- see ) www.flylady.org )
Procrastination has been a way of life for most of us. When we think a job is going to take longer than we have time for then we put it off. That is our perfectionism. We have been taught since the day we were born that if we can't do something right don't do it at all! We listened! We may not have heard much else that was said but that stuck in our minds.
Coupled with the pain of having to redo things over and over again when they were not up to the perfectionist standards; we just gave up before we ever got started. A lot of times we don't know where to start. This is the perfectionism monster again. The perfect place to begin! When we can let go of perfectionism; we can stop going down the path of procrastination.
**MY thoughts: Oh boy! Perfectionism is indeed a monster that rears it's ugly head often in my life. It is all part of my definitely Type A personality!! OK, being Type A is not bad IF you use it correctly! But I had come to a point in my life where perfectionism was paralyzing me. I didn't want to start something I could finish or thought I couldn't finish well because that = failure in my mind -- USED to anyway. **
I give you a place! Go shine your sink. It is a simple action that starts you in a direction toward peace. This is our very first habit! Keeping your sink clean and shiny is all you have to do. That shiny sink puts a smile on your face each morning. It is the only thing you have to do. With this one habit you are being kind to yourself. You are not piling on with a huge list.
**MY thoughts: OK, you don't have to start by shining your sink, but the whole idea is START! SOMEPLACE! This is definitely a sparky idea. If you don't start, you'll never move forward!!**
As this one habit becomes automatic you can add another habit. Slow and steady relieves the guilt. This is being patient with yourself. You don't have to be perfect! You just have to do something instead of wring your hands and say I don't have time.
**MY thoughts: DEFINITELY! Start with one or two (at the most) lifestyle changes that are important to you to accomplish. Allow at least 28 days for this behavior to become a habit. Voila. Then when it is a habit you're ready to add more. Got the idea? Took me awhile, but now, being in maintenance, I am finding that maintaining those habits already established and making sure I'm doing the bet I can at those habits is all important. Tweaking and evaluating along the way . . . essential!**
When you hear those words come out of your mouth, set your timer and do two minutes. You will be so surprised at what you can accomplish in those short two minutes. Don't allow your perfectionism to push you too hard or keep you from starting.
**MY thoughs: Hallelujah for the timer! I may not be able to do something for a long time (because it's tiring, boring, whatever!) but sure can do it for 15 minutes (or whatever YOU determine that your limit is), rest and if appropriate, resume till your goal is accomplished. It's a PROCESS people! We have to respect the process and work with it. **
We have all heard the story of the tortoise and the hare. The hare procrastinated. He played and put things off because he felt like he had plenty of time to beat that slow tortoise. In the end he lost the race. Just imagine his stress level when he looked around and saw the tortoise winning. All of a sudden he got in a hurry! What happens when you get in a hurry!
Procrastination places guilt on our heads. We don't do well when well with this guilt and the stress that comes from waiting till the last minute. This stress is pushing our adrenaline buttons to put us into overdrive. So instead of taking your time and doing what you can, when you can; you are speeding down the highway to a head on collision!
**MY thoughts: I used to feel guilt when I didn't accomplish all I wanted to in a day, but learned that's what "to do" lists are for. That's what the next day is for, if you need to carry something over to the next day. But can't use that as an excuse NOT to do it!**
Your adrenaline super fuel is what causes you to crash and burn! That "flash in the pan" burns out your engine and disables your thinking ability. You become the victim of your own procrastination. Please stop procrastinating! If you will only take baby steps your journey will be slow and steady. Your home did not get dirty in a day and it will not get clean overnight! Baby steps will help you find the peace you are searching for.
Progress not Perfection!
**MY thoughts: Sound familiar! VERY sparky for sure. We may not have it perfect, but each day is a perfect opportunity to give it our best, give it our all, do our utmost. Isn't that the sparky way?!? Sure is!
Hugs and peace, fellow sparklers. Let that spark shine on.
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Asked by a Spark friend to copy and paste .....
We could all use these words of encouragement now and then.
Everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn't easy.
Just something to think about... did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?
Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated?
Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most?
Did you know the 3 hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and Help me.
Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile and see how much pain they may be in.
To all my friends who are going through some issues right now-- let's start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don't see your name, I'll understand.
May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares.
Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune.
Saturday, August 10, 2013
It's been a long time since I've updated! Life marches on, doesn't it!
Mom has had her ups and downs with Alzheimer's, but at this point is doing pretty well. Her short term memory . . . well, it really doesn't exist much, but she is happy. She does enjoy reminiscing (which definitely is part of what goes on at her age anyway), so do lots of that with her. Dad is so wonderful to her but have to constantly assess HIM to see where he's at in terms of needing help. He never was and still isn't one to ask for help even though he may need that life line. So, constantly reminding him that it's ok to ask for help! And to take it when it's offered.
Today is my son John's 21st birthday. Don't know where all the time has gone, but he's definitely a wonderful young man and we're proud of him.
It's kind of a bittersweet day, because last August had such life-changing events happen for him. Last year on 12 August he left for Afghanistan and 3 days later he lost 3 of his comrades, so that weighs heavy on his mind and ours. We'd met these fellows at their graduation from Basics just a month prior. **SIGH** Then 3 days later on 18 August John was wounded. His recuperation during this year has been physical, psychological and spiritual. Fortunately, he has lots of support and is doing much better than was thought when he was first wounded.
Sadly, there is the high probability of his being medically discharged due to his injuries, but no definitive timeline. This is not what he wants, but he is determined to stay in Alaska. So, he's taking each day as it comes. We are too. Wishing he would come back home, but he loves Alaska. Go figure, eh!
Time stands still for nobody! My baby, Clara, is 18 and starts college in September. My baby! Very proud of her. She is not sure what she wants to major in, but we keep reminding her that her first two years are mostly general required courses anyway, so she's got time to figure it out. Right now she's leaning towards nursing (ok, have to say, that makes THIS Mom's heart proud as I am a nurse too)! So, we'll see where this leads her. She is smart and will do well no matter what she majors in.
What led me to think about this past years events? Deepak Chopra has a meditation challenge and I want to share it with you. The underlying message is sometimes we have to change our perspective about things . . . change how we perceive things. Easy? NOPE! Definitely not. I know for me, this is so important. With both my son's wounding and Mom's diagnosis of Alzheimer's, it was like a sucker-punch to the gut, BUT through sparking, the lesson I learned is that there are events and situations that we can do nothing about. All we can do is control how we handle our reactions to the situations. When I read this piece, I just though, that fits right in with what I have to work on -- changing how I handle situations when I can't control them. It's very empowering!
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." Joseph Campbell
Today’s message and meditation celebrate the magnificence of your radiant, joyful spirit. If you could see your body as a physicist can see it, you would observe atoms or particles moving at lightning speed around vast, empty spaces. These particles aren't material objects at all. They are fluctuations of energy and information in a huge empty space. And what is this space? It is the womb of creation, the field of all possibilities. It is the same place that nature goes to fashion a galaxy and to fashion a thought.
This field of pure potentiality is within you. It is your inner space that gives rise with amazing fertility to all of the divine qualities of the universe, including love, grace, abundance, joy, creativity, and freedom. You are a unique expression of everything in existence, and you shine with the beauty of a million stars.
There is a beautiful saying in India’s ancient Vedic tradition: “If you want to recreate the world, look at it with fresh eyes.” Today have the intention to see one thing as if for the first time. Look without the camouflage of your memories. Sometimes the hardest thing is to truly see someone we have known for a long time, such as our partner, child, or friend. We assume we know who they are, and so we stop seeing. It is also important to look at yourself as though doing so for the first time. We may assume that we know ourselves, but as we are discovering, who we are is much more than our limited ego-mind can envision. Through the eyes of your true self, take a few moments to consider how truly magnificent you really are.
Existence, consciousness, bliss. Deepak Chopra
As we travel down this road sparking, remember. Look at the world with those fresh eyes, a fresh perspective. Don't limit your possibilities, because our possibilities are limitless.
If anyone would have told me 3 years ago I'd be where I am now, I would have thought them to be mad as a Hatter! But, truth be told, this journey has made me a much stronger person physically, emotionally and spiritually. That's what life is supposed to be all about. It all comes from within.
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