Sunday, June 01, 2014
Been a long time, baby! Thanks to the urging of Sparkfriend THINFITKINDVGAN, here it is. My goals for June.
Honestly, it has been an emotional roller coaster with DH having to job search and being 62. Not a good combination, for sure, his age and job searching, but at the same time, not impossible. Just taking it day-by-day and still here, so thatís definitely positive. There are promising possibilities right now, so just making it happen as it can!
It has been 16 months since we have seen our son who lives in Alaska. He was discharged from the Army (medical discharge due to wounds in Afghanistan). Last Saturday he surprised us by coming home! Heís told my DH about it but wanted to surprise me. Well, he sure did! He spent the week and it was so nice! He was off yesterday back to Alaska. It was so good to see him.
DD completed her first year of college. YIKES. That was a roller coaster, too. BUT she's getting the "hang" of college-level learning expectations. Yup, you have to study independently. Information is not spoon-fed to you. She is a very smart young lady and wishing her success when she started her sophomore year in late August. In the meantime, it's work to earn $$$!
So, here we are, back to some semblance of normalcy (but what is normal anyway?!)
It is the first of June. I am fast approaching my 4 yr. sparkversary of reaching my goal (in July 2011). Maintenance . . . it requires lots of practice. When things donít go as planned, itís usually due to straying from the basics. So . . . here it is. My list of June goals, sticking with the basics!
1. Hike up the water. When the hotter weather hits, I have to get my 9 - 10 eight oz. glasses of water in. It really helps.
2. Get my meal plans done weekly -- doing the shopping list weekly. I have my list of staples, but add to it as I make my menus. The shopping list also focus my purchases so I am not tempted to stary into the land of those foods which arenít healthy for me.
3. Portion control is something that is challenging for me, so continuing to measure and weigh. I always find if I eyeball portions, they arenít accurate. And it makes a difference in my blood sugars, so accuracy is it.
4. Make sure I am getting my 8 hours of sleep. Just feel better when I do.
5. I have to weigh daily, but only really focus on my Monday weigh in weight. Maintaining is my goal.
6. Well, as far as meds, I am on thyroid meds which I hope to have reduced with my endocrinologist visit in August. Feel good, though. Suspect the warm weather really will necessitate it being decreased. It usually does every year. That's fine.
7. I want to continue to remain able to use nutrition and exercise to control my diabetes in lieu of meds.
8. And, of course, stay connected to Spark!
Those are my June goals.
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
you raise me up to walk on stormy seas,
And I am strong when I am on your shoulders!
You lift me up to more than I can be.
Ok, everyone has problems and I don't like to be a whiner, but there are just times that venting is healthy, necessary, right to do. And this is one such time.
Yesterday, due to the affects of Obamacare (don't worry, I am not going to go "political") my husband was laid off effective 02 December. **SIGH** It was NOT a function of his not doing an outstanding job (I heard that from Jason's bosses lips myself). It was financial. . . like so many things these days. That doesn't make it hurt to your very soul any less, that's for sure.
You see, we ended up here in WI from IL for this job. He had been laid off his previous job for financial reasons, as well. We really took the gamble moving from IL to WI. And, well, that gamble lasted one week short of his being there 7 yrs. It just hurts like hell. That's how **I** feel. Believe me, it's even more devastating to DH.
So . . . where do we go from here? I really, honestly do not have any idea. None what-so-ever. Given Jason's age (61, almost 62) I just quake to my very soul. It was very difficult for him to finally land THIS job he had and that was 7 yrs. ago. Things have NOT improved since then. And don't see things getting any easier any time soon.
So, dear spark friends. Where does that leave us? It leaves us needing many prayers that SOMETHING will break for DH. We took a leap of faith coming here, and it is now so much harder to do that again. But that's what's necessary and that's what we shall do.
I always remember something a dear friend told me. "Don't tell God how big your storm is, tell the storm how big your God is." So . . . that's what my focus is @ the moment.
Thanks for listening. I know there are many, many, many others in the same situation, and honestly, it makes me overwhelmingly sad, because life should not be such a struggle. But I guess it is sometimes. I thank God I have family and friends and spark friends for support.
Just asking for prayers. Thank you all from my heart.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
This was too cute not to share. Every feel like these dogs??? Ever feel like your day has gone to the dogs (or in this case, the cats!) See how these canine cuties deal with their feline frenemies!
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
And that brings me to my topic. Procrastination. Are you a procrastinator? Read on. You are in good company because there are a lot of us out there who, for whatever the reason procrastinate. This is an essay by Marla Cilley that struck a cord with me so wanted to pass it on. (Marla Cilley a.k.a. the FlyLady -- see ) www.flylady.org )
Procrastination has been a way of life for most of us. When we think a job is going to take longer than we have time for then we put it off. That is our perfectionism. We have been taught since the day we were born that if we can't do something right don't do it at all! We listened! We may not have heard much else that was said but that stuck in our minds.
Coupled with the pain of having to redo things over and over again when they were not up to the perfectionist standards; we just gave up before we ever got started. A lot of times we don't know where to start. This is the perfectionism monster again. The perfect place to begin! When we can let go of perfectionism; we can stop going down the path of procrastination.
**MY thoughts: Oh boy! Perfectionism is indeed a monster that rears it's ugly head often in my life. It is all part of my definitely Type A personality!! OK, being Type A is not bad IF you use it correctly! But I had come to a point in my life where perfectionism was paralyzing me. I didn't want to start something I could finish or thought I couldn't finish well because that = failure in my mind -- USED to anyway. **
I give you a place! Go shine your sink. It is a simple action that starts you in a direction toward peace. This is our very first habit! Keeping your sink clean and shiny is all you have to do. That shiny sink puts a smile on your face each morning. It is the only thing you have to do. With this one habit you are being kind to yourself. You are not piling on with a huge list.
**MY thoughts: OK, you don't have to start by shining your sink, but the whole idea is START! SOMEPLACE! This is definitely a sparky idea. If you don't start, you'll never move forward!!**
As this one habit becomes automatic you can add another habit. Slow and steady relieves the guilt. This is being patient with yourself. You don't have to be perfect! You just have to do something instead of wring your hands and say I don't have time.
**MY thoughts: DEFINITELY! Start with one or two (at the most) lifestyle changes that are important to you to accomplish. Allow at least 28 days for this behavior to become a habit. Voila. Then when it is a habit you're ready to add more. Got the idea? Took me awhile, but now, being in maintenance, I am finding that maintaining those habits already established and making sure I'm doing the bet I can at those habits is all important. Tweaking and evaluating along the way . . . essential!**
When you hear those words come out of your mouth, set your timer and do two minutes. You will be so surprised at what you can accomplish in those short two minutes. Don't allow your perfectionism to push you too hard or keep you from starting.
**MY thoughs: Hallelujah for the timer! I may not be able to do something for a long time (because it's tiring, boring, whatever!) but sure can do it for 15 minutes (or whatever YOU determine that your limit is), rest and if appropriate, resume till your goal is accomplished. It's a PROCESS people! We have to respect the process and work with it. **
We have all heard the story of the tortoise and the hare. The hare procrastinated. He played and put things off because he felt like he had plenty of time to beat that slow tortoise. In the end he lost the race. Just imagine his stress level when he looked around and saw the tortoise winning. All of a sudden he got in a hurry! What happens when you get in a hurry!
Procrastination places guilt on our heads. We don't do well when well with this guilt and the stress that comes from waiting till the last minute. This stress is pushing our adrenaline buttons to put us into overdrive. So instead of taking your time and doing what you can, when you can; you are speeding down the highway to a head on collision!
**MY thoughts: I used to feel guilt when I didn't accomplish all I wanted to in a day, but learned that's what "to do" lists are for. That's what the next day is for, if you need to carry something over to the next day. But can't use that as an excuse NOT to do it!**
Your adrenaline super fuel is what causes you to crash and burn! That "flash in the pan" burns out your engine and disables your thinking ability. You become the victim of your own procrastination. Please stop procrastinating! If you will only take baby steps your journey will be slow and steady. Your home did not get dirty in a day and it will not get clean overnight! Baby steps will help you find the peace you are searching for.
Progress not Perfection!
**MY thoughts: Sound familiar! VERY sparky for sure. We may not have it perfect, but each day is a perfect opportunity to give it our best, give it our all, do our utmost. Isn't that the sparky way?!? Sure is!
Hugs and peace, fellow sparklers. Let that spark shine on.
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