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You raise me up so I can stand on mountains . . .

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

you raise me up to walk on stormy seas,
And I am strong when I am on your shoulders!
You lift me up to more than I can be.
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Ok, everyone has problems and I don't like to be a whiner, but there are just times that venting is healthy, necessary, right to do. And this is one such time.

Yesterday, due to the affects of Obamacare (don't worry, I am not going to go "political") my husband was laid off effective 02 December. **SIGH** It was NOT a function of his not doing an outstanding job (I heard that from Jason's bosses lips myself). It was financial. . . like so many things these days. That doesn't make it hurt to your very soul any less, that's for sure.

You see, we ended up here in WI from IL for this job. He had been laid off his previous job for financial reasons, as well. We really took the gamble moving from IL to WI. And, well, that gamble lasted one week short of his being there 7 yrs. It just hurts like hell. That's how **I** feel. Believe me, it's even more devastating to DH.

So . . . where do we go from here? I really, honestly do not have any idea. None what-so-ever. Given Jason's age (61, almost 62) I just quake to my very soul. It was very difficult for him to finally land THIS job he had and that was 7 yrs. ago. Things have NOT improved since then. And don't see things getting any easier any time soon.

So, dear spark friends. Where does that leave us? It leaves us needing many prayers that SOMETHING will break for DH. We took a leap of faith coming here, and it is now so much harder to do that again. But that's what's necessary and that's what we shall do.

I always remember something a dear friend told me. "Don't tell God how big your storm is, tell the storm how big your God is." So . . . that's what my focus is @ the moment.

Thanks for listening. I know there are many, many, many others in the same situation, and honestly, it makes me overwhelmingly sad, because life should not be such a struggle. But I guess it is sometimes. I thank God I have family and friends and spark friends for support.

Just asking for prayers. Thank you all from my heart.

  
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VIADOLOROSA 4/4/2014 1:53AM

    Please give us an update? I'm only now seeing your blog post, I added you as a friend too. I'm praying for you and your husband!

And, for what it's worth, I can't stand what this person in my white house has done to our country, it's sickening, truly evil.

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ALIALI2013 3/31/2014 3:15PM

    I'm sorry for what happened, that's all I'll say, because I don't like seeing anyone putting down our President (not speaking of you, sweets), no matter what, it's simply childish and I don't want to be drug down into that mess. emoticon

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2BDYNAMIC 3/27/2014 6:16PM

    Barb .......... I just hopped on and read ............ I do hope things are better now? ............ I know that Obama stuff is literally O-Bomb-Uh-Nation!!! emoticon .......... How on Earth anyone could possibly dream up such a miserable 'plan?' ........... of one tangled ball of yarn ...... is beyond me .......... But it is NOT BIBLE!! ................ anyway, I feel I am a day late and a dollar short reading this after the facts ................. sorry Barb ........ emoticon

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CINDYCHARLENE 3/10/2014 9:55PM

    Oh Bama, you sweet thing. How devastating, I have no doubt. And you certainly have a right and need to vent here where others love you and can pray for you. You are in my prayers. I am praying and trusting God that he will bless you even more than you can imagine.
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JUDITH316 3/5/2014 8:33PM

    Hi Barb, I am so sorry to hear this, how devastating for your DH and of course you and family. That is a long time to be there, so sad they have let your husband go after almost 7 years of work. For sure my prayers are with you and your family. Bottom line, I CARE and will stand with you always... emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 3/2/2014 1:36PM

    Just found this blog Barb .. Hope you are both ok .. Thank you for thinking of others when you are in such plight ... Hugs Susie xx emoticon

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CTUPTON 2/22/2014 7:10PM

    Thank you for commenting on my breathing blog.

chris

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MOM2BOYZ1GIRL 2/19/2014 11:02AM

    Just wondering how things are going for you guys. It sounded like you just told my story. But my husband was laid off in July not December. Take care emoticon

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 2/11/2014 12:34PM

    OH NO I'm so sorry!! Here, dozens of ppl I know have had their hours cut to 26 or less, due to the new health care plan. People can't support their families and are working at 3 or 4 half jobs like that and never getting home or sleep etc. Its a bad situation. I hope your hubby finds something else soon!!

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AWESOMECHELZ 1/30/2014 3:36PM

    I just read your blog from October in January and I am curious to see what has happened since. Did he get another job? Did you both move from Wisconsin? Just curious how you are doing since you haven't written any blogs since. emoticon I hope things are going better for you. emoticon
LOVE, CHELSEA

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UPPITYANN 1/28/2014 11:01PM

  I just stumbled upon this blog. I see no entries since this post. I pray that things are going well for you. It has been a brutal winter in Wisconsin.

Have you applied for heat subsidies? I think they have it in Wisconsin.

Also I'm sure that you should be getting unemployment.

Don't be shy about going to a food shelf and getting food stamps if possible. You might be able to 'scrape by' without the extra help but take advantage of it anyway. Every dime you save now will be much needed later.

I wonder if you and DH can do some handyperson chores for people, esp. the elderly. It is so hard for the elderly to find decent help and often they have more money than people in your age bracket do. Painting, yard work, even meals and house cleaning done on a cash basis can add up.

You will have to hunker down. Don't panic. Cut out ALL unnecessary expenses even if you can afford them now. No cable TV, eating out, expensive cell phone plan, even internet. If you can grow a garden this summer do so. A "night out" should be a trip to the public library or some free entertainment. It sounds dull but if you can keep ahead of the bills the massive reduction of financial worry and stress will be worth the effort.

The worst thing to do is to keep spending on unnecessary things thinking that things will turn around. Things will turn around, but not as soon as you'd like. Make a game of saving as much money as you can. Have a baked potato with cottage cheese and beans instead of a pizza for supper. You will save money, calories and feel just as full.

I've been where you are now. Went from $40,000 a year salary to lucky to get $5.00 an hour in telemarketing sweat shops, and got kicked out of many because that's the way that "game" is played. Finally after several years I found two half-job, which almost reached my former wage, and worked many 16 and even 18 hour days/nights. Then I reached Social Security. Don't let any politicians talk about Social Security being an "Entitlement". We have PAID for it; it's no Entitlement...it's delayed wages.

You will get through this. But remember this: you are not alone. So for every prayer that you pray for YOURSELF pray for OTHERS TOO. Pray: "God help me yes, but more importantly inspire good ideas into the minds of good leaders, and then make a way for those leaders to reform our entire economy so that everybody may be treated fairly and nobody has to suffer they way so many of us are suffering now."





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GENRE009 1/25/2014 4:02PM

    I have a health insurance that cover over $5ooo.oo in medical where they only took $1200.00 out of my social. They didn't need the 20%. If you need insurance & aren't old enough or someone isn't, I know of services, and how to get free prescription coverage. or, also How to get bills paid for & free prescriptions. In your house how to get furnace, insulation, & windows. found these out when I was looking for jobs. I went into your site today cause my machine lost some hard drive, what ever that means, and wondered why you aren't on my radar? Hey buddy what's new? It
S-U-C-K-S in Michigan. still trapped in my house cooking & eating up a storm. yet I have lost 8 pounds. I think its cause I don't eat enough when on this compute, or sitting really does make you lose weight, or maybe it really is the shoveling, every other day. have a nice day. And remember we are in cuddle alert weather. Don't have a husband, then put up a pet who likes to sleep on the bed! Ha, ha eva

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INFLATED 1/17/2014 5:54PM

    I just read your blog. I have nothing to add to what's been said. Can your husband draw unemployment? Could your son help with a small allotment to you two. I am brainstorming here, not trying to be a smart alec. CouponMom.com and Swagbucks will help a little when every little bit helps. 5,000 Swagbucks and you can get a $50 gift card or trade the points in earlier for $5 Amazon gift cards. You can get gift cards to stores and some food places. You and your husband are in my prayers.



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BEESPARKLE 12/23/2013 4:00PM

    RENOKAT52
Took the words out of my mouth. We had no car for two years. Her testimony was pure.

God provided us with neighbours who took us everywhere. You sure know your

friends when something happens. The ones you think are not there. God puts another.

So this year God supplied us with a carof waiting for two years. It takes too long to tell you about this miracle car. How we got it and what a miracle deal. Has all the bells and whistles.
Not of us never knowing. New tires winter and summer. Seates heated. I mean really we needed this not. Who am I to tell what God supplies when people prayed for us.

We had to trust the Lord in all things. He came in such a way. I cannot explain. Not a big car but I have long legs so the car. I can stretch out fully my legs while in car . We live in the country but God blessed us with friends who cared enough for us. We would give them money in hands for thanks and hide it in the car as we got out. Next day for groceries with them. Here was the money right back handed to us. So then I said. We will tell them we want them over for suppers. So they accepted the invites. We were so grateful. My hubby is a terrific cook. He learned everything from his Mom seeing he was from nine. What a blessing.

So your advise form your one friend you wrote about in your blog and this lady.

God given advise.

We do not rule our own life and never will. The Almighty God does.

I will keep you in prayer. Sit back and let go. Let God lead . Let him be the Royal Guest in your home. Let him sit at the head of your dinner table. Give thanks to him.

Hugs
Beesparkle.

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HOLLEEHO 12/8/2013 6:47PM

    Barb, Your blog says it all. I have great faith that the next chapter in his and your life will be a good and rewarding one. Granny always told me "when one door closes another one opens" and she also added that "the harder the door closes the better things will be in time" emoticon . You are both in my prayers! Hugs, Holly

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OPALMOON 12/2/2013 7:18AM

    Hello Barb,

I feel for you and DH and your situation. I pray for a good resolution for you both. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Big hugs, Nattacia

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BABCIATEA 11/22/2013 5:03AM

    Just saw this blog. I am praying for you now emoticon

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RENOKAT52 11/21/2013 5:07PM

    I am so sorry, losing a job and having the stress of not knowing what will come tomorrow is a horrible feeling. When I first got sick in 2008, I was fired (first time in my life) due to my boss and his wife's fear of my virus, was stuck in Indiana (from the Pacific side of the states), husband was layed off a week later, and we had no back-up due to past medical problems. Wiped out completely. And, signing up for food stamps, disability is embarrassing, they make it hard and treat you horrible. So, I totally understand.

I really had to reach deep inside myself to grab a hold of my faith. I had just started treatment, which is a form of kemotherapy and was very sick, and that made it harder to hold on. I could only form this thought: "Lord, You promise me that You would never leave me nor forsake me. Let me accept Your will, Let me learn what ever lesson You want me to learn from all this" and I said this over and over and over.

And, doors opened. No, not a lot of money, nor recovery, nothing like that, but, we were able to move back to Reno, we got food stamps, my disability came through fast, my husband got a part-time job here in Reno, the Lord provided for our needs. And, the lesson I learned, I am not super woman, I am not in charge nor control. My Savior has my whole life now, every part of it, no more holding onto anything.

I know, from reading your posts and listening to what you say, that you and your beloved husband will move through this storm. God will give you all your needs and His love and also, you have your Spark friends to lean on. Like you told me, its okay to be human and need to vent (not those words, but that is what I understood you to say). Anytime you need to "talk", reach out. You have touched my heart with your love and kindness, now let me be there for you.

Hugs to you and sorry this is so long, I have been having a good day and am on a roll!

Kat

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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/21/2013 1:15AM

    You are in Wisconsin? My dad just moved up there, Oak Grove. Long complicate story, and he was always self-employed. On the positive side, so far.... Wisconson is considered one of the top 10 states in the usa so far as best place to be for Medicaid.

But I totally empathize because my husband is rapidly approaching that age where corporations in his industry think nothing of tossing out the guys his age for young inexperienced engineers straight out of college. So far it hasn't been as bad here as in the locations in other states like CA or TX... But, just like the biblical Joseph "...there arose a New Pharoah who knew not Joseph..." And basically Joseph and his people were kicked to the curb and bound in slavery. Or lost their good jobs, in other words - and I remember poverty...

So it's a valid venting of concerns... It ain't over!! I feel for you, will keep you in prayer and thoughts ...



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DISKATDREAMER 11/19/2013 7:45AM

    So sorry to hear about your DH job. It is a shame how many people are in the same or similar situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. emoticon

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 11/13/2013 9:22PM

    Oh my dear friend......I'm late to the dance. Just saw this and apologize for not seeing it sooner. It looks like you have most of SP holding you & DH up, giving you hugs, prayers and lotsa love. This really is a wonderful place. You and DH will be held in my thoughts & prayers until this storm blows over. I try to the extreme to be apolitical on SP. Never saying what I think. Always keeping it positive and bland as a bowl of oatmeal. Yes, I hear you and can read between the lines. I'm SO in your corner - you just can't imagine. Give this up to God. He will give you both an answer as to what your next move (or not) will be. What door will open for DH. The right path to follow. I just turned 62 and from the age standpoint also understand what kind of position this puts a person in. My DH will be 63 in Jan. We feel trapped in our bus driving jobs b/c of our ages too. Will another school corporation hire 60 something drivers? It would be a real gamble to pursue the answer to that question. It's why we just stay here and deal with it. I also feel like I HAVE to work at this job until I turn 65, when we're both eligible for Medicare OTHERWISE.....we'll be faced with the dreaded Ocare, which we could never afford. Can't let that happen.

Barb, you're very strong and have deep faith. Worried sick, yes, who wouldn't be? God has a wonderful plan for you & DH, it will be revealed in His time. Keep praying, take comfort in your Bible and know that you have a whole bunch of dear SP friends who are also lifting you & your family up in prayer every day.

Much love, hugs & prayers,
Kathy
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BARBANNA 11/13/2013 6:56PM

    I am very sorry for your really bad news. I am in the same boat, so I studied to take a certification exam so I could get another job with increased skills. I am 58 years old and I know how painful it can be. The day I lost my job I was in a state of shock and disbelief but I brushed myself off and started studying immediately. I have 6-8 wks to wait and see how I did on my test.
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EVER-HOPEFUL 11/13/2013 9:10AM

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TRI_BABE 11/9/2013 12:05PM

    You are not a whiner. You are so motivating to everyone else. I am praying for you. Something good will come for you I just know it. emoticon

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LIVEDAILY 11/8/2013 6:51PM

    Dear Barb,
I'm so sorry to hear about this! Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Make a list, check it twice, weigh pro's and con's - all things you've done before. Expand the job search to other areas of the country. When one door closes, another one opens. Stay positive; think positive; be positive!
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LILORITA 11/8/2013 3:58PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon to hear that! You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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CHANGINGHORSES 11/7/2013 8:08PM

    Thoughts and prayers coming your way. I am also the target of a "financial" decision. I have no healthcare now but have found a part-time job that pays better then most full-time jobs around my area. I think that I got lucky. I work PT and get paid better then some get paid FT. I made the best of my time off and kept believing that something good would come along. When one door closes another door opens. (It's a bitch standing in the hallway though.) Hang in there. You are stronger then you know.

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JSTETSER 11/7/2013 7:25PM

    Dear friend,
I am praying for you and your situation. It's not all that different from my own.

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PEANUTSDOG17 11/6/2013 6:27PM

    Many Many prayers being said and sent! I live in WI! I hear what you're saying! I just let God handle things and pray he shows be the way! So far he has kept my head above water! Lucky for me I can swim! I have faith that things will all come together for you! God is Good all the time... All the Time God is good!

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NUMD97 11/3/2013 8:27PM

    Barb, I am terribly sorry to read this. You've certainly seen more than your share, especially this past year, but I also know, even across the miles, how amazingly strong you are. After the initial shock, I've seen you sit down and analyze exactly what you need to do. And I am certain that you will do that again. I pray that you see daylight soon.

My best to you, your husband and your family,

Nu

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WILLOW49 11/3/2013 7:19PM

    I'm so sorry to hear this news. It's happening to so many people these days. Please know that I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Remember no door closes but a window opens. Stay strong and keep the faith.
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LEANJEAN6 11/3/2013 6:16PM

    Barb---This is terrible!!!!---I feel so bad for you all!----I hope they laid him off with pay--for a year or something!----What is he trained to do?--- Oh I pray something comes up--and soon------That must be a terrible worry for you both! You are such a positive person--always boosting us all up-----I will pray that all turns out well----I will pray hard!!-- emoticon emoticon Lynda

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TRUELOU 11/3/2013 4:57PM

    Adding prayers. My husband is off 2 weeks while they review if his health is well enough to do his job.
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MWWENSIN 11/3/2013 4:39PM

    Don't just view this as the bad experience that it is. Look beyond it and determine how you will cope. Which you will do. The road is generally tough, but not impossible. In the meantime, utilize all the resources you can including any at work. Utilize your connections to the fullest. Let other people help you. Good luck.

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BOILHAM 11/3/2013 9:31AM

    So sorry to read this. Much too common happening these days. Wishing you and DH well.

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/2/2013 1:09PM

    Prayers for you from me too! I understand about looking for work at past 60. I will soon be 63 and have been thinking about looking for a job, after just retiring at the first of the year. But with hubby's terminal cancer, and our health insurance dependent upon him being able to work, I know the day when he won't be able to work anymore will be here way too soon. So I need to not only find a job at 63, but a job with good health insurance. Plus, a job that would allow me some time off to take care of him when needed. Such an awful circumstance. I guess I could tell y0u to at least be thankful for your and hubby's halfway decent health. But I know it's hard to be thankful in your situation. People have told me to be thankful that we have this long-term diagnosis (4.5 years is average life expectancy after his diagnosis), so we can say goodbye, prepare, etc. But I just don't feel very grateful. Go figure! God bless you both!!

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MADAMES 11/1/2013 9:23PM

    Sending prayers and hugs.

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FLPALM 11/1/2013 5:03PM

    I am typing this for the second time, Grrrrrr! My computer shut down, for whatever reason, but now I am back!

First of all, I am so sorry for you and your family. Losing a job, making decisions to obtain that job and life changes, and "suddenly" everything appears to be a miss, that is horrible. Politics aside, although it is the PROBLEM, is getting worse everyday. We have heard of several families in the same catagory.

My heart, my prayers, my Good Thoughts, will be sent your way. I have a lot of FAITH, and I am sure, HE will pull you through this. God Bless you, and your family.

Hugs,

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PURPLEBEAR1963 11/1/2013 12:03AM

    Very sorry to hear this!
It makes me mad that I'm hearing this more n more lately!
But, I believe you n your husband have the faith n the strength to weather this storm!
Prayers sent for you to soon know n understand why this happened n know where it takes you from here (everything happens for a reason).


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IAMAGEMLOVER 10/31/2013 10:32PM

    Oh Barb I am so sorry to read this. I am not on as much as I use to be so a day late. This happened to my brother a few years ago and just happened to my sister this summer. She is 68 She just found another job full time. Yes, she is still working.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. They say God never closes a door without opening a window. Keep the faith.

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CLAIREINPARIS 10/31/2013 4:32PM

    Oh Barb, I am so sorry to read this... I wish I could give you a big hug! I will continue to pray for you and your DH, so that a door opens clearly for you and you feel at peace. Right now, I can only imagine how incredibly difficult this must be.
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ROZOZ68 10/31/2013 3:48PM

    Now I Understand!! Sorry for your troubles! My thoughts are with you and your DH. No one needs this at our age! Sorry.... emoticon emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/31/2013 10:01AM

    So sorry for the uncertainty of your future. God has a plan.
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FELINA 10/31/2013 9:37AM

    I am so sorry this is happening to you guys. Your blog brought tears to my eyes as it reminds me of something that happened to me years ago.

Sending you prayers, hugs, and positive thoughts that everything will work out for the best for you both.
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JUSTYNA7 10/31/2013 9:15AM

    No no no! Ahhhh! emoticon

This is NOT something anyone wants to go through, especially at our age. On the radio they were saying if you are fired in your 60's you likely have a legal recourse claiming you were let go because of your age.... but I don't know if that is an option or even worth it. Sooo sorry.

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Doggone funny!

Saturday, October 19, 2013

This was too cute not to share. Every feel like these dogs??? Ever feel like your day has gone to the dogs (or in this case, the cats!) See how these canine cuties deal with their feline frenemies!

www.pawbonito.com/compilation-of-cat
s-stealing-dogs-bed/

  
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CETANISTAWI 4/1/2014 10:06PM

    Cute!

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MOM2BOYZ1GIRL 2/9/2014 12:16PM

    That was so cute! I love when they ended up sharing.


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INFLATED 1/19/2014 5:33PM

    My cat takes my office chair.

My husband had nine siblings. When one would get up out of chair, they would tell the others,"Place back." If they failed to say it, someone might sit where they had been sitting. I loved this video!

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THINFITKINDVGAN 12/3/2013 5:18AM

    I'd seen this before and it never gets old. Thanks!

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GENRE009 12/2/2013 10:37PM

    So, great! eva

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/2/2013 1:10PM

    I saw this on Facebook. It is hilarious! Thanks for sharing!

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LEANJEAN6 10/30/2013 7:56AM

    pretty cute----- Happy to hear too that others put up with the animal circus!--And yes, Tess seems better!

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ELIZACG9 10/29/2013 8:37PM

    nice and funny too.....thanks. emoticon

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JUSTYNA7 10/28/2013 11:58AM

    I have a dog and 2 cats... so typical!

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SHARON10002 10/22/2013 11:27PM

    Loved it - especially liked the one where the dog brought the blanket to cover up the cat! In the end, some shared and some reclaimed their rightful beds! emoticon

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FLYER99 10/22/2013 9:48AM

    What a great video. Thanks for sharing!
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THECRAZYMANGO 10/21/2013 2:35PM

    That's so cute! Reminded me of trying to get my older siblings out my spot when I was younger, lol!

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AZUREBREEZES 10/21/2013 8:25AM

    Yay! I found your blog! I get to read yours as you read/watch mine!

*hugs*

Wenona Morning Star Gardner
Leader of the Native American Dance Spark Team
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BOILHAM 10/21/2013 5:54AM

    Love the happy ending it had. Thanks!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/21/2013 1:06AM

    Ooooh, dogs & cats! So so so funny.

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PATRICIAANN46 10/20/2013 8:35PM

  That was so cute!!!!! I emoticon when they finally decide to share and actually enjoy it. Thanks.......

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TRI_BABE 10/20/2013 5:28PM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing!

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CLAIREINPARIS 10/20/2013 4:16PM

    Soooooooo cute, I loved it!!! emoticon

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NANCY- 10/20/2013 8:07AM

    My cat does that to me with my computer chair.
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ILOVEMALI 10/20/2013 1:28AM

    This is wonderful!

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    That was so cute! Thanks for sharing!

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    thanks for sharing that made my afternoon break !! just have about hour of cleaning for today . what a way to some of my me time thanks emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    thanks for shareing love

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MILLISMA 10/19/2013 4:00PM

    These are so heartwarming. Going to have to send the link to my kids. Even Daisy watched them ....probably because she heard the dog bark. lol

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Alex and Bob watched it too and were laughing so hard!!!

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Been Putting this Off for too Long!

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

And that brings me to my topic. Procrastination. Are you a procrastinator? Read on. You are in good company because there are a lot of us out there who, for whatever the reason procrastinate. This is an essay by Marla Cilley that struck a cord with me so wanted to pass it on. (Marla Cilley a.k.a. the FlyLady -- see ) www.flylady.org )
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Procrastination has been a way of life for most of us. When we think a job is going to take longer than we have time for then we put it off. That is our perfectionism. We have been taught since the day we were born that if we can't do something right don't do it at all! We listened! We may not have heard much else that was said but that stuck in our minds.

Coupled with the pain of having to redo things over and over again when they were not up to the perfectionist standards; we just gave up before we ever got started. A lot of times we don't know where to start. This is the perfectionism monster again. The perfect place to begin! When we can let go of perfectionism; we can stop going down the path of procrastination.
**MY thoughts: Oh boy! Perfectionism is indeed a monster that rears it's ugly head often in my life. It is all part of my definitely Type A personality!! OK, being Type A is not bad IF you use it correctly! But I had come to a point in my life where perfectionism was paralyzing me. I didn't want to start something I could finish or thought I couldn't finish well because that = failure in my mind -- USED to anyway. **

I give you a place! Go shine your sink. It is a simple action that starts you in a direction toward peace. This is our very first habit! Keeping your sink clean and shiny is all you have to do. That shiny sink puts a smile on your face each morning. It is the only thing you have to do. With this one habit you are being kind to yourself. You are not piling on with a huge list.
**MY thoughts: OK, you don't have to start by shining your sink, but the whole idea is START! SOMEPLACE! This is definitely a sparky idea. If you don't start, you'll never move forward!!**


As this one habit becomes automatic you can add another habit. Slow and steady relieves the guilt. This is being patient with yourself. You don't have to be perfect! You just have to do something instead of wring your hands and say I don't have time.
**MY thoughts: DEFINITELY! Start with one or two (at the most) lifestyle changes that are important to you to accomplish. Allow at least 28 days for this behavior to become a habit. Voila. Then when it is a habit you're ready to add more. Got the idea? Took me awhile, but now, being in maintenance, I am finding that maintaining those habits already established and making sure I'm doing the bet I can at those habits is all important. Tweaking and evaluating along the way . . . essential!**


When you hear those words come out of your mouth, set your timer and do two minutes. You will be so surprised at what you can accomplish in those short two minutes. Don't allow your perfectionism to push you too hard or keep you from starting.
**MY thoughs: Hallelujah for the timer! I may not be able to do something for a long time (because it's tiring, boring, whatever!) but sure can do it for 15 minutes (or whatever YOU determine that your limit is), rest and if appropriate, resume till your goal is accomplished. It's a PROCESS people! We have to respect the process and work with it. **

We have all heard the story of the tortoise and the hare. The hare procrastinated. He played and put things off because he felt like he had plenty of time to beat that slow tortoise. In the end he lost the race. Just imagine his stress level when he looked around and saw the tortoise winning. All of a sudden he got in a hurry! What happens when you get in a hurry!

Procrastination places guilt on our heads. We don't do well when well with this guilt and the stress that comes from waiting till the last minute. This stress is pushing our adrenaline buttons to put us into overdrive. So instead of taking your time and doing what you can, when you can; you are speeding down the highway to a head on collision!
**MY thoughts: I used to feel guilt when I didn't accomplish all I wanted to in a day, but learned that's what "to do" lists are for. That's what the next day is for, if you need to carry something over to the next day. But can't use that as an excuse NOT to do it!**

Your adrenaline super fuel is what causes you to crash and burn! That "flash in the pan" burns out your engine and disables your thinking ability. You become the victim of your own procrastination. Please stop procrastinating! If you will only take baby steps your journey will be slow and steady. Your home did not get dirty in a day and it will not get clean overnight! Baby steps will help you find the peace you are searching for.

Progress not Perfection!

**MY thoughts: Sound familiar! VERY sparky for sure. We may not have it perfect, but each day is a perfect opportunity to give it our best, give it our all, do our utmost. Isn't that the sparky way?!? Sure is!

Hugs and peace, fellow sparklers. Let that spark shine on.

  
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GENRE009 12/3/2013 3:23AM

    Jesus, you are loved! You have a following! Anyway, what I was going to say is I am a procrastinator too! But I only do the necessity, and the rest is by the way side. But I am not married, so I don't have to share my account for my personal failure of not being the perfect house keeper. I keep it straighten though. Then I assess the mess, and go in and do the obvious visual things. As far as personal perfection, thank God, I am not that hard on myself. I have dated perfectionists, and they weren't perfect. But wanted me to be, and live up to their expectations. Like my husband who would critize me for having dirty car windows. I didn't have time to clean them between 48 hours of work, and full time college. I like the kind of perfectionists that say, "Hey your windows are dirty, let me clean your car!"


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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/21/2013 12:39AM

    She is a pip, that Flylady!
Here's something I find truly useful:
If your to do list doesn't fit on a post it note, it is too long.

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HOPESINGH 10/19/2013 11:06AM

    Couldn't agree more. I love Cilley's method too, although I don't necessarily apply them to the letter.

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MAMADWARF 10/17/2013 10:45PM

    Loved this. I am a procrastinator. Seriously. I also read the progress not perfection. That WAS my motto when I first started her nearly 4 years ago. What happened to that!? guess I have some thinking to do!! Actually, I need to just do SOMETHING!

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TRI_BABE 10/17/2013 3:00PM

    Thanks! I am a perfectionist! And many times it slows me getting things done too much! thanks for posting... sometimes we just need to start... and then finish and move on. emoticon emoticon

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LIVINGFREE19 10/17/2013 10:24AM

    I am a real procrastinator, and this is a real helpful blog for those of us who are!

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ALOHAEV1 10/17/2013 9:58AM

    Not to worry...I still have the Queen of Procrastination crown nailed on.

Great blog, happy dance you didn't put it off longer...lots of hugs and thanks!

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NANCY- 10/16/2013 9:08AM

    Her shiny sink theory is one thing that I agree with. A clean sink (to me) is a necessity.

Ah the timer... just doing a little bit is sometimes enough to inspiring us through to completion, especially when it comes to exercise. And with food just doing one change is the beginning.
I like that you said something about tweaking, as with time things change.

I love your closing thoughts about giving our best. Our best may not be perfect, but it is good enough.

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JULIA_211 10/16/2013 4:46AM

    emoticon and emoticon about it placing guilt in our minds! I make a list every morning, and rarely leave a chore undone, but I do procrastinate when it comes to making doctor or dentist appointments. I'm working on it. emoticon emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 10/15/2013 11:53PM

    I think you have ESP this is something I have dealt the last few days I love the idea of the timer and have used it and forgot about it thanks. today i kept find my self i can do it latter when i have more time and here I am at 9 PM just finishing up in the kitchen dinner was done ages ago but not the clean up . reread your blog and set the timer for 15 minutes and i was done in 13 minutes emoticon the emoticon is the kitchen is now closed until breakfast.
you have given me some great tips to help me down the Spark trail it was rocky today the sentence ''If you will only take baby steps your journey will be slow and steady. '' so its back on the journey tomorrow and i going to take a few steps. emoticon

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RENOKAT52 10/15/2013 9:56PM

    I am so guilty!! You hit it right on the head, it takes me an hour to get up out of bed(well, maybe not that long, 59minutes!! lol) Thank you for sharing with us, your blogs are the best!

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BOILHAM 10/15/2013 9:36PM

    emoticon If I only did things that I could do well, I wouldn't be here. I'm old and slow, but I am out there competing against myself every day.
Good Blog!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/15/2013 8:20PM

    emoticon I'm afraid my sink shining has dropped off... gotta get back to that... and you're right... the timer... the small steps... VERY sparkly!

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MOTLEM 10/15/2013 8:02PM

    emoticon blog CDBarb! emoticon

Procrastination has never hit my vocabulary. I'm the exact opposite as still think everything should be done 'yesterday'. Maybe that's just as bad as being a procrastinator, who knows... but we are what we are! emoticon

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RDEE22 10/15/2013 7:41PM

    Great blog Barb! I used to be a procrastinater in another life, and then I married a "head down tail up, get the job done kind of person" and i realized the extra time gained for good stuff, by getting all the yuk stuff out of the way.

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MSLZZY 10/15/2013 7:37PM

    VERY SParky indeed! SPark on! I needed this today! HUGS!

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LOUIE-LILY 10/15/2013 6:53PM

    emoticon Great blog! Thanks for getting it all down. Great reminders!

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SHARON10002 10/15/2013 6:29PM

    Did you write this with me in mind?! emoticon How did you know I STILL struggle with the perfectionism monster on a daily basis? I'm sitting here in my computer room amid some paper clutter that's left from exactly one of these episodes yesterday. I got so overwhelmed I gave up and decided to tackle it another day. Well, your blog opened up that Pandora's box again, and I'm going to do it right after I finish typing this! Then it will be done!
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MICKEYH 10/15/2013 6:24PM

    I hate being procrastinate, so I try my best to tuckle things as came up... But sometime I do not have enough time. So I guess besting is to calm down and do as I can and not get frustrate if I can't do it at the moment. Thanks for sharing. Grate blog !! emoticon emoticon

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LYNCHD05 10/15/2013 5:27PM

    You are so wise my friend. thanks for sharing. emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 10/15/2013 5:22PM

    Lordy BE!!!--So much trial and error----And I do procrastinate at times-----sometimes the days just aren't long enough girl!!!---- We returned from vet--will hear Tess' blood results to-morrow--hope it is OK_---She has had a good day-so faR!

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FLPALM 10/15/2013 4:11PM

    GREAT BLOG! and Well Said! I totally agree with all your comments, just START, DO something, and soon it will be in the making!!!

Hugs, and thanks for sharing,

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MADAMES 10/15/2013 3:12PM

    I do love the Flylady...she has it right! Thanks for sharing.
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AWESOMECHELZ 10/15/2013 2:42PM

    I just joined the FlyLady email thing and the group here! How about that! I love it so far since I need hope for my forever mess. We are in this together!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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INFLATED 10/15/2013 2:29PM

    May God bless Marla Cilley, she has an insight into our thinking. We fall back into procrastination many times and then when we are overwhelmed, we begin again.

Great post!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 10/15/2013 1:40PM

    Yes one or two things steady for a month is the way to go... Here's to sparking on!

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Wow, perfectionism. Yeah. I fought that evil monster for years.

After facing/confronting the evil thing, it took a long time for me to allow myself to forgive myself. That too is a biggy.



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GERIKRAGH 10/15/2013 12:56PM

    I'm not a perfectionist but I'm definitely not a procrastinator. I just want the job done right away and I'm don't care too much how it turns out. That's why I don't do crafts!

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MILLISMA 10/15/2013 12:52PM

    Years ago I started creating a "to do" list. I found it helped to get the little things done that I really didn't want to do. Great blog!!!

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SKATER787 10/15/2013 12:41PM

    We are trained to think, not do. When we do something impulsively, they say you should think first. We need to re-train ourselves to do first on things we don't need to think about, like organizing for example.

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ILOVEMALI 10/15/2013 12:34PM

    great blog, Pal!

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QUEENIEBELLE 10/15/2013 12:30PM

    Great blog! My sink is already shiny, but I always seem to have a pesky pile of paper and scraps of paper to deal with...neatly tucked away of course...(OCD??) and yes I still feel EVERYTHING should be perfect in my weight loss program, and since today already isn't perfect, why not start tomorrow?

Oh yeah I get this one~ thanks for the reminder! OK I'll just do SOMETHING to support my excercise goals TODAY, some little thing, and not worry if the entire day is perfect. (never will be) emoticon emoticon

PS that "just do 10 minutes" thing never works for me....first I have to be in the right clothes, then I have to shower, no I'll shower afterwards, then I have to eat something, no I need to wait awhile until after I've eaten, oops it's dark now and I don't like to excercise after dark so guess I'll just start tomorrow because today wasn't perfect!! (Is that kind of how the perfectionism thing works LOL?? Does for me!!)

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XRSIZE18 10/15/2013 11:59AM

    I love this. Not so much for the procrastination aspect (because that's just something I've put off thinking about) but because it speaks to me on a different level. So many times with weight loss I think things like, "If I am not doing EVERYTHING right, then I won't make any progress - so why bother doing anything right?"

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Passing this on

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Asked by a Spark friend to copy and paste .....

We could all use these words of encouragement now and then.

Everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn't easy.

Just something to think about... did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?

Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated?

Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most?

Did you know the 3 hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and Help me.

Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile and see how much pain they may be in.

To all my friends who are going through some issues right now-- let's start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don't see your name, I'll understand.

May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares.

Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune.

  
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GENRE009 2/2/2014 12:21PM

    Now this is what I find to be profound! A universal shout out for compassion to our fellow man! Kuddles, to you. Many don't realize how necessary it really is to realize that we are our brothers keeper. People with such a big heart, never seem to ask for anything in return. "It is by extending our hearts, that we expand it!" author e. herz
Thank you for being so selfless. We love you Barb.
No magazines either, P. C.H just has me on their stupidity list of the gullibles emoticon . take care. Am a happy camper, just paid someone to shovel me out. Am looking for that profound statement I made? Can't find it. eva

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 10/19/2013 10:49PM

    So true. We all need to be lifted up more than we'd ever admit. Really worth sharing!! Wonderful, thoughtful blog. emoticon

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MARTHAWILL 10/15/2013 7:21AM

    Thanks for sharing this. Change happens only after awareness.

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PHOENIX1949 10/14/2013 3:34PM

    Great blog. I don't Blog anywhere or use Facebook, BUT am copying/pasting and e-mailing to my Contact List. Thank you.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 10/14/2013 7:59AM

    I saw this on a FB post - I don't do the copy/paste, but sending you positive hugs my friend.

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WENDYJM4 10/14/2013 5:10AM

    keep the ball rolling

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    Thanks!!!

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BRADMILL2922 10/14/2013 1:54AM

    Appreciate you passing this on! Lots of good things to think about!

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    we obviously have the same spark fried circle love. emoticon

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FLPALM 10/13/2013 11:43PM

    Done! What a GREAT BLOG! And so true!

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    Sending positive energy and prayers who needs most. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IOEINC 10/13/2013 10:03PM

    Great message!! None of us are immune when life throws you a curve ball!!

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BEHKHEKKHUN 10/13/2013 9:17PM

  trying to get grumpy lady to smile at me in the park today. Fail. But I enjoyed it...

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ILOVEMALI 10/13/2013 9:14PM

    this is so true. Pondering pondering.

Have a great week --

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MILLISMA 10/13/2013 9:04PM

    I will pass this on.....the words are so true and really struck a cord.

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BIGPAWSUP 10/13/2013 8:54PM

    I'm in. You got it.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/13/2013 8:36PM

    True words... and you're a true friends to pass it on.

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    emoticon emoticon emoticon done and you are so right thanks for sharing with us .

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    You are so right!!m

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Life, the Universe, and Everything . . .

Saturday, August 10, 2013

It's been a long time since I've updated! Life marches on, doesn't it!

Mom has had her ups and downs with Alzheimer's, but at this point is doing pretty well. Her short term memory . . . well, it really doesn't exist much, but she is happy. She does enjoy reminiscing (which definitely is part of what goes on at her age anyway), so do lots of that with her. Dad is so wonderful to her but have to constantly assess HIM to see where he's at in terms of needing help. He never was and still isn't one to ask for help even though he may need that life line. So, constantly reminding him that it's ok to ask for help! And to take it when it's offered.

Today is my son John's 21st birthday. Don't know where all the time has gone, but he's definitely a wonderful young man and we're proud of him.

It's kind of a bittersweet day, because last August had such life-changing events happen for him. Last year on 12 August he left for Afghanistan and 3 days later he lost 3 of his comrades, so that weighs heavy on his mind and ours. We'd met these fellows at their graduation from Basics just a month prior. **SIGH** Then 3 days later on 18 August John was wounded. His recuperation during this year has been physical, psychological and spiritual. Fortunately, he has lots of support and is doing much better than was thought when he was first wounded.

Sadly, there is the high probability of his being medically discharged due to his injuries, but no definitive timeline. This is not what he wants, but he is determined to stay in Alaska. So, he's taking each day as it comes. We are too. Wishing he would come back home, but he loves Alaska. Go figure, eh!

Time stands still for nobody! My baby, Clara, is 18 and starts college in September. My baby! Very proud of her. She is not sure what she wants to major in, but we keep reminding her that her first two years are mostly general required courses anyway, so she's got time to figure it out. Right now she's leaning towards nursing (ok, have to say, that makes THIS Mom's heart proud as I am a nurse too)! So, we'll see where this leads her. She is smart and will do well no matter what she majors in.

What led me to think about this past years events? Deepak Chopra has a meditation challenge and I want to share it with you. The underlying message is sometimes we have to change our perspective about things . . . change how we perceive things. Easy? NOPE! Definitely not. I know for me, this is so important. With both my son's wounding and Mom's diagnosis of Alzheimer's, it was like a sucker-punch to the gut, BUT through sparking, the lesson I learned is that there are events and situations that we can do nothing about. All we can do is control how we handle our reactions to the situations. When I read this piece, I just though, that fits right in with what I have to work on -- changing how I handle situations when I can't control them. It's very empowering!
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Miraculous Magnificence

"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." Joseph Campbell

Today’s message and meditation celebrate the magnificence of your radiant, joyful spirit. If you could see your body as a physicist can see it, you would observe atoms or particles moving at lightning speed around vast, empty spaces. These particles aren't material objects at all. They are fluctuations of energy and information in a huge empty space. And what is this space? It is the womb of creation, the field of all possibilities. It is the same place that nature goes to fashion a galaxy and to fashion a thought.

This field of pure potentiality is within you. It is your inner space that gives rise with amazing fertility to all of the divine qualities of the universe, including love, grace, abundance, joy, creativity, and freedom. You are a unique expression of everything in existence, and you shine with the beauty of a million stars.

Mindful Moment

There is a beautiful saying in India’s ancient Vedic tradition: “If you want to recreate the world, look at it with fresh eyes.” Today have the intention to see one thing as if for the first time. Look without the camouflage of your memories. Sometimes the hardest thing is to truly see someone we have known for a long time, such as our partner, child, or friend. We assume we know who they are, and so we stop seeing. It is also important to look at yourself as though doing so for the first time. We may assume that we know ourselves, but as we are discovering, who we are is much more than our limited ego-mind can envision. Through the eyes of your true self, take a few moments to consider how truly magnificent you really are.
Existence, consciousness, bliss. Deepak Chopra
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As we travel down this road sparking, remember. Look at the world with those fresh eyes, a fresh perspective. Don't limit your possibilities, because our possibilities are limitless.

If anyone would have told me 3 years ago I'd be where I am now, I would have thought them to be mad as a Hatter! But, truth be told, this journey has made me a much stronger person physically, emotionally and spiritually. That's what life is supposed to be all about. It all comes from within.

  
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GENRE009 12/3/2013 3:42AM

    thank you for having such great insight. I am in awe by how many people read your blogs! I was beginning to think that people here on spark only wanted to see jokes, or stay crippled by their fears, or prove that they have no problems, & are wonder woman in sports. I too write from the heart. And am very please to meet you. Sorry about the hardship with your son. And about your mothers illness. eva

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RENOKAT52 10/12/2013 9:25PM

    You are an intelligent woman and your writing is awesome. I so enjoyed reading this entry and I am going to subscribe to your blog's, I forget where, what and why sometimes! My illnesses include ammonia build ups, so I have days when I forget the year we are in...I get a lot of fresh and new days!!! LOL
What part of Alaska is your son, John, in? Alaska is beautiful, when I was there I could feel God, His hand, creating a marvelous canvass for me to get lost in. I can understand wanting him closer. Sorry for his losses and his wounded body, prayers for John from me.
How exciting for Clara! 18, is a super age, confusing,fun,full of all kinds of new emotions and adventures. My baby is turning 32 this month and he is still "my baby", lol.
I am writing a book, sorry. Again, thank you for your writing and for adding me to your friend list.

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JACKIE15108 10/8/2013 12:26PM

    Thank you for a beautiful and thought provoking blog.

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GSPEIRS 10/1/2013 2:48AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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TRI_BABE 9/22/2013 11:44AM

    Thanks for this ! Hang in there ! Hope things are going well for you.

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JSTETSER 9/12/2013 5:40PM

    I love the quote!


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ILOVEMALI 9/9/2013 7:26PM

    you are so inspirational.

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I.M.MAGIC 9/2/2013 10:31AM

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Glad things are working out so well, actually... small miracles are still miracles!
Hang in there...

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EVER-HOPEFUL 8/26/2013 5:16PM

    saz happy birthday to john i know this birthday will be extra specia for you this year that though wounded he came back so definately something to ceerbrate. emoticon

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WENDYJM4 8/24/2013 7:02AM

    Happy Belated birthday to John. Great blog. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 8/21/2013 5:32PM

    Whatta beautiful blog!! I wish I had read it before my "Tess episode"----Wise thoughts!--No, we sure can't control what is happening around us!---Lordy Be-Do I know that!----You have had some mighty big events in yer life lately ----well, over the past year----You seem to handle it all well however---You have a good attitude!----Your son with his injury---now your daughter leaving---your Mom----They all have a good Mom-""you""!!!-- Tess ate about a tbsp. of canned dog food to-night--a 1st in a week----She barked at Fred coming home at noon--wagged her tail--so small steps---I'm still screaming inside---"WHY ME""?-----LOL------but-----whattheh
eck eh?----Lynda emoticon

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MARTHAWILL 8/19/2013 8:39PM

    Thought I would check in on you to see how are you doing and found this wonderful blog. Sounds like a wonderful daughter and a terrific son.

As I mentioned before, my mother had Alzheimer's and I have some difficult memories of that time period. Glad your mom can be peaceful in her own present existence. Wishing strength for your dad and especially for you. Sounds like you have a great deal of inner strength already.

Take care.
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BROWNCOFIDDLER 8/19/2013 8:36PM

    You are SO special my dear!! Am I ever glad I 'met' you thru Blue Star Moms - only to find out we have quite a bit in common, as far as being short stops goes!!! First of all ~ Happy Birthday to John!!! The BIG Two-One!!! The years go by faster than any of us could ever have believed. As you said, it's bittersweet though, with all he's been thru in this past year. If he is discharged and does stay in AK he should be able to find a job paying big bucks. It would be quite an experience for him too. Clara will figure out what she wants to do in life too....all in good time. It would be great if she went for her RN!! How neat that would be.
Thanks for sharing the wonderful insights from Deepak Chopra too. Must be a coincidence, but recently I think I posted a quote about changing our perspective - I've had to do that lately. But then, I really don't believe in coincidence - so it must be that you & I are thinking along the same lines! It's true that we often have to stop and look at people & situations through clear eyes, not some preconceived foggy lens that we used in the past. This SP journey has been similar for me - growing in so many different ways.....psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and of course, physically. Wonderful blog - thanks for sharing!!! emoticon emoticon

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JESSYVIRGINY 8/17/2013 6:54AM

    Thanks for sharing
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CLAIREINPARIS 8/14/2013 2:15PM

    Thank you so much for sharing with us the latest in your life... and your wonderful attitude which is a great example for me at the moment. I am glad your mom is happy and able to share about things from her past. This is so important. At the moment, my mother doesn't even remember her past and it makes me sad...
It is always great to read about your children too, and to see how proud you are of them! I bet you would be very proud if Clara decided to become a nurse too!!!
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JSTETSER 8/14/2013 2:07PM

    Being your Mother's Mother is sooo difficult.
Watching your son struggle is no cake walk either.
I love the quote: "The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." Joseph Campbell.

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KICKINGKILOS 8/14/2013 9:08AM

    Wishing your boy emoticon (belated)
And, yay for Clara.
Do you ever wonder, that the kids grow up fast?
I hear it so much, but well, I cannot wait for my kids to be grown up lol

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FITNHEALTHYKAL 8/14/2013 6:20AM

    It's been a year since we "met" under such adverse circumstances. Time passes so quickly as evidenced by your two grown and wonderful children. Wonderful blog. You have sparked so many friendships and have such a wonderful support system here and I know in real life too that no matter what life deals you (and it has been a long year in many ways), you are going to sparkle and shine! So wise and strong. Our teen has been in Alaska this summer and loves it there too. Must be a special allure. Will Clara be going to school nearby? What are your "empty nest" plans with your sweetie? You are such a wonderful, caring daughter - a blessing to both your parents and an example to your children too. I am blessed to know you! emoticon

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NATALIABUYS 8/13/2013 7:47PM

    Glad your mom is doing well under the circumstances.

Thanks for sharing DC message!

HUGS

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MICKEYH 8/13/2013 7:05PM

    Wow, you've got beautiful children. Thanks for sharing message from Deepak.
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ONEKIDSMOM 8/12/2013 8:12PM

    Thanks for sharing such deep and personal thoughts! We each have challenges and I've often marvelled how you and I have had many "in parallel".

I love the meditation but am going to have to "catch up" because I was off line for four full days... just home now, and trying to catch up on folks' blogs, too.

You ARE strong, tempered the the fire of adversity. Spark on, and may many miracles unfold for you and yours.

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CANNIE50 8/12/2013 2:17PM

    Your strength is notable and your attitude is wonderful. You don't take anything for granted. Gratitude is a powerful force and so are you!

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BMCKEOW1 8/12/2013 2:09PM

    Wow what a great blog. Life keeps moving even if we don't want it to, or try and stop it. I am so glad to hear that your son is doing better, it sounds like he has a great support system. You are doing an awesome job of taking care of your parents, that can't be easy. I think sometimes we get so overwhelmed in our own things we forget what else is going on. Including myself, I think I'll have to take a moment and try looking at things with fresh eyes. Thanks for the reminder.

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K1TT3N 8/12/2013 12:42PM

    I am glad your mom is doing well with her Alzheimer's. Your father is great for being there for her and I hope he see getting help when it is needed as a hand up not a hand out , that is how my family seen it when my grandmother was sick.
Please tell your Son Happy Birthday and Thanks for his service. With out people like him , we don't know what our freedoms would be.
You are right bout Clara she will find something she loves to do, and it might not be til all her regular courses are over.
You are so strong to be there for everyone , just remember you need time for you too.... keep up the great work

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SPARKFRAN514 8/12/2013 1:41AM

    Had to read it twice to take it all in you shared a lot . Hard to believe its been a year since you shared you family scare with us about John. he is such a special young man to want to stay in the service after losing 3 friends being injured him self. even thought the service wants to discharge him unlike most he still gives all he has for his country next time you visit with him be sure to thank him for his service to our country. and of course Happy Belated birthday. Clara will find what she wants to do like you said and the two years she takes general classes. I think our parents grew up in the times when you did what you had to and didn't complain think it came from growing up in the depression and WW11 times. thanking for sharing the meditation ideas its something we need to do but often put off. had never heard of Deepak Chopra will have to do a web search tomorrow 0 but have copied your quotes to think about and found a book at the Poor Clare event called The Power of Prayer .
Thanks for the great blog a lot to think about as walk away the miles on the tread mill and doing my Mall walking. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JESSICABOOTY 8/11/2013 5:55PM

    Thank you so much for giving me a new way of looking at life. emoticon

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NANCY- 8/11/2013 1:46PM

    You are so right it does all come from within. You are one amazing lady, and been a great mother to your children. Our paths may not always go to where we want it to, but each path brings us it's own treasures.

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EBEAMS 8/11/2013 9:19AM

    You are an incredibly wise woman. I can appreciate your journey in so many different ways. We often think that we have a clue ... a glimmer into where Life is going but it's not to be. I remember you blogging about John being shot like it was just a few months ago!!! Time sure does fly ...

Through all your challenges, you continue to shine as a lighthouse in the harbor for those of us who benefit from your guidance, your wisdom and your friendship. Thank you so much for including me in your circle of friends! Hugs!

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HOPESINGH 8/11/2013 4:27AM

    Glad you feel you've grown so much with these experiences. It's so hard to look at the more difficult events in life with fresh eyes. I can't do it with my father's stroke yet. I don't see anything positive about it.
Happy birthday to John, and good luck to your young girl!

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INFLATED 8/11/2013 2:13AM

    Happy Birthday to John!

Our son moved back home to save for a townhouse. It amazes me that I am at the point in my life where I am thinking of Social Security for myself. You have done a good job at raising your two children.

We are the sandwich generation where our children are going to college and our parents are dependent on us. It takes a lot out of us and you are doing well in coping. Attitude is everything, when it comes to that which is beyond our control.

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ILOVEMALI 8/11/2013 1:42AM

    I am so moved by this post. You are strong, and have faith and perspective.

Hugs and best wishes, and thanks.

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JAYDEE1211 8/10/2013 10:05PM

    Thank you so much for your wisdom. I will be practising seeing with new eyes. Best wishes and keep sparkling. emoticon

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COMPUCATHY 8/10/2013 9:55PM

    I guess we can't really predict or fathom our future...and yet it comes...and we roll with the punches and make the best of things and enjoy the blessings that we can find. Hope your weekend is a blast! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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THECRAZYMANGO 8/10/2013 8:29PM

    You're always in my thoughts! emoticon

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ROCKINMOM776 8/10/2013 7:14PM

    First of all, Happy Birthday to your soldier!! It'so weird to be so proud of someone I've never met, but I suspect he has his mama's strength and that's why he's proving everyone wrong every day.

My 18 year-old has decided to hold off on college right now and is working to save money to start in the spring, I think. So far, the "working" is going well while the "saving"... not so much, lol.

I'm always so happy when you do a blog :) You have a great insight!!

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BIGPAWSUP 8/10/2013 7:03PM

    Awesome blog - thank you for sharing.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 8/10/2013 2:41PM

    Barb; What a great blog. I have one of Chopra;s books but I couldn't get into it. It doesn't seem possible that it has been a year since everything has happened with John. You have every right to be so proud of him, heck I am proud of him, and I don't even really know him.--- Where do the years go? Brianna is leaving tomorrow for college, she will be 18 on 9/4. Tyler turned 16 on 8/8. Paul is going to be 37 in February. How did I remain 29? It's a miracle.

I am glad that your Mom is doing okay. You are one amazing woman with the year that you have had. emoticon

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MSFRANKI1 8/10/2013 2:25PM

  You are such a sweetheart. So good to catch up on what's happening. You've handled everything with grace under pressure~ emoticon Wouldn't that be great if your daughter went to nursing school! emoticon So many more options in that career nowadays, too. Thanks for sharing the words of wisdom~wonderful! emoticon

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IOEINC 8/10/2013 1:34PM

    Still wondering how that great big heart fits into that tiny body!!! What a wonderful blog!! It brought tears to my eyes!!! emoticon and that does not happen often.

You have found such peace within all the turmoil in your life and that makes me so happy for you!! emoticon

And Happy 21st birthday to your baby!! Won't they always be our babies, although the boys tend to fight this more than the girls. And you are so right about how did it happen so fast that they are now adults!!

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THETURTLEBEAR 8/10/2013 1:10PM

    It was great to "catch up" with you and also share your wisdoms! I was glad to get an update on John. My gang is doing well. My youngest is a changed person, and my oldest and his wife are going to be parents in late January - my first grandchild!

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FLPALM 8/10/2013 12:09PM

    Things truly have changed for you and your family. Your Mom and Dad, are sharing their moments, and years together...HAPPILY! That is great! Your son will recover too!

As we go through life, I have a "prayer that gives me inner peace as well." For me, it is the SERENITY PRAYER.

"God, please grant me the serenity to ACCEPT the things I CAN NOT CHANGE.
The COURAGE to CHANGE the things I CAN, and the WISDOM to KNOW the Difference."

Prayer, peace, life, and changes. God Bless, you and your family, and may YOUR HIGHER POWERS help you through life's journey.

Hugs,

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ECOAGE 8/10/2013 12:08PM

   
Life, the Universe, and Everything . . .
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SISSIE21 8/10/2013 11:30AM

    What a wonderful blog! Thank you for sharing about your son and daughter. You have all been through alot this year. Even more inspiring that you have stayed on your spark journey through it all. That is true strength!
Life is challenging and you are right, we only have control over our reactions to life. I will take my walk this morning and look at the world with new eyes and see what I discover! emoticon emoticon

Forgot to add, congratulations on your son's 21st birthday! emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 8/10/2013 10:20AM

  Hi Barb.........
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LIVINGFREE19 8/10/2013 9:58AM

    Sorry to hear of your challenges with the family. Reading self help books like Deepak Chopra writes really does help make us feel better, and it gives us a different perspective to look at things. I utilize the public library often, and if it is a book I really want, I just go and buy it.

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LIVEDAILY 8/10/2013 9:31AM

    Indeed!!
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FELINA 8/10/2013 9:24AM

    What a difficult year you've had and what a great blog. Thank you!
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Changing how we look at things and people is exactly what I've been doing recently. The result is that I'm feeling more positive and upbeat than I have in a very long time.

You're right, there are situations we have no control over, we can only control how we respond. Realizing that gives the power back to us and makes us stronger.
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HEIDISHOPE 8/10/2013 9:14AM

    Thank-you for the good news updates on your family, your upbeat perspective is inspiring and shows how healthy you are! So proud to call you friend!

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