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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

1. What's your name?
Andrea. ANN-dree-uh. =)

2. What's your favorite sport?
I'm not really a sports person. I enjoy attending the occasional baseball game, and I enjoy watching baseball or hockey on tv occasionally.

3. Have a crush?
Not in the conventional sense. ;) Can I crush on Bells Day?

4. What's your eye color?
Hazel. Specifically green/gold hazel.

5. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would like to worry/ruminate less.

6. Are you allergic to anything?
Nickel. Pollen.

7. Have you ever broken a bone?

8. What's your favorite movie?
It's a tie between The Princess Bride and Keira Knightley's Pride and Prejudice.

9. Books or movies?
Both. Can't I like both?

10. Favorite book?
Wow. It's like choosing your favorite child. The two books I've read the most times are Villains by Necessity by Eve Forward and The Tombs of Atuan by Ursula K. LeGuin.

11. What's your favorite website?
Well. Probably SparkPeople. I spend more time here than Facebook.

12. Favorite number?
4. I'm not sure why. I think I like the SHAPE of it.

13. What's your favorite letter?
Cursive Q.

14. Do you know all of the words to the National Anthem?
Uhm. Most of them?

15. What's your favorite holiday?
Thanksgiving because there are no gifts, it's just time to spend with the ones you love.

16. What song most describes your life right now?
Radioactive - Imagine Dragons

17. Who's your favorite band / artist?
I don't have favorites so much as current obsessions. Tool. A Perfect Circle. Arctic Monkeys. Iggy Azalea. Nico Vega. Corrosion of Conformity.

18. What's your relationship status?

19. Do you exercise?
Uh. Hello? BELLS DAY.

20. Have you ever thrown up before? Why?
Why? This is a dumb question. I can count all the times I've thrown up as an adult on ONE HAND. And I'd like to keep it that way. Vomiting is the most awful thing in existence. The last time was January 2011. I remember because we'd just gotten Bingley and he sat in my lap to comfort me while I hung my head over the toilet. And now I can't get him to leave me alone while I pee.

21. Are you right or left handed?
Rightie all the way.

22. What's your nickname?
Hubs calls me Wifey. A very few very specific set of friends call me Dre without getting beaten. I have at least one other nickname I will not share.

23. Do you wear make-up everyday?
Not with 100% consistency but yes. Usually just BB cream, eyeliner and mascara with a little lip gloss.

24. When's your birthday?
May 19, 1981 - Taurus/Gemini cusp.

25. How do you feel about "YOLO"? Is it dumb, or do you say it too?
I think I am too old for YOLO.

26. What's your favorite quote?
“The good thing about science is that it's true whether or not you believe in it.”
― Neil deGrasse Tyson

27. What's the worst thing that's happened to you in your entire life?
My dad dying.

28. If you could live in any state, which would it be, and why?
I kinda like it here in NJ. Where else can you be within a day trip of the ocean, the mountains, the forest, four major cities, a ridiculous amount of culture. People come from other COUNTRIES to go to the Jersey Shore (HI QUEBECOIS!).

29. What annoys you?
Ignorance. Entitlement. Intolerance. Hypocrisy.

30. What food do you hate the most?
Horseradish. I absolutely frickin' HATE the stuff. It has ruined meals for me. (Although if used sparingly and mixed in with a bunch of other stuff and I can't taste it much then it's tolerable.) I seriously just bit my lip and made myself bleed thinking about horseradish angrily, haha.

31. Do you have any pets? Names?
4 year old Boston Terrier named Bingley.

32. Jeans, skinny jeans, skirts, denim jeans, or crazy-patterned tights?
Skinny jeans or jeans. I wear some sort of jeans almost every day.

33. Do you wear your seat belt in the car at all times?
Yes. I feel weird without it on.

34. Do you like this survey?
I suppose.

35. Who's your favorite super hero?
Wolverine. But Groot is the most adorable.

36. Is that your natural hair color?
Very dark brown, as seen in all my photos.

37. What color eyes would you like to have? Or do you like the way they are right now?
I used to want green eyes and red hair. But I like both my eyes and my hair now.

38. Do you look more like your mum or your dad?
I personally think I look more like my dad, but my personality is SO my mom. Evidence (My mom and dad with my mom's cousins):

39. What's your favorite type of food?
I'm not sure I could live without pizza or peanut butter.

40. What are three things you cannot live without?
Music. Art. Prose.

41. Who do you miss right now?
My dad. Every day.

42. On a scale of 1-10, how bored are you?
2. But when I finish this survey I'll probably be an 8.

43. When something drops from the bed, you stay on the bed and stretch to get it, right?
Nope, because that is an easy way for my clumsy butt to fall out of bed!

44. How tall are you?

45. What's your shoe size?
8 1/2 - 9

46. How would you describe your personality?
Snarky. Saucy. I try not to take myself too seriously.

47. What's your favorite kind of cheese?
Sharp cheddar, brie, muenster, queso fresco, cow's milk feta. Who can choose just one?

48. What's your favorite ice-cream flavor?
The best ice cream I've ever eaten was Turkey Hill's Lady Liberty Mint. It was limited time only. =(

49. What did you want to be when you were young?
Lead guitarist in a grunge band / archaeologist

50. What are you listening to right now?
One For The Road - Arctic Monkeys

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    YOLO is the name of a locally owned frozen yogurt shop here, so every time I see "YOLO" my brain goes, "Yes, frozen yogurt would be good right about now..."

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FOR_THE_DUDES 10/1/2014 8:33AM

    Turkey Hill ice cream is amazingly good for being a reasonably priced brand. And allergic to nickel? I'd imagine that's a bit of a hazard working for a jeweler.

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LIVEDAILY 9/30/2014 7:15PM

    What a great survey!! I'm always learning something new about you!

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    LOL Too funny, I just read this after posting my comment and yes throwing up is horrible thing to avoid at all costs!!! HAHA
OH and my fave number is 4 too but it's because it was a special birthday to me, it was my golden birthday and I got my ears pierced and I remember it! LOL Though now oddly enough I don't wear earrings, they bug my ears! LOL LOL LOL

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Mondays Are AWESOME (This is seriously long.)

Monday, September 29, 2014

(This blog is brought to you in part by Nico Vega's Fury Oh Fury, thanks NETGYRL!)

One of my favorite (NOT) things is logging on to a social media website like this one or Facebook and seeing a whole bunch of people complain about Mondays. (They also celebrate Fridays, which I feel similarly about.) Monday is just a day, and it is what you make of it. If you go into Monday with a bad attitude, Monday is gonna give you crap right back! Some of you will say, "But Andrea, you only like Mondays because you have the day off!" To which I say, SILENCE! I like Mondays for a whole bunch of other reasons. (Side note: I hate Saturdays and I also mostly have the day off, so there. *sticks out tongue*)

1. Mondays are bells days. I talked about bells so much to my bestie that she asked me if I was obsessed. I don't see how doing something 3 days a week makes you obsessed. Wouldn't I have to do enough bells that it seriously interfered with my daily life? I just like them a whole lot. I feel good when I'm done. I felt EXTRA good this morning because I stopped doing that short video and today I did the FitnessBlender Beginners Workout
. Yes it is the Beginners Workout. I'm only on my 3rd week of this. I'm a beginner. This video has 3 rounds of repeating exercises. I did the first two rounds without rest, and took a 2 min break between the 2nd and third rounds. People. This is a WORKOUT. I was DRIPPING sweat!


I did the 33 minute video, then followed up by my normal crunches and a 1m 30s plank. I worked out for a FULL HOUR. I seriously needed a shower after that, but at the same time, I'm really looking forward to doing it all over again on Wednesday. And then totally working extra hard on Friday.

2. Other people hate Mondays and I just like to be frickin' contrary. I am not quite hipster level of contrary, but seriously, if something becomes too much a trend I just avoid it. I'm not into trends and fads, I'm into classics. emoticon

3. Ok, this is harder than I thought. THREE reasons to like Mondays? I did say I liked Mondays for a "bunch" of other reasons. If I only list two that's only a "couple" of other reasons. Hmm. I like Mondays because they are not Saturdays. Saturdays suck.

Ok onto yesterday. Hubs had to work yesterday, which was our anniversary, so I did some crap around the house: finished shampooing the carpets, vacuumed, read a bit of a book that I got from the library a while back (I swear I'm going to finish it, ARRREAGLES), and generally wasted time. By this time it was 8:15. UGH. I DID SO MUCH STUFF AND IT'S ONLY 8:15!!! So I walked the dog and got dressed and went to Kohl's. I was looking for a pop of color to go with my monochrome outfit for my anniversary. Well when I got there, there was rack after rack after rack of clearance clothes. So of course, I looked. I found two shirts I liked for DIRT CHEAP.

This sleeveless number was $2.40. Yes, you read that right. It's a medium, but it's pretty big.

And the other I'm wearing today:

This cute thing, which I love, because I love plaids and I love pink, was $3.60. It's also a SMALL. It fits perfectly everywhere but the boobs, where it gaps a little when it's buttoned, but I solved that with a tank and just leaving it open. I prefer to wear it this way anyway. So yeah, I got 2 shirts for $6. It was like going to the thrift store but they're NEW! I got a few other things and high-tailed it home. By this time it was 10 am. Getting up at 5 but having not really much to do makes the day go by VERY slowly. (Side note: A lot of people don't spend a whole lot of time on social media on the weekends, so I didn't have a whole lot to entertain me. I watched 2 movies this weekend by myself: Django Unchained, which was relatively boring except for the standard Tarantino hyper violence scenes, and The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, which was pretty good, but not as good as Stranger Than Fiction, which had a very similar feel. I give Django a 2/5 and Walter Mitty a 3/5.)

So watching a movie took up some time. Then I took a shower and did all the showery related things that ladies need to do to wear a dress (shaving your legs is hard when you wear glasses, amirite?) and then relaxed a while before hubs came home. He took a nap while I got ready then his mom called to wish us a Happy Anniversary which woke him up. He got dressed and we took pics! (Mostly of me since he doesn't love having his picture taken.)

Ok my next comment is for STEPHKNEE.

That last pic? The one of my face? Let me tell you what I notice about that pic when I look at it. GIANT FOREHEAD. GIANT PHILTRUM (Google it, people). LOOSE SKIN UNDER MY CHIN. But you know what? NO ONE ELSE NOTICED THAT STUFF! If I were smiling, that's what people would notice, not my smile lines. emoticon We are overly critical or ourselves. Other people just plain don't care that much, unless they are buttholes. And then their opinion doesn't matter anyway.

So anyway, we ate at this modern Italian place called Catelli Duo. This place has some serious atmosphere. I had asked for a quieter corner, cause it can get pretty loud in there, but it wasn't really necessary because the place was almost empty, which I found odd for 6 pm on a Sunday night but whatever. They had a football game on in the bar, so that may have been the reason. People (not me) really love football. We were early (I'm always early) because I thought it might take me a while to walk in those shoes. I was a little insecure at this point. I am not used to dressing like this. I was actually really surprised at how nervous I felt. I just wanted to look good, and I was worried about every little thing: my hair, my lipstick, my arms. We had to walk by a bunch of people on the outdoor dining area, me in these really high shoes, and I'm a klutz on top of it. But I managed, and we made it in the front door and were greeted pleasantly by the hostess.

We were seated in a booth not far from the kitchen, but far enough that we didn't get the noise. The waitress immediately complimented my lipstick, which relaxed me. Danelle was super awesome. I ordered a drink, which I don't usually do, but it's a celebration! I tried to order an "Off and Running" which is "absolut ruby red vodka, st. germain elder flower liquor, fresh squeezed ruby red grapefruit and fresh squeezed lime juice" but they were out of st. germain. Boo. So I got a "Whiskey Peach" which was "bulleit bourbon, peach schnapps, fresh peach puree, house-made simple syrup, fresh squeezed lime juice" and also really, really tasty. I love peaches and peach schnapps, and the sweetness toned down the woody quality of the bourbon.

We got fried oysters over creamed spinach for our app, which were very tasty (actually the best part was the spinach, which was incredible) but not even close to the best oysters I've ever eaten (on a po boy in Mississippi). For our mains hubs got short rib over white truffle risotto and I had Zuppa Di Pesce, which had HUGE shrimp, clams, mussels and crab meat in a red sauce over linguine. Both delicious, but his was better. For dessert we split the Salted Caramel Pretzel Pudding, which was just big enough to enjoy without being overloaded with sweet. Overall dinner was very good. If I had one complaint it would be that it didn't take long enough. I didn't feel rushed or anything, but the kitchen was quick, so we didn't have that much time to really talk. We spent most of the time talking about food (you know you're a foodie when you're eating and talking about other meals at the same time) and what actresses are the sexiest without being conventionally beautiful (his choices are Catherine Tate of Dr. Who fame and Christina Hendricks, mine are Michelle Pfeiffer and Vera Farmiga, although Mary Elizabeth Winstead is my girl crush.) So dinner, while not as mind-blowingly fantastic as last year, was still pretty awesome. emoticon

Here's my menu for the week:

Mon: Homemade Chicken Tikka Masala w/ Garlic Naan and Steamed Cauliflower

Tues: Gnocchi w/ Bacon & Escarole

Weds: BBQ Pork Stuffed Baked Potatoes, Tossed Salad

Thurs: Mexican White Bean Soup w/ Sausage, Crescent Rolls

Fri: Crockpot Smothered (Onions, Peppers & Mushrooms) Pork Chops, Mashed Potatoes

Sat: Frango Grelhado (Portuguese seasoned baked chicken), White Rice, Edamame in the Pod

Well I'm off to marinate the chicken for the Tikka Masala! Hope you all had a great weekend and your Monday isn't cruddy!


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STEPH-KNEE 9/30/2014 1:59AM

    Oh how I love thee!! I have a few reasons... which means I'll have more than 2. ;)

#1. I hate people who hate Mondays, just because it's annoying, for the same reason it's annoying they love Friday. I am off wed-fri, so friday is fine by me. I work Monday but it's towards the end of my week and I have no ill will towards Mondays.

#2. I love how much you love your kettelbells, just because it's adorable.

#3. I love how you go the opposite way of the trends. I do the same. Okay okay, I love the walking dead, a lot of people love the walking dead... but that's okay. But I was that person in middle school and the kids were like "We are mad at Lorena this week, don't you dare talk to Lorena" to which I'd say "Lorena's nice to me, so suck it". I am not into something just because everyone else likes it... I also don't go out of my way to hate it, but it just often happens that way LOL. ;)

#4. I love that you shared your photo thoughts, OMG!! I also loved that you said to google that word because that was my first instinct. When I saw the full length pick I thought hottie and amazing shoes. The close up picture was just RAWR emoticon

I am gonna post my blog in a bit, I am including the "pregnant pic" and why I am guilty of not doing what I say LOL!! ;) XOXO

Happy Anniversary btw!! emoticon emoticon

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CATTUTT 9/29/2014 9:29PM

    You looked amazing, and it sounds like you had a great dinner, so woo hoo... successful anniversary!

I am also not a Monday hater. Although I was when I worked. Now I like the whole fresh start thing, and dh is off on Mondays. So you are not the only Monday non-hater in the group.

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I_CAN_AMY 9/29/2014 7:09PM

    The anniversary dinner made me hungry! :-) Congrats on your anniversary! Your shoes are AWESOME! Are those the new ones you ordered? Fantasic! (ps. I want a pair :-) )

The dessert sounds awesome, too!


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LIVEDAILY 9/29/2014 5:17PM

    Happy Anniversary! You both looked awesome! I'm so glad you had a great dinner, and a night out!

Mondays are awesome because:
1. You get another chance to "get it right".
2. You see people you haven't seen over the weekend.
3. You get back into your routine.
4. Monday Night Football (yes I am a fan!)

That's all I could think of without getting repetitive.

Your menu for this week sounds divine!

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CMONCHERY11 9/29/2014 4:16PM

    Happy Anniversary. Don't you just love fitnessblender?!!! I started training with kettlebells using their website over a year ago and I am still hooked. Call me obsessed, i don't care, lol. Keep up the good work. Hope you guys had a great night emoticon

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FOR_THE_DUDES 9/29/2014 3:59PM

    Oh yeah, and when I hear people complain about Mondays I feel like I am stuck in a Ziggy cartoon. I assume they hate their mother in law. And constantly complain about the weather. Negativity is hard enough to be around. But stereotypical negativity is too much for me.

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NUTSNUTSGETEM 9/29/2014 3:57PM

    Happy anniversary!

You guys are a great looking couple - not that I could tell from the picture of the two of you together!?!? You've got to work on that! Ren Faire - pictures together.

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FOR_THE_DUDES 9/29/2014 3:53PM

    Not sure I get the "unconventional" part of Christina Hendricks' or Michelle Pfiieffer's beauty, but that could be a fun discussion. Off the top of my head, I would go with Janeane Garofolo and Ellen Degeneres.

And happy anniversary! Sounds like you guys had a nice night.

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FINCHFEEDER80 9/29/2014 3:51PM


Dinner sounded lovely, I'm glad you guys enjoyed yourselves. And you made quite the handsome couple!

Along the lines of Monday hatin', it makes me sad when people just wish away their week for the weekend. Yes, it's nice to not be at work and catch up a little on sleep, but there are five other amazing days of the week! We have such little time on this planet, why not make an effort to make what you have awesome instead of just blowing it on negative juu-juu. Preaching to the choir.

Pink and plaid are awesome, by the way! Keep on having a great Monday!

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    LOL I feel the same way about Mon. and Fri. they are just days and if you dread one and look forward to the other your life is gonna fly right by you! Best to stay in the present and enjoy life right now!
Funny I have the same troubles with button up tops and do the same thing! At least it's cool looking anyway!
OH you know I kinda like trends but I also like classic too...I feel like my personal style is mixing old and new in my own unique way, it's fun! I kinda pick and choose which I like or don't and I totally skip any "trend" that I don't care for, it has to be something I like so I still march to the beat of my own drum!!! Always have always will! I come from a family who loves to be unique! LOL
Another bonus for Monday would be what you are making for dinner! I want some!!! Maybe we'll whip up some Indian Food tonight too! LOL

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WIFE48 9/29/2014 3:37PM

    Great blog. Lots of good information.

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NETGYRL 9/29/2014 3:29PM

    This comment brought to you by the movie "Safety Not Guaranteed" which I found to be cute and quirky in the right amounts.

Thank you for my vocabulary word for the week. Love to learn something new. Wondering if I can work it into conversation as some point...?

You looked smashing in your anniversary outfit. Glad you had a nice time with the Hubs.

have a great week! go Mondays!

ps. going to go listen to some Nico Vega :)

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Portuguese Lesson #2

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Kinda in a funk today you guys, sorry if I seem blah.

WARNING: I use minor swear words.

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HONEYBEESBLISS 9/28/2014 12:29PM

    LOL You know I really like your posts and vlogs and I like how your are very verbose, maybe because I tend to be too? I dunno for sure, but I feel like I'm reading a friends emails or sitting with a friend listening to them talk! So I don't think you should feel bad about that.
Also I totally know the Meh Mood! That is the perfect description of it! I get like a restless feeling but I don't know what I want and nothing fits the bill and I don't want to do anything either and I just feel Meh! LOL Hate it!
AND oh my goodness I thought it was really cute how you got like a "devious" look when you mentioned curse words!!! LOL Too funny! And it IS weird hearing yourself, I remember one time I was watching a vid I had made and I was like my voice sounds softer than I think it is, usually I think I sound harsh and I can be pretty loud too sometimes I'm self conscious of that but I forget to be "quiet" when I'm having fun and feeling comfortable and can get what I feel like is brash!!! LOL Not sure if others think that too of if it's just me.
OH and one time I was making an embroidery tutorial vid and right in the middle of it one of my dogs, Madie, comes through squeaking a very loud dog toy having a grand ol' time with it!!! LOL

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FOR_THE_DUDES 9/28/2014 9:11AM

    First day in the Azores I was planning on getting drunk, starting a fight and making a fruit salad! So this is PERFECT!!!! But seriously, I really appreciate this. Thanks and enjoy your weekend.

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CATTUTT 9/27/2014 9:31PM

    Love the vlogs! I also love the Portugese. Your excellent pronunciation is impressive! I mean, I don't really know how Portugese sounds, but I know you don't sound like an English speaker trying to speak another language, which impresses me. I have TERRIBLE pronunciation of any other language.

Sorry to hear you were feeling kind of blah today. Sounds like it just wasn't a great day. I hope those shipments show up. I feel you on thinking the PO is out to get you. Frequently our mailman just doesn't feel like bringing a package upstairs to see if we're home {because 99.9% of the time, I am home when the mail runs}, and he just takes it back to the PO and we have to go get it. So annoying!

Anyway, now I"m rambling. So jealous of your going to the Ren Faire. I want to go, but I know if I do I will spend a fortune. I cannot be trusted at any place with that much cheap sterling silver jewelry!

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!

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KNEEMAKER 9/27/2014 8:52PM

  Let's keep on keeping on! emoticon

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Fireworks, Explosions and Flames, Oh My

Friday, September 26, 2014

(This blog post is brought to you in part by the dichotomy of Katy Perry's Firework and White Zombie's Blood Milk and Sky, because I'm a little of both today. emoticon )

Okay, look. I'm not a Pop Princess. I am way more into heavy metal and rock. Most pop music is kinda meh. I do like some of it though. This morning I was reminded of Katy Perry's Firework. Now you have absolutely no obligation at all to even like Katy Perry. I'm not even a huge fan of Katy Perry. But the lyrics to this song are so incredible.

You just gotta ignite the light
And let it shine
Just own the night
Like the fourth of July

'Cause baby you're a firework
Come and show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
As you shoot across the sky-y-y

Baby you're a firework
Come and let your colors burst
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
You're gonna leave 'em falling down down down

You don't have to feel like a waste of space
You're original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow

Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
And when it's time, you'll know

You just gotta ignite the light
And let it shine
Just own the night
Like the fourth of July

'Cause baby you're a firework
Come and show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
As you shoot across the sky-y-y

Baby you're a firework
Come and let your colors burst
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
You're gonna leave 'em all in awe-awe-awe

Boom, boom, boom
Even brighter than the moon, moon, moon
And it's always been inside of you you you
And now it's time to let it through

'Cause baby you're a firework
Come and show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
As you shoot across the sky-y-y

Baby you're a firework
Come and let your colors burst
Make 'em go "oh, oh, oh!"
You're gonna leave 'em all in awe awe awe"

No that isn't all of them, I cut out a bunch at the beginning. But read those. Really read them.

Everybody has bad days sometimes. I had one yesterday. Stuff happens. But a bad day does not mean you're bad, or a failure. The best part of the way the earth rotates is that there is always a new day. A new day to light the fire inside yourself and let it shine through.

Because ALL OF YOU ARE FIREWORKS. You are the bright points in the deepest night sky, shining down and exploding in exultation. You are beautiful and wonderful and amazing. Let yourselves shine. Show me your colors!

In other news, today is starting out fabulously. I had a good night last night. I've been feeling really creative so I've been writing furiously. I made cookies for Watchmaker's birthday and got a good night's sleep. I woke up excited for my workout, which went really well. I pushed myself an extra few minutes and really worked at those reverse crunches, flexing deeper than normal to really feel the burn. Worked up a good sweat this morning, too. Ate good, drippy, melty peanut butter breakfast. Watched "Show Me the Monet" and got to see some Charles Rennie Mackintosh hotness. (He's a Scottish architect and artist.)

All in all, a really good start to the morning. Work might be aggravating this afternoon, but it's pretty laid back most of the time so I'll deal.

In good news: my MIL is coming for Thanksgiving! We're going to surprise her with tickets to Longwood Garden's Christmas display on Black Friday. She is going to love it so much.

Be prepared for my weekly Vlog tomorrow, I've got a whole bunch of new Portuguese words to share!

And I'm trying to cut back on being so verbose, my blog was ridiculously long yesterday so I'm going to keep this one short (for me). I leave you with the lyrics of White Zombie's "Blood Milk and Sky":

"The siren sings a
Lonely song of all the
Wants and hungers
The lust of love a brute
Desire - the ledge of life
Goes under - Divide the
Dream into the flesh
Kaleidoscope and -
Candle eyes - Empty
Winds scrape on the
Soul - but never stop
To realize -
Animal whisperings
Intoxicate the night
Hypnotize the deperate
Slow motion light - Wash
Away into the rain
Blood, milk and sky
Hollow moons illuminate
And beauty never dies
Running wild running blind
I breathe the body deep
1,000 years beside myself
I do not sleep - Seduce
The world it never
Screams Dead water lies
Ride the only one who
Knows - Beauty never dies"

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LIVEDAILY 9/27/2014 7:55PM

    I love REALLY listening to music, catching those lyrics that make you sit up and think "wow". I've always been into music. My parents were eclectic listeners, everything from Peter, Paul, and Mary to the Beatles to Vivaldi to Big Band music to Jazz. I grew up watching Sing Along with Mitch Miller on tv as well as watching American Bandstand. I think I'm the only teacher who knows when to shout out "Tequila" when our school band plays that song! It's a "standard" and it teaches them a lot about rhythm and harmony, in case you're wondering.

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WISHICOULDFLY 9/27/2014 8:57AM

    Katy Perry is OK, but I DO LOVE the lyrics and message in this song!

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FINCHFEEDER80 9/26/2014 3:01PM

    mmm...... I love a good Scottish man. Throw in that brogue, and you're mine forever. My current favorite Scot is David Tennet. I'm such a fangirl, I know. emoticon

Firework makes me cry if it catches me right. Not like, sobbing into a tissue or anything, but occasionally I have to wipe a little moisture from the eyes. I am admitedly a Katy Perry fan. Pop is kind of a guitly pleasure for me- depending on the artist. There is some music on my playlist that could be considered questionable in taste. emoticon I'm an alternative gal at heart. Especially 90's alternative.

I'm glad you had a good workout this morning! There's nothing quite like the feeling of leaving it all out on the floor. I hope Watchmaker enjoys his cookies and has a happy birthday! I'm excited to hear how your MIL enjoys her surprise!

I'm going to go wipe the drool off my face now, between Scotsmen and melty peanut butter you wrote quite the racy blog here, madam!


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ARRREAGLES 9/26/2014 2:38PM

    I can't see a Katy Perry lyric without imagining a cupcake (two. I admit).

That's a Friday for you, fireworks and Blood Milk and Sky.

Thanks for sharing!

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NUTSNUTSGETEM 9/26/2014 2:12PM

    One of our people in the office is Iranian but grew up in eastern France. She's been busy teaching us a bunch of new words in both Farsi and French, but none that can be shared. Not that I ever use them, but I can curse in Sinhalese (Sri Lanka), Spanish, Russian (first day at Temple University back in 1983, I meet a kid in my sociology class who had just moved from Russia, and THAT's what was important to us!), Spanish, French and now Farsi. Something to be proud of, huh? Maybe you can slip in some Portugese ones!

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CATTUTT 9/26/2014 2:01PM

    I love the lyrics to both these songs! The only Katy Perry song I know is Last Friday Night but I'm going to have to listen to Fireworks and see if it's as good as the lyrics.

Glad to hear you got in a kick butt workout this morning, and that you're feeling better today!

Hope you have a great afternoon!

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NETGYRL 9/26/2014 1:56PM

    I am not a huge heavy metal fan however there are a few songs that get my blood going. Have you heard: Thousand Foot Krutch - "Move"?

I am however a huge pop/dance music fan I have always liked Firework. I always think of my kids when I hear this song and try and remind them how precious and special they are to me.

It is important to remember we are all amazing in our own ways which can be very hard when we get down on ourselves. Thanks for the reminder!

Have a fantastic weekend! Rock on!

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    Love this and love you for posting this! I admit I am a Katy Perry fan and I have sung that song a million times and liked the lyrics but never really looked at them so thank you! And thanks for introducing me to White Zombies Blood milk and sky :)

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Be Kind, Considerate, and Have Respect

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Hey, I can't always be happy go lucky. I'm a realist. I try very hard to have a positive view of the world at large, and at large, I do. It's the little things that get to me, that build up over time and gnaw at my brain, driving me to irritation and maybe even anger. I do have a temper. I'm half Irish after all. Anger doesn't come swiftly to me, but irritation does.

While the last few days have been mostly amazing, there has also been aggravation.

The parking lot behind my work is TINY. It has 10 angled spots, a 10 foot wide aisle, then 4 parallel spots right at the edge of a 5 foot drop. It's tight. There's only one exit out to a larger lot that's all private condo parking. There are five stores in our building, and five spots for us to use. Each store is allowed to have one employee park there, provided they show a permit on their dash, but which spot you get is first come, first served. This isn't terribly important this week except for the one exit thing.

On Tuesday, my Monday, I left work a few minutes later than normal. I walk out the back door, lock it, and see a car, idling, driverless, parked just outside the only exit to the little lot. Just close enough that no one can back out. (You need to back out because there isn't enough room for a K-turn, even with my tiny car.) I am usually pretty good at maneuvering out of this lot, despite almost everyone else there being unable to park within the lines. I put my stuff in the car, got Bingley in the back seat hooked up to his zip line and gave him his treat, leaving the driver's door open so he wouldn't overheat. And I waited. And waited. Five FULL minutes if my cell clock is to be believed. And I noticed, during this time, that there was an open retail spot, right in front of where this car was idling. So they *could* have pulled in there for a moment.

Finally the back door of the cupcakery next door to the shop opened and a young man exited carrying two trays of cupcakes. He drops one, which causes the woman behind him to freak out. Before I can say "hey I need to leave" they scamper back inside. I ring their back bell and a few long moments later he comes back out with the cupcakes.

"Yeah yeah I'm moving my car." That's it. No apology. So I said "Thanks, because no one can get out of the lot." He replies "Yup, I know." With an attitude. He gets into his car and PULLS INTO THE OPEN SPOT.

I decide not to push it and get out while I can, but this was two days ago and I'm still stewing about it. Especially because parking issues at my work are a weekly, if not daily thing. Last year I parked in a retail spot, and I needed to leave early for something, I can't remember what. A minivan had parked so far over the line that I couldn't get the driver's door open enough to squeeze through. The person who parked beside me couldn't take the five seconds to walk behind her car to check to see if I was able to get inside my vehicle.

I do not understand this. Last time I checked, everyone is a human being and everyone has feelings. Take 30 seconds out of your day to think about the ripple effect. What choices, however small, are affecting the people around you. Did you leave enough room so a person can get into their car? Did you apologize when you made a mistake? Did you walk on the right side of the sidewalk so the people coming the opposite direction can walk by you without dodging? Were you pleasant to your barista or if you *are* the barista were you pleasant to your customer? Do you blame the seller of an item you want because the shipping service fails? Because, people, once the item is shipped I have no control over it. It's quite literally out of my hands.

Just remember that everyone you interact with, regardless of whether you can see them or touch them or hear their voice, is a person. Every one of us has a different story and a different life philosophy but we all deserve consideration, kindness and respect. Use your sphere of influence to brighten someone's day, not darken it.

Lastly, be honest with people. Honesty might not make you friends, but people respect it. I'm a straight shooter, people. If you want my opinion and you ask for it, I'm going to tell you. If you don't ask for it, and I don't think you'll like what I have to say, I will keep it to myself. I'm not out to stir the pot. I expect honesty in return. I'm pretty good at figuring it out. I can smell bullsh*t from miles away. (Particularly when a customer is making some excuse as to why we screwed them over when we know we didn't. It's why I refuse to work in the showroom.)

Lastly, here is something that is small, but truly, truly important. Learn people's names. I don't just mean know what someone's name is. I mean make an effort to pronounce their way in the way THEY pronounce it. It's a sign of respect. If you don't know how someone likes their name pronounced, ASK THEM. I have one of those first names that can be pronounced 3 ways, but I am very particular about the one I prefer. It's always wonderful when people pronounce my name correctly. (In fact, one of the best ways for me to tell if I'm getting a spam call or not is how badly they butcher my name!) I am Andrea. ANN-dree-uh. Not AHN-dree-uh and most definitely not Ahn-DRAY-uh. I'm not Drea or Ang and definitely not Andy. I am very occasionally Dre, but only maybe 3 people in the world are allowed to call me that. And my name is beautiful to me when it's said (whispered) correctly.

SIDE STORY: This is a 9/11 story. I had a very close friend in middle school and high school. She is half-Pakistani, but born and raised here in NJ and American as all get-out. Her name is Anisah, pronounced much like it's spelled, A-KNEE-sah. Easy, right? In the seven years we were in school together, I heard every variation of her name. It seemed no one could get it right. In high school, Anisah got more in touch with religion, and studied Islam. She was discovering her father's culture and exploring her faith. She went to college in Washington DC and began wearing a hijab. Then 9/11 hit. My dear, sweet, beautiful friend was forced to hide in her dorm for two weeks with dozens of other Muslim women. Going out on the street meant having ROCKS thrown at them, slurs hurled their way or sometimes even being attacked. In one day these women went from being regular college student to being the enemy. Why? Ignorance. The inability or unwillingness to learn enough about another person to not judge them because of their culture, their looks, their clothes. Their WEIGHT. Not judging is hard, I'm pretty sure that judging is so ingrained in us because of an ancient need of survival. But this isn't the same world. And if we make the EFFORT, and use EMPATHY, then maybe things like this won't happen anymore. END SIDE STORY.

I told a friend that I'm not trying to make the world a better place, that I love it just the way it is. I DO love it the way it is, flaws and all. That's what love is, btw. Love isn't thinking someone is flawless, it's loving them in spite of their flaws, of learning to live with them. I am most certainly not perfect by any sense of the word, and I don't expect perfection. But I do think I was wrong on one count. I think I am trying to change the world in my own way. By changing myself first. What is it that Michael Jackson sang? "I'm starting with the man in the mirror."

It's that gosh darned ripple effect again, people. I see it all around me every day. I made it my goal to lose weight three years ago. My husband has lost almost 50 lbs just because my habits are healthier. My bestie has lost almost 20 lbs. Her husband has lost more than 50. The ripple is spreading. I didn't set out to get them healthier. You can't make someone get healthier no matter how hard you try (Miss you, Dad), but you can be a good role model.

No matter how tiny and insignificant you think your life is, what you do affects other people. It could be in a big way. But often it's a tiny spark illuminating the darkness, starting a fire inside them, like the founder of SparkPeople, Chris Downie. What a tiny an insignificant thing, wanting to help other people be better. And look at it now. Look at all of you, out there working to better yourselves. You are all amazing. You can do this.

Start with YOU.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KOHINOOR2 9/26/2014 9:50PM

    Excellent blog. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AKPIPER 9/26/2014 6:31AM

    Very well said emoticon

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_MOBII_ 9/25/2014 9:04PM

    Ok, first things first...what a jerkface! I HATE when people are like this! I work at a kid's theme park and we get people like this ALL THE TIME!

I know people get cranky for a myriad of reasons, but you know what? When I am cranky, I generally try to keep to myself and not make other people miserable (mostly, lol!)

And I totally agree with you on names. I HATE when most people call me tray or trace....there are a very few select people who can get away with it....mostly family, a couple of people I grew up with, and about 3 of my friends.
Names are important to me, I always call someone by the name that they introduce themselves as....and if I cannot pronounce it, I will try my best!

It still amazes me when someone asks for help or sort of follows what I do. I love sparking others whether I am used to it or not! I don't really know if I will ever get used to it, I just try not to think too much about it, but will always forewarn people that if they get me started on the subject...I may not ever shut up about it!

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LIVEDAILY 9/25/2014 7:54PM

    It's The Golden Rule: Treat others as you would like to be treated.

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NETGYRL 9/25/2014 3:38PM

    Amen to your post. Don't let the bastards get you down.

and that video posted by NUTSNUTSGETEM -- Hilarious!

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CATTUTT 9/25/2014 1:26PM

    Well first of all, I'm glad I"ve been pronouncing your name correctly. So woo hoo!

Second of all, I know what you mean. Respect is not so common anymore. Many people are ignorant by choice, which is one of the most depressing choices someone can make.

This was a great blog, and thank you for sharing it!

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WISHICOULDFLY 9/25/2014 12:56PM

    ANN-dree-uh, emoticon sometimes you just need to vent. Sometimes people are NOT considerate, but sometimes there are horrible things going on in their lives and they might be kind most of the time...that's my delusion and I am hanging onto it. HAHAHA. May you be blessed with adequate parking the rest of the month. emoticon

WAIT! Make that SUPREME parking! emoticon

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HOPEFULHIPPO 9/25/2014 12:42PM

    wowza! Long blog, long comments. I'll keep mine short and sweet for ya...

How's this?



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HONEYBEESBLISS 9/25/2014 11:25AM

    I totally am with you! We all can be simply considerate and not totally self absorbed and that little tiny thing would help a ton!
Also I have a cousin named Andrea so I've said your name correctly from the start!! HAHA ;-) LOL But ya I like to say people's names correctly too and I HATE my name being turned into a nickname! I am Melissa (Muh-liss-uh) not Missy and not Mel!!! LOL The only way I don't mind is an accent like my MIL saying Muh-Lisa or May-Lisa, I love that and it's cute and she makes the ssss longer too! Another thing is I really appreciate correct spelling of names as much as possible but understanding not everyone is going to know how to spell it at first, that's okay, but if you know me for a longer period of time...please learn to spell it right eventually! LOL My husband's name is harder for people since it's Gerard, we get a lot of Jarad, Gerald, etc. but it's jer-ar-d. And our last name just get's butchered constantly...used to that but again if you know us for so should learn to say it right eventually!!! LOL
And I agree Love doesn't try to fix people, it loves them as is. But we can change ourselves (in good healthy ways) because we love like being more considerate and so on, and we can choose to do loving things for others. And it does have a ripple effect! I've also seen a lot of healthy rippling among my facebook friends and family, and my husband also lost a bit of weight too.
LOL and now my comment is long!!! HAHA
OH and that's so super sad it made me tear up about your friend that had to hide after 9-11!!!! UHGGHHH How can people be so ignorant! I truly wonder that a lot about a lot of things.
At least I can see that there are also people in the world trying to do what's right and good. I love Kid President, so cute, and I love how he spreads encouragement to be kind and do things that make other peoples lives around you better! Small or large, it all counts.

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ARRREAGLES 9/25/2014 11:21AM

    I thank you. Simply put, I thank you. Your view on life is what makes me stay around. That you can look at yourself in the mirror and see the flaws not as a hindrance, but an opportunity. That you give everyone a fair shake. That you're willing to put the real you out there. That you care.

That you care. It's beautiful.

And so, on days when you're down, remember that you yourself are the spark in many people's lives (mine included) and that you do make a difference, and that in return, we share our flames to light the darkness.

And if necessary, to march over there and pick up the damn car in the way, place it gently on the sidewalk, and then slap the damn cupcake tray down on the dude who treats you like trash. We are the ANN-dree-ah Army, and we take no prisoners.
(sorry. too militant?)

Let your little light shine, sweets, and let it all out. We who follow and are inspired, will listen with open ears and take the lesson. Trust me, I'm going to seek out a barista right now just to be nice to them.

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    Uhg. So I have an acquaintance who is German. Her parents are middle-eastern (I have no idea which country) and her last name sounds very middle-eastern in origin. The first time she came back to the U.S. after 9/11 she was detained in our airport by airport security for something like three hours. I heard about it through a mutual friend that was supposed to pick her up. All these years later it still makes me angry just thinking about it.

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FINCHFEEDER80 9/25/2014 9:16AM

    So to get the ugly out of the way first, I would have been foaming at the mouth over the parking lot incident. The apartment complex we just moved out of had a massive parking issue, so jerkwads in parking lots are definitely still a sore spot with me.

I love what you had to say about showing other people kindness and empathy. I have my moments where I get ugly or thoughtless or petty but as a general rule I try to go into any situation with an open mind and understanding. I keep an open mind and give people the benefit of the doubt. I drive people nuts because I'm always playing the devil's advocate and trying to see another reason behind someone's actions besides just jumping to the most negative conclusion. I fully believe in trying to leave the world a better place than I found it, even just the little piece of it that I exist in.

I hope that you get to feeling better today, and I'm sending you a hug and my thoughts for a pleasant day. Good luck in your parking lot adventures today!

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NUTSNUTSGETEM 9/25/2014 8:30AM

    COME ON! I can't believe you missed it! HE DROPPED A TRAY OF CUPCAKES! (And he has to deal with a woman that freaks out over dropping a tray of cupcakes). Yes, he continued to be a d-bag after that (sorry for using that, but my neck hairs were up when I read what he had done), so he still has some karma issues coming his way, but YOU DON'T HAVE TO STEW OVER IT ANYMORE - He got his due with the dropped tray. Rest easy Andy! (Just joking Andrea.)

Here you are talking about being nice, and I am happy the guy dropped the cupcakes. I need to be a better person.

Back to your name - you've probably seen this, but just in case -

Have a good day.

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FOR_THE_DUDES 9/25/2014 7:44AM

    Wonderful, terrific, amazing blog. Loved it all.

My wife had gone out on a couple of dates with a Muslim guy leading up to 9/11. (This was a few months before she and I met.) On Sept 12, 2001, her coworkers asked her how it was going with the guy. She told them, "Okay I guess, I haven't talked to him for a few days." Her coworkers called the FBI and reported the guy for this! The feds showed up at my wife's apartment early the next morning and questioned her. The questioned the guy too. Absolutely mortifying. He never spoke to her again (which I'm actually kind of thankful for). What makes matters worse is that my wife worked for the Epilepsy Foundation at the time. People with epilepsy suffer severe discrimination, and here her coworkers were acting no better. She quit the job over the incident with a pretty epic resignation letter.

Also, based on this blog, I have a book recommendation---"The Age of Empathy." It is about animal instinct. It looks to zoology and counters the notion that we are naturally out for ourselves. I thought the book was a little didactic and a little repetitive, but overall pretty interesting.

Again, thanks for the lovely blog. And I applaud your patience in dealing with that schmuck who blocked you in the parking lot.

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