Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Every single day, we make decisions.
Some, of course, are easier than others.
Some need to be weighed with pros and cons.
Ultimately we live with those decisions - and the repercussions can either be short lived or long term.... but decisions are what we do everyday, nonetheless.
Not everyone is always going to be happy with the decisions we make all the time, but sometimes, in a pinch, they have to be made, whether you want to make them or not...and we use the knowledge that we have on hand to weigh them with full understanding that not everything is set in concrete because life, let's face it, is a very fluid thing.
How we deal with those decisions after they are made is another beast unto itself...
Sometimes, there is peace.....
Sometimes, there is inner turmoil and doubt....
Sometimes, the inner turmoil is just anxiousness of answering to a higher power - of a judgment that might come.... because despite what we think, someone is always there to judge you...and the judge might even be yourself.
Sometimes, self-doubt in the decision process can be crippling and something that needs to be overcome, because an excuse is the easiest way out... but who is the one paying the price, ultimately?
Learning to live with decisions is a learned practice... it takes strength and determination...and at times, a thick skin to be developed to deal with any aftermath that might be the result. The thick skin will eventually be wrinkled and tough...with slight weak spots here and there, just because nothing is concrete...and we are all human and no one is perfect.
The weak spots are what make us have flexibility too...and heart and compassion, empathy and sympathy.... they are what let us feel and make better decisions for the good of all...including ourselves.
Sunday, March 23, 2014
Well holy cow...the last time I blogged was about a rough patch and that was at the beginning of MARCH! 2+ weeks has flown by and with that, the rough patch too, as life always proves, that this too shall pass.....and things are all status quo here in my world: spring sports start today for the kids, projects are needing to be started for the yard and such, tax season is here upon us and that brings a whole other set of fun! Basically as a family, we are booked solid with weekend activities from here on out!
And that is a good thing....winter finally goes away and spring bring us back outside, into nature, where we can breathe once again! I love it!
The garden, the walks, the increase movement, the tv turned off, the bbq fired up again....and FOOD changes too! Bring on the fresh stuff! The melons, the pineapples, the grapes, the strewberries, the cucumbers, the salads!!! YAAAAAAAY!!!!
The blue skies alone make me smile after a long, cold, hard winter. Sure, the breeze can stil blow cool, but just shedding the coat for the ride to and from work is a spirit lifter in and of itself!!
Spring cleaning is also a great thing to do...to CHUCK and TOSS the clothes that I thought were going to work in the winter, but didn't.... to buy some NEW stuff for spring that is light and airy! To break out the spring Easter decorations and clean off my desk full of papers that have been just SITTING there for months "just in case" I needed to reference them.... goodbye and good riddance to those!
As you can see...I am in a "new is good" mode. Change is welcome and needed sometimes...the more positive the better, although sometimes, the negative change will bring about a positive eventually (I am a glass half-full kinda girl) in the end...and over time.
That's about it for today's ramble....I am still here, still pluggin along like the rest of you... just glad that the winter has finally ended!!!
Bring on the SpRiNg!!!
Wednesday, March 05, 2014
and I will not lie....I even read my last blog about "who takes care of you" and it just goes to show that nobody is perfect when it comes to that.
This week has been a rough one (and it's only Wednesday)... emotionally draining too. Goes to show how much you are affected by outside energy because you actually care about people, even if they really don't give a hoot about you...or even like you.
Meh...moving on. It's all part of the game, I guess.
Anyway - yesterday was a "didn't get to eat lunch at all" day...and towards the end of the day...I almost passed out. No joke. My coworker looked at me and was like "you've got to be kidding right?" as I stopped everything and shoved an orange into my face like my life depended on it. And while on the run, I shoved another in.
Well, on the way home, my bag of chips from lunch was gone by the time I hit the main highway....and then I got home, consumed a glass of wine with a mishmash dinner and was ready to pass out from exhaustion...but alas, a meeting was being held at my house. From which I excused myself to babysit all of the children in my family room. Yes, indeed... a lovely day for sure.
When I see these kinds of days, I try to rethink how I could have done things differently...a complete re-hash of things that are now basically in the past, but some continue on into the future...and then the worrying starts in my head and I lose sleep.
I try to think about happy thoughts, of good things, but sometimes they are elusive. Worry wins.
Which is ironic for this week because the priest at church did his homily about worrying just this past Sunday and I actually paid attention and laughed to myself that this was so about me!!!
And then I look at my health coaching course (which I am 5 weeks behind in btw) and a lot of it has to do with finding joy and self care, movement and eating right...and all good things, but sometimes.......those things can seem very far away when you are in the middle of a rough patch. Right? Sure....totally right.
So what do you do about it?
Well.... hellllllloooooo.... here I am blogging about it! When push comes to shove, sometimes, you have to vent what really is at the root of the matter. I worry. I am a worrier. I care too much I guess....maybe I have to care less in some situations. Kinda hard for a Pisces to do, but I will try ...and not ruin my karma in the meantime.
And here's another thing - WINTER SUCKS! GO AWAY ALREADY!!!!!!!!
I absolutely - positively - cannot stand being trapped in buildings!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
I hate that my basement is a meatlocker and I cannot exercise like normal.
Is this an excuse - sorta kinda....but now that I want to exercise - I am so cold all the time, the last thing I want to do is exercise in my meatlocker basement!!!
I want sun.
I want warmth.
I was a warm breeze.
I want green grass and birds.
I want to put away the shovels and winter gear.
I want to take a walk with my kids after dinner.
I want to not have to keep the heat just above artic in my house in order to get warm because heating costs so much!
All in due time....right? Right.
For some reason...it feels like Groundhog day - the movie.... where the day repeats over and over and over again.
OK - hopefully this rough patch ends with this beeotch blog of mine.
Thanks for listening Sparkfriends!!
As Disney World employee's say: "Have a magical day!"
Saturday, February 15, 2014
Seriously. Who does? Who ultimately does?
Your kids (if you have) - rely on you.
Your significant other (if you have one) - supports you in that effort (at least that is what they SHOULD do, right?)
So it really, ultimately, falls onto YOU.
Yeah....deep stuff, huh?
And that is where we get overwhelmed with... well... everything! Geez, when we think about it that way, let's just crawl back into bed and hide!
But let's break this down to the simplest form...into baby steps, if you will.
1) Intake - what we bring into our bodies is important! Water, whole grains, veggies, suffient protein, vitamins, minerals --- all play an important part on how our bodies work at their peak. So if things are lacking there....we have the power to change that one step at a time.
2) Output - Move much? Probably not enough really, especially in the winter months. This part is easier said than done, but any movement is better than none...something to build up over time...in baby steps. 10 minutes a day. Go for it. Spring is coming - think about a daily walk - yay! Heck....turn the radio up and dance! It will bring a smile to your face...guaranteed!
3) Self-care - Get out of bed, make the bed (it will make a difference if you don't - mini-psychology at work going on here - if you don't think it makes a difference in your day, try it out) - shower it up and put effort into that process: nice smelling shampoo & conditioner, scrub the dead skin off (stimulates the skin and underlying lymphatic system btw - all good things to get moving)... buy new good smelling deodorant, experiment with the hair (& makeup for the ladies). You can go even further with mani/pedi, spa day stuff, but this is really just for the day to day right now. When looking in the mirror...look at your eyes and say how pretty they are out loud! Because they are.
4) Learn how to breathe. Stress stinks - comes from out of the blue at times too. Overwhelm of day to day, not having a good day (the morning was not as calm as it was and sent you into a tizzy - been there, done that). We have to learn to breathe more. Turn off the phone...the web will still be there in 10 minutes when you are done breathing. Turn off the world (ie phone) when you are driving and breathe while listening to your favorite tunes or while sitting in traffic.
The four things above are a day to day things that I think about and actually do, every... single...day. It took time to get there, but eventually, it became a routine.
Things that are just as important are family - friends - relationships; spirit; career - but the day to day tackling of the above four are where and how it should start....with you.
You ultimately take care of you.
You are one hell of a beautiful thing to behold.
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