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Living with decisions

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Every single day, we make decisions.

Some, of course, are easier than others.

Some need to be weighed with pros and cons.

Ultimately we live with those decisions - and the repercussions can either be short lived or long term.... but decisions are what we do everyday, nonetheless.

Not everyone is always going to be happy with the decisions we make all the time, but sometimes, in a pinch, they have to be made, whether you want to make them or not...and we use the knowledge that we have on hand to weigh them with full understanding that not everything is set in concrete because life, let's face it, is a very fluid thing.

How we deal with those decisions after they are made is another beast unto itself...

Sometimes, there is peace.....

Sometimes, there is inner turmoil and doubt....

Sometimes, the inner turmoil is just anxiousness of answering to a higher power - of a judgment that might come.... because despite what we think, someone is always there to judge you...and the judge might even be yourself.

Sometimes, self-doubt in the decision process can be crippling and something that needs to be overcome, because an excuse is the easiest way out... but who is the one paying the price, ultimately?

Learning to live with decisions is a learned practice... it takes strength and determination...and at times, a thick skin to be developed to deal with any aftermath that might be the result. The thick skin will eventually be wrinkled and tough...with slight weak spots here and there, just because nothing is concrete...and we are all human and no one is perfect.

The weak spots are what make us have flexibility too...and heart and compassion, empathy and sympathy.... they are what let us feel and make better decisions for the good of all...including ourselves.

  
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KANOE10 3/25/2014 8:49AM

    That was well said. We are constantly making decisions and dealing with the results and the reactions. It is a learning process to develop strength and a thick skin to deal with reactions. Right now I am visiting my son while my husband is staying at home. This is my vacation time, but not his. He is not overjoyed with my decision, but I know it was a good one for my son and I.

Those weak spots due teach us compassion and flexibility.

I love your analogy with the thick skin..being wrinkled and tough..and having weak spots.
Thanks for a thoughtful blog this am.


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Time flies by...

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Well holy cow...the last time I blogged was about a rough patch and that was at the beginning of MARCH! 2+ weeks has flown by and with that, the rough patch too, as life always proves, that this too shall pass.....and things are all status quo here in my world: spring sports start today for the kids, projects are needing to be started for the yard and such, tax season is here upon us and that brings a whole other set of fun! Basically as a family, we are booked solid with weekend activities from here on out!

And that is a good thing....winter finally goes away and spring bring us back outside, into nature, where we can breathe once again! I love it!

The garden, the walks, the increase movement, the tv turned off, the bbq fired up again....and FOOD changes too! Bring on the fresh stuff! The melons, the pineapples, the grapes, the strewberries, the cucumbers, the salads!!! YAAAAAAAY!!!!

The blue skies alone make me smile after a long, cold, hard winter. Sure, the breeze can stil blow cool, but just shedding the coat for the ride to and from work is a spirit lifter in and of itself!!

Spring cleaning is also a great thing to do...to CHUCK and TOSS the clothes that I thought were going to work in the winter, but didn't.... to buy some NEW stuff for spring that is light and airy! To break out the spring Easter decorations and clean off my desk full of papers that have been just SITTING there for months "just in case" I needed to reference them.... goodbye and good riddance to those!

As you can see...I am in a "new is good" mode. Change is welcome and needed sometimes...the more positive the better, although sometimes, the negative change will bring about a positive eventually (I am a glass half-full kinda girl) in the end...and over time.

That's about it for today's ramble....I am still here, still pluggin along like the rest of you... just glad that the winter has finally ended!!!

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DAPPLE3 3/24/2014 5:47AM

    Ditto on everything you wrote!! Bring on Spring and the changes that come with it! emoticon

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    emoticon emoticon I'm so happy that Spring is here, we will still have a few more cool days but Spring is here!!! emoticon emoticon

Sounds like you have some busy weeks/weekends coming up. Now that my girls are grown, I sometimes miss running off to the ball fields to watch them play. Enjoy those moments as they do fly by!

I'm going to do some closet cleaning myself!! It does feel good to get rid of things we don't use or need.

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KANOE10 3/23/2014 9:58AM

    I am so ready fro Spring also. It is a great time to de-clutter and to get rid of clothes that I did not wear all winter. I am also ready for the produce! It is still too cold to plant our garden. I love seeing the blue skies and sun again..even if it is for awhile. Enjoy the Spring sports with your kids..but of course you will be busy. I am putting up Easter decorations in my room this week. Too fun.

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Rough patch

Wednesday, March 05, 2014

and I will not lie....I even read my last blog about "who takes care of you" and it just goes to show that nobody is perfect when it comes to that.

This week has been a rough one (and it's only Wednesday)... emotionally draining too. Goes to show how much you are affected by outside energy because you actually care about people, even if they really don't give a hoot about you...or even like you.

emoticon Meh...moving on. It's all part of the game, I guess.

Anyway - yesterday was a "didn't get to eat lunch at all" day...and towards the end of the day...I almost passed out. No joke. My coworker looked at me and was like "you've got to be kidding right?" as I stopped everything and shoved an orange into my face like my life depended on it. And while on the run, I shoved another in.

Well, on the way home, my bag of chips from lunch was gone by the time I hit the main highway....and then I got home, consumed a glass of wine with a mishmash dinner and was ready to pass out from exhaustion...but alas, a meeting was being held at my house. From which I excused myself to babysit all of the children in my family room. Yes, indeed... a lovely day for sure.

When I see these kinds of days, I try to rethink how I could have done things differently...a complete re-hash of things that are now basically in the past, but some continue on into the future...and then the worrying starts in my head and I lose sleep.

I try to think about happy thoughts, of good things, but sometimes they are elusive. Worry wins.

Which is ironic for this week because the priest at church did his homily about worrying just this past Sunday and I actually paid attention and laughed to myself that this was so about me!!!

And then I look at my health coaching course (which I am 5 weeks behind in btw) and a lot of it has to do with finding joy and self care, movement and eating right...and all good things, but sometimes.......those things can seem very far away when you are in the middle of a rough patch. Right? Sure....totally right.

So what do you do about it?

Well.... hellllllloooooo.... here I am blogging about it! When push comes to shove, sometimes, you have to vent what really is at the root of the matter. I worry. I am a worrier. I care too much I guess....maybe I have to care less in some situations. Kinda hard for a Pisces to do, but I will try ...and not ruin my karma in the meantime.

And here's another thing - WINTER SUCKS! GO AWAY ALREADY!!!!!!!!

I absolutely - positively - cannot stand being trapped in buildings!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

I hate that my basement is a meatlocker and I cannot exercise like normal.

Is this an excuse - sorta kinda....but now that I want to exercise - I am so cold all the time, the last thing I want to do is exercise in my meatlocker basement!!!

I want sun.
I want warmth.
I was a warm breeze.
I want green grass and birds.
I want to put away the shovels and winter gear.
I want to take a walk with my kids after dinner.
I want to not have to keep the heat just above artic in my house in order to get warm because heating costs so much!

All in due time....right? Right.

For some reason...it feels like Groundhog day - the movie.... where the day repeats over and over and over again.

OK - hopefully this rough patch ends with this beeotch blog of mine.
Thanks for listening Sparkfriends!!


As Disney World employee's say: "Have a magical day!"

  
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DAPPLE3 3/6/2014 5:53AM

    Everytime I read one of your blogs, I smile at how accurate and genuine you are. You may think that things are rough but you don't realize how bright and cheerful you help others with your whit (sp?)and humour!. The fact that you can voice how we all feel and still keep us (and yourself) smiling is a true testament to your good nature and loving way.

Way to go ANNIE... Once again you have managed to keep me going another step, another day ..... my rough patch just came to an end too..... Thanks for continuing to share your thoughts :)
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ANNIEONLI 3/5/2014 9:19PM

    Thanks Sparkfriends!!!!! Love you guys!

I have to honestly say that SUNSHINE!! emoticon emoticon came in the way of a nice quiet smooth day that ended with a sushi dinner with my BFF.... totally what the doctor ordered!!! Thanks Universe!!! I needed that!

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IAMLION 3/5/2014 3:18PM

    emoticon You are having a rough patch indeed! I know I complain about the cold but y'all really have it rough!! Hang in there girlie!!! emoticon

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    Magical is SO the kind of day I need!
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KANOE10 3/5/2014 8:14AM

    I am the same way. I am tired of exercising in my basement and want to be outside. I am also tired of the cold and dark days. I hope Spring comes soon for all of us.

Rough Patches are simply hard. I tend to be a worrier also..especially about my kids. You are right that all of our positive tools of self care and joy can seem far away during these periods.

I hope you find the sunshine in your life again and have a better day today.

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NEW_PARADIGM 3/5/2014 7:40AM

    So there, too. It so totally helps to get air around things to put them in proportion and be able to move on. You Rock!

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  I can so relate. Hurry up spring!

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Who takes care of you?

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Seriously. Who does? Who ultimately does?

You....that's who.

Your kids (if you have) - rely on you.

Your significant other (if you have one) - supports you in that effort (at least that is what they SHOULD do, right?)

So it really, ultimately, falls onto YOU.

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Yeah....deep stuff, huh?

And that is where we get overwhelmed with... well... everything! Geez, when we think about it that way, let's just crawl back into bed and hide!

But let's break this down to the simplest form...into baby steps, if you will.

1) Intake - what we bring into our bodies is important! Water, whole grains, veggies, suffient protein, vitamins, minerals --- all play an important part on how our bodies work at their peak. So if things are lacking there....we have the power to change that one step at a time.

2) Output - Move much? Probably not enough really, especially in the winter months. This part is easier said than done, but any movement is better than none...something to build up over time...in baby steps. 10 minutes a day. Go for it. Spring is coming - think about a daily walk - yay! Heck....turn the radio up and dance! It will bring a smile to your face...guaranteed!

3) Self-care - Get out of bed, make the bed (it will make a difference if you don't - mini-psychology at work going on here - if you don't think it makes a difference in your day, try it out) - shower it up and put effort into that process: nice smelling shampoo & conditioner, scrub the dead skin off (stimulates the skin and underlying lymphatic system btw - all good things to get moving)... buy new good smelling deodorant, experiment with the hair (& makeup for the ladies). You can go even further with mani/pedi, spa day stuff, but this is really just for the day to day right now. When looking in the mirror...look at your eyes and say how pretty they are out loud! Because they are. emoticon

4) Learn how to breathe. Stress stinks - comes from out of the blue at times too. Overwhelm of day to day, not having a good day (the morning was not as calm as it was and sent you into a tizzy - been there, done that). We have to learn to breathe more. Turn off the phone...the web will still be there in 10 minutes when you are done breathing. Turn off the world (ie phone) when you are driving and breathe while listening to your favorite tunes or while sitting in traffic.

The four things above are a day to day things that I think about and actually do, every... single...day. It took time to get there, but eventually, it became a routine.

Things that are just as important are family - friends - relationships; spirit; career - but the day to day tackling of the above four are where and how it should start....with you.

You ultimately take care of you.

Honor it.

Treasure it.

You are one hell of a beautiful thing to behold.

  
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NUOVAELLE 2/15/2014 10:15AM

    Ok now, seriously, you have to confess... How on earth did you manage to read my mind today and reply on all those things that I've been secretly thinking of???
Thank you so much, Annie! I really needed to read this.
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KANOE10 2/15/2014 9:27AM

    That was a great uplifiting blog. I need to work on the breathing. I tried a yoga tape and realized I do not do enough deep breathing.

Thanks for positive tools for today!

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KELLIEBEAN 2/15/2014 9:11AM

    I am with you on all of those points. I see my parents' declining health and it pushes me to take better care of myself because I want to take care of me for as many years as I can!

I have gotten better at the deep breathing in times of stress. Just did it last night as a matter of fact. It does make a difference!

Great blog!

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HEALTH4LYFE 2/15/2014 7:01AM

    Great blog. So simple and so true!


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2008 was when it all began...

Friday, February 07, 2014

Indeed....2008 was when I cut off my long, curly hair at the salon... it was when I looked in the mirror and said "Enough is enough - you deserve to treat yourself better than this." and that was the day I joined Sparkpeople and have been here ever since.

My stats are on my page....I won't ever take them off.
187 start weight - Feb 7, 2008
150 - goal weight - achieved 6 months later and maintained for a year. Nov 2008.
140 - achieved after I got to know the new me in the 150s and fell off track and then kickstarted myself into tracking nutrition and exercise again to stay on point. Maintained that for another year....get used to another "new me:
130s - achieved after the 140s maintenance run....again, not expected or anticipated...but I have been in the 130-135 range ever since.

Today I am at 130.

I tried on my "Maintenance" dress today too....fits like a glove, 2 years later...I wish I could wear it out, but it's a floor length navy bridesmaid gown...not work appropriate. emoticon

Was thinking about how to celebrate it today - the first thought was to get something sweet at Panera Bread before work, and then I immediately smashed that idea because I really don't like sweets anymore.

So instead I am here to say THANK YOU to Sparkpeople. For being a great site for people to congregate and commiserate, support and cheer, and for keeping it free for so many to use the tools on here to work towards a healthier lifestyle.

And really - that is what it should be about - a healthy overall lifestyle - good food, good family, good friends (relatioships matter), good spirituality, good work (work or volunteer - something has to be positive). All these things matter to have a healthy lifestyle - Spark even gives us the articles to read and absorb...if you haven't delved into those archives - I encourage you to start reading an article a night.

If you make the small changes you need to, the weight that is bugging you WILL eventually come off. It just takes time, patience, reevaluating constantly, trying new things, omitting old things, and tracking and logging your journey as you go along. Patience and persistence and positivity.....all hard things to learn, but achievable in small baby steps.

Probably the most important. SEEING is believing...and when you SEE in black and white the calories in and out, emotions in and out... you can reevaluated easier than just thinking about it in your head.

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I really don't know where I would be today with out all of you guys.

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Holy Cow!!! Reading all of these comments is amazing!!
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Truly...I consider it an honor to be in contact with such amazing and supportive people!! With support like this, anything is possible!! Reach out and grab it!
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MARYJEANSL 2/10/2014 10:56PM

  Wow! You have done so amazingly well - thank you for setting such a good example.

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    Congratulations on all your successes!

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    Well done! Congrats!! Enjoy!!

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    A wonderful story

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NUOVAELLE 2/9/2014 2:52AM

    If I could vote you for a spark motivator again, I would do it a thousand times! You've always been one of my best motivators and your continued success has always inspired me throughout my journey.
Happy Sparkversary, Annie!
And keep on Sparking!
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    AWESOME BLOG. THANK YOU FOR SHARING. YOU GO GIRL AND ENJOY YOUR JOURNEY.

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  How amazing you are! :-)

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  Happy Birthday!! What a wonderful way to celebrate your success!!

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  good blog

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    Thank you for your positive post!! You inspire the rest of us to look forward to those delightful maintenance days!!!

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    Great testimony. Thanks for sharing.

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  Congratulations on a very successful SPARK experience!

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WATERDIAMONDS 2/8/2014 6:00AM

    Well said and much appreciated. And thank you for your example of how to get it done.



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NOTTINGHAMKATE 2/8/2014 4:59AM

    Sod it, wear the dress! Even if it's only to sit on your sofa and drink a tea or coffee. Although I guess the feeling of knowing that you could wear the dress is probably an amazing feeling too. Enjoy the effects of all that hard work, you deserve to.

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TINAJANE76 2/7/2014 6:41PM

    Love your blog and love having wonderful people like you in our community of maintainers not only to provide everyone with much-needed maintenance support but also to show people who are just starting out how it can be done and stuck with long term.

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