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Research study - Something interesting

Sunday, November 02, 2008

I read an MSN article about what men find attractive about females this morning and had to post this because it is just too good not to share!

When You Don't Starve Yourself
Something to celebrate: real proof that guys don't wish we all looked like runway models. Researchers at the University of Texas at Austin showed men from twenty-somethings to octogenarians several line drawings of female body types. When they were asked to pick the most attractive, their across-the-board first choice was (sorry to annoy all you naturally waif-y types!) the curvy, medium-weight figure. To Devendra Singh, the psychologist who ran the study, these findings jibed with the basic tenet of evolutionary psychology: We are driven by ancient instincts to survive and reproduce. Subconsciously, men know that our curves signal health, youth and fertility. They're worth keeping!

I love that stuff!! Great feel good shows to watch too - How to Look Good Naked and What Not To Wear. Nothing like keeping this in perspective!!

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VANESSAANN83 11/3/2008 6:00AM

    VERY cool. I posted a blog about this long ago, with the actual picture of the women to chose from. I hope you got to see the picture, because the medium sized girl IS the most attractive...and that's quite an eye opener. Thanks!!

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IAMLION 11/2/2008 2:54PM

    My husband told me that's the first thing he noticed about me, my curves! When I gained weight after we got married and then started to diet and exercise he told me to make sure I didn't lose my butt (as if that would ever happen! Even at my smallest 120 lbs. my badonkadonk was still there!)
Thanks for sharing that article!! Helped make my day!

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OAKBORN 11/2/2008 2:27PM

    Great post! It jives with what my DH always says... "Models look like boys with peaches in their pockets."

Funny story: One time when he was in Chicago, the hotel he was staying at had a teen model convention and he REALLY wanted to go to the local McDonald's and buy a bunch of gift certificates and hand them out and tell them to go get something to eat.

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SHADOWPUP 11/2/2008 12:34PM

    Certainly a nice contrast to what we usually read about models! Thanks for sharing :)

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LADY_DONKEY 11/2/2008 7:48AM

    Yes, but what do women think of other women? To me, that is more important than what men find attractive. I would rather be envied by women than admired by men. Hmm, now there's a quote!

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Happy Frickin' Halloween - a holiday vent

Friday, October 31, 2008

If I could choose my costume to match my mental state right at this moment, it would be Scrooge.

Happy go lucky, busy with my world and then....duh duh duh (insert evil music here) my Dh talks to his parents about Halloween. It's not just Halloween, it could be Arbor day and there is going to be drama. Pick a holiday, any holiday - I dare you. There's a very long story here...which, unfortunately, I will not share because it is WAAAAY to complicated, confusing etc. etc. Writing it will probably get more confusing without having additional diagrams to demonstrate the mother in-law's mental baggage.

One day, I am going to explode my pent up opinions all over everyone who has pissed me off over the last ten years. I can feel it brewing up inside of me like a volcano. I feel like I want to hold a board meeting like you see on TV and go through each person and set them straight, one at a time. They are all linked together in their stupidity and selfishness, self-loathing and martyring behavior. They are all right, everyone else is completely wrong. Individually righteous. Individually stupid in my God honest opinion.

You might shoot back at me and say, "Well honey, you're being just like them." I can honestly say, without any pretense that I am not. I'm the one who keeps her head down and listens to the stupidity and watches it all go down in a ball of flames. I live my life and stay out of theirs. I'm the giver, the nurturer, the hearth tender, the steady one who is constant and sane...there for whomever wants to have sanity in their lives if they recognize and acknowledge that that is who I am. Some do, others not so much. Sounds saintly, huh? LMAO yeah right. Try more centered and content, that's all. Just stuck in the middle of drama and a little pissed off that that is where I am always put.

Boy that feels better. Don't you just love it when things are going fine and then BOOM CRASH! Drama. Stress. Crap. Family. Stupidity. All flares up at once like a bad haemorrhoid.

My horoscope said today that I'd feel stressed and want to voice my opinion, but to hold off and to let things play out like I usually do. Too funny to read that in the morning when you know things aren't all peachy keen.

Haven't had a b-blog in a while...unfortunately, this is how I keep my sanity and my eating under control. I'm sure we'll have more in the next few months! LOL ROFL!!!!

OK - feeling more myself and I think the costume I'd put on now instead of Scrooge would be....hmmmm....a Witch. Making potions in a cauldron. Waiting pateintly to see how the brew will turn out...

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IAMLION 11/2/2008 2:46PM

    How did the witch costume work out for ya? Hopefully you were able to cast a spell or two on those stressful folks who like to rain on your holiday plans! Hope your feeling better!

emoticon Connie

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OAKBORN 11/2/2008 2:22PM

    Well, I'm having a few thoughts of what you can do for YOU!

1) Go drive some nails (start building a treehouse?) or start cracking whole nuts for christmas cookies. Have you ever had black walnuts? I could send you some and you have to crack them with a HAMMER... thinking of cracking heads while cracking the nuts... hmmm...

2) Walk the treadmill... ALOT... if your little guy will let you put him down! (I read your comment on my blog already!)

3) When you are done getting the fire out of your belly, light a candle or something and write down your stuff and burn the piece of paper... that helps me sometime... along with visualizing the stuff going away.

Take care of you! You have to in order to be the best for you and your loved ones! B-blogging is a good idea too. We out here in SP land are neutral 3rd parties who are just here to support YOU!


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KUNGFOOD 11/2/2008 8:39AM

    I like to take a hand towel, get it wringing wet and slap the bathtub with it until I'm exhausted. It helps to let that volcanic tension to go down the drain. emoticon emoticon

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VANESSAANN83 10/31/2008 12:20PM

    That sounds like my biological family!! I moved, across the country AWAY. Maybe you could consider it?? ;) I was also disowned for a good year ha ha, and now I'm mostly just politely ignored...and it's sweeeeeeeeet. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Good luck!!!

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VALERIE:) 10/31/2008 10:02AM

    Do we have the same in-laws?? Did I write this blog?!

Just a couple of things going through my mind as I read it!

Vent anytime, we are here to listen!!

♥ Valerie

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Magical Maintenance

Friday, October 24, 2008

I'm just going to say that I ROCK at maintenance.

I have to pat myself on the back here, because if I don't, no one will! Well, I take that SP buds will because your awesome!

Whenever I feel like I screwed the proverbial pooch, I seem to come back just fine. I'm calling it Magical Maintenance. Sure, can I workout a little more? Of course! Everyone should know by now that I have always hated to work out - even though I know it's good for me. But some is better than none, and I guess I do enough to maintain well. In my life, sitting down is a luxury...I'm on my feet and moving all day long (not to 3 little kids) much so, that to relax is a stressful thing! Yup - I'm one of those! Last Monday I was on the computer doing emails for scouts for 4 hours and my tailbone was sore! Too funny.

To relax lately - I read my trashy novels. (just discovered these - what can I say - I'm too intellectual for my own good sometimes - I'm learning NOT to be). It plants my butt in one spot and gives me an escape for a half hour during the day. Don't think I don't watch TV shows are back on (Thank god!) and I get to veg out before passing out for the night. DH has football - I have Ugly Betty and Gray's Anatomy...and now they have a new hunk to drool over...h-o-t...HOT!!

But I digress...things are good. Getting back to tracking helped me focus again...talking with my buds helped too...joining a new team...all good things that help. I love SP - thank god I found it when I did. Keeps me centered.

New things I tried this week - I RAN a HALF MILE!!!!!! RAN! first time really. and it felt good! The lunch hour walk is working out very well...skipped Tues because my body/brain was just tired from the weekend and I took a much needed powernap instead. Wed did 45 minutes instead of a half hour...did only 10 minutes on Thursday becuase of time constraints and tons of laundry. Ran up & down 2 flights of stairs all day instead - that counts for something, although hard to calculate on a tracker.

Today is Friday - a babysitting day for my 2 youngest and my nephew. Today is also a stability ball day - breaking it out with the kids and having some fun with it. It'll be something old-something new for them to play with and for me to workout on while they goof around. Finding those opportunities for fitness (for about the 1000th time). Hey - we do what we can - when we can. That is what this journey is all about.

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OAKBORN 10/28/2008 11:30AM

    Hey MaintenancePal!

You ran! How cool is that? Good for you! You will just get better and better as you do it more!!

Run Annie Run! emoticon

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TRECECOOKS 10/27/2008 3:23PM

    "Screw the pooch", huh?!!

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IAMLION 10/25/2008 11:17PM

    emoticon Great job!! And your running too?!? emoticon

I like Greys & Ugly Betty too. Poor me, I also like Survivor and CSI. I try to tape the two I'm not able to watch. Problem is, with Shauna's volley ball going on I have missed all of them the last two weeks. I've only been able to catch up on Survivor by watching it online. And I love trashy novels!! My favorite!

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PUMPKINFACE73 10/24/2008 1:32PM

    Congrats inspire me to get it straight...guess I would never say that I wish i would stop losing..definattely never thought those words would come out of my mouth...hee hee

Way to go on the running...YOU ROCK

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Good to be back "tracking"

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Ahhh....I love life lessons.

"Honey, stop wrestling, someone is going to get hurt."
"Honey, please stop running, you're is going to get hurt."
"Honey, please stop teasing your brother, he's gonna hit you in defense."

.......the outcome, because they never stop when you tell them to, is a life lesson.

Same thing with this whole maintenance/weightloss lessons. You try something, you don't succeed, you try try try again. Never give up. One step back, two steps forward....always.

You'd think you would get sick of the roller coaster, but without the dips, there would be no inclines, and what fun is that? A boring rollercoaster for sure, that's what it is.

I'm back to tracking and did my second day of lunchtime treadmill. I've come to realize that that is the only me time I get with absolutely NO guilt. No kids. No hubby. All me. So for 3 days straight (Tues, Wed, Thurs)...TreadMill Me time and then the rest of the week will be random. That's just how it has to be for now. So far, so good. We'll see how next week will be. I think I've finally found my routine I was looking for. Took long enough!!! LOL

BTW - Thanks for all the support for my crazy month of non-tracking/stressfilled fun. It means a lot and that's what SP is all about. Thanks. Can't say it enough. Thanks.

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BATHMOM 10/21/2008 6:16PM

    Hi, Anne! Great post! I have been taking time off from Sparking, too, and now I'm back, so I relate. It's good to see you again. You're looking great--and I like the new fall look on your SparkPage. emoticon

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OAKBORN 10/19/2008 11:22AM

    Great job girl! You have the tools and you know what to do and you did it!

Maintenance is its own interesting place to be sure. What is working for me is remembering that what got me to Maintenanceville are the things that will keep me here!

What are your boys going to be for Halloween?

emoticon And the tortoise keeps on going!

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Confession time: I'm not perfect...back to the tracker!

Tuesday, October 07, 2008

2 weeks without tracking and being Sparkfree....Sparkless....DeSparked...nice experiment, but I'm not ready to live there right now.

The last 2 weeks opened my eyes to a few things, which I will share with you now....
---I am a stress eater - BIGTIME! Becoming a Den leader to the Tiger Cubs was stressful, and those cookies I made the den didn't stand a chance! I'm embarrassed to say how many I even ate....10??? it was over 2 days, but still....I ate 'em.
--I eat when I it that time...most likely. Add that to stress - not good.
---I had plenty of opportunities to workout, but I had so much stuff to do, I didn't...I opted for increasing my stress levels, when I know damn well that they would have been reduced and my head cleared by working out. I eventually did do that, but that was 8 cookies into the wreck already...oh well, at least I did something - finally.
---I think I gained 2 pounds...again, not surprised.
---I skulk by my scale when I feel upset with myself, like it won't show up, or it doesn't exist if I ignore it....I get on the stupid thing and confirm my guilt...and then I want an emotional pacifier of a cookie...don't worry, I'm not going to do that one. Been there, done that 8 months back.
---I'm not going to beat myself up over this because it just isn't worth it. S&iT happens....

So there you have it. I admit it....I am NOT PERFECT!!!!!! I tried to be Sparkfree, but, at this moment, I cannot. The first week was unintentional and fine, the second week with the new stress, was not so fine.

There is something very freeing saying all this outloud. It's back to the tracker and back to my be scheduled and not missed out on because of Cub Scout stress, or work stress for that matter as well - for heaven's sake! How ridiculous is that! Where has my head been? Up my keester, that's where! What's funny about all this, is that my father and my husband noticed that I was slacking and not funny is that? Dad told me to get back on it...because "it works and helps me be the best me I can be". That's a direct quote from my Dad....isn't he sweet?

Confession is back to reality...and tracking...and fitness...and sanity.

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TRECECOOKS 10/10/2008 1:36PM

    Aren't you glad we can always come home to Sparks? It's here, our friends are here, and no one will be critical, just welcoming. emoticon

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GLAMOURGIRL-9 10/9/2008 3:31PM

    You already started back on track just by coming in here and sharing the truth , the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Step 1 = check ! You know this , it's old hat .It all about knowing your limitations right? So you know your not quite ready to be weaned from Spark & Tracking! You figured it out and rather quickly and so your back in the game!!! emoticon


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OAKBORN 10/7/2008 3:41PM

    emoticon Hang in there bud! You can do it, you already have. But the good news is that you recognized it before it got out of hand!

And your friends are always here and your SP pony is always waiting and ready to be ridden as needed!

And 2 lbs isn't 20, and one week of mistakes isn't a month or a year!

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