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Bridesmaid dresses

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

You'd THINK....after ALL THESE YEARS....after ALL THE WEDDINGS...after ALL THE HIGHER SIZES....that I'd be SO PSYCHED to go dress shopping now that I am an average size...
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and ya know what...I WAS psyched and had FUN in fact...if not for the fact that EVERY SINGLE DRESS MAKER has their own sizing system!!!!!
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I swear to all that is holy....can't these "designers" get a clue as to how women FEEEEEL when they try on a dress that is 3 times higher that their street clothes?? What is the DEAL?

Talk about a self esteem killer.

ANYWAY....I got over the sizing thing pretty quick because now I know better....at LAST! Took me long enough! and we had fun trying on a ton of dresses too....one was H O T HOT! I absolutely love it...wish I could buy it and wear it somewhere fancy all on my own if it doesn't get picked!

So...if you are a designer, or works for a designer, or oh, I don't know, are married to the guy who cooks for the designer....give them a message to them from me: IF you happen to want to boost your sales, try putting a street size on your ticket instead of those twiggy sizes that confuse women and make them feel like poo. You will probably SELL MORE by doing that alone! Imagine "hello saleslady, I am a size 8"..."oh yes dear, right over here..this designer is fabulous" BAM!!! SOLD!!!

  
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DWEXCEL 6/24/2010 7:04AM

    OMG....you are sooooooooo right! In fact, I have been cleaning out my closet, and selling some of my old "cocktail" party dresses. And I remember wearing these....and I was small....but what they are size 12??????? I probably wore a size 8 then.......

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OAKBORN 6/23/2010 11:57AM

    It seems there is no real rhyme or reason in clothing sizes, they differ from store to store, manufacturer to manufacturer. I wear a 6 @ Old Navy and larger sizes elsewhere.... go figure

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YAMINOKODOMO 6/22/2010 11:27PM

    lol! I totally know what you mean! Thats why I dont go dress shopping unless I have to because I never really know what size I am... But once you get the dress and it looks great, then you think, ok MAYBE its worth it... lol!

Glad you only had one second of poo time and then enjoyed the rest of the dress shopping day! I say buy that hot dress and keep it in your closet juuuuuust in case you do happen to go somewhere where you can be like "OH! I have the perfect dress! emoticon"

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CRISTHIANE 6/22/2010 6:05PM

    Hey, I know how you feel! I went Bridesmaid dress shopping last week! We found the dress too! No matter what the size says, focus on how great you look!

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Bathingsuits

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

I don't CARE who you are....how thin or thick you are....bathing suit shopping stinks.

For the first time IN MY LIFE, I was honestly and actually happy to go bathing suit shopping! Last year wasn't bad at all, Kmart did right by me in fact...with a cute skirt and halter top...but alas, the top is now big (bye bye girls) and the plastic clasp broke while kayaking (thank god for a coverup) emoticon

So THIS year - I said to myself: GO FOR IT...Spend the money on a more expensive suit with METAL clasps that will last 2+ years...so there I was today, at a specialty shop, surrounded by swimsuits - name it, they had it.

And the search began. I find a top in my size...there is NO bottom swimskirt (to hide my thighs). I find a bottom, there is NO top. I try a full cup pushup thing....hideous, I try a Miracle Suit....it was a miracle to even get it above my knees. I try on skinny straps, and finally find a top that I like...no size medium. No suit PART cost less that $57 too. The last swimdress thing I tried on was Donna Karen at $158 and I could see how the straps could possibly work...neither could the help in the store (who were more than ready to help and get a sale).

I gave up.

I headed to Kmart.

Attention Kmart shoppers...where the heck did you put the suits that were there 7 days ago?????

I search and search. I find.....THE CAST OFF DREGS.

Ugh.

I dive in to the measly racks...lo and behold! my size!! a whole slew of them! I grab them and RUN to the fitting rooms, All I need are some tops to go with the black bottoms I already have from last year.,.,and as I enter there is a aqua & gold cute swimdress I immediately like on the "put away" rack...in my size!!! I grab that too.

Victory with the aqua....vistory with the black.....vistory with the stripe (I KNOW - stripes are a no no but with my kids, who cares)...vistory with a twist top tankini...THANK YOU JACLYN SMITH!!!!

Out I go triumphant!!!!!!!

At the register....grand total of $53 with $35 (40%) saved.

All LESS then the fancy store where that amount would have bought me a BOTTOM to a top.

So...it ends in a happy ending...and not hideous in any (although the TOM bloat is upon me - oh well - and I am just starting to work out again after 6 months - it can only go up from here).

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FULLOFFAITH 6/17/2010 10:40PM

    Yea Bathing suit shopping and jean shopping are not at the top of my list. hopefully they will be one day. emoticon.

Congrats on finding a good deal on a bathing suit you like.

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SUZYWM 6/17/2010 3:09PM

    Aaarrrggghhh! Swimsuits. Wore my mom's old one piece in swim class because I outgrew my last cute skirted tankini. Ah well.

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YAMINOKODOMO 6/16/2010 10:16AM

    I actually love the bathing suits at like kmart and walmart! They have some really nice ones and they are not expensive at all! I had gotten one that the bottom was a little skirt and had a plastic clasp on the side so it made it look like there was a little slit. I LOVED that bathing suit!

But yea I dont like shopping for swimsuits thats why I normally order them and just pray that they fit right LOL I ordered one from victoria's secret, it was on sale so I didnt pay a lot teehee, and I still havent tried it on yet... I really should try it on to see how it fits..

But congrats on finding a few nice ones! Yay!

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DWEXCEL 6/16/2010 7:17AM

    You are tooooooo funny, Girl! And I love how it turned out for you, too.
Let me tell you about Bealls Outlet, (in Florida, of course), but it's the only place I buy swimsuits. About 10 years ago, I had won a trip, through work, to go to South Beach. So I went shopping, and bought a new, 1 piece suit at JC penny and paid about $86 for it. I happened to go in Bealls Outlet, (while I was on this trip, no doubt!) and found the EXACT SAME suit for $16.!!!!!!!!!!! So ever since, then, I have only shopped there for suits.
BTW, this year, I, too had to get a smaller suit, so here I went off to trusty Bealls Outlet, and I found a Tommy Bahama tankini, that originally sold for $96 for the top and $58 for the bottom. It was marked $39. Yeah man! And then I had a 20% off frequent shopper coupon, and I bought it on "Senior Day" (if you're over 50, you get another 15% off), so I got this cool this suit for about $25.
So, next time you're back down that way, be sure to check out the Bealls Outlet stores.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 6/15/2010 8:16PM

    I just love a happy ending!!

WTG on finding your bathing suits and saving money too!!

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SUCHAHOOT 6/15/2010 8:05PM

    YAY! Congrats on your suits! My favorite part of the whole thing is how your top from last year is too big! I'm looking forward to that...smaller girls! I'm only 1.5 pounds away from losing the ELEVEN I gained with this move. Slow but sure.


I'm REALLY happy to hear your news about school!! Yesterday I was thinking I wanted to write you to see how school is going & whether or not you could get a little slack this summer. I imagine that is such a HUGE relief! I'm so proud of you for taking this on! I'm glad you can take a breath.

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OAKBORN 6/15/2010 4:21PM

    It's amazing what you can find at the discount stores and what you CAN'T @ the designer ones!

And yay on several suits!!

I have found some great stuff on the very picked over Dillards racks in September... it seems I never need a suit when they are in stock everywhere. LOLZ.

Yay exercise! I feel like I've taken 6 months off... urgh.

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School - it's a learning process too

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

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Holy crazy month Batman!

So I got some REALLY awesome news about school when I had a much needed advisement session a few weeks ago....I was told that all of my pre-requisites for the pre-requisites (that I thought would be null and void after this year) will not be at all....the 10 year cap set in place by the school is for the pre-requisites ONLY!! and I am working on them now, so I am GOOD TO GO! which also means that I DO NOT have to make my life a living hell by taking all of these classes within the year just to apply to the January session!!!! I also learned about a few things they look at and stress in the application portfolio - mainly being prerequisite GRADES - SO why???? am I going to bust my butt taking 2 classes at a time to get mediocre B's when I know if I slow down and concentrate I can get A's??? AND if I take an extra year to apply, I can also take some of the other nurtition classes that will lighten up the load for the following year as well!

SO - what I am going to do is this: finish up these 2 classes one at a time to get A's, get applied to the other 2 online classes...and take my fall class as scheduled. The 2 online classes, well, they are of a different sort, with no real deadline and when I get them done, I get them done...but without any pressure. Mind you, I also have to scout out internships too...SO if I get to that in the meantime, I will.....but here is the thing...I am a MOM and a WIFE and I WORK, so doing all of this probably before January is not very realistic (I realize that now), but it won't hurt to try to get into the 2011 class, but most likely, I will extend my learning and make my life easier and apply to the 2012 class instead.

Why am I switching things up like this? well, I CAN BREATHE for the first time in 6 months!!!! I can move my body again!! I can be a happy mom instead of a stressed out mom!! I can have FUN and not worry about a MAJOR LIFE CHANGING DEADLINE!! Things I learned - ask questions, go for my dream even though it might take longer, keep this bigger picture in my mindset than just that one tunnel. When I thought I was on another more doom-like looking path last month and I thought my dream was going down the toilet because of class schedules (lol-this was before my advisement session) I really really realized that I REALLY REALLY WANT and NEED to go for this career...which makes this AOK now that I can take and make my life and (more importantly) my family's life more pleasant in the process. I can honestly say this too....my husband has been WONDERFUL and SO SUPPORTIVE of my career path...he deserves a more pleasant life with me as well too!! Eventually, when the program starts, things are going to be nuts once again, but in the meantime, a little less nuts is better for him too.

This kind of goes into my nutrition lifestyle mindset anyway....two steps forward, one step back, just like Spark.

BTW - for all my buds here...I think of you all everyday...coming back to the fold soon to chitchat!!! Thanks for always being there when I need you! You are all AWESOME and AMAZING people!!!! Glad to call y'all my Sparkfriends!!

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FULLOFFAITH 6/17/2010 10:43PM

    emoticon news. You deserve some breathing room.

Lisa

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SUZYWM 6/17/2010 10:50AM

    Awesome job You Mom/Scholar You! I had a similar experience, being surprised at getting credit for my REALLY OLD units and being able to jump in mid stream.

Your plan sounds healthy and realistic. But more importantly, it's terrific that you know what you want to do with your education. That alone is a blessing.

I need to find an internship as well, and am frustrated that it's not an easier process, but I suppose it weeds out students who aren't so serious.

We're really enjoying the summer break, with boards games, bike rides, and time to breath. Wishing the same for you and your brood!

Great job sista!!

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DWEXCEL 6/16/2010 7:27AM

    Isn't it funny how things have a way of working out. Good for you, Girl! I can just feel that load coming off of your shoulders, and that smile back on your face! You are awesome!

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OAKBORN 6/15/2010 9:41AM

    So glad that life kind of opened a window to remind you that the tunnel ain't the only thing!

So excited for you pursuing your goals! I hope I can find a way to afford to follow that same path soon!

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Changing your mindset

Friday, May 28, 2010

I feel like an expert in the topic...I play with and fight with my head all the time. I know I was depressed at one point in my life (and no, a doctor didn't need to tell me that becuase hindsight is 20/20) and that was probably when I was my most heaviest - well, as a single person at least. But I can remember back to that time and now go to myself - WTF were you thinking? Where was the self-love? Where was the self-esteem? Not once did I think that I'd be anything except heavy and unloved, so that is where I was...stuck in a quagmire of self-pity.

OK - so it might not have been written on my sleeve, or tattoods across my chest, but underlying, it was there - all you needed to do was dig a little and it was there...hiding from everyone's view except my own...which mentally, I thought was really out there for all to see - written on my face. But it wasn't.

Anyway - eventually the story changed...hey, I found an awesome guy - when I was heavy too - who loved me for me, and had 3 great kids! But underneath, something was still there - that cruddy self-esteem of mine. You can laugh at this next part - I still mentally visualize myself as heavy...I'm still working on changing that mindset...it takes a long time to change that mental image...1.5 years later, still working on it.

So when I started Spark, I had to physically change my mindset. Why do I say "physically" for something mental??? Well, because if you don't say that you are "awesome" and "loved" - "smart" and "funny" outloud - well, then, sometimes the mind just won't hear you. Kinda like a 7 year old going, 'yeah yeah mom' but not really hearing for the 100th time to pick up his room. So everymorning, doing my makeup, I look in the mirror and say those words to myself. Even now I do this when I need a pep-talk. I'm not screaming them, it's just a whisper at times...and I become my own cheerleader.

Now stop - reverse that thinking....in my depressed stage of life...I was whispering how fat, ugly and useless and unloved I was...so really, it does make a lot of sense to change your mindset in this new way. I'm not even making this up - One of Spark's fast break things to choose is the 5 minute pep-talk...I picked that one and still use it today! I'm just saying - there is something to it.

So if you happen to be really beating yourself up for something? take a minute to look in the mirror - in your pretty eyes and say "hey you, cut it out! stop beating yourself up and move on and do something about it! You can do this!!"

Become your own cheerleader - you'll be glad you did.

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OAKBORN 6/1/2010 9:31AM

    As usual my friend, you say something that is cogent to my situation. You have such wonderful insights... sigh...

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FULLOFFAITH 5/30/2010 10:25PM

    Thanks for the blog. I am guilty of beating my self up and not being so nice at times. I am working hard on changing my way of thinking. I have to remind my self I would never talk to others about their weight the way I go on and on about mine. I also realized the other day when thinking when I lost 39 pounds on WW the last time I never saw my self as thin. funny. it took me 7 months to get the weight off and a little over a year to put back on because I never learned to self love.

Lisa

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DWEXCEL 5/29/2010 8:18AM

    OMG----what stuck in my mind from what you said is that you still mentally visualize yourself as heavy. And knowing you, I know you are working on that.

But you know what's really weird....is that I never visualized myself as heavy. Even thirty something pounds ago, my visual image of myself was even thinner than I am now. A friend recently e-mailed us a picture of me and my husband dancing as a party when I was at my heaviest. I was just shocked.....did I really look like that?????(I should probably put that one in my photo gallery) And I know I still have a way to go to get to my goal(maybe 10 pounds, and I know I've been saying that for a while, but at least I haven't gained and am going in the right direction), but even looking at pictures now, I am still shocked that I am heavier than my mental visual image. I guess I should look at these more often, maybe that's what I need to get the scale moving again.

As always, you have tremendous insight, and I love you for sharing!

Take care,
Donna

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HEALTH4LYFE 5/28/2010 8:49PM

    I have been doing much more of the negative self talk, shy of confidence and excuses for not treating myself better. My pep talks usually occur when I am on a run and sometimes think I can't make it, or when I feel like quitting.
Your blog has given me some food for thought, which is a calorie free kind of food and much better for my mind. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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SUZYWM 5/28/2010 3:54PM

    I love this, and will start using this as a faithful tool. It's a challenge to make time for myself to do even a bit of this, but that's just about old habits. I can do this.
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USARUNNERGIRL 5/28/2010 3:51PM

    Love this blog. I agree, when I am feeling the blues, I make myself say out loud 10 positives about me. Woot.

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SUCHAHOOT 5/28/2010 12:28PM

    I just LUV you!
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This is actually one part of a mini-challenge on one of my teams right now! To take the time to look in that mirror & say something wonderful! Gotta love it!

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SLENDERELLA61 5/28/2010 7:35AM

    Thanks. Seems very wise to me. I just might try it! -Marsha

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Thank you bird...thank you for the poopage

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Wow....I left off the last blog with a bird pooping on my head...and this is the thank you to the birdie for the poopage.

The weekend that just past was awesome for many reasons...the first being my younger sister became a Doctor...a Dentist actually and I am SO very proud of her!! Yay!! It was awesome seeing my father and his brother and sisters have an awesome weekend with each other too! They were so cute. 22 of us had a great time on Saturday touring Boston and having a pre-graduation party..it really was great.

A few of us hit some snafu's along the way...mainly my poor brother's back going out..and my stress levels at an all-time high regarding school and last minute solo-roadtrip travel...but ya know what? a bird pooped on my head, so it was all going to work out....right?

Well, that was the mantra for the weekend that I used, "a bird pooped on my head,and that is lucky, all will be OK."

Hey, I made it to Boston and back, I got help from my family when I needed it, I used my cellphone like a pro - talking to university admission administration while in dead-stop traffic...I accepted the fact that my school career might have to be put on hold for another year even.......all while muttering the mantra of "a bird pooped on my head, and that is lucky, all will be OK".

Yeah...about the university stress...a self-inflicted glitch of idiocy back in Feb lead me to believe that I had PLENTY of time to register for my summer class. Between that and having to reapply for summer admission, things got even more behind. So, um - No, you didn't have time and now you are blocked from not only one important class....but THREE! Nope, no stress AT ALL.

I emailed the prof...of course there isn't going to be an answer...hello it's the weekend!! So I waited to start my school project on Monday. Monday was very productive....I emailed the prof...I made important contact with his dept...a secretary got me into the FALL class (which newly opened and altho not summer like I wanted - I took it) and I still had a shot at the summer class if the prof said 'yes'. But alas, the prof came back and said 'no' because of the fall class that had opened up....well, at least I tried! But in the meantime, I shot out another email asking my nutrition advisor to explain a few things...and guess what, all the answered were 'YES" and I even have an advisement call set up for June 8th!

SO today the best news was this: Not only can I take one of the closed classes online thru another university, I can OMIT my Psych 100 class because I took it as an undergrad! So what if my fall and summer plans are switched... WOOHOOO!!!! This is HUGE!!! Time and money SAVED!!!!

But with all the nuttiness that went along with this past week of kids being sick, plans not going right, blah blah blah.....I kept saying that it all would be alright, and it turned out AOK after all.....but I also learned that I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to get into this masters program REALLY REALLY REALLY bad....and that I will be a Registered Dietician one day, no matter what.

When faced with the possibility of it not happening according to my "plan", it just made me want it even more...oh yes, I was like a woman possessed to find a solution to my problem this week, and it worked out. I'm not saying I have figured EVERYTHING out yet, but I sure as heck am on my way.

Nope, there is no settling or giving up on this dream. No way. No how.

So thanks little birdie for pooping on my head. Thank you universe-god-fate-whatever for the test...I passed. The score is me-1, failure-0.

Funny....even with a full moon on the rise....I feel just fine...all because of some bird poop. emoticon

  
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SUZYWM 5/28/2010 3:51PM

    You're emoticon !! Rolling with the, uh, poopies, getting to where you need to be. If I can take more things in stride like you, it all WILL be OK!

Great job working out the kinks with school. You'll be a great dietician!

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ZSAZSAJANNY 5/28/2010 12:46AM

    Gosh, and here I thought being pooped on by a giant bird just meant I was going to have extra smooth and shiny hair after a wonderous new 'conditioning' treatment! It really meant I was going to have good luck!
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SUCHAHOOT 5/27/2010 11:55PM

    Oh my gosh! Too much fun. Maybe I'll sit on my front porch tomorrow. Apparently it is the nearest roadside park for EVERYBODY! They rest themselves on the ceiling fan & poop and poop.

Anyway, congrats on all of the school stuff working out so well. I betcha before the summer is over or before the end of the fall session, you will discover some super great reason that those classes got switched! Can I tell you how proud I am that you are doing this? I think it is totally

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