Saturday, June 25, 2011
Well, woohoo...um, yay...hey kids, please pick up the family room.....please stop wrestling, someone is going to get hurt....can you pleeeasse stop repeating everything that he is saying?....Did you hear me??...Do I need to come in there??
I think, depending on the day, I am going to need to don a whistle and a black&white ref shirt.
Boredom = whining
Boredom = constant snacking (I'm talking about the adults too here)
Rain = boredom which = all of the above
So with the less hectic schedule comes the evils of summer.
So hubby and I are trying to get an economical (ahem,...cheap) handle on this summer. To keep things busy enough on OUR terms instead of other's terms (aka teams, religious ed, school & scout schedules). We do so much during the year on what other's need us to do...this is what we need to do for ourselves this summer.
THAT is our challenge for this summer....for our sanity.
On our to do list:
- Do some home improvements - paint the outside wood parts mostly.
- start piano lessons for my middle guy...possibly my oldest if he is interested. (I hope they will listen to my teaching or else that is a no go...we shall see)
- speech lessons 2x a week for my youngest (much needed for kindergarten prep - worth the money to keep it going)
- impromptu lacrosse practices on Tuesdays....we don't HAVE to go...it's optional & free
- set up playdates....I STINK at them. Self-proclaimed bad playdate-setter-upper here. I have to work on that and THIS is the summer to do it.
- go to Boston to visit my sister (ROADTRIP!!!)
- go to the wineries out East
I'm setting out my calendar today in between loads of laundry and getting to the planning!
It's time to RECHARGE these batteries!!!!!
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
as rare as sighting a unicorn!!
I don't know what possessed me to get my gear on early and actually go to the beach with my 4 year old. Sure, I live 15 minutes from the beach, but really....I never ever go. Part of the reason was the whole heavy/bathing suit factor issue, another part is that I really don't like sand, another part still is that I don't like to get sunburned (and I am one of those that does not tan..I am red, then pale, then red, then pale - so why bother)...and another part is that I happened to spend a LOT of time at the beach as a kid on the family boat and I just never really was like "Yeah, this is awesome!" - the part I really liked best was sitting in the bow of the boat when it was flying through the waves ( at a whole 20 knots) and pretending I was flying...but I digress.
So today I went out of my comfort zone and went to the beach.....and as soon as we got there...then sun went in and the cool breeze picked up. "Really??? C'mon!! I'm asking for a nice beach day here Mother Nature...this is a rare thing going on...please let the sun come out for an hour."
Me and the peanut had some lunch first, then we played in the sand....and since we are alone, there is no Mommmy read a magazine time....there is Mommy come and play with me time. So it was time to hit the waves and play tag and chase with them, just like I used to do as a kid.
The sun was still hiding..and the breeze was still cool.
And then.... The angels sang and the sun appeared!!!
At this point, I still have my coverup dress on...but my son, well, he is NOT having it.
"Mama, take that off! We are going to get wet now! Take it off!" says he.
"But honey it's still cold out to me, just a few minutes more, I promise." says I.
"No Mama, I don't like it on. Take it off. I want to sit and get a gogurt." says he.
So we go sit down...he eats his gogurt, and I, yes, I take off the Barney-colored purple sundress.
He sees this action and he is GONE! Right back down to the water! The little stinker!!! He KNOWS he cannot be down there by himself!
I wave him back....he waves ME back with this HUGE $hit-eating grin right back at me and takes 2 more steps to the water.
I start laughing....he's got me.
So I went down to the water and we played, and noone noticed me in my suit...because I just blend in now. Well, not in my head, but I blend in more on the outside now. Really, the only thing people could criticize me of was being an active mom, playing and laughing too hard with my son in the waves.
I got us there and he got me out of my comfort zone...and we had fun...and even though it was only 2 hours, it was still a moment that I will not forget for a long time.
Friday, June 17, 2011
Yuppers! I have been SO off track and off the radar here....it is NOT EVEN FUNNY!!! Things are slowing down a bit now that school is ending so, WHEW! I think I can finally breathe a bit easier!
I hate it when things get crazy, but crazy is what it has been for the last 2 months straight!
Anyway, back to the tracker I went today...feeling icky for a bit makes me think of my nutrition, and although it hasn't been horrendous, it certainly hasn't been stellar.
A Sparkbud asked me how I keep things in check a few blogs back...and my hubby is now figuring it out on his own as well now too. Getting back on track is just that...when the weekend/event/party/drama is over....well, it's over. Whatever you ate (& drank) is now finished....there is no beating up, there is no OMG I shouldn't have. You accept it as is...as LIFE, and you get right back on track with water and exercise and eating your "normal" the very next day.
I described this lifestyle change to another person as being a really really looooooong string of yarn.
The yarn, from far away, looks pretty darned good. Staight, clean, true.
Now come in close and really look at that yarn.
Up close, the yarn looks way different: there are knots, pills, crazy loopies that stick out, it's fuzzy and not so pretty....but it's still straight and keeps on going.
This lifestyle change is that yarn....you will have those knots & pills and crazy loopies, but in general, if you keep going according to the nutrition & exercise trackers....things will, in general, stay straight and true and things will keep going your way towards the healthier lifestyle that you want.
Be the yarn ....just don't tie yourself up in knots, that would be bad
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Yesterday was a rough day for me...not disasterous, but rough as in the "hectic" sense of the word rough.
On Monday I noticed my right front tire for some reason....it looked a little flat, so I checked out the treads...pretty worn down & the sidewall/tread was starting to split a bit. I should have taken the car in to get tires right then and there...but I didn't...too busy (a mom's life excuse).
So yesterday, I had to drive out east on Long Island to attend my 1st grader field trip to a aquarium...to the split in the forks if one wanted to look on a map...I'm in central LI, so this drive is about a half hour doing 70 mph. I was running late, I had to get gas, yadda yadda yadda. Anyway, I made it out there on time! Yay.
We all had a great time, and at 1pm, it was time to get the kids on the bus and the moms to go home in their cars. Why I didn't car pool was beyond me! Everyone was from the same town! Well, I knew why, it was because I had to jet home to pick up my other son from the sitter's/my friend's house.
Well, I don't know what possessed me after I started up the car and pulled out....but I hopped out to check the tire. It looked worse...it was starting to shred. All I saw was a ticking time bomb on my car....and I was alone....far away from my house! So I figured to start heading toward the main business/retail strip in the area where there were car dealers...good thing I knew the area. On the way, I was trying to call my sitter, but I instinctly dialed my mechanic and I was a bit shocked when I heard their voice on the phone - so....I asked for advice! They said to hit a tire place near where I was and have them switch it to the spare tire & then bring my car right to them. Done....I got this...I can do this.
I never found the 2 places they told me to find....Instead, I saw a Toyota dealer and since my car is a Toyota....in I went! I drove right around to the back garage, I got out and walked in...and I pleaded Damsel-in-Distress!! to a mechanic, who took a look, confirmed my fears & told me to run to the front for a work-order so he could swap it out.
Prayer was answered!
I did as I was told....within 30 minutes, the tire was swapped out and they only charged me $10!!! Thank you Riverhead Toyota!!! Thank you kind mechanics!!!!
So now I have to drive....max 62 mph on the highway to get home, so I called my friend before I left and she said that my son's leg still looked a bit puffy and red and hot to the touch......this is Part 2 of my hectic day........
My 4 y.o. son was run over by a shopping cart (thanks hubby!) at the wholesale store on Tues...he said his leg hurt, but he was running on the thing right after so we kinda shook it off and a bit of a sprain. He even went to the beach on Wed with no problems or complaints. By Thurs we noticed it swelling up and getting red and hot to the touch....on Fri (yesterday's rough day) my friend and her Fireman hubby gave me their opinions and one said infected bug bite and the other said sprain & get an xray. Needless to say I called the doctor once I got to their house....and my cell phone battery died. I redialed from their phone and the office said to come right over! Done!
And off I went...in my spare tired mini-van with a swollen ankled kid to the doc in the next town over...and at this point, I need a snack, and water, and a nap, and a box of wine, and a backrub, and a vent.....because this day did not want to seem to end.
So I started praying out loud.
(Here's a clue on me & religion....
- I respect ALL religions
- I don't TALK about religion openly because it is a private matter between one and that organization
- I expect people to respect mine in the same way I respect theirs
- it's too touchy a subject across the board to address 99% of the time - same goes for politics
- I was raised RC and am doing the same for my kids...tradition is strong with me
- I don't necessarily agree with everything in the RC church
- I DO believe strongly in right and wrong and a higher power....and I believe this is the same vein that is in 99% of all religions.
OK - enough said....don't come and attack me on anything....I will delete it as fast as you wrote it. Thanks)
OK - That being said, I started praying out loud as I got caught behind my 10th SLOW person en route to my pediatrician's office...it was a sign from above to slow down.
"God....I really need a break here. I'm a good person, I pay things forward constantly, I don't ask for much, but I really need a break here. I openly know that the whole tire thing was my fault and that I figured it out just in time. Thanks for those mechanics by the way. But now, I really need for this doctor to tell me that it is a bug bite and all I need is a perscription for antibiotics and cream....because a trip to the radiology department really is going to throw me over the edge. I still have to get back home and pack for camping...and it looks like I am going to be late getting out there, so just have a nice weather weekend for hubby because he really needs a nice break with the guys this weekend.....(as you can see- I ramble pray - but you get the drift)
Anyway...that was the gist of it for about 5 minutes which let me calm down enough to drive through town behind the ancient driver in front of me.
Long story short - another prayer was answered...the leg thing was a bug bite and I got the antibiotics and cream answer I wanted....or rather, needed.
I got home....completely exhausted and frazzled...and I got home before hubby, who upon greeting him, saw my face when I was telling him to go ahead with the camper & that I was not ready & that I just needed some time to pack and rest & then I would drive out to meet him for dinner and the one night out....well, he stopped me and said "You don't have to go. I will be fine by myself....you had a hard day & need to veg out. Stay home with the boys and go in the pool. I feel bad about leaving you alone with them for 3 days."
Another prayer answered.
So this morning's hair and makeup musing was this. I was in a bad mood from yesterday's nonsense still...and I have to get out of this funk because my girlfriend and her son are coming over this afternoon....this is a long time coming, and this has had it's gliches too, but THAT is another story entirely! But I digress, I have things to do to make this a nice afternoon for us all!
My main gripe yesterday with God/the universe was that I don't ever get what I "WANT" necessarily, but when I look back.......I always get what I "NEED".
Each instance of yesterday's craziness was handled by me...and a universe that happened to smile upon me. Things could have been waaaaaaay worse. I know that...and I am blessed to have guardian angels watching over me....and my family.
Sometimes, when we look at things from a different perspective or at the larger picture, it is easier to see WHY we have our individual hardships throughout our lives. Some hardships are worse than others....others have harder crosses to bear...but I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Over the years (and it may take years to figure out the WHY of the situation), I have seen that the strongest always survive and come out on top...because of sheer self will-power and belief in a higher power or something bigger than ourselves.
The other thing I know is that all of it starts from within. Figuring out what you need....will sometimes get what you want....but really, what you NEED is that baseline to move forward.
Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Hi everyone!!! Feel like it's been AGES since I blogged about anything...well, that is not true, I deleted a b-blog yesterday, but that is beside the point. Sometimes b-blogs are good to vent, but even better to delete when one gets it out of one's system...catharic "moving on" moments...and in that case, a most insignificant one at that. Exhaustion brought about the annoyance, and then it went away.
Now to explain the exhaustion!
Memorial Day we went camping upstate with out good friends...our 4th annual camping trip and every year, we learn something new on how and what we like to do. This place had a lake, so up the boats went...and it had good biking, so in the kid's bikes went. Amazingly enough, we even had room in the truck for more junk!! I guess we are in the "experienced camper" category at this time. We have wittled out the unneccessary to the point of even impressing ourselves! LOL From a mom packing point of view...I like that part a lot! Hubby does a good job too....we make a good team,
Anyway, after a nice & uneventful trip there and back again, it was a short week and then we had to get ready for our CUBSCOUT camping trip out to a local sight on Friday. Not just any old campout....I was IN CHARGE of the whole kit & caboodle for 18 camping families and 4 visitind day familied on Saturday. No pressure. None, at all.
The long and short of it was this....all of the planning, all of the work, all of the details and knowledge me & hubby had put in was not in vain! The weather was PERFECT. The campsite was large, spacious, and impressive. The facilities were clean. The lake was full of biting fish. and the very worried, 5 newbie camping families had a terrific experience because we were right there to calm them down and help set them up in no time at all. By the time the last late arrival came at 9:30, we had more people to help out on their setups...It was cool. I always say, many hands make light work...and it is so true.
Me & hubby learned a lot in the fine art of delegation. We have a tendency to do things ourselves, just because it's quicker & easier on us....but really, when you have so many people asking "Can I do anything?" my first reaction now is to say "Sure!! What do you like to do? I have this I need done, want to do this for me? It really won't take too long & it's not that hard." I was proud of hubby because he really made a conscious effort. I was proud of myself, because I let other people take my kids out into the woods without me....and they happened to be going the wrong way! LOL (side note: it was a very short hike b/c the kids saw the playground and that was that! LOL) I openly admitted that I was a nervous nellie to the others around me...and they calmed me down pretty quick.
Of course nothing goes as smoothly as one wants. The NON-camping head of our pack came around 11am and by 1pm she rounded up her group to go on a 3 mile hike...right when we were going to ALL go play a game of kickball. The whole hike thing I THOUGHT was going to be at 2:30, but evidently, that particular group's leader HAD HER OWN agenda. I was hurt, because she just did her own thing and did not let me know about it at all...if I say anything, she'll come back and say that "I told you I had to do my own thing." but the point of the matter is - while we were in the planning stages, I would have completely omitted her boys out of my calculations for X-amount of activities and done everything geared more toward the younger set. Hey, it all turned out just fine....better actually... because her group is not only OLDER but WILDER than the rest. It's just the principal of it all. My group parents are awesome...they made me realize all that was good about it....my parent group is great. She left to go home after dinner...around 5:30...and I admit, I was glad to see her go home. The tone & vibe of the campout changed with her arrival and exit...kind scary, but it is totally true...picture a storm front coming through and passing...just like that. A few closer parents even mentioned the change on each occassion. Nice huh?
So, the question is this: Is it worth mentioning at this committee meeting tonight???? probably not, because this character is going to do her own thing, regardless of whatever I say....it's not worth my breath. I will say this one thing....one of my parents sent out a glowing response reply email praising me & hubby's effortst to include ALL in the activities...he wrote "ALL" 4 separate times and I know for a fact he did that to make a subtle point. Like I said, I love my parents.
The most important thing here was that it was a success...EVERYONE had fun, including us...and now we know what to do for next time!!!
Anyway...we got back from that on Sunday morning and then had the last soccer game and awards ceremony in the afternoon...we did not stop until 5pm.
In between all this stuff, my hubby was getting the pool ready for the boys' grand inaugural summer dip...which happened yesterday after school! This is the earliest it has ever been opened, so they were very very happy to go in! And no shivering teeth!!!! It's a summer miracle!!
This weekend is camping outing #3 - hubby invited my dad & the LI brother-in-laws out to go camping & golfing. So we will be sleeping out there on Friday night when we go help him set up camp.
I have some plans of my own on Saturday....my girlfriend Ann is coming over with her son for some pool-side bonding with my sons. We rarely get to hang out like this, so we are really looking forward to it!! I have to clean the house ASAP, because time is of the essence this week!
So that is what I've been up to. Sparking & exercising is not so hot (note my cyclical lull once again!) but I'm trying here & there to just be active when I can. Just so y'all know, I see everything here that is going on with a lot of you...I just don't say anything all the time....I'm like a fly on the wall
Ok - this was waaaay long, and probably a small needed vent before this meeting tonight. I'll leave this blog in tact....for now.
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