Tuesday, January 17, 2012
ohhhh....I got it baaaaaad!
Probably one of the worst cases you will ever see.
Somehow, I have this guilt that I have to be with my family 24/7 when they are home, whether it be on vacation for one day or one week....and when summer hits - forget it!!
You see...my husband is a teacher, so we are together A LOT with the kids. More than other families for sure...and I consider this a good and lucky thing because let's face it...not everyone can be with kids and present like my husband.
There is that maternal need to be with them 24/7 no matter if my husband is home...no matter if they are just sitting there playing with their games..no matter if they are playing outside...no matter if they are all in the family room watching a football game....and you know what?????? I don't do anything that I would consider uber-productive for myself when they are around!! I do not work out even though the time is there....stretching before me and I'm even find myuself saying to myself "good heavens, there is nothing to do!"
So you can see....I have a bad habit of being a hovering mom. Not like I'm doing anything great with them all the time...I'm just there....just like my mom was.
This goes with wife-guilt too....like going out with my girlfriends for happy hour...but for some reason, I have less guilt seeing her when we meet for lunch and everyone is at school. Seee!?!?!? They are all OUT and busy and thus the no guilt feeling on my part!
I even get anxiety in trying to figure out how to say "I would like to go out to the mall when the football game is on" because, for some reason, I have this stupid GUILT! And trust me....my husband could care less sometimes if I were hanging around because he goes about and does what he has to do without a thought...I'm telling you it's all me! Oy!
I know I'm not alone in this one...this is going to be a work in progress...as the saying goes "Knowing is half the battle" so maybe now that I verbalized it...I can help myself get through it and be a little more proactive for myself.
Hey - you know what? We went shopping yesterday as a family (shoe shopping and stuff) and while hubby tried on a suit, I entertained the kids in the accessories dept.....and then I got a chance to look through my ladies dept...and yup, had to try stuff on, which he was glad to let me do while he entertained the kids a bit. I think it was the first time we ever split up and divided and conquered and stayed in a store for more that a half hour with all 3 kids in tow!!! Sure, them getting older has a lot to do with it....but it's also me saying "Hey, I want to check something out for me....will you wiat a bit everyone?" 2 clearance items and one new shirt later - I'm really glad I took that initiative!
Baby steps in everything right???
Woohoo - Blog #4 DONE!
Have a nice day everyone!!
Monday, January 16, 2012
You GOTTA have a sense of humor...I find that if I don't laugh and smile for a while, I start getting mopey and down. That's when I search out "Who's Line is it Anyway?" on tv or youtube and I get my laugh on once again.
Being in a happier state always helps with other things in life...even when the going gets rough. I can tell you right now that I'm the one in the funeral parlor at a wake remembering the person as they were at their most happy and alive instead of how the person left the world...AND I LAUGH and make jokes too (discreetly of course) because a) it's a nervous habit and b) that little bit of stupidity/hilarity is a break from hell that people go through. I know some people might find this crass, but it really does work and help out others...I've been to waaaay too many wakes, trust me...I know.
Anyway....healthy habit #3 - LAUGH!! at yourself..at silly things...at inane things...make others laugh by doing a silly dance - they might start dancing silly with you!!
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Juuuust kidding....but seriously, while I don't blog EVERYday, I kinda have to for the next 7 days to get points on a 5% challenge - - so this might not be as ponderous as others I have done....
Good god, I forgot if I was supposed to talk about something in this blog or not! Ooops, so much for my post-reading skills! Something in my subconscious is telling me to talk about a healthy habit...
OK - healthy habit: I don't eat after 7pm if I can possibly help it.
Why?? I think Oprah said that was one of her rules and it made sense to me, so for years I have kinda stuck to that little rule of thumb.
Which means...I really don't like events that make me eat at 9 or 10 pm at night....really, so silly if you think about it - give me a nice cocktail hour at 6pm and I'm good to go...9pm is cake & coffee time. Not like I'm going to these events all the time...at all...but when they happen it kinda irks me. I'm that person who eats normally no matter what, especially on the day of a wedding because I don't want to be starving and grumpy....and yes, I have brought cereal bars to weddings and scarfed them down in the car when my stomach is on the verge of eating itself.
But I digress.....
As for healthy habits that are on the more "new" side (as in established in the last year) - umm...I like to make smoothies now because I get a few fruits in along with my yogurt...and the kids like them too, so i make a huge one and we are all healthy together!!!
Okey dokey.....see ya tomorrow!
Friday, January 13, 2012
I've been tending to the fire a lot lately.....no, this is not a figurative thing....it is a literal thing! We are heating our house this winter with a new fireplace insert....and so far, I have stacked 5 cords of firewood, brought at least 2 cords into the house myself, and have re-lit the fire more times than I can count...and I'm good at it 95% of the time! The things we learn in life! LoL
Anyway, we've finally hit the less-seasoned wood and now we have a lot of hard to light and smoldering pieces of wood. You have NO idea how frustrating it is!!!
But then again.....maybe you do.....
In my various states of pondering while staring at the fire, I have seen many a log smolder and smoke until it just kinda burns internally, gets weaker and weaker, and ultimately turns to ash - sure it gives off heat, but it certainly isn't that pretty to look are or interact with when I open the fireplace door to try to stoke it into a flame....all it does is smoke and sizzle at me & stink up my house!
Logs like this need oxygen...some air to breath in order to get a pretty flame...a flame that will catch other pieces of wood and continue on to not only make heat, but to make a real great show for everyone to watch....even the coals glow and radiate heat & beauty when the flames die down.
It's amazing when I get the smoldering log to finally catch fire...WHOOOSH! it goes right up with just a crack in the door...but sometimes I have to really put effort into it and break out the hairdryer and really get a flow of air in there, and even then, a stubborn smoldering log can take time to catch fire.....very frustrating.
I'd say that most of the time, I can get the smoldering log to light with a bit of oxygen and some poking and prodding... all it takes is a little effort, of knowing what to do, and then just doing it.
It's a dirty business too..the stink, the flying dry ash...especially when I have to clean out the ash pile. It could be 2 days of resting and still.....I will dig into the fluffy ash with my shovel and find it warm and at the very bottom....there they are, the few tiny pieces of coal still burning red when the air hits them, ready and waiting to bring forth a new flame to a log.
Hmmm......am I being literal or figurative now....
Get An Email Alert Each Time ANNIEONLI Posts