Thursday, January 19, 2012
So in my state of breathing through stress yesterday...of thinking and compartmentalizing that issues at hand & how to deal with them logically instead of emotionally (ooo, that's some good psychobabble there, huh?!? LOL) ... all I really wanted was...oh, SOMETHING!! First thought: glass of wine... next thought food....next thought...STOP!!!
Ahhhh!!!! NOoooooo - you can't do that!!! for SO many reasons!!!
The #1 reason - eating is NOT the answer to stress....took a long time to learn, so why, oh why, are you thinking of that?!
#2 - THIS TOO SHALL PASS...it always does, especially if you decide and TALK ABOUT IT with whoever you need to talk to - whether it be a co-worker, a family member, a girlfriend, texting a bff long distance, blogging on Spark, beeotching on FB...WHATEVER - just TALK it OUT! even if it's just to remind yourself to BREATHE!
#3 - after all is said and done and said and decided and said and done again...some things are AOK to have when your head is on straight.....and when you log it. Which brings me to THE DARK CHOCOLATE
Let's just say this...this one small piece of Belgian Dark Chocolate truffle...O. M. G.....Like I died and went to heaven!
You know those commercials that have the piece of chocolate and the silk cloth all wrapped around a lady savoring each bite of the chocolate - well, that might as well have been me! ROFL it was that darned good.
Maybe it's because I don't have really good chocolate like that all the time....it really was a nice treat....very different from Hershey's Dark...or Lindt truffles...my usual guilty pleasure manufacturers. It was actually calming....like I felt every chemical reaction that they say dark chocolate gives you! It felt very weird...and very cool!!
Maybe it was satisfying that SOMETHING I had when the stress started....but when I handled it on my own terms and came back less emotional and more in tune with having the piece of chocolate, (again, on my own terms instead of the stress's terms)...maybe that is what made is so good.
Well....whatever it was...this one little piece of dark chocolate was da bomb!!!! and SO not guilty when you only have one piece...and SO healthy to have too.
BTW - Thanks for all the feedback the last couple of days on my blogs...I appreciate it. I'll be seeing you guys later tonight!
Have a great day!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Actually...this is more of a reminder.
Inhale pink........exhale blue.
Inhale deep through the nose - filling every bit of lung with air.....exhale slowly - being conscious of each long breath.
Inhale pink.......exhale blue.
Sure...it's important to do when you are exercising...it brings oxygen all throughout the body's cells, aiding in the exchange of the good, the bad & the ugly in our blood streams.....but it also helps when you are hit smack up side the temple with stress.
Ahhhh.....stress. My olde friend....how I have missed ye.
Can't run and do a few laps on the treadmill all the time to get it out of your system, so it's time to breathe....and to remember that THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
ohhhh....I got it baaaaaad!
Probably one of the worst cases you will ever see.
Somehow, I have this guilt that I have to be with my family 24/7 when they are home, whether it be on vacation for one day or one week....and when summer hits - forget it!!
You see...my husband is a teacher, so we are together A LOT with the kids. More than other families for sure...and I consider this a good and lucky thing because let's face it...not everyone can be with kids and present like my husband.
There is that maternal need to be with them 24/7 no matter if my husband is home...no matter if they are just sitting there playing with their games..no matter if they are playing outside...no matter if they are all in the family room watching a football game....and you know what?????? I don't do anything that I would consider uber-productive for myself when they are around!! I do not work out even though the time is there....stretching before me and I'm even find myuself saying to myself "good heavens, there is nothing to do!"
So you can see....I have a bad habit of being a hovering mom. Not like I'm doing anything great with them all the time...I'm just there....just like my mom was.
This goes with wife-guilt too....like going out with my girlfriends for happy hour...but for some reason, I have less guilt seeing her when we meet for lunch and everyone is at school. Seee!?!?!? They are all OUT and busy and thus the no guilt feeling on my part!
I even get anxiety in trying to figure out how to say "I would like to go out to the mall when the football game is on" because, for some reason, I have this stupid GUILT! And trust me....my husband could care less sometimes if I were hanging around because he goes about and does what he has to do without a thought...I'm telling you it's all me! Oy!
I know I'm not alone in this one...this is going to be a work in progress...as the saying goes "Knowing is half the battle" so maybe now that I verbalized it...I can help myself get through it and be a little more proactive for myself.
Hey - you know what? We went shopping yesterday as a family (shoe shopping and stuff) and while hubby tried on a suit, I entertained the kids in the accessories dept.....and then I got a chance to look through my ladies dept...and yup, had to try stuff on, which he was glad to let me do while he entertained the kids a bit. I think it was the first time we ever split up and divided and conquered and stayed in a store for more that a half hour with all 3 kids in tow!!! Sure, them getting older has a lot to do with it....but it's also me saying "Hey, I want to check something out for me....will you wiat a bit everyone?" 2 clearance items and one new shirt later - I'm really glad I took that initiative!
Baby steps in everything right???
Woohoo - Blog #4 DONE!
Have a nice day everyone!!
Monday, January 16, 2012
You GOTTA have a sense of humor...I find that if I don't laugh and smile for a while, I start getting mopey and down. That's when I search out "Who's Line is it Anyway?" on tv or youtube and I get my laugh on once again.
Being in a happier state always helps with other things in life...even when the going gets rough. I can tell you right now that I'm the one in the funeral parlor at a wake remembering the person as they were at their most happy and alive instead of how the person left the world...AND I LAUGH and make jokes too (discreetly of course) because a) it's a nervous habit and b) that little bit of stupidity/hilarity is a break from hell that people go through. I know some people might find this crass, but it really does work and help out others...I've been to waaaay too many wakes, trust me...I know.
Anyway....healthy habit #3 - LAUGH!! at yourself..at silly things...at inane things...make others laugh by doing a silly dance - they might start dancing silly with you!!
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