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Travelling as only we can do it.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Picture it...a large suburban filled to the hilt with a car carrier on top and 7 out of the 8 seats filled up and at 4:00am, into the dark....we roll.

Getting off of Long Island is a bit of an adventure in and of itself. Depending on the direction (north or south) dictates which route you will take you off the island....and that inevitable will involve a large (or small and narrow) congested highway and a bridge or two. Thus the reason why we usually leave even before the roosters wake up. Doing so can shave off HOURS on a journey, because if you get stuck in one of the 5 boroughs of NYC, well, you are stuck for the duration...there is no escape.

We got rolling and in 3 hours, we are through New Jersey and into Delaware and ready to pick up our next charge and the last occupant that will make us a completely full vehicle....our nephew.

I have 6th sense with certain things...I KNEW that the communication between my husband and our ex-brother-in-law was flawed. The info given to me via an email was not complete...and so I questioned it....and we pull off into the Delaware Welcome rest stop to call and confirm the drop-off location. And as soon as I notice my husband pump the breaks on the truck, I KNEW we blew a brake line.

Now, the brake lines were just redone less than a year ago, when, on a local camping trip, the coupling blew and we almost crashed into a pulled over cop car (I'm telling you, I have some seriously ridiculously unbelievable road trip stories) - it's a 2001 truck, we should have seen that one coming....but NOT this one. Same coupling leaking on a new line and coupling junction. Eesh.

Now....unbeknownst to me...I am PMS-ing WILDLY and there is a full-moon - I am usually good at knowing all this info, but the craziness of the last 2 weeks really threw me off my game. So, as you can imagine, I was just ready bag the whole darn thing and go home. It was the cherry on top of the uber-crappy Sundae that was the last 2 weeks.

But no....thanks to my mother-in-law's new iPhone and my father-in-laws AAA card, and me throwing up my hands to the whole situation and leaving to feed the kids breakfast in the rest stop....we eventually get a tow and a ride to a garage.

The ride to garage was interesting. Picture 7 people cramming into a flat-bed tow truck. There is the driver and my FIL in the front seats. In the back, on a bench seat that even includes a box blocking a good quarter of the bench....are me, my MIL, and my husband...each with a child on our laps....we were WEDGED in....literally. We were joking that #1 - it was probably VERY illegal that we did that and #2 - it's a good thing that me and hubby are practically half of what we were size-wise 2 years ago! or else that ride never would have happened!! But at least we were together...right?

5 hours later....one brake-line coupling looked at, replaced, oh, AND brake-pad, rotors, and calipers replaced....and about $800 put onto our credit card.....we are finally on our way again.

Moving right along right? Nope.

Gotta go back to the Welcome Center and pick up the nephew...oh, and eat lunch.

OK....off we go!

About a hour later.....we hit traffic in Washington D.C. Painful to say the least....it is now 2pm...and we crawl....and crawl.....and crawl. We even try to go onto a local route....which is dead stop....and we crawl some more....but with lights!!
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Finally....we get back on to the highway and it starts to move and we get to Fredericksburg, VA and at 6pm, we get enough distance on the highway to say it's time to stop for dinner at Applebees.

7PM - back on the road.....clear sailing. FINALLY.

But hubby is now getting tired....and so am I. My FIL keeps asking if he wants him to drive. Nope - sorry man. No way in heck....you can barely move with arthritis, and thusly, we will not be letting you drive a truck load of people....not on our watch. But you can pay for gas emoticon which he inststed on doing during the whole trip....that and food. Nice huh? Very nice.

Long story short...and my irritation level on the whole day at a 12 out of a scale of 1 to 10....we finally arrive in Raleigh, NC........at 10:30pm. There is no dropping my nephew off at his house...there is nothing but getting us in our rooms and the kids (and us) to bed. Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it.....right???

Right.

What a first day....it's got to get better. But for me....I am STILL on PMS mode. BIG time. ANYthing and ANYone is pissing me off and all I can do, is silently roll my eyes behind my sunglasses and keep my mouth shut.

I'll skip further details about people....but let's just say this....sometimes there can be too much family togetherness, even when one is visiting family. That goes for my own kids and husband as well. Hubby and I got a night to ourselves in the hotel though, when my SIL had the kids sleep over on Friday night....best night of the week for me!

And then...I got "my little friend"....joy. emoticon
NO WONDER!!! With the moon STARING at me the last 2 days and my mood swings...of COURSE! it all makes sense now. And hubby and I can laugh at it now as we stand here in the living room folding the trip laundry.

That being said....and knowing that bit of knowledge on Saturday.....we turned around and had a nice visit. Lots of parks, a walk here or there. A dinner out with the whole gang. People catching naps left and right...I read instead of napped....and then....it was time to go. (I have to abbreviate here....OMG there are more stories of "as only we can experience" thrown in, but that...would be a novel! LoL

Yesterday...we left at 5:15 from NC and got on the road. I wanted to leave at 4am....the in-laws wanted to leave at 7am (because there is a free continental breakfast - gotta get the most out of our trip money you know...meh, I do NOT care of such things - GET me HOME!!! LoL) ...the 5:30am departure time was the compromise.

Thank heavens we left when we did because WE CRUISED!!!!

Well......until we hit the NYC borough of Staten Island. Were we see smoke....and some traffic...and a sign saying that the highway was closed due to a brush fire.
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No joke.

OF COURSE!

A BRUSH FIRE!!! Nature rears it's ugly head....teases us to no end!!! emoticon We all start laughing because it was too good to be true! (refer back to the "once you get stuck in NYC traffic you are screwed" section of this blog please)

As luck would have it...it turns out that we are at the VERY BEGINNING of the fire and the road, although slow going, is still open for us to get through - very slowly...in the dark of smoke....with hazards on....at 5 miles per hour....and we make it through to see the traffic coming the other way...at a dead stop.

We are now cruising toward Long Island...over the Verranzano Bridge, onto the Belt Parkway...moving...and passing the opposite direction traffic at a dead stop over the bridge and for MILES along the Parkway. They are stuck. and when I mean stuck....I'm talking for HOURS. No escape. Nada. Nothing. You just grim and bear it...and pray you don't have to use the bathroom. I felt bad....we were in traffic like that in D.C. I think here is worse.

Long story short....it's good to be home. It was nice getting a change of pace, but it's good to be home.

The house is a complete disaster. I have TONs of work to do...once again. Small detail stuff too....my faaaaavorite (please note the sarcasm). Looking at my calendar is giving me the hives! ROFL But it's all good. It's mine. All mine. And other people out there have it worse - I know that, so I will take my own chaos with a smile and a cup of coffee and a large, detoxing bottle of water.

OH - and before I forget....Lent is over...and I can drink wine once again. I had some wine too....and it was even paired with a great lamb osso buco my brother in law made - with truffle oil! (Fancy fancy!! LoL) And you knwo what???? I didn't over due it...I enjoyed it. I didn't NEED it, like I had thought I did. I drank more water than anything. Funny what you get used to NOT having.

  
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SWEETYOUNGTHING 4/15/2012 11:59AM

    This is the stuff good stories are made of.............and you didn't disappoint emoticon Welcome home! (I'm originally from Long Island, as well, and have NIGHTMARE stories of being stuck in traffic going back there for family visits) Pat

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NOLAZYBUTT110 4/15/2012 10:16AM

    Hey , you forgot the middle of the story. You just gave us the beginning and end, but no middle? How did things go when you got to your destination? And I can relate to getting your friend during such stress! When I first got married and on our Honeymoon and every other time we traveled! Boy can I relate! I think stress is what brings it on! But looking bakc, I woudl rather have my period than explode in heat as I did with memopause! lol Sorry to hear abotu your 800 bill before you even got on your trip. I hope you ahd SOME nice times! Maybe you need to get a new vehicle? (I had a 1996 Chevy Cavalier, my hubbies, and it was 15 years old and fell apart because he left it sitting on grass and the condensation wore out our brain lines and brakes! Cost me $1100 to get the brake lines and brakes replaced. I should have gotten rid of it sooner but my uncle said you can get 250, ooo miles off any Chevy so we kept it. But when my hubby no longer drove it, I got rid of it. I should have traded it in before we did traded our Chevy Malibu in on a Toyota. I love my Yaris. Its the best thing we ever road!

And I know all about driving off of Long Island, New York. Did it and we ended up reversing on one bridge because we took the wrong exit! Not easy backing up with a long Uhaul trailer ~! lol ! susana

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DONNACFIT 4/10/2012 2:58PM

    Brave woman ..travelling with the in-laws..made that mistake 2 years ago and I used to be such a calm, positvie woman..haha....

just seemed everything they did pissed me off...so not like me....wink wink...

Now I just stick to travelling with hubby!!

Gald you survivied your road trip..they do make great stories :)

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SUGARSMOM2 4/10/2012 12:51PM

  On your journey you will meet a dark stranger and travel to a strange country . said the gypsy to the young women . wow that was some trip . but it sounded like you had a good time . you are brave woman to venture out with in-laws . mine where great and easy to get along with . other people have talked about their mother and father in laws and the horror stories of their actions. To find a person that get along with family that is a good story . you build memories for the children to have for a lifetime . emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GETSTRONGRRR 4/10/2012 8:48AM

    WOW....and on top of all that, it sounds like you may have actually had a good time!

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OAKBORN 4/10/2012 8:10AM

    Welcome home! Sounds like quite the adventure!

The car trouble reminds me of several vacations from when I was a kid. We spent way more time in garages than my father would have liked... and the carload of us just hanging out and waiting... but those are the memories and experiences that build families.



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What a wacky week!

Thursday, March 29, 2012

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It's ALL or NOTHIN' in this house!!

I can go DAYS with absolutely nothing pressing on the agenda and then WHAM! SMACK! emoticon emoticon 3 days of when-is-the-train-going-to-stop!!!

Meh....at least I got my cardio in when I had the chance! THAT is how busy we have been here!

Again...on the upside: I got the new Shinedown album...and it ROCKS!!!! Talk about a good workout album! If you haven't check this band out - and love Nickleback and Daughtry - then do so...you will not regret it....I can't wait to get walking-wogging-running again!! (which will porbably be Friday afternoon! LoL)'

Hmmm....what else.....let's see.....I haven't been around to anyone's pages in a few days either....sorry emoticon Chellenge team!! emoticon I hope everyone is rocking those trackers!!!! emoticon

Whoa.....the train is starting to pull away from the station (ie. the kids just woke up) and I have to get my head screwed on straight! (which means MORE COFFEE! STAT!)

I hope everyone has a great day today!
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Annie
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LINTPICKER 3/29/2012 7:16PM

    You can do it!

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FULLOFFAITH 3/29/2012 4:24PM

    Go Annie Go!!!

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Lisa

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OAKBORN 3/29/2012 9:20AM

    Sounds like you ended up with a week like mine... just crazy.

Hope it slows down for you soon! We all need a little respite!

Hang in there baby, Friday's coming!

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NUOVAELLE 3/29/2012 7:54AM

    I just recently discovered Nickelback and I absolutely loved them! So, I'll go check your other recommendations right away!
I hope you find some time for yourself soon.
Take care!
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DINGALLSTOO 3/29/2012 7:34AM

    don't forget to take some time for you, thanks for the music recommendation

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LATTELEE 3/29/2012 7:02AM

  Interesting!

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Nutrition vs. exercise

Friday, March 23, 2012

I'm feeling compelled to write about this because I feel like it is always brushed aside...in people's lives and even here on Spark.

People focus on exercise as the be all and end all of losing weight....and the guilt that accompanies one's MISSING exercise can be mentally crippling and disheartening and since they aren't working out - well then, they think they WON't lose the weight.

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Enough already.

Exercise IS important.

Moving your body IS important.

BUT it is ALSO a variable....which means, depending on your life, your health, your mindset, your situation in life, your family (another variable)....this can go up and down in intensity or become non-existent at all!

In order to lose weight - their must be a calorie deficit going on. ..which makes ???WHAT???? the constant factor now??? Every day....until the day you die??

YOUR NUTRITION.

Period.

Think about it. If you eat better, if you TRACK your nutrition to actually SEE, on paper or on computer screen, what you are consuming - even if you are in a somewhat sedentary ....you will most likely lose weight.

Nutrition is your constant, every day thing. You HAVE to eat to survive.

Make the conscious choice to change your eating habits today if you are not.

Make the conscious choice to actually TRY the Spark People Nutrition Tracker and GIVE IT A CHANCE...even though you think it takes too much time to do (guess what? in time, practice makes perfect and lessens the amount of time the more you do it.)

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I have tracked for 4 years straight....I do NOT exercise every single day....I have lulls with exercise but I have educated myself on nutrition...it makes a world of difference.

Please....please....please....

Nutrition = constant

  
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SUZYWM 4/1/2012 1:54PM

    Thanks Annie. You know your stuff - and I appreciate that you're really talking about a moderate approach - this makes so much sense!

I'm more in touch with how food affects me these days, as opposed to only counting calories. I can feel it, and choosing to feel good is one of the things I'm focusing on.

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RCOLSON97 3/31/2012 8:52AM

    I once had a trainer tell me this and the light bulb went off in my head and that's the first time I started losing weight....awesome advice! I am def not an exercise guru and really don't like and hardly have time to exercise esp since I have my 3 yr old with me all the time and work the other time, but I do it when I want and just try to make healthy choices with my eating! My newest discovery I found is eating lots of small meals a day...then I never sit down and eat a huge meal, but I am never hungry! Even when I go out to eat with my hubby, I have to bring almost all my food home for later because now I get full so fast! I also think I revved up my metabolism doing this! YAY!

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FULLOFFAITH 3/25/2012 2:51PM

    You go girl emoticon. You speak nothing but the truth it all goes hand in hand. I am tracking every bit,lick and taste and as you know my movement is limited for now but I proved to my self I can still make that scale move with making healthy food choices.

Lisa

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HELLODANAE 3/24/2012 12:34AM

    my wise husband always said that 80% nutrition - 20% exercise so I have been thinking more an more about it since for now I can't workout as much because my knee.

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KIM--POSSIBLE 3/23/2012 9:59PM

    I agree with you to a point. I certainly gain when my nutrition is lacking. No question about that. Not just calories, but breakdown of nutrients and levels of sodium, etc. I can be in range, but be out of balance on carbs and protein, and have a gain on the scale. And if sodium is much above 1,000mg, I can definitely expect a gain the next day that takes days to work itself out.

However, I also gain when nutrition is nearly perfect but exercise is lacking. Moreover, when my exercise is lacking, I am also under more stress, which leads to the lack of time for exercise. So, is it the lack of exercise or the stress?

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GETSTRONGRRR 3/23/2012 9:48PM

    I have a favorite saying...."You can't work off a bad diet"

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BEATLETOT 3/23/2012 9:38PM

    It is so true!!! I wish I were consistently better about it!

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COLLINSCJ2009 3/23/2012 8:07PM

    Bad nutrition choices can't be fixed by exercise.

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NUOVAELLE 3/23/2012 12:01PM

    I agree with you and I believe that weight loss is an 80- 20 percentage as many people say. (80% nutrition - 20% exercise) I tried to lose weight by exercising consistently for two years. Guess what? Nothing happened! When I finally decided to devote time on starting to use the Nutrition tracker, the scale started moving. But exercise is still a very important factor for me. It works as a great motivator. When I exercise, I feel like I want to eat the right things and not just stay within calorie range. But that's just how it works for me.
Nice blog with great advice!
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SHANESANGEL2010 3/23/2012 10:46AM

    My focus right now is my nutrition, with whatever exercise I can fit in (which i procrastinate a lot)but I try to watch what i'm eating and I log everything. Great Post!!

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BOB240 3/23/2012 9:44AM

    Interesting view, on this site I think nutrition is presented best. If anything it is over emphasised. Good cardio vascular performance and strength are very necessary for a long and healthy life. There is little point in being skinny if your bodyfat is 30% - you are just as prone to some obesity and age related diseases. The bigger problem with being "skinny fit", a condition which almost invariably arises through focussing on diet, is that because you look good.. you think you are healthy..

Of some concern is the calories by calorie breakdown of some terrific recipes here and yet, although I have dug deep, I have yet to find an exercise routine that sensibly addresses long term goals both in weight loss and long term health benefits. Walking on a treadmill for an hour just doesn't cut it...:)

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PCOLAGATOR 3/23/2012 9:43AM

    You normally can't exercise enough to compensate for a poor diet but many people truly try

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STSCOTT11 3/23/2012 8:35AM

    GREAT BLOG and advice.
THANKS!

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Angry

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

There is no other word.

Angry.

Just came back from getting my taxes done...seeing people I see every year...for the last 10 years. Yup - they knew me as heavy Annie, pregnant Annie several times, then heavy Annie once again.

One of them happens to be the sister of my best friend from junior high...I haven't talked to the past bf since I left for another high school, but I send my warm regards to her every year anyway. Another is a long time local that I have known for years, another local mom - I like her, she's cool. Another is my tax guy. I am ANGRY at 2 of the three I saw today.

and to give you a hint, I'm not angry at the local mom I like.

The old bf sister made a comment....an observation put into words more like it. "You look so skinny! you are wasting away!"

emoticon "Nope," I say, "Same as last year. Same weight, same shirt. Maybe it's the makeup. Healthy as a horse"

"Really? Your face looks thinner" says the woman, quite the stick herself. In fact, her sister was quite the stick as well, and from fb pics I get to see, is still the same, even after 4 kids.

emoticon I DEFEND myself again, but chuckle and smile and change the subject to her own family.

On to the next encounter - my accountant.
"Hey lady, you look like you lost weight!" he says.

emoticon (I'm already on the defensive now) "Nope, same as last year...maybe it's the loose top and these new skinny jeans and these new flats I'm wearing." (the pants which, btw, are a size 8, just so you Sparkers all know that I am NOT wasting away into nothingness)

"Aww, I don't know about that honey."
emoticon whatever that is supposed to mean. Again, I get to business and change the subject.

The mom I like, we've known each other a long time, are friends on fb...she just says I look good...sheeesh, she sees me in pics all the time, she would know if I were "WASTING AWAY."

WHICH brings me to another pet peeve about a comment that I had received a while back. I wrote it in my planner, because I'm not the type to come on here and complain about being 132 pounds at 5 foot 2 inches tall. (Truly the vision of wasting away, don't you think???) but this was more to the fact about the wording and phrasing of another long time aquantaince in my community. Here is the quote that has burned in my brain:

"You are STILL thin! I'm so glad."

STILL. That one word made me grit my teeth, say a very nice "yes, it's hard work, but I'm determined" and say goodbye and walk away SEETHING - even though I am fully aware that it was meant to be nice....oh and I am SO glad you are glad!! Eeesh.

STILL - think about it. "STILL"

"STILL" implies that you probably thought at some point that I would fail and gain my weight back. (Don't worry honey, I will STILL being using Spark and doing what I'm doing a year from now.)

"You are so thin" means that me being thinner has upset your version of me in your head. (You think you have it bad. Trust me....even I have a hard time wrapping my head around it....it depends on the day, sweetie.)

Normally - overweight people want that recognition of being thinner really really bad....especially when you are trying and trying very hard to lose the weight. I get it. I lived it. It's this aftermath that can get a little weird.....years later, on maintenance, when you are STILL trying to wrap your head around JUST STAYING this way....to not obsess, to not over think...to try and live "like a normal person"...that comments such as this tend to tick you off.

And don't tell me that it wouldn't.

It gives all the hard work you have done a more NEGATIVE spin.

It takes all the fitness, the good nutrition, the time, the effort....it just takes all that and minimizes it into something much less proud....not humbling, more (oh I can't even figure out the word!)...more debasing....degrading...whatever...

What is it that makes people comment so "negatively" - especially people (not your family) that you rarely see?

I have had comments from people over the last year, sure...all put in a nice way: "I'm so happy that you are maintaining the way you are...it's wonderful." or "Looking good kiddo, working hard I bet." or I will even take "Hey skinny!" I take them graciously, I say thank you, I even blush because that is what I do....and there is no need to be defensive when a comment is said in a certain way. I get it.

but sometimes.....oooo, it really fries my fritter.

Did you know that 9 times out of 10 - it's my HUSBAND who gets the compliments, not me.

Did you know that 85% of time - I see myself as waaay heavier than 132 and that battle is something that I have accepted and that I know for a fact that if one doesn't change ones self image, it can lead to disaster and another eating disorder?

Did you know that IF I WANTED to - I could drop another 10 pounds in the blink of an eye? How?? Because I know how to with nutrition and exercise. Am I going to?????? No way in hell. You read that right. Some people would KILL to be 122...nope...not me.

But WHY NOT? you may ask. Because for me: I don't want to. Again, I'm smart...I know things ("Godfather" Fredo reference right there - LoL). Anatomy and physiology of the body was the best class I ever took. I want to be able to maintain and LIVE a life that does not mean counting every calorie of every single day of my life. If I were 122 - that would be my life. I want to NOT exercise every single day to maintain this weight. I want to be active and NOT be a slave to the treadmill or the gym. Fit but not fried.

This is what I want when I am 40.....45....50...55.....and yes, 60 years old.

Next year....I will be wearing this very same outfit to get my taxes done.
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ASUPERCOOLCHICK 3/21/2012 5:51PM

    this is a topic that burns me to no end. Usually I let the comments roll of my back but there are a few comments and comments from a few that can push the wrong button.

Last night was one from my mom, usually I dont let her comments bother me but after it was said and done I keep letting my mind take me back to it. She came over for dinner last night (we've been making hoops together) I had just finished eating when she got there and she asked if I was already done and I nodded and looked over to the plate I had by the sink and she looked at it and said "what did you eat, NOTHING?" the nothing was accented and emphasized. I told her there used to be a mound of pasta on the plate but now it was in mah belly.
I guess what ticks me off about it is that its completely opposite from what she used to say when I was a kid.

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NUOVAELLE 3/21/2012 2:55AM

    How rude can some people be!!! Check out these comments:
"Make sure you don't gain it back, ok?"
"Oh, you haven't gained any kilos yet, right?" YET? It hit the same chord in my brain like STILL did to yours!
"You'd better not lose any more weight, you just wouldn't look good, you know..." said with a frown of disgust on the face! - Did I mention I'm still in the "overweight section" of BMI? And she was looking at me as if she was looking at a skinny, sick, anorexic!!!
I can imagine how angry you feel. But rude people will always find something rude and hurtful to say. Look at the positive side - or at least try, I know how hard it can be! What they really do is commenting on your great success. Maybe they're not good at making comments, or they don't like your success or they're jealous. But, still, they're one more living proof that you belong to this small one-digit percentage of people who lost weight and have been able to maintain it! Doesn't that feel great?
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XRSIZE18 3/21/2012 2:41AM

    I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that your weight loss upsets people's vision of you. It's easy for people to feel threatened when other's lose weight because it really makes them reflect on their own lifestyles. Even if they are a "twig" I think everyone has a little bit of body unhappiness going on.
Just ignore the bad and focus on the good comments. :) You've put your hard work and sweat into this and somebody's snide comments can't ever undo that.

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DONNACFIT 3/20/2012 7:18PM

    Saw this cute idea on Pinterest..When you really want to slap someone, go ahead and then say mosquito..haha..wink wink

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another good one is ..some people need a high five, in the face, with a chair :)

There..doesn't that feel better..I hope you're laughing :)

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 3/20/2012 4:49PM

    Deep breaths...

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I don't know these people you describe, so I can't say whether they specifically have an agenda to belittle you.

But I can tell you that most people just aren't thinking when they open their mouths, and they don't know where you are at emotionally or mentally, and they're probably just saying something they think is a compliment, however clumsy.

It's all good. You're doing well. You've found where you want to be and you've figured out how to stay there. So it's OK to relax a little into that and care less what other people say. Because they aren't spending as much time thinking about what they're saying as you're thinking about what they're saying.

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This is a rough road we've been down and it's hard to hold the line, my comrade. I suggest that some of your anger may stem from the post-traumatic stress we all suffer from what we've been through and are still going through. Hang in there. It's all good.

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OAKBORN 3/20/2012 4:44PM

    Oh Annie!

I hear you. Take the compliments and ignore those who can't get themselves together and are jealous, I guess. Some people can't simply be happy for others. The comments are more about themselves than they are about you.

You are amazing. There! I have spoken

But as you said, the battle goes on. Maintenance is a daily struggle all of its own... and until you have walked a mile in that person's shoes... The people that make the backhanded compliments need someone else to make themselves feel better... they just don't know they are stepping on the shoulders of giants.

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DINGALLSTOO 3/20/2012 3:23PM

    Hey, I ran into a long time hospital employee the other day, and she says: didn't you used to work here?????? I've been in the same department (blood bank) for 34 years. Apparently she doesn't recognize me walking the halls for exercise during the winter. I have had people say:"you're still thin"...and I weigh 179 and I've been in this range for a year too. I hadn't been this small in 30 years, since Haddiego (another Daisy) was born. In my case I just shrug it off as trying to compliment, but falling short. emoticon

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doing another 5% challenge

Monday, March 12, 2012

So here I am....and this time, I really think that I can contribute to this new 5% Spring challenge...in mileage, that is. emoticon The winter one was HAAAARD! My basement was cold...sure, I walked outside a lot more, but nothing like the spring! Ahhhh Spring!!! emoticon

So, everyone in the challenge is supposed to post what they are going to do for the challenge...and why, I guess (confession here: I am NOT the best at challenges...maybe it's because of this semi-lone wolf/hermit thing I got going on at times)

So here is the plan - get ready.....it's SUPER original.

Does this look familiar???????

I'll give you a hint: it should.

I'll give you another hint: it's taken from the Sparkdiet....step 2 to be exact.

OK , OK....that wasn't really a hint, but it's what I do when I want to refocus and get back on track. If I could have a dollar for every time I used the above to get back on track....well, I'd be swimming in some serious dough after being on here for 4 years!

I will admit, I have been a tad "naughty" in my life lately - but at least I haven't had wine...or bacon (thank you Lent)...but I have had more baked treats than ever before....Nope, another lie here....My first Spark Christmas was pretty hairy - lots of baked goods and chocolate while trying to feel out Maintenanceville. Maybe I just FEEL like I've been naughty right now for no reason....nothing like the ease of beating oneself up, right???

So back to the 5% challenge "goals" for myself:
emoticon Bike to work more often than not.
emoticon Get out and walk a bit more too....outside...in the air....especially on the days I am off.
emoticon My stability ball.....totally needs to be dusted off, plopped in front of the TV and sat on during American Idol....maybe even some crunches will get done!
emoticon emoticon emoticon Go to bed earlier!!!! I've been staying up horribly late the last 2 to 3 months....why??? I hate my bedding. Yup, silly as that. I need a new comforter or something...and I need to change the position of my bed too....yeah, yeah, yeah - sounds silly, but I am a little silly sometimes when it comes to the position of my bed in a room. It's time for a change. emoticon
emoticon Get out into the garden and WEED when I think of it...especially when the kids are playing ball!! Maybe I will make them have to bug me to do it...then it will really get done!

OK....that's enough. I don't expect perfection with these "goals". Sorry that goals keeps getting quotes around it. I am not a big fan of the word "goals" just like I hate the word "diet" . Sometimes people overemphasize "goals" and then get all bummed and down when they don't reach them. I think I prefer "Generalized achievements that are symbiotic with my lifestyle" (my own new phrase that I just made up btw) is more to my taste....because really....my lifestyle changes...day to day sometimes. It's better to learn to roll with the punches and do our best to live a healthy & active life. No? Goals are very important to have, but they have to be realistic too....just sayin'.

Ahh...now for some coffee and a walk around outside to break up for the mid-day sleepiness that comes around about now.
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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LINDABENEDICT 3/20/2012 10:39PM

    emoticon GO STARFISH!

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FULLOFFAITH 3/15/2012 10:42PM

    Good for you!!! Good luck !!!!

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Lisa

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DONNACFIT 3/12/2012 3:21PM

    Glad you're in the 5% challenge again, too :)

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BEATLETOT 3/12/2012 2:47PM

    Hooray!!! So excited to do another challenge with you!

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CPATRICK9 3/12/2012 2:32PM

    I think 5% goals are good. Keep it up and you'll get to where you want to be! emoticon

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