Monday, December 10, 2012
I will NEVER say that getting back in the saddle is easy.
Never, ever, EVER!
But sometimes are easier than others, depending on how off it's been.
For example: I mentioned that I was going to get derailed this weekend...and you know what? I sure as heck was!!! To the nth degree too!!
There was "visiting eating" - I also call this "polite" eating because you are the guest and it's a special occasion and there is NO WAY you can avoid this specially prepared meal of greasy latkes and brisket. There is NO POSSIBLE way. And the special dessert the hostess made for us because we mentioned we liked it so much! Can't forget that. And of course there is your favorite wine they bought ...Can't not have a glass!
So you see, I had no real choice in the matter. Hey, sometimes you don't! I've been a guest at this meal for 6 years - I know what to expect too!
And then there was the football game yesterday with it's mini-hotdogs and nachos. That meal was a 4 to 1 decision NOT in my favor to have. Ugh. By then, all I wanted was a salad!!!
So here I am today and OH THE BLOAT!! So bad my wedding band set it tight!
So now it's time to get back to better eating - which means that anything fried, sweet, salty - Ugh.. just the thought of it is turning my stomach!
I'm CRAVING green things. Crispy, green things.
I'm not craving my water just yet, but I'm chugging it nonetheless - and it's helping me feel more normal.
I have a scout den meeting/holiday party tonight - ziti and cheese and crackers... and a NICE BIG SALAD!! But it's on MY turf and I have control over what I eat, as opposed to the visiting scenario. And that makes me feel
In the next few days, things will slowly start to feel more and more normal...it takes time, I get it. No worries.
Saturday, December 08, 2012
So today, the scale was up.
3 pounds.... WhAt!?!?!?! OMG!!!!
Most of us would be having a sh-t fit, but after a while of learning and relearning, the first thing I do is look back at the last 2 or 3 days and see what was going on...here's the last 2 days:
- Pizza for dinner last night (no big whoop - I ate 2 garlic knots and a slice and a half)
- 2 glasses of white wine (over 2 days - ooooOooo)
- ran 3 miles (Woohoo!)
- water not up to par overall (slacker!!!)
- haven't had a real good, satisfying, colin cleansing, well...you know....in 4 or 5 days (is that T.M.I. ?) LOL
And tonight....well, tonight is our annual Hannukah dinner with our adopted Jewish grandparents...so basically, I've got another meal not in my power to control (and you can't control this one...everything is fried and yummy, and that is AOK, it's a special occassion).
Things I know: wine is NOT good for my body - I blow up like a tick. Haven't had any for over a month and it just sops it up like a sponge!! Yay evil wine! (you delicious evil bugger!)
Things I know: got salt?? I sure have it in my system...you want some? I'll gladly share with you.
Things I know: exercise water retention - after I exercise, my muscles are healing and thus, the water retention. I feel good to, not sore, so let the healing continue!
Things I know: I didn't drink ENOUGH water the 2 days prior to my exercise so now that my body HAS water - it's gonna stay, especially with my salt intake.
Things I know: I need to drink my water today. Like, the whole 8 glasses for sure.
So while others might flip out - I tackle these things logically and calm.
LoL - Oh.. don't get me wrong, there was a day (Ok, many a day) that I WOULD flip out, but time and learning how my body works has changed all that.
Being an observer in your own life is sometimes your greatest ally.
I'll get back to my "normal" in a few days. Between the special occasions during the year, that is what you do - get back on track in between and the up's won't be as difficult to see or bear.
Friday, December 07, 2012
I have this tendency to start a blog...and then delete it lately. I'm up to counting 4 in the last 2 weeks. And there are various reasons I do this, but it's mainly because sometimes I get to thinking that since I am steady and stable, no one is going to want to read what I write...and other times I am thinking that maybe I am coming off too harsh in what I'm writing... because after a few years of reading some things, or observing things, I can get a bit pissy and it comes off in what I write.
So instead of being negative, I just hit "delete" and then move on with my life... leaving my Sparkfriends who actually read what I write and who have stood by me over the years wondering "where the heck is Annie?" Sorry about that guys.
So today, I am putting out an observation that I have had for a long long time. To share it with you and see what you think.
The other night, I watched a 2 hour story about "The 600 Pound Mom". I usually don't watch these kinds of shows but this compelled me because of this doctor helping this woman. The doctor's goal was to get her down to 500 pounds so that she could have bariatric surgery.
The man set her up with a 700 calorie diet - bed scales to monitor her weightloss - constant one on one attention and support.
Did she lose weight? yes she did...but not without difficulty. This difficulty came in the mood swings and diet rage. (something we all can relate too - at least I can, and it compelled me to watch the show more)
Did she follow the doctors order? for a while - heck she lost 100pounds! but with her success also came complacency...and she began cheating the system thinking that just because her "watch-dogs" (ie, her children and the doc was not there 24/7) were not watching her and she was successful, she began to sneak eat. (ahhh....another point I can relate to!! so I keep on watching the show to see how she fares with her weigh-in)...
The bed scales broke eventually.
Weigh-in day at the hospital came.
They got her there and weighed her on a special bed....and to everyone's shock (especially the poor doctor who staked his reputation on his regimine) she gained back over 100 pounds she had lost in the time period of 4 months. She was eating approximately 7000 calories a day.
They thought she was closer to 500 pounds...but she thought she was smarter than the science and used a sprinkle powder on her meals to counter-act the calories. (aahhhh, the quick fix! Been there, done that method too)
To say that the doctor was devastated is an understatement. To say this woman was devastated and shocked is mild. But it was what it was and it was evident that she had a serious serious problem...and eventually, a doctor was found that would do bariatric surgery on her at 689 pounds.
(I'm still watching the program . . and now I'm thinking this: this woman is screwed. I'll get to why later).
So they do the surgery, they get her in rehab....and she leaves it. Flat out discharges herself. Why??? Because they made her work. They made her exercise. They wanted to make her WALK! for Pete's sake! To HELP her. (But evidently, she had her quick fix right?)..and she wanted to go home.
Long story short. She died a month or so later. It was too late for her to be helped.
NOW - here is my take on this whole thing - and it was just touched upon ONCE during the WHOLE ENTIRE PROGRAM by a nutritionist/psychologist lady:
This psychologist came on to say that her issues were too much to handle and if she didn't get help with resolving those long suffering issues, she would never be successful with her weightloss.
GIVE THAT WOMAN A PRIZE!!!!
DING DING DING DING!!!!!
A 15 second blip on the tv summed up this entire woman's crisis in a nutshell.
And now - all you Biggest Loser Watcher's out there: what's the turning point for most of the contestants on the show???? Anyone? Buehller? Anyone?
It's when Jillian Michaels is yelling in someone's face about something in their past - confronting their demons - coming face to face with the HARD STUFF that happens in life... and instead of bottling it up inside, they HAVE TO confront it and SAY it because Jillian and Bob aren't going to go away until they do.
It's a process.
It is mental.
It is digging in deep and saying out loud that things hurt, that there has been loss and pain... and that you are worth fixing.
No one is going to do that except you.
Not a pill... Not a doctor prescribing a pill... not a trainer making you do squats... Not a package of food that is delivered in the mail is going to fix things.
The work happens in your head and in your heart, and healing and finding that you are worth loving and being loved.... THAT is where things start to change.
Why did I go and give you this 600 pound mom's story? Because maybe, just maybe, if they started talking and counseling while she was eating those 700 calorie meals, MAYBE she could have made it and stayed at 500 pounds and MAYBE she'd be alive today.
Go find it and watch it online. You will see what I mean while you are watching it.
Why and I telling you about inner demons today? Because more than not, you probably have them...and MAYBE that is what is holding you back in being successful in this whole weightloss journey.
I tried to lose weight for 20 years...and then I learned/realized what my demons were when I hit 35 and had 3 beautiful kids to get healthy for. They deserved a healthy mom with less demons...and while those demons still lurk in the darkest corners, my light is stronger than their darkness.
They say that 95% of people who lose weight eventually gain it all back.
That makes only 5% successful at maintaining.
My wish for you this holiday, it to start your journey on the inside, look deep at what's there, and together, let's make that successful maintaining stat grow... and prove that it can... and WILL be done.
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Yup...I completely forgot and here I come on Spark to log-in, get some points, check in... and I have an email and goodie and a few page comments (which I will get to return visits in a wee bit to say thanks to) ... and I see that I was lovingly reminded of the fact that I hit 137 on 11/18/2009....and I am glad to say that I have only seen that number once while on maintenance since I am maintaining in the 130-135 range.
But even so, the 137 was a HUGE thing because that was 50 pounds gone.
FIVE -- ZERO.
Really??? I did that? and I am keeping it off? Yes, I guess I am...and it's a habit to keep my head in the game now because it HAS been so long...who knew.
People from my past always say that it's nice to see and are somewhat surprised that I have kept it off, and sometimes, I am surprised myself....especially when I am down on myself....and clothes are a little tight and I have had a bad eating & low exercise day/week/month that I am not really 157, 167, 177 or 187 because sometimes, it feels like that. (LoL - yes Virginia, there is such a thing as bad days on maintenance).
Anyway...the big secret of this (get ready to hold on to your hats folks!) well, it is to track my food, drink my water, keep my body moving... and never give up on the bigger picture of things... and when I see that upper number on the range, reign in the bad habits and bump up the good habits... and forgive myself when I slip up.
Are there bad times and slip ups? yup, more emotional than calendar influenced (holidays are manageable now). Exercise helps out with those emotional bad times most of the time and talking helps with the rest...talking/blogging ...same difference.
Things that also help....my Maintenance Buddy OAKBORN and I are in touch every day either here or on FB (ahem, more on FB really - LOL) and she really is awesome and you should check out her page. I know she is a ready ear to listen to anything at all... and that is a big help. One day, we will meet face to face, but in the meantime...we have the internet and that is cool and good enough for now.
And the other thing that really really helps....is Sparkpeople... the site, the tools, the community, and the articles. If this wasn't here, I don't know if I would have ever achieved any of this. Why do I know that? Because I tried everything out there over the years (i.e. Slim fast, Weight Watchers, eDiets, and yes, even the drug phen-phen for a few months) and nothing seemed to stick. Spark taught me to re-learn how I ate...and that knowledge is my power now.
OK - Didn't mean to go on a side bar there...I think I wrote about it a while back in my journal and it just popped out again now! LoL But it's true.
Thanks, Sparkers, for being there (and also for reminding me that it has actually been 3 years on Maintenance on Spark!)
Love and Sparks,
Saturday, November 10, 2012
If you didn't already know it from my Sparkname...I am from LI , a.k.a. Long Island. (That's the fish shaped island sticking out into the ocean that's part of New York State).
2 weeks later, I am finally finding the time to write a blog and give everyone an update on the whole thing. What the media has been showing about Long Beach and the Rockaways is all true...I can only imagine how NJ is faring.
There are other parts of LI that are pretty bad too and some are just getting power back now...12 or so days later....and some still might not get power until Thanksgiving. The other side of the devastation is on a bell curve...all resulting mental anguish: some have to rebuild their entire homes and on the flip side, anyone with even an inch of water is battling mold and replacing sheetrock and bleaching wood, and needing to replace boilers and hot water heaters because they were ruined by salt water...and then there are the people who not only have their homes flooded but have boats floating in their front yards from 2 towns over ! No joke. ALL are trying to right themselves.
I can't even write about it in detail because it would become a book instead of a blog.
My house and family, and extended family too, fared very well with only power outages that extended about 6 to 7 full days. We all helped each other out: eating chili together, sharing freezer space, keeping the elders warm by the fireplace. Ahh, family togetherness at it's best, that does start getting old after about the 4th day....mainly for the people "without", but also for the people "with" because all we want for them is for things to get back to normal and for them to not hurt. But the people "with" totally understand the predicament and let's face it, it could have been a whole lot worse for everyone, including us...and we count our blessings time and time again...and then we help out some more.
Is there "survivor's guilt" going on all over Long Island? ....you bet.
There is this fog that everyone is in here. It's like we lost a week of our lives. Halloween? yeah, we did it - for the kids. Others postponed it and did it as a trunk and treat at the school parking lot...those who had enough gas to get there.
Did I even mention the gas shortage here? It was very "Mad Max" for a while. Desperate people trying to fill cans to fill generators. Cars needing to be pushed into the gas station after the car ran out of gas while waiting on a 3 hours line. Fist fights. Good times..good times.
Thank god things like this are getting better with even and odd gas days (i.e.. you go get gas on the even day of the month if your car license plate ends in an even number) and now that power is being restored more rapidly and that the gas is actually getting delivered to stations.
Back to the mental fog I mentioned before.
I am in the grocery store today and I see a few elderly people from the neighborhood. So I asked how they fared - the usual answer is power lost and fridges and freezer contents thrown out. But the answers today were followed by that they got very depressed about everything....from the lights going out, to depending on others, to seeing the aftermath, etc. etc.
It was something I wasn't expecting to hear from these people.
So I can only IMAGINE how the people without homes, electricity, etc. in the most devastated areas are feeling.
These thoughts have been mulling around in my head the last few days and then I happened to read in the local paper that post-traumatic stress was going to be very high in the next few months here...and in varying degrees.
No kidding. I see it and hear it when talking to the most upbeat of people. Heck, I feel it in myself!
I helped a newer friend of mine clean out her lower house level yesterday...and brought my radio, some hot chocolate and a smile. She thanked me just for being there to distract and listen and for my hugs and support. Sometimes just doing a little can mean the most to someone who is hurting.
So Sparkfriends...that is my quick update from Long Island. Help out any way you can....the entire NY, NJ, CT, PA and WV region was hit pretty bad and if you can reach out and donate anything to an organization to help...please do it.
In the meantime....keep on Sparking.
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