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Practice makes perfect.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

I have been thinking a lot about long term maintenance lately. I am technically 3 years in, but really, I myself count it as 5.

Why 5? Well, that is when things "clicked" for me and I changed my attitude and mind set for good...for life. My Sparkpage was titled "Enough is enough" back then...and it was.

What made that time different than all of the other times before. Maybe it was maturity. Maybe it was coming to terms with past life issues. Maybe it was wanting a healthy future for my kids...the kids were new to the picture, it wasn't just about me this was about them. But those are MY reasons...

Which brings me to the thought that maybe that is what it's really about. Good reasons to finally kick it into healthy gear.

For example: It's not about getting into a dress for an event - that is superficial. It is not about being 10 pounds lighter for a reunion - again, superficial. It is not about being as thin as you were in highschool, or before you got married - again, all superficial. Call me crazy, but I have NEVER read a blog about someone losing 40 pounds JUST for a high school reunion and then keeping it off for years later. Heck, if anyone has, then please, please, speak up.

What it is really is about is being healthy...and if being thin comes as a bonus to that, then so be it!

Maybe that is what changed in my head.

Now fast forward to year 3 of maintenance. For the fist year, I tracked nutrition religiously. The second year, sporadically - on and off as needed. Entering year 3 - I have not tracked food in a while, I exercise sporadically, I watch things because I learned my limitations based on YEARS of active observation on my part. I learned how my body works. I learned the cycles of holidays. I learned the attitudes of myself and others around celebration and how to spin it to my advantage. I don't deny myself anything. I keep my healthy water drinking habit up like it's a life or death thing. This is my way, others have theirs, but this...this is mine.

By year 3, you really should know how things are. You know better. However, it doesn't mean that you will not get derailed and HAVE to go back to the basics from time to time. Knowing when to go back to the basics is the key. I still go back to the basics when I need to.

It also doesn't mean that life won't throw you a curve ball in the form of a tragedy or injury, and you won't have to deal with it. Oh, you will because this is life. How you handle that with all of your past knowledge will be what sets you apart from the rest. Forks in the road will come up, and you will have to choose...kinda like using "the Force" in Star Wars.

I introduced the kids to the old phrase "Practice Makes Perfect". It's a phrase not used to much today - I have rarely heard it from a teacher in the last 5 years....maybe it's because society knows that nothing is "perfect" and it's too much pressure for a kid. BullSh!t is what I say. Practice makes perfect for you. If it's 80%, then great, that is your perfect...but damn it, practice to your fullest potential.

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KANOE10 3/26/2013 8:55AM

    That was a great blog. You are exactly right. Practice those healthy habits and keep them going. You really have developed a healthy life over these past years. You understand your body and have also figured out the critical celebrations in our lives.

I also think knowing when to go back to the basics is the key to maintenance, I am learning to accept my periods of derailment and get through them.

Congrats on your 5 years of success. That was a very inspirational blog.

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PBLITZ 3/22/2013 5:25AM

    YOU ARE AMAZING!! this was SO SO good!! couldn't agree more!

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SASSYSACY 3/21/2013 1:35PM

    Well written as always Annie and inspiring, as usual. emoticon


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NUOVAELLE 3/21/2013 2:38AM

    You're absolutely right Annie! When you put "health" in the weight loss equation, your chances of finding what works and following it for life automatically increase. As I've said before, vanity reasons are good but they're usually forgotten after a while because they're what you said: superficial.
As for the quote "practice makes perfect", it's definitely right. Let's not focus on the word "perfect" but rather on the word "practice". In my country we have another quote that says "Repetition is the mother of learning." The more we practice something and the more we try to be good at it, the more we learn. And that's what it's all about.
Great blog!

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-AMANDA79- 3/20/2013 10:08PM

    Great blog! Especially this part

"What it is really is about is being healthy...and if being thin comes as a bonus to that, then so be it! "

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DALID414 3/20/2013 7:05PM

    I don't hear the phrase either. I heard it all the time as a kid.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 3/20/2013 3:55PM

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JESSICABOOTY 3/20/2013 2:23PM

    Does any one REALLY know what perfection is? Trying your best is basically the only practice you can do. I think the word was made to keep people down. Boils down to "I am superior to you (fill in the blank) so I am perfect and that makes you less than me, therefore you are imperfect and will NEVER be perfect. Think about this for awhile. Thanks, Annie, for giving us some food for thought.
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NEW-CAZ 3/20/2013 2:13PM

    Well said, we can only do so much.
I think perfect is a hard ask, as humans we are imperfect!

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An ode to my pot belly

Sunday, March 17, 2013

You and I have been together,
Since I ever could remember.
You been patted, squished
Criticized, mushed
Been the torment of my youth.

You have never truly gone away,
And maybe that is why today
I barely tend to think of you
As really something, not that new.

You have come and gone through pregnancies
Hanging out inside my jeans.
Whether then size 16 or now a 6,
You always seem to get your kicks
By hanging out and staying there
Tucked inside my underwear.

Iím 40 now and over you.
There is really nothing I can do
Because gravity now is not a friend
My boobs, my butt have joined the sag,
Looking like a crumpled bag.

Youíre not that important after all
Forgot about you when Motherhood called.
The kids they really do not care
That you are ever present there.

Iím amazed that you were so important
To me so long ago.
It seems that with age Iím all the wiser
To go along with the flow.

If I could take back anything
It would be the time I lost
Worrying about something dumb
Really wasnít worth the cost.

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NUMD97 3/30/2013 8:28PM

    You know what I like about you, Annie? You have [or perhaps always thought this way, who knows?] complete acceptance of your body as you age.

You're definitely one woman who has her priorities straight. Lovely to see.

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DWEXCEL 3/20/2013 8:48AM

    Love it! Perfect :)

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NEW-CAZ 3/19/2013 3:24PM

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JESSICABOOTY 3/18/2013 7:25PM

    If you listen hard, you can still hear me laughing. emoticon

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KANOE10 3/18/2013 7:43AM

    :Lovely poem and perfect ending. I am glad you are happy with yourself, Yah on the size 6 fitting you.


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REBECCATKD 3/17/2013 10:36PM

    How poetic!

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-AMANDA79- 3/17/2013 2:21PM

    *sigh* So when I'm 40 I won't long for a tummy tuck anymore? The twins did a number on my midsection. Brats!

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DALID414 3/17/2013 2:15PM

    emoticon for taking back the power.

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ITSMYTYME2SHYNE 3/17/2013 9:23AM

    Great blog, it's a keeper

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NEW-CAZ 3/17/2013 9:12AM


Reminded me of the type of ode typical of Pam Ayres emoticon

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JGRAY76 3/17/2013 8:33AM

    Very clever. Something all women our age can related to.

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NSV - 60 jumping jacks

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Yup - 60 jumping jacks

Not that big to some, but for's HUGE!!!!


Well because I didn't wet my pants! That's why!

Just think about it
- 3 kids born au natural
- heavy for lots of my life
- not a big exerciser prior to the last 5 years

All that adds up to some, um, leakage at some point! emoticon

I'm not to proud to admit it either... this is a HUGE HUGE thing to actually do jumping jacks and KNOW that I am not going to piddle the floor like a puppy! emoticon

I don't know when this amazing thing came into play - I don't really do jumping jacks - so I will just chalk it up to the miracle of exercise! Keep at it and wonderful things will happen!!!

But why am I doing jumping jacks now?? To discover this wonderful thing as the lack of the piddle? Well, it's a quick and easy cardio to do while just standing around... I can do it anywhere (NO - I have NOT done it in a supermarket yet) but it gets me moving to actually DO something when I have not done anything in what feels like... forever!

So YAY!!!! to exercise and the wonderful things it brings about! emoticon


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NEW-CAZ 3/16/2013 5:37AM


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JESSICABOOTY 3/15/2013 11:30AM

    Don't you just feel miserable when you leak? I can see why your bladder might be acting up. I went to a urologist a few years ago and he told me that since I was middle-aged I should take advantage of stopping at every restroom. Seems that the bladder isn't doing such a good job any more and the brain doesn't quite get the message. Give it a try!

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KANOE10 3/14/2013 8:59AM

    Yah to exercise and feeling better! Good for you.

I am sorry about the sore muscles!


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DALID414 3/13/2013 10:56PM

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OAKBORN 3/13/2013 10:43PM

    emoticon Rock on!

And trust me, you are not alone! emoticon

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KIMH51 3/13/2013 8:50PM

    wow.. love your enthusiasm!!! You go girl... no, don't go on the floor.. I've been thinking about trying some jumping jacks, read/heard somewhere they are the absolute best exercise as they literally move your entire body at the same time - for me that would be crazy -

Have fun, I'll be thinking about you and thinking what would I do if I came across someone doing jumping jacks at the supermarket.. I think I would join in of course.. wouldn't that be a hoot!!! Flash jumps in aisle 9!!!! LOL

Take care and keep on jumping!

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Is Sparkcoach helping?

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

This is a very very very informal poll... I am just curious.

Please answer the following if you are using Sparkcoach:

a) I am more motivated now than ever before: Yes or no

b) Has this made the difference?

c) Is guilt (ie, I am paying for it so I have to use it) a factor in your success? or does it not matter (like in any other paid online diet plan - WW, eDiets, Jenny C)

d) If you have used other programs (as I mentioned above) - what makes this one different from the others? and is it better? OR is it YOU that has a different mentality this time around???

Seriously, I am just curious... Food for thought...

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KANOE10 3/14/2013 8:58AM

    Not an Sp user.

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LWADE1963 3/13/2013 11:46PM

    I use spark coach and i love it. It keeps me accountable and combines all the great things on spark website

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DALID414 3/13/2013 11:41PM

    Not a SparkCoach user.

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NUOVAELLE 3/13/2013 9:12AM

    I hope you don't mind that I'm leaving a comment here without using Sparkcoach.
I just wanted to say that I hope no one answers "yes" at question c! This can be a real trap and I've actually experienced it. I used to feel guilty for paying my dietitian and would follow her orders because "I spent money and I had to prove that it was for a good reason." But one day I stopped paying. And so did my success...
I'll be back to read the comments. I'm curious, too!
Interesting poll!

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Taking chances

Monday, March 11, 2013

Sometimes life is a gamble... I am learning this a little late, especially since I am usually on the safer side of the fence: don't disrupt the order of things, don't run with scissors... you know... that kind of being.

But sometimes, life throws you are curveball and things NEED to change and you HAVE TO take a chance on something new, and the only thing that is really holding you back, you. sad is that to think of! emoticon

But that is how it is sometimes, and I'd rather rip off the bandaid and realize it now before life goes on without me!

Another EWW!!! emoticon What a horrible thought!!! But let's face it, sometimes that happens to people.

Well, today I took a chance and threw a resume into cyberspace.

That alone was weird to do...who the heck knows if I will get a call, but really, there is no time like the present when it comes to certain things, and this, is probably one of those times.

Why not??? What is it going to hurt? Absolutely nothing.

What is weird is that I have no nerves about it - and usually, I am a bundle of nerves lately! emoticon We shall see....

Weird that I am not holding my breath either... life's curveballs have had that affect on me since the last 2 months have come to pass...

Anyway, we shall see... we . shall . see...

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DWEXCEL 3/13/2013 8:40AM

    Good for you! As someone stated above, things that are worth having, are worth taking a risk for. And, of course, if you didn't put it out there (your resume), it would not get looked at.

I for one, think good things will happen for you!!!!

Love you and Best of Luck!

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KANOE10 3/12/2013 8:19AM

    You have courage to take a chance and to change! You go, girl. I hope your resume is well received.

Good luck. emoticon

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NUOVAELLE 3/12/2013 2:21AM

    If we don't take chances in life, chances are that... nothing will ever happen! Nothing bad but nothing good, either. I'm glad you decided to take a chance and one that's much different from what you're used to do.
I wish you the very best of luck!

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JESSICABOOTY 3/11/2013 6:18PM

    I'll be cheering you on, Annie!
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ANNIEONLI 3/11/2013 1:11PM

    Thanks guys...for all of the support lately, especially since it is not really weightloss or maintenance related.

On that front - things are status quo....still in maintenance range and a 5K looming on March 23rd that I talked a friend into doing! LOL We are both in for it since there are hills involved!!!! If anything, it will be a good laugh and reunion! emoticon

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-AMANDA79- 3/11/2013 1:04PM

    I've recently been challenged as well, so I feel ya!


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OAKBORN 3/11/2013 12:43PM

    Best of luck! emoticon

Sometimes you have to throw those arrows out there like a wish with wings emoticon and just see what happens!

Leaping into the unknown can sometimes be the most fulfilling experience!

emoticon And in the meantime, just keep swimming!

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DALID414 3/11/2013 12:19PM

    emoticon it's very courageous of you to post your resume. Be wary of the Sales jobs, they usually are the first to contact you, unless of course you're looking for a sales position, in that case you're lucky!

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STSCOTT11 3/11/2013 12:15PM

I had a job for 3 years...even though I wasn't exactly happy with the people on it the job was not a bad job. It happen to be one where people were ELECTED into the positions every 3 years. One year all 5 people (who then makes up all other staff's BOSS) CHANGED.
I didn't get along with the new person...and I couldn't please her FOR NOTHING.
She personally campaigned I BE FIRED. She was nearly successful.
Thanks be to GOD and whatever else I had did right I was transferred to an adjoining office. STILL under the same umbrella but working with a group of DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
I have to admit...I kicked and screamed GOING...BUT when I got there it was PARADISE. I haven't regreted the move YET.
SO GLAD A CHANGE was made...even though it was one I didn't want at the time.
SO GLAD I didn't jump ship or cut my own nose off between "the move". Been on my job now for 9 YEARS.

CHANGE can be a good thing...GOOD LUCK. emoticon

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