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Change of Plans

Thursday, September 18, 2014

I am off today, which I did not plan. I decided to roll with it, though. A little organizing at home this morning, then lunch with a friend, then grocery shopping at Costco this afternoon.

My friend called a little after 9, saying her work schedule had changed and we have to postpone lunch. I was disappointed, as I have not seen her in several months, but OK, I will roll with this one too. I'll work at home a bit longer and then go out shopping.

I just got another call. From my bank. My debit card has been compromised. Half a dozen items showed this morning, only one of which was mine. They are cancelling the card immediately and I'll have a new one in a few days. Kudos to PNC for being so on top of the situation.

Now I will be spending my day figuring out all the places that have that card on file for payment.

  
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ROBBIEMARIE 9/19/2014 9:20AM

    Rolling with the punches, good for you! A friend of mine who works in a bank taking care of such problems will not use a debit card and will only use a credit card that is embedded with a chip. She tells too many scary stories. Too many compromises being done by the thousands if not millions. Has it stopped me? Ummm no. emoticon

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 9/19/2014 7:34AM

    Wow - good thing the debits were noticed! Frustrations. You have a great attitude!
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WISHICOULDFLY 9/19/2014 6:27AM

    This has been happening a LOT lately. I have been getting new credit cards almost DAILY for our staff members to replace cards that may have been compromised. I wish banks in the US would get with the program and use the microchips (at a cost of $5 per card) to prevent hacking via the retailers.

Good for you for rolling with it when your friend had to cancel at the last minute. I do not handle disappointment like that very well...I'm working on it.

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AUNTALICE2 9/18/2014 11:36PM

    Hope 'they' are able to find the culprit stealing your card number. The Rats!! I hope your weekend goes better for you and the you get your new card soon. emoticon

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ICECUB 9/18/2014 10:15PM

    SORRY ABOUT YOUR CARD. HOPEYOU HAVE A BETTER WEEKEND

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CINDYKC2000 9/18/2014 8:37PM

    Hope the day improved after that! emoticon

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DYNAMICDEB53 9/18/2014 8:34PM

    Yes you sure did roll with what happened. I hate having to deal with the cards that is really a mess these days. Wasnt simpler with a check book, well except for the balancing part LOL.

Hope tomorrow will be a better day

Hugs and smiles
Deb

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/18/2014 6:22PM

    Sorry for the negative changes. Glad that you are off, home & hopefully going to get some much needed rest. Hard to say "relax" when your card has been messed up. You're in my thoughts dear friend. LOVE YOU! emoticon

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BIBS4664 9/18/2014 5:51PM

    Frustrating.

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LTTLREDCORVETTE 9/18/2014 12:59PM

    Oh no!! I'm glad they called you right away, that's scary. Compromised credit card is one thing, but compromised debit card is even worse because those funds are coming out right away. But glad they caught it, and perhaps it was a bit serendipitous that you were home today so you have time to update your online billpay!

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GORIANA 9/18/2014 12:31PM

    I have the day off too. Let's make the best day possible.

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DETERMINEDJANET 9/18/2014 12:26PM

    Makes my flat tire as I got ready to head to the gym seem pretty small as far as "changes to the day." Glad you are rolling with the changes today!

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WOUBBIE 9/18/2014 11:38AM

    Wow, that's a lot of bobbing and weaving!

Ugh, I hate when I have to replace all that stuff. At one point I put all those sites on my DH's card because he's had the same number for ages. And you guessed it, he had to cancel his card and I STILL had to revamp all the stored card info!

Good luck!

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BARBARAROSE54 9/18/2014 11:38AM

    glad it was caught quickly, but so very frustrating.

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JUNESHOPE 9/18/2014 11:36AM

    Same thing happened to me. My bank said Home Depot's credit center had been compromised, and my card had been used there, so they are sending me a new card. (they said this over an email). Got the card yesterday, and I'm going to actually call the bank today to make sure this is from them. I thought it was kind of weird they just emailed, instead of called. I'm sure it's legit...but I just want to make sure.
Way to Roll with the punches.... keep up the good work!

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MCJOYFUL 9/18/2014 11:06AM

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Thirteen Years Ago

Thursday, September 11, 2014

I work for a nonprofit whose members are organizations and individuals who are interested in the development of innovative alternatives for youth and families in high-risk situations. We are a national organization and we just held an event for our members, featuring various speakers who addressed various issues in the field. One of the speakers was Tina Kelley. She works for Covenant House and co-authored the book, "Almost Home: Helping Kids Move from Homelessness to Hope”, which is why she was invited to speak. However, back in 2002, she was part of the NY Times team that won a Pulitzer Prize for their coverage of 9/11, including the memorials written for those individuals who died that day. Meeting and speaking with Ms. Kelley was particularly meaningful for me.

I had a brother, several step-brothers, a brother-in-law, and a step-uncle all of whom worked on Wall Street and whose companies had offices in the World Trade Center. I spent 9/11/01 desperately trying to reach family members to make sure everyone was OK. I learned that the brother who worked in Brooklyn - not Manhattan - was on his way to a meeting at the Towers but was thankfully running late and was safe, as was almost everyone else. My step-uncle was not. He died that day, as did a friend from college. The following is excerpted from NY Times memorials published back then:

Edward Mazzella worked on Wall Street for over 40 years, the last few as a senior vice president for equity sales at Cantor Fitzgerald. He was killed three days before his retirement date, Sept. 14. His life's other enduring constant was family. Mr. Mazzella, 62, and his wife, Kay, were married for 40 years. Since early in their marriage, they had hosted a grand family dinner every Christmas Eve. About two dozen people always came for a spread of crabmeat sauce on pasta, shrimp scampi and cold fish salad, and plenty of fun. In 1993, to everyone's surprise, Mr. Mazzella took to watercolors. Since then, he had done about 100 paintings of flowers, apples, sailboats, treehouses, even a bird cage and a top hat and cane. He framed the paintings and gave them to family members. His children, Susan and Michael have the most, 15 each. "It's almost like he had a need to leave a legacy," Ms. LoPresti said. "He didn't know, but that's how it's turned out."

Joseph Leavey had a crush on skyscrapers. He could stand for hours outside a high-rise and marvel at it. He always wanted to become a firefighter, but he became an engineer in the construction industry because of his affection for buildings. Then he became a firefighter.
His favorite spot was Battery Park City. His favorite buildings: the World Trade Center. It was his habit to take his family to Lower Manhattan, so he could soak in the dimensions of the trade center. He took endless pictures of the buildings, sometimes lying flat on his back.
As a lieutenant with Ladder 15 in the South Street Seaport, Mr. Leavey, 45, was one of the first firefighters to reach the trade center on Sept. 11.

  
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SUNSHINE5268 9/13/2014 3:49PM

    what a touching and amazing blog, thank you sooooooooo much :)

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DYNAMICDEB53 9/12/2014 9:05PM

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CINDYSDAY 9/12/2014 7:11AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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AUNTALICE2 9/12/2014 12:03AM

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/11/2014 11:56PM

    Beautiful blog/tribute. Thanks for sharing Deb. Love you

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ROBBIEMARIE 9/11/2014 6:33PM

    Beautiful tributes. Thank you for sharing them. We need to be continually be given 'faces' of those who died so we never forget. (((hugs)))

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REALTYLADYLISA 9/11/2014 2:09PM

    Thank you for sharing about your family with us! The impact of 9/11 does not fade, but becomes even more indelible as the years pass and the interwovenness of our lives brings us even closer to the lives which suffered tragically that day. Blessings!

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BARBARAROSE54 9/11/2014 1:46PM

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WISHICOULDFLY 9/11/2014 1:20PM

    emoticon Prayers for them all...

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ICECUB 9/11/2014 11:37AM

    13 YEARS TODAY. emoticon THANK YOU FOR THE WORK YOU DO.

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MCJOYFUL 9/11/2014 9:24AM

    Thank you for what you do with youth and families! It is much needed! 9/11 touched us all, but even more so for people, like you, who lost loved ones that day. May we never forget. emoticon

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AMETHYSTSTAR 9/11/2014 9:05AM

    There are no words, my friend. *hugs*

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WOUBBIE 9/11/2014 8:21AM

    Memory Eternal!

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Childhood Obesity - The Other Side of the Coin

Friday, September 05, 2014

I am not making light of childhood obesity. I know it is a huge problem and I've had personal experience with my own. But I am afraid that in our zeal to solve the problem we are creating new ones.

This is my nephew, Nelson. I watch him for an hour or so every morning and then take him to school.

He is going to be 9 in November. He is about 4'9", which makes him tall for his age. He weighs 80 pounds, which puts him at a 17.3 BMI. And yesterday he told me did not not eat much for dinner because he needs to lose weight.

Nelson does like computer games, but he also likes to run around. He lifts hand weights and he practices his Taekwondo on an almost daily basis. But a few of his classmates (who are most likely repeating something the adults in their lives have said) have told him he weighs too much. So now he is trying to lose weight.

I told him about eating healthy foods vs. active dieting, but what does his great-aunt know? His friends are much more important. How do we talk to the children in our lives about fitness and healthy weight without making them obsessive or worse, create an environment for future eating disorders?

  
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JERSEYGIRL24 9/20/2014 11:41PM

    I just saw this. My 86 year old mother is convinced that she is fat, but rather, she is underweight. I don't want to go into the details, but it is sad. She is such a poor eater. She does eat ice cream and cookies but nothing of real substance.

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SUNSHINE5268 9/7/2014 4:56PM

    Thank goodness he has YOU to talk too (((((((((( hugs )))))))))))

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DYNAMICDEB53 9/7/2014 2:38PM

    Its never easy at the age, but I agree show by example and keep the positive information there for him. My sons both out on weight as they hit there teens, then lost it in part because of my example of working to eat right and lose weight in the last 5-6 years. All you can do it let his parents know and keep listening.

Hugs and smiles
Deb

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RUN2MYDREAMS 9/6/2014 11:29PM

    Emma will be 9 in January and was 100 lbs at her physical in July. I worry about her having a weight problem-my issues started in college-because she gained 24 lbs in a year. However, she also grew 3 inches in a year. Children (and adults) can be absolutely cruel. Emma hates walking but she loves to dance. It's all about finding a particular child's interest and then helping them get involved in it.

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JPHOLDEN 9/5/2014 10:27PM

    It is hard to tell a child of that age that not everyone needs to weigh the same amount to be considered "normal". He looks perfectly healthy and is living a active lifestyle which is all we as parents can ask for. Hopefully it is just a phase and it will be over by this time next week.

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BRE2003SB 9/5/2014 9:50PM

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LOOZINITNOW 9/5/2014 9:10PM

    How sad. Society is so mean anymore and has such a distorted image on weight. Keep being the great aunt that you are. He may listen more than you know.

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AUNTALICE2 9/5/2014 9:07PM

    He is a good looking young man! And does not have any extra weight. All you can do is be supportive and a good example. He needs as much positive reinforcement as he can get! emoticon

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ICECUB 9/5/2014 6:29PM

    JUST KEEP BEING A GOOD EXAMPLE emoticon

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BARBARAROSE54 9/5/2014 2:19PM

    so sad

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/5/2014 12:28PM

    By being a good example & showing him that YOU are eating healthy... choosing the right... that will help him. Explain to him that you can understand his FEAR of becoming overweight. His friends taunt him & he looks around him at family members (not just you) and sees what is "potentially" there for him... so he is AFRAID. Show him that by eating healthy & making wise choices he will MAINTAIN the healthy weight that he IS and not have to fight the weight problem that is potentially in his genes. He's smart enough to understand. Remember to commend him on the exercise & good choices that he makes. Children respond well to positive reinforcement. Love you

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WISHICOULDFLY 9/5/2014 12:18PM

    Kids have been mean since the beginning of time. I wish I knew why and how we could stop it. Some kids are more resilient than others and can bounce back with no problems. Others are tortured by not fitting in and take every insult or claim from their peers as gospel. Very sad. emoticon

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MCJOYFUL 9/5/2014 11:27AM

    That is so sad! I hope he comes to realize that he is already at a good weight. I don't have kids, so I may not be the best at advice on this one, but I think it's more about setting the right example. Playing with your kids and doing physical activities and making healthy meals that they enjoy. And helping to instill self-confidence in the child.

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WOUBBIE 9/5/2014 9:07AM

    Science. They study it in school and rarely if ever question it. It (potentially) trumps peers.

"Hunger" is a sign of a need to replenish your body, and, at his age, a sign that he's about to grow some more. Restricting food at his age can actually stunt growth and development, and that's probably not something he wants, lol!

Turn him on to Primal or Paleo. It totally fits in with the science curriculum!

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Last Day of Vacation

Friday, August 29, 2014

I took off from Thursday to Wednesday for vacation. We got back from Florida on Monday late afternoon. DH went back to work Tuesday and I got my usual weekend errands done. Then on Wednesday DD and I went to a Pirates game. She took this picture of us.



This was the view from our seats.



And the Pirates won, so it was a good day all around!

  
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AUNTALICE2 8/30/2014 10:15PM

    Glad you had a great vacation. Great pictures! Your daughter is going to pretty - just l ike you!! emoticon

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LOOZINITNOW 8/30/2014 6:06PM

    Sounds like a great time! emoticon

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STEVEN2GO2 8/30/2014 12:56PM

    Go Bucs, great way to the end of your vacation! emoticon

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NEWTEXDEBBIE 8/30/2014 11:45AM

    How fun!

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 8/30/2014 7:45AM

    What a great vaca! So glad for you and those seats were fantastic!!!

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WISHICOULDFLY 8/30/2014 7:25AM

    Good times are even better with a WIN! emoticon

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ICECUB 8/30/2014 7:15AM

    emoticon GLAD YOU HAD A GOOD TIME

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MEOWMAMA3 8/29/2014 11:43PM

    How are the Pirates doing? Phillies are pathetic....good thing we had the Taney Dragons to cheer for! I got hit in the eybrow by a line drive foul ball in 1981 at a Triple A game in Scottsdale AZ. Busted my eyebrow open to the bone and required a plastic surgeon to be called to the ER. Moral of my story? Bring a glove and don't blink once the pitch is thrown.....or stay home and watch on TV. lol!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 8/29/2014 11:01PM

    Great pictures. Glad that you had so much fun. LOVE YOU!

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WOUBBIE 8/29/2014 10:56PM

    Woohoo! Nice picture, Debb!

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Sunday with Gino

Sunday, August 24, 2014

I got to spend most of the day just hanging out with my grandson and his parents. Since I live in Pittsburgh PA and they live in Florida, we don't get much time like this. Even when we do see each other, it is an "occasion" and I am sharing time with a lot of other people. So for me this was just great.





  
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    Go Grandma!!!!! Such big smiles!!!! emoticon

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GODSCHILD2_2011 8/25/2014 9:20PM

    Beautiful pictures...thanks for sharing!

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ICECUB 8/25/2014 7:50PM

    THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR PICTURES. YOU BOTH LOOK SO HAPPY.

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REALTYLADYLISA 8/25/2014 7:08PM

    Gotta say, he looks as happy to be with his gramma and you are to be with him! Glad you've had such a good time with him!

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AUNTALICE2 8/25/2014 7:03PM

    Wow!! That is fantastic! Good pictures! You both look so happy! There is a lot of love there! emoticon

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TEDYBEAR2838 8/25/2014 4:45PM

    He is SO CUTE! You look so HAPPY!

I can see you are totally enjoying his company.

Hugs

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BARBARAROSE54 8/25/2014 9:15AM

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WOUBBIE 8/25/2014 8:45AM

    Happy, happy, happy!

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TWEETYKC00 8/25/2014 6:12AM

    What a little doll! I bet you had a great time!

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WISHICOULDFLY 8/25/2014 6:03AM

    It is clear that you BOTH treasure each other! emoticon

BTW, you look wonderful!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 8/25/2014 12:00AM

    Oh Deb! Such awesome pictures. I'm so grateful that you had such a nice day with Gino. Love you

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SHAMROCKY2K 8/24/2014 11:52PM

    Aww. You both look so happy. Savor the times. emoticon

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