Monday, June 30, 2014
"Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life." ~ Andrew Bernstein
I posted this as my status yesterday and it got a lot of 'likes', both here and on Facebook. I have to admit, I have been stressing myself a lot lately. I have not been dealing well with anything since my dad died last month. His passing brought out some things in my siblings that I still haven't dealt with. It's also made me think a lot about my youth and I have lots of unresolved issues with my mom, both past and present. I am not good with confrontation. I have spent my life eating my emotions. I need to learn to deal with these things in a way that is ultimately positive for me.
In the short term, that means deciding whether I will go to my sister's at the end of July and see her and one of my brothers and my mom. (My mom lives in Florida now and I don't have the opportunity to see her very often.) Do I take up my issues with each of them beforehand? Do I do it face to face? Do I let things go and see how the weekend plays out? My DD had an interesting idea. She suggested I write a letter to each of them ahead of time. Then spend time with them and at the end of the visit, decide whether I actually want to give them the letter I wrote. And if I do, give it to them when I am leaving.
For now, I have made hotel reservations for that weekend and I paid a little more so I can cancel them if needed. If we go, we will drive (5 1/2 hours each way), so there are no other things that need to be set up ahead of time. My DH says he'll do whatever I want.
I just need to figure out what that is.