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Another year gone…

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Another year gone…but somehow this year I am looking forward more than back. Today I am 56 years old, but I don’t feel “old”, even though a friend told me I am getting there. I usually spend my birthday thinking about all the things I haven’t done, living in the past and in regret. Not today.

It started yesterday, when I received an unexpected birthday card from a Spark Friend. It really made my day that she took the time to pick out a card and send it. I just spent a week with two dear Spark Friends (we met for the first time ‘in real life’ but we’ve been friends for almost 5 years). This weekend I’ll be spending time with more Spark Friends at Just a Short Run, which has become an annual Spark event. A number of us met at this race for the first time four years ago and I am really looking forward to seeing them once again. I am not able to participate in the race (due to a lingering bout of plantar fasciitis) but I will be at the finish line cheering them on. I honestly don’t know where I’d be without my Spark Friends.

I am happy at my job. I am working my Spark plan again, and have lost 18 pounds since the beginning of February. My Facebook page has been flooded with birthday wishes all day long, along with several invitations to get together soon. Life is pretty good. I walked around all day singing “Happy” in my head (see my last log for a link to the video).

I am thinking about the future. My daughter and I have a dream of opening a nonprofit in the next few years and we are slowing moving forward. Last year at this time I started the paperwork for incorporating. Yesterday I mailed a package to the IRS to start the process of becoming recognized as a charitable organization. I would never have had the courage to move forward with this plan five years ago.

Of course, life isn’t perfect. I miss my grandson in Florida (and his parents) more and more with each passing day. A friend woke up this morning and found that his wife had passed during the night. My dad’s Parkinson’s is getting much worse – he couldn’t hold the phone for more than a couple of minutes to talk to me today.

But overall life is good. My attitude about myself is positive, not negative. This is a real change for me and one that I am going to make sure continues.

  
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NEWTEXDEBBIE 4/2/2014 9:52AM

    BIG Hugg my friend......

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BOBBYD31 3/31/2014 8:25PM

    your doing great, 18 lbs if fantastic. as always it was great to see you

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MEH50BEWELL 3/31/2014 12:35PM

    Happy - Happy - Happy (belated) BIRTHDAY!!

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DYNAMICDEB53 3/28/2014 4:57PM

    You are so right you are NOT old and with your attitude will probably keep movingthe date farther and farther. LOL I know cause I have a couple years on you and dont feel old at all.
Glad you are feeling this good and YES Spark People and our friends here are just super to have.
Happy Belated Birthday!!!

Hugs and smiles
Deb

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SKINNIESOMEDAY 3/28/2014 1:52PM

    sorry I missed this post earlier in the week ! What an awesome attitude you have and EIGHTEEN POUNDS since february !!


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I hope your whole week has been great !

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CINDYSDAY 3/27/2014 10:29PM

    It sounds like you had a great birthday! I wish you all the best! emoticon

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LYNNANN43 3/27/2014 9:29PM

    See you on Saturday, Miss Debbie!
(And expect a HUGE hug!!!!)

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BARBARAROSE54 3/27/2014 7:04PM

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TATTER3 3/27/2014 12:46PM

    Deb, I truely wish you the best day ever! Be blessed

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REALLY_ROBIN 3/27/2014 11:57AM

    Happy Birthday....It makes such a difference when we see ourselves as the wonderful people that we are, not just a number on the scale. I totally feel you on the PF...it is extremely frustrating! But good for you for going and cheering on your friends. I will be praying for your nonprofit, and I know God has very good things for you and your daughter, and that you will make a huge difference in people's lives! Hugs...Robin

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GORIANA 3/27/2014 11:35AM

    Happy birthday! I am glad to see your focus on the good stuff.

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JANE-DOE 3/27/2014 11:21AM

    Happy (belated) Birthday, Deb!

56? Judging from your profile picture, I'd have guessed late 30s. You look great!



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SLAYINGDRAGONS 3/27/2014 10:55AM

    Hope the happiness continues - YOU are fantastic!!! I enjoyed your blog, girlfriend!!!
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JESMOD 3/27/2014 10:39AM

    Whooo! March birthdays rock! Happy Birthday!!! So glad you'll be at the JASR finish line. I'll need every cheerleader I can get! & I know you're a great one!

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WOUBBIE 3/27/2014 10:26AM

    Whatever you've been doing, keep doing it!

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And a belated

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to you!

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WISHICOULDFLY 3/27/2014 6:41AM

    Happy Birthday Deb! Here is hoping that this year is even better than last. You have a lot of great things going on! emoticon

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LINDYPOWER 3/27/2014 12:04AM

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Follow Your Dreams.

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KENSHO 3/26/2014 11:47PM

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SERENE-BEAN 3/26/2014 11:40PM

    Happy birthday!

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DIFROMWYOMING 3/26/2014 11:39PM

    I feel hopeful for this year, and am very excited you and your daughter are moving ahead with your dream. Sounds like you had a great birthday, and a great start to what will be YOUR year! emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/26/2014 11:10PM

    You deserve all the best that life has to offer you. You are one of the most phenomenal women I have ever had the pleasure and good fortune to meet. I love you beyond words. Thank you for the gift of your friendship. Happy Birthday!

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Happy

Thursday, February 27, 2014

My boss had a death in the family and just returned from the funeral. She was telling us that her uncle wanted a celebration of his life and although you often hear that, this was the first time she attended a funeral that really was a celebration. In one room they were playing "Celebrate" and in the other room, they were playing "Happy" by Pharrell Williams. I had heard the song before but I decided to check out the video. I really enjoyed it and want to share it with you - it's just over 4 minutes long:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6Sxv-sUYtM

  
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BIBS4664 3/5/2014 5:57PM

    Love it.

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DYNAMICDEB53 3/2/2014 2:51PM

    What a wonderful song!! Just makes you smile

Hugs and more smiles
Deb

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SKINNIESOMEDAY 3/2/2014 9:15AM

   

I have been singing this song for three weeks now !! I just love it !


clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth !

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/1/2014 5:13PM

    I love it. I found myself clapping along. I shared it on FB because I think we need to share MORE happiness. Thanks for posting this here. Sorry that your boss had a death in the family, but glad that something positive came from it. I hope that you are HAPPY today. Love you!

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CINDYSDAY 2/28/2014 9:51PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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    Thanks for putting me in a happy mood! emoticon

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WOUBBIE 2/28/2014 10:01AM

    That made me happy!

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BARBARAROSE54 2/28/2014 9:43AM

    how great to celebrate his life this way.

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 2/28/2014 6:08AM

    emoticon Great way to start my day.

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BILLALEX70 2/28/2014 4:09AM

    Have a great weekend!

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GORIANA 2/28/2014 12:34AM

    I ran into this song a couple of weeks ago. I found out that it is also a 24 hour video. The video features a different person for four ,minute segments and they have 24 hours of that. Anyway I watched a few and it does make you want to move around.

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SERENE-BEAN 2/27/2014 11:29PM

    LOVE that. Hadn't heard/seen it before. Thanks!

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Food Addiction

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

I have to come to terms with the fact that I am a food addict. I will never be able to eat "normally". I cannot eat treats in moderation. There are some foods I have to give up and never eat again if I am going to gain control of this beast.

According to Authority Nutrition, the signs of food addiction are:
1. You frequently get cravings for certain foods, despite feeling full and having just finished a nutritious meal.
2. When you give in and start eating a food you were craving, you often find yourself eating much more than you intended to.
3. When you eat a food you were craving, you sometimes eat to the point of feeling excessively “stuffed.”
4. You often feel guilty after eating particular foods, yet find yourself eating them again soon after.
5. You sometimes make excuses in your head about why you should eat something that you are craving.
6. You have repeatedly tried to quit eating or setting rules (includes cheat meals/days) about certain foods, but been unsuccessful.
7. You often hide your consumption of unhealthy foods from others.
8. You feel unable to control your consumption of unhealthy foods, despite knowing that they are causing you physical harm (includes weight gain).
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They say if you relate to 4 or 5 you have a problem with food and if you relate to 6, you probably have a food addiction. I hit all 8 on a regular basis.

I know that sugar (and salt to a lesser degree) are triggers for me. I know from past experience that when I cut these out, I lose weight, gain energy, and generally feel better. I have to get past the feeling of "being deprived". I have to care enough about me to really take care of me.

  
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DIFROMWYOMING 2/27/2014 3:55PM

    How did I not see this? I feel like Georgia- I could have easily written this. I have some memories...oh so painful...of being 'caught' sneaking food. Even as a child. I was never able to control myself.

I said to you in our other conversation that I feel 'full' but not 'satisfied'. That is the real difference for me. Somehow there are certain foods (carbs, sugars) that leave me feeling oh so satisfied. It has nothing to do with feeling full. It's why after eating- when I'm not hungry at all- I would still eat if those satisfying foods were put in front of me.

I'm not sure how to 'fix' that- but I know it's broken.

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GEORGIA_KAY 2/26/2014 12:14PM

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Deb, I'm right here with you on this one, girl. I hit all 8--- and probably ones they haven't even listed--on a regular basis too. I've learned that I just cannot, under any circumstances, have certain foods where I can get at them. . It's just the way it is.
lots of people, including my DH, just can't relate to that at all. He's able to stop when he's full, and he's even able to turn down offerings of his favorite foods (imagine that!), however, I on the other hand, am just not wired that way. I eat until there is no more of my trigger food(s). I don't like it, it embarrasses me, makes me feel abnormal, but I've finally accepted that I can't change the way I am. I can only adapt myself to making my environment as trigger-proof as possible.

We gotta do what we gotta do to cage the beast, Debbie...just do whatever it takes!
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AMYISSUCCEEDING 2/26/2014 12:47AM

    Thank you for sharing. I have a food addiction too.
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BILLALEX70 2/25/2014 6:35PM

    Hi, I'm Bill and I'm a food addict

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 2/25/2014 4:02PM

    I can totally relate to this blog. I AM a food addict. I AM a compulsive overeater. YEP! We're in this together. YES, sugar is a quick trigger for most of us. Thanks for sharing this with us. I needed to read it today. Glad that I have an OA meeting tonight.

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JUNESHOPE 2/25/2014 2:44PM

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I am a TOTAL food addict. I have food triggers, and I know they are food triggers, but still so hard to stay away from. Sugar & bread are both huge ones for me.

I have noticed I'm in a little more self control lately. I used to could eat 4 frozen waffles, or more, in one sitting, and still want more. But I've finally worked it down to only having waffles around once a week, and only having one at a time. Occasionally I'll allow 2, if I know I'll be doing a lot of running around that day.

Even though I want more, after I eat one, I'll sit there and stay busy on the computer for a while, and by the time I'm done messing around on the computer, the craving has gone away. Every day I make sure I end breakfast with chopped fruit, like apples, strawberries & bananas, and I think it helps get the 'bread/carb' taste out of my mouth so that I don't crave more. Because you're right...it's not about being full...I can be stuffed and still want to eat more of something I really like.

I've come a long way from my eating binges, but can't lie..... occasionally I'll still have one, but not as big as they used to be. So it can change, and we can learn to eat it in moderation. We just have to be self aware of why we want to stick with it, when preparing our plate.

And I don't eat fast food at all anymore. (mostly because I can't stomach the gross stories I keep hearing about their quality and gross stuff that employees do to the food.) But I used to go to Jack-in-the-box, and get 2-4 tacos, jumbo jack hamburger, and chicken sandwich...all for one meal.

Now when I just feel like I HAVE to have something...I reach for air-popped popcorn with a drizzle of olive oil. It's my GO TO FOOD. :-)
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REALLY_ROBIN 2/25/2014 12:06PM

    They say sugar is addictive as Heroine. But, the fact that you are identifying the problem, means you are ready to do something about it. You've got this Spark Sister...and all of us are right here beside you, cheering you on! Hugs...Robin

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LINDYPOWER 2/25/2014 11:00AM

    SUGAR

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 2/25/2014 10:45AM

    Yep, I realized I was a food addict last March. I'm a binge eater and I try to completely avoid foods that cause me grief! Knowing you're an addict will only help you in your journey I'm sure.

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WOUBBIE 2/25/2014 9:52AM

    Knowledge is power, Debb, knowledge is power.

I've had people flippantly tell me that there's "no such thing as food addiction", it's just another excuse for lack of willpower. That's complete bunk. Before we invented psychology there was physiology. If foods can activate the same addiction pathway that heroin use does, then it can be and is addictive.

Chris Gunnars is pretty interesting. He's been on Jimmy Moore's show a few times. Here's one of them:

http://www.lowcarbconv
ersations.com/1371/87/

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BARBARAROSE54 2/25/2014 9:43AM

    emoticon my motto, everything in moderation, it is working for me. And I know I'm a food addict, especially with sugars.

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RUNNING-LIFE 2/25/2014 9:08AM

    Good luck on your plan. I believe emoticon . emoticon

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JAROL7 2/25/2014 8:27AM

    YEP ... me too. So I create a budget of calories and I do not deviate from it. I am no good at moderation. My plan is working for me. Good luck on your plan.

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One Small Step Forward

Sunday, February 23, 2014

This is sparked by an email I received today:

Many of us believe that the past is prologue. We think that things can never change - however they are now is how they will always be.

It is hard to maintain a positive attitude when negative things happen or we've just had a negative outlook for a long time.

It's hard to become active when you think you are lazy or unworthy of good things.

It's hard to move out of our comfort zones and into uncharted territory.

But it is possible to make changes - to do things differently. The best way to start is by taking just one small step into something new or different.

Just do one thing you don't usually do - something outside of your normal routine.

- Take a walk (or run) for just 3 or 5 minutes if you want to get into better shape.

- Instead of finding all the things that can go wrong, just for once think of all the things that could go right and all the positive changes that can happen in the long run.

- Instead of being so negative with yourself, think of just one thing that you do well or are proud of and build on that.

I took a small step toward better health and parked my car far from the restaurant where I was meeting a friend for lunch. I didn't worry about being sweaty or disheveled when I walked in and saw her for the first time in over a year.

What small step did you take today?

  
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DYNAMICDEB53 2/24/2014 4:12PM

    What a good first stop forward.

Hugs
Deb

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CINDYSDAY 2/24/2014 11:37AM

    You are such an inspiration!

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BILLALEX70 2/24/2014 10:38AM

    Keep moving forward my friend!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 2/24/2014 7:36AM

    Wow! Excellent blog. I am inspired! Today is the first day of my major recommitment. I thank you for helping to motivate me. Together, we can do this. I love you

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 2/24/2014 6:25AM

    Good for you! We all need this on a post it on every mirror and screen in the house!

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GORIANA 2/24/2014 12:51AM

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I wish I saw this in the am..wait...it is not to late for a small step today....I will sleep now. Goodnight computer.

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WOUBBIE 2/23/2014 11:04PM

    I wish I HAD done something constructive, but no, nothing new today. But tomorrow is another day to try!

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Long Day

Saturday, February 22, 2014

My great-nephew, Nelson, came over at 8 AM today, so I could watch him while his mom attended a meeting at her new job. He is 8 years old and boy, can he talk! She got back at around 1:30 but she wanted my DH to look at her car. Long story short, they just left an hour ago at 9 PM and they are returning at 8 AM for him to finish the job. Nelson was quite grouchy by the time they left and he doesn't want to come back tomorrow. It should be interesting.

My DD did come over for a while but between this niece and another coming over to get her taxes, we did not have much "alone" time to talk more than superficially. But it was still great to spend some time with her.

I did not plan on spending just about the entire day with other people. I still have work and taxes to do and my niece and her son here again tomorrow. I am also meeting a friend for lunch - we haven't seen each other in months. I sure hope I can get to everything before my son and his wife stop by in the early evening! And I can't forget my weekly video call with my grandson tomorrow night.

  
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WOUBBIE 2/23/2014 3:51PM

    All that overexposure would have me checking my calendar to see if I could afford to take Monday off to recuperate, lol!

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MS_PERCEPTION 2/23/2014 3:22PM

    Good to help out family and all, but try not to get too worn down!

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DYNAMICDEB53 2/23/2014 2:58PM

    WOW Busy busy!!!!!!

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GORIANA 2/23/2014 11:29AM

    Whew, good luck.

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