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Day 1027- Defining Success

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Hi Sparkfriends.

I have to thank you so much for reading and commenting on my last blog. In no way was I trying to seek out compliments, but I appreciate all the nice comments about the pictures. And yes, I realize I am my own worst critic. And I'm working on that every day.

But your comments also made me rethink my plan for the next month. Whole30 was great, and the food isn't as restrictive as it sounds, but when I was done with the Whole30, I felt terrible when I ate things that weren't on the plan. Since my wedding is only a few weeks after, I'm worried that if I eat my own wedding cake, I might feel sluggish and sick.

Now this isn't to say that I'm just going to eat crap until then so my body is used to it, but I'm just going to go back to what I did when I first joined SparkPeople. Track all my food, and try to exercise as often as I can and live a healthy lifestyle. Thinking about the beginning of my journey on SparkPeople made me want to look at some data.

Here is the graph showing my weight loss on my first year of SparkPeople.



Such a beautiful downward trend showing the 90 pounds I lost in the first year.

Now, here is the graph showing my weight loss since that one year mark.



When I first looked at it, it looked like maintenance to me. No trend what so ever. But then looking closer, I see that most of 2013 I spent bouncing around in the 180s-190s range, and in 2014 I've been more in the 170s-180s range.

And I had another ah-ha moment.

Thanks to all of you who said, maybe it's just not what your body wants to do right now.

And it helped me realize that I've been successful. I lost 90 pounds in my first year, and I've kept it off. And since then I've been slowly lowering my maintenance weight. So instead of hoping to get to 159 by my wedding day, which we all know is completely unrealistic now, I'm happy with how far I've come and how long I've maintained. And maybe in 2015 I'll move to maintaining in the 160-170 range, and then in 2016 finally hit goal of maintaining in the 150-160 range.

Regardless, I realize how far I've come. And for that, I'm extremely grateful.

  
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CZESTES 10/1/2014 11:59PM

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Excellent perspective and attitude. It's wonderful that you can do so well with all of the stress associated with a wedding.

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AMBER461 9/30/2014 11:55PM

  Awesome, thanks for sharing.

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PJB145 9/30/2014 10:08PM

    Good luck with your plan. I am sure you will work out what is best for you and your journey.
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WRITERWANNAB 9/30/2014 7:01PM

    We have to adjust our thinking now & then & you always do. Good for you! emoticon

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HANSBECK2 9/30/2014 1:06AM

  You should be so proud of yourself!!! emoticon I year 90 pounds emoticon

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JERICHO1991 9/29/2014 10:18PM

    Good attitude. Thanks for sharing.

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GRLTAZ 9/29/2014 10:00PM

    Ah ha moments are great ! So glad you are seeing things in perspective. Now continue living life the best way you know how.

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CFMOSS 9/29/2014 2:41PM

    Yep....doing good and now that the countdown is so close (eeeks) stability is a good thing. You continue to look great.

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POLSKARENIA 9/29/2014 11:11AM

    You've done so well! Great attitude to the present and future!
Keep it up!!

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LYNNIERN 9/28/2014 1:26PM

    Great blog, you're right, multiple ways to look at success!

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HYATTI1 9/28/2014 12:10PM

    It was a long journey but you accomplished so much and you have so much support. You should be so proud of yourself. Keep up the great job and things will be nothing but sunshine.

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CHANGING-TURTLE 9/27/2014 5:30PM

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GRAMPIAN 9/27/2014 2:54PM

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TIFFFIT 9/27/2014 10:34AM

    Love following your progress and continuing to be inspired by your honesty and insight!

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HOLLYM48 9/27/2014 8:41AM

    I think that is the best plan. Sometimes your body decides what is best and it just wont move from that number. I was thinking this very thing this morning!

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GRANDMABABA 9/26/2014 7:39PM

    I've been unhappy with lack of progress recently...wrong way actually. but, I know I will be back on track soon. Historical info is so helpful! Great success to you!

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MM11113 9/26/2014 5:16PM

    definitely the positive way to look at it.

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TJOHNOCONNOR 9/26/2014 2:35PM

    I understand about the sick part from eating differently. I eat clean/ paleo and I went on vacation. The first day wasn't so bad but I was relatively sick for the next 5 days. Carbohydrate & sodium inflammation made it pretty unbearable.I am not trying to discourage you at all. I think I could have avoided it with a few slight modifications prior to departure. On my cheat days I will eat as much as 1000 calories over my daily norm. But no sweets or simple carbohydrates, just the same foods but more of them. If I would have indulged myself on cheat days with some pizza or lasagna and a scoop of ice cream on cheat days I may not have suffered so much. You look great by the way. I'm secure enough in my masculinity to say the guy on your right looks good too.

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TANGYTANGERINE 9/26/2014 2:20PM

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Every once in a while, I go back and compare my successes to something other than the numbers on the scale because this is a Lifestyle Change, we are not just changing how much we weigh, but also the things that got us there. Thanks for the reminder.

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MOMMY445 9/26/2014 11:45AM

    an awesome blog! woo hoo!

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REBESANCON 9/26/2014 10:03AM

    And something else that doesn't show on the graphs: your body doesn't just weigh less. It's more fit now, too. Your heart is stronger and more efficient. Your other muscles are stronger and have more endurance. Your bones are stronger. Your lungs have a greater capacity. Your body is better positioned to ward off high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, diabetes, certain cancers. emoticon

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KOMTRIA 9/26/2014 9:24AM

  I didn't think your last blog was a fishing-for-compliments piece.
One of the things that we do for each other is remind each other of what part of us already knows. You just needed some reminders.

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JEB03253 9/26/2014 7:17AM

    Great progress in the past and a realistic plan for the future are a winning combo!

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JIBBIE49 9/26/2014 6:57AM

    I wish you well, but the fact is that most women get married and GAIN weight, since they no longer have to be "looking" for someone and they eat with him, especially at night while he sits on the sofa and watches TV. I'm not making that up. emoticon

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TENNISJIM 9/26/2014 5:45AM

    Awesome

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FRABBIT 9/25/2014 11:16PM

  Another great, well written blog. thanks for sharing with such honesty.

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SPARKFRAN514 9/25/2014 11:11PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon take a deep breath enjoy your special day eat healthy it that includes enjoying some cake you are not eating the entire cake but a slice of cake. remember we are not on a diet we are learning to eat healthy and normal foods


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DLITE719 9/25/2014 11:10PM

    Congrats on your up and coming wedding. You are awesome. Be grateful for your accomplishments. You will reach your ultimate goal, just be patient. Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon

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JSEATTLE 9/25/2014 10:38PM

  What matters isn't what you weigh on your wedding day, but how far you have come and how that will impact the rest of your life!

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CYPATAYLOR2 9/25/2014 9:32PM

  You have got the right attitude and you have great common sense. You are an inspiration. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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One day at a time love prayers peace God Bless


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KEEPITUP62 9/25/2014 7:56PM

    You look fabulous and have come so far. You havwe your head on straight andthe right attitude to make you successful.

All the bst to you on this wonderful and healthy journey.
May your goals be met and may you live long and happy years.

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MSROZZIE 9/25/2014 7:06PM

    emoticon emoticon Stay positive and focused on your fitness and weight management goals and you will have continued success! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GRACED777 9/25/2014 5:48PM

    Success is the best you can do anytime. You are on a downward spiral and in general going in the right direction. Since that's so, enjoy the journey and don't wait to only enjoy what I still think you see as perfection for you. You are doing so well...

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SUEARNOLD1 9/25/2014 5:07PM

    Jan Marie,

You are amazing and look amazing inside and outside!

Thank you for sharing a huge part of your life with us.

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Day 1026- My Constant Inner Struggle

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Sometimes when I think about my weight loss journey, I feel like I've got a split personality or something.

In no way am I making light of mental health issues, so please don't get me wrong on that.

But some days, I'm on top of the world and so content with where I am that I don't even think about losing weight.

And other days, I'm hit smack dab in the face with a reminder.

This weekend was my bridal shower and it was a beautiful event full of laughter and the love of family and friends.



The Welcome Banner



Our dessert table, complete with cupcake wedding dress cake. The writing says "Here's to the Future Mrs. J.D...."



My mother-in-law, myself, and my mother.



My aunts and my mom.



My sweet little cousin who surprised me at the shower.

This was a wonderful day and I have nothing but great memories. But in these pictures I see the 10 pounds I've regained since my birthday. I see it in my face and double chin. And in the pic with my cousin in my arm or little belly bump that almost makes me look pregnant.

And it's so silly. Because most of the time, I'm comfortable who I am. I've discovered it's very easy for me to maintain in the 170-180 range.

But now I'm back up to 183.6. And yes, I still fit in my clothes. And yes, I still run 5ks without trouble.

But I don't know.

I've just never met my goal.

So my constant inner struggle is that sometimes, I'm fine where I'm at. And other days I want to keep pushing myself to reach my goal, because some of the negative feelings start creeping back.

Anyways. I've always preached honesty when it comes to keeping myself accountable.

So here it is. I'm up 10 pounds since my birthday. So I've decided I'm going to do another Whole 30 the month of October. And also try to finally complete Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred during October.

Even if it takes me another 2 years to finally reach my goal, I just want to say that I reached it.

Thanks as always for your support SparkFriends.

  
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MAYGOAL150 9/27/2014 10:20AM

    Thank you for sharing your blog, you can do this, don't give up on yourself. Look at your accomplishments and look at other positives that have come from your journey. Its all about the journey no matter how long it takes, remember the positives of it all.

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_CYNDY55_ 9/26/2014 11:20PM

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PUGLOVER1999 9/26/2014 10:58PM

    I love what STILLMENEWBODY said.

DITTO! :)

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STILLMENEWBODY 9/26/2014 5:58PM

    You are beautiful. You put your heart and soul into succeeding at your weight loss goals and in the eyes of most...you have. The only person that your success isn't good enough for is you. I do not know you. I only recently started reading about your success. I can't help but feel you still have some growing to do within. That's perfect. we all do. On those days you look at the photos in this blog and say or think something negative about your physical self...look back at your photos 90 pounds + ago. NOW.....how do you see yourself? You have always been the beautiful woman you are right now, you are just stronger, fitter, healthier, lighter. Focus on strengthening the inner you and you have it made! Take care of yoU!

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ADVENTURESEEKER 9/26/2014 1:51AM

    I'm in the same boat. Why is the weight so easier to handle on the way down the scale than on the way up? We are our own worst critics and judges. I want to lose this extra I have regained and fast! Fast, of course, is relative.

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MM11113 9/25/2014 9:50PM

    I know exactly how you feel. I am thinking 2 pounds loss a month may be a better pace. I did 1 pound per week for the last year. And, goal is a long way off. We weigh about the same. And people all keep telling me how great I lok, and from your pictures, you are incredible. But yes, we want to reach our goal, and this time, stay there.

You have a lot going on, just remember, it is a life change, not a diet.

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ANGGEL40 9/25/2014 8:25PM

    Love your pictures..you are going to be a beautiful bride and if you did gain back 10 pounds..I can't see it..you look great! Keep Reaching for that goal!

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 9/25/2014 12:20PM

    you can, and have done ANYTHING, and Everything. 190-180-170... next will be the 160's but on it's terms, not yours... you will do this.

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GRACED777 9/25/2014 12:04PM

    You have a lot to celebrate, and you look great. Your honesty is important, and you can still reach for your goal when you're ready. Enjoy this season of your life-it's important!

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TERRIMMIX 9/25/2014 11:29AM

    Your blog is so similar to a blog I wrote a couple of days ago "Dueling with Myself". What makes this time different for me is that no matter what happens, if I gain a few pounds back or stay at a plateau for what seems like an eternity, as long as I (we) don't give up, we'll get there eventually and that's waaaaaay better than giving up and NEVER getting there. So three steps forward, one or two steps back is still one or two steps forward. Thanks for sharing your struggles. We all have them. Ü

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KOMTRIA 9/25/2014 10:52AM

  I think you look amazing.
Just remind yourself that being where you are now is much better then where you were when you started. If you had to be one place or the other celebrate where you are.
I tell myself daily that I would rather be the weight I am then the weight I was even two weeks ago and I gained back 2 of the 5 pounds I lost.

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COLOR-BLUE 9/25/2014 10:46AM

    Jan Marie,

Your honesty is so refreshing and I commend you for hanging it all out there, as not too many people do that for fear of what others might say or do. You've got this sewn up, dear friend, as you've been on this plan before, and I believe you can kick Jillian's butt this time around.

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
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PORTIAWILLIS 9/25/2014 10:02AM

    Thank you for your honesty. I have gained back all I lost last year and more. It is really hard to not beat myself up so I also truly understand what you are saying. I think that you have a handle on what you need to do and I believe you will accomplish it. YOU know what works for you. I am happy for you and know that you will be a beautiful bride.

Good luck
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CINDYLOU4782 9/25/2014 9:43AM

    You look wonderful!

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IN102WIN 9/25/2014 9:27AM

    You look great and I am not seeing any double chins nor any belly bump.... You just over analyzing things. Sorry to hear that you gained 10 pounds - the battle never ends but you are already a winner in our eyes emoticon emoticon emoticon And when I saw the pics, wow I totally could make out JD's mom, cause he looks so much like her emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JEANKNEE 9/25/2014 9:23AM

    Way to be honest and go for your goal.

You know Whole 30 worked for you and you're giving it another go. Way to stick with your goals. Maintaining health and fitness is a lifelong journey.

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RAWCOOKIE 9/25/2014 8:58AM

    it's a life-long journey to stay fit and healthy, and strong, and supple etc
I have never lost a lot of weight, or had a lot of weight to lose - but I know what those 10lbs feel like. Do you know how you put the 10lbs back on? (sorry I haven't read all your blogs) - if so, you need to stop doing those things LOL x Good luck with your Whole30 and Shred things if that's what you choose to do.

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RITAROSE 9/25/2014 7:27AM

  What a lovely celebration! Thanks for sharing your pics with us. I know the heartache of not quite meeting the goal, that's me too. I came close, but then health issues came and I started gaining weight. It got out of control and now I am back losing the same weight again. UGH! Trying to figure out how to do this for life. Isn't that what we want? To be healthy and look it is my goal. For the record, you are lovely! emoticon

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SKIRUNNER 9/25/2014 4:06AM

    I second Kolina. Relax. Enjoy. You and J.D. are what's important, not some arbitrary number. You are beautiful. You have many years to go - live these next few months well, focusing on your husband to be and your relationship. He loves YOU, not your dress size or your scale number or whether you ever meet some 'goal' which may or may not be right for you. Goals are important, don't get me wrong, but they are no substitutes for health and loving relationships. Nurture yourself and your new life with your husband. God bless you both.

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TRYN2SURVIVE 9/24/2014 10:18PM

    You are going to be a beautiful bride! Go for your goal!

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RITEEBEE 9/24/2014 2:15PM

    Beautiful pictures!!

You're doing great, and if you really want to reach that goal then you can, and you will!!

But you do look beautiful where you are now!!

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EVRLNGFOO 9/24/2014 2:12PM

    hang in there! you will get this! your life is crazy right now. you look great, you feel great, just enjoy this time. great goals for october! that will really help you out. just keep doing what you're doing until your wedding and refocus after. the added stress will only lead you to make bad decisions. keep up the great work! btw, i have yet to complete all 30 days of jillian myself!

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BFLOGRL 9/24/2014 11:25AM

    Jan-Marie, thank you for sharing your photos. Most of all, thank you for sharing your feelings. As others have said, you are being especially critical and seeing things that others don't see. That said, you are also being MINDFUL about what you see and what you want for yourself and how you want to address the situation. A new job, a new city, an upcoming wedding...each event by itself qualifies as a major stressor in your life! How we handle stressors and events in general say a lot about us. You are aware of the changes in your body that aren't going in the direction that you want, and you are planning to change the course of action you are taking. That's the best thing that anyone can do for him- or herself. Make the changes for your health and well-being for the rest of your life, not just for losing the weight. You can do this.
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REBESANCON 9/24/2014 10:44AM

    Hi, Jan-Marie. I know that no matter what any of us tell you, you're still going to have that inner voice telling you that it's all just platitudes. I'm no different. The truth is that it really is about the journey. It takes courage, and it takes guts, and it takes heart, and you have all of those in spades! Thank you for having the courage to share with all of us!

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KOLINA 9/24/2014 9:56AM

    Thank you for being so honest. I've been really struggling lately too. I can feel the pounds going on, but I'm tired and stressed and frustrated and struggling to do anything about it. I know that I'm technically healthy where I am and I could stop and just try and be healthy, but I also understand the desire to meet the goal and push through.

You are beautiful and healthy and have accomplished so much. The greatest tragedy would be if you look back on your wedding and instead of seeing the beautiful day full of friends and family--the day that marks your beautiful union, and instead you see the 10 pounds that you wished you lost. I pray that isn't the case for you. Regardless of whether you push forward in trying to reach your goal, or if you decide that you look amazing (you do!) and rest--I hope that you can let it all go on the day-of and soak in one of the best days of your life.

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WENDYANNE61 9/24/2014 8:53AM

    Your shower looked such fun - I hope you are feeling more positive about yourself this week and doing what works for you! You made such amazing progress on the Whole30 last time round, so hope you have a successful month this time too. You will look beautiful on your wedding day - Keep on taking the right steps and everything will fall into place!

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KALEWINE 9/24/2014 8:50AM

    I struggle with similar feelings. Some days I feel great about who I am. I recently completed a triathlon and feel like I can conquer the world. My body feels fit and great. But some days I just want to get back down to my goal weight. I was there once before, about 3 years ago, but I've really struggled getting back down there. I also remember the first time I lost the weight. I was about 5-10 pounds from goal for about a year. I felt very comfortable there. But I just wanted to reach goal to say I did it. I say all this not to give you answers, but to let you know that you're not alone in these feelings.

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ANGEL_AMBER 9/24/2014 8:50AM

    Sounds like a great goal for October. I cannot wait to hear all about your success!


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TERRI518 9/24/2014 7:57AM

    You look awesome! I sometimes feel the same way you do with reaching my goals. It can be frustrating. But don't give up! Even if you only lose a half pound at a time, that is another a half pound closer to your goal. Stay positive and enjoy getting ready for your wedding day!

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BLACK-PRINCESS 9/24/2014 6:54AM

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STEPH-KNEE 9/24/2014 3:12AM

    My favorite meme on the internet is some days I feel skinny and other days I feel like a busted can of biscuits. I don't look half as awesome as you (just stating the facts LOL), yet because of how far I've come, there are days where I feel like a million bucks. I know I'm not skinny, not even close but I FEEL amazing. Then there are days where I feel like Jabba the hutt and think how I have to lose this last 30ish pounds! It is so frustrating. Although I think we can just be happy for the good times and just continue to do our best. As we get closer to our goals we can hope the bad days become less and less. Although I will say you look fantastic, and if you never lost another pound you already look stunning! But I want you to get to wherever makes you happy! :D

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NASFKAB 9/24/2014 1:25AM

  look so beautiful & happy be positive you have come a long way just keep up withit all the best

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SUGAR0814 9/23/2014 11:58PM

    You look amazing! Don't beat yourself up over the 10lbs. You will reach your goal!

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JAMER123 9/23/2014 11:20PM

    You are beautiful and appear happy!! That's worth all the gold in the world. Maybe your body is telling you it doesn't want change right now. That you have enough stress with the move, new job and wedding all together. That's a lot. Give yourself time to enjoy the new you and then think about the goal you have set. Is it too low? Have you added muscle weight? By going on another eating plan, will you mess up what your body is getting used to now? Just some thoughts that may be stressing you out some more.

Love the pictures of your shower and having the family together. What a wonderful surprise to have your niece there! Enjoy!!
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KRYSSCOTT 9/23/2014 11:11PM

    I get that you have yet to reach your goal and you want to continue to try and push yourself so that you can finally say you have achieved it. Just don't push yourself to hard trying to attain it in October. Restricting yourself to much can lead you to be miserable. You look great and your living a healthy life. It's great to be honest but I hear a lot of negative self talk coming from you tonight. Cheer up, Your going to get there, your motivated and dedicated to this life style change.

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KOHINOOR2 9/23/2014 11:00PM

    You're looking beautiful and happy. You have been under major stress recently and this could be the cause of the weight gain. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SANDICANE 9/23/2014 10:02PM

    I think you're singing the same song as most ppl here on SP. We have a problem with food, so as soon as we let up a bit, WHAM, on comes the pounds! I'm 59 years old and going back down to goal weight...again. Yep, it's a struggle, but I'm not ever going to give up and I hope you don't either.

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MOBYCARP 9/23/2014 9:27PM

    You look beautiful and happy in the pictures; but it's not really about appearance. It's really about health and being able to do the things you want to do. That's where the whole lifestyle thing comes in.

And you have the right idea. If gaining weight is going to interfere with your health or your ability to do what you like, you need to prevent the weight gain. Or if you do gain, you need to do something about it when the gain is still modest. It sounds like you know this, you know what to do, and you have a solid plan for doing it.

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123ELAINE456 9/23/2014 9:13PM

  You look Beautiful. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Sounds look you had a Wonderful Bridal Shower too. And Beautiful Family Photos too. Lasting Memories.

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POCKETFULOFSUN 9/23/2014 8:25PM

    You have a great plan for stopping the creeping up of the scale. You know what foods work for you and what don't. You are active. You can beat that evil twin. Life is a marathon as they say. You have shown such perseverance in your quest for your goals. You look very happy and very much loved. Be sure to show your evil twin --that bad bad bully --that you love her too--even tho she may be a brat, she's what makes life fun.

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SOFTBALLMONKEY 9/23/2014 8:25PM

    You are an inspiration to because you keep striving. Just think of how far you have come. You look amazing.

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LUVSBULLDOGS 9/23/2014 8:12PM

    Jan-Marie, you look beautiful at any weight. 10# isn't so bad when you look at all the stress you've had in the last month. The job interview, getting hired, going to a new work place, moving, etc. Being honest will keep you accountable. You'll get there, just don't let the number on the scale define you. emoticon

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JESSIHOVER2 9/23/2014 7:42PM

    You will love/hate Jillian!! It's inevitable, but it feels so good to feel so sore. Lol!! Good luck.

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Day 1021- A 6-year-old Bully

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Last night I decided to go for a run in my new neighborhood.

And as I ran down the street, I passed a house with two kids standing in the front doorway, and kid on his bike on the front porch. And I heard something about "your momma so fat...." blah blah blah. Then I thought he commented on my personal appearance and maybe something about I shouldn't be wearing spandex or something. Just things kids do. I continued on my run.

I was running at a pretty good pace between an 8-9 minute mile, which is always where I start, but being in a new neighborhood, I was also trying to pay attention to my surroundings. My neighborhood has awesome sidewalks and winds for miles around many streets and cul-de-sacs, so it was a fun run.

The most powerful part of my run was thinking about the fact that when I heard that boy use the term fat, it didn't defeat me. I wasn't constantly thinking "OMG, I am fat, I shouldn't be running." I was more thinking about the household that child might be growing up in, what kind of television he must watch, and if his parents were aware that he was on the front porch, harassing those who passed by.

So on my return route, I specifically decided to run past the house again. And if nothing was said, I was just going to let it go. But once again, I heard something unkind being yelled.

So I stopped running, turned around and started walking over to the house. Well that small child bolted in so much fear, that it almost put a smile on my face. I just walked up to the front door, where his older brother was standing and before I said anything, the older brother said " I apologize, I just grounded him and sent him to his room." Which I know is not the truth, because I saw the child run away in terror of consequences.

I of course wasn't going to do anything other than try to explain to the kid that it's not kind to say mean things, and it can be really hurtful to some people. But, I'm pretty sure the fear that child felt when I turned around to confront him might prevent him from doing it again.

However, I think the greatest lesson in this short story is that, not at one moment did I ever question who I am, and what I'm capable of.

This journey has changed so much about me. It's changed my appearance. It's changed my physical abilities. But most of all, it's changed how I feel about myself. The negative self talk that at one time plagued my life, is so rare in my life now. And for that I am so thankful.

You all believed in me. And I started to believe in myself too. And somehow I got to where I am today.

  
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Awesome way to handle the situation. I had a similar experience when I first started "running." I was jogging along a jogging path in our town and a car of teenagers drove past. A very mean teenaged boy hung out of the window and yelled "Have another cupcake!!" Unfortunately, I did let it get to me and stopped my run just a short distance later, turned around and walked back to my car in tears. Nothing like that has happened since, and I hope that if it ever does, I can not let it get me down!

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ACHIEVECHI 9/25/2014 10:14AM

    Awesome blog! Thanks for sharing your story.

My children only say "fat" when they see the white or yellow portions of chicken or steak. When it comes to people, they say "overweight" - and that is stated as a fact and not shouted or part of general conversation to them or about them. It is referred to as a health issue and not as an identity issue. And they realize that "overweight" people can be "healthy" too.

So, good for you!!! Running a 8-9 minute mile. You have no idea how jealous I am. But then I think about how lucky I am to just "walk" and how much I enjoy it. So my jealousy is not in malice, but in joy for you. Good job and keep running! emoticon

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WWINFC 9/24/2014 3:44PM

    Just yesterday I remembered when a fellow student wore a T-shirt that said "No Fat Chicks" when I was a teenager over 29 years ago and how sad it still makes me. Mean people suck! I hope the boy learns the lesson that there is really no reason to be cruel.

As always, thank you for sharing.

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ALYEPSEN 9/23/2014 3:48PM

    emoticon I hope he learned a lesson from this! You are an inspiration!!!

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MADDANCER 9/23/2014 1:43PM

    I lead a group of Brownie Girl Scouts that my daughter belongs to. It's amazing to me the things that they are comfortable saying to complete strangers, much less friends. Society is teaching young kids (via YouTube, Disney Channel, etc.) that being rude and unkind is funny and acceptable. It's very sad.

Congratulations on your journey. Is that picture really you? Amazing is the only word for that kind of transformation.

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ZAPPATTACK 9/23/2014 10:55AM

    proud of you! must have felt good to send him running, haha

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MOMMY445 9/23/2014 10:51AM

    such a wonderful blog! thank you for sharing and have a great day!

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LIZZZIELU 9/23/2014 7:56AM

  You did the right thing! I heard a smartie comment about the veins in my legs on time from a kid as I walked by. He was with a group of friends and was trying to impress them, I guess. I acted like I was deaf and kept on going with no reaction. That was because there was a group of them, and I wouldn't have made any difference. But you delivered a message to that kid!


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    nice

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THOMS1 9/22/2014 4:41PM

    You have come a long way Jan Marie and I say emoticon emoticon

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SHKIRK 9/22/2014 3:50PM

  It is so nice when we get to the point of REAL self realization !! You keep on keeping on !! emoticon

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MIAMUSE 9/22/2014 1:37PM

    YOu go girl!

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MILLYPHAT 9/22/2014 12:36PM

  Thanks for sharing this. I wonder where young people think it is ok to get away with making comments like that. I dread passing this group of school student when I bike in the mornings. I feel like maybe I should be listening to music or something. At least I am on a bike and whiz by. I am so glad this did not discourage you from walking. Keep on walking!


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SPEEDYGIRL92 9/22/2014 12:21PM

  Awesome. Way to go! I am determined to get to the point where I can run. How did you start your journey to get where you are now a runner? Any suggestions for me?
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LOVINGKATE 9/22/2014 11:58AM

  I love your blog. Thanks so much for sharing. You have come along way and I am so proud of you. You are such a beautiful young women. God bless you.

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SARAHMANI 9/22/2014 11:23AM

  What an inspiring blog! Thank you so much! It reminded me when I was a teenager, growing up in France where almost everyone is fit or naturally thin, especially back then, I wasn't fat but I was bigger than the other kids, all my life. It only got worse during teenage years of course, anyways, all that to say one day a kid younger than me talked to my "friends" about me and said "the fat one", it hurt me so much I can still feel the sting when I think about it. I didn't say anything at the time, I was so ashamed, I just started yet another diet. After reading your blog I thought of that kid from 15 years ago, he was from a difficult neighborhood and probably didn't know better and had a difficult and parent that had not taught him manners but more importantly kindness and compassion. I had just met him and had barely even interacted with him, and my "friends" at the time were not very nice to repeat to me, laughing, what that boy had said, they could have defended me and kept it to themselves... How different things are now, I would NEVER have so insensitive and shady friends nowadays, and should anyone ever comment negatively about my weight or appearance, I would nicely say: "It is a difficult battle that I have fought all my life and have been winning for a couple years now ; if you are blessed with a fast metabolism and can eat whatever you want without gaining a pound consider yourself lucky but do not underestimate the strength and willpower that this battle has built in me, do not mistake my appearance for weakness, it is resilience that you see, my body is strong because of the heavy weights I have been lifting 3 times a week for two years, my legs can sprint faster than most people thanks to interval training, and my brain is rich of experiences, knowledge and fueled by the healthiest most nutritiously dense food someone can eat. Your words did not hurt me because of everything I have been through thanks to this battle, but they can hurt a lot of people and you know that, so ask yourself why you feel the need to say that, ask yourself if maybe your life lacks of compassion and happiness and how you could bring more of that into your life, I will pray for you to find this compassion and happiness. And I hope you will remember to be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle". :)

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Very inspirational and insightful. I still have this to learn. My daughter is helping me change my wardrobe and every time I go in public, I see people look at me and I start to feel panic. My initial thought is that it's because I am too fat to wear what I have on, my supportive husband tells me every time that no one is thinking that (his last comment was hilarious, we were at a Catfish buffet and all I ate was lots of salad and steamed veggies - disgusted by the grease every where). We were pant shopping on Saturday and 2 women at least 10 years younger looked at me funny for checking with my husband about some jeans I was trying on. Sorry, skinny jeans aren't my thing, but that's when I realized that the image in the mirror is not the same as in my head. I need to start seeing what I really look like, and not what I think I see.

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ODAT1117 9/22/2014 7:17AM

    Nicely done! :-)

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ANNARUTH2 9/22/2014 6:48AM

    good for you!

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JANET552 9/22/2014 6:32AM

    Good for you!!

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JOHNWBROCKSR777 9/22/2014 6:06AM

    Love the story...

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PUGLOVER1999 9/22/2014 12:47AM

    What an inspiring blog, on every level!

Thank you for sharing and for the example of what a difference our thoughts / personal talk make. You even had the courage to confront that rude child!

Everything about your blog is uplifting. Thank you again and again!

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LITESTORMX2 9/21/2014 8:04PM

    I certainly hope that little boy learned a lesson & I applaud you for your willingness to address the issue with him/his family. I get so excited when I see other people running -- any size or age -- & I silently cheer for fear if I say something encouraging it will be taken as sarcasm by a person who may not be mentally & physically on the same level. I am sure there are more people cheering us than putting us down - that's what I think :)

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RITAROSE 9/21/2014 5:11PM

  Loved your blog! Love the lesson you taught that little boy. Bet he won't be saying that again! It also taught me that we can help young people to not be mean by saying unkind things. If they continually get by with it, they lose the realization of how cruel they are being! THANKS!! emoticon

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    What a fabulous blog! And you Go girl! How fantastic that you had this epiphany! I think it affirms my belief in that when we can get so mortally wounded by the comments of others - it's because we believe what they are saying to be the truth! I am SO IMPRESSED that you only stood in your truth but showed them that y their behavior was unacceptable! Well done! You just spoke volumes for everyone!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    emoticon Isn't it amazing how setting your sites on positive goals can change your outlook on who you are! I agree that what that boy was saying probably wasn't even directed at you, but some inward emotions that he has going on. It makes me wonder how things are at home. We can only speculate, but I am glad that you confronted the situation because that boy needed to learn that what he did was the wrong thing. You should be proud of your positive reaction to the boy and not getting angry or letting it ruin your feelings about yourself! You will go far in this life as long as you continue to feel good about your self! Have a blessed day! emoticon for sharing the story! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BASKETCASERUN 9/21/2014 12:45PM

    You are awesome - well done!

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SUEARNOLD1 9/21/2014 10:56AM

    Everyone learned a lesson! You found out how strong you are and the youngster learned that he didn't win.

That's a win-win all around.

I agree with Jeanknee - I'll bet you make a difference in this young man's life!

Enjoy your Sunday and life in general!

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KOOSHKY 9/21/2014 9:12AM

    Thanks, I needed that. It is an awesome story!

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NEWFIEGIRLINTO 9/21/2014 9:00AM

    Good For you!! I would have done the same thing. It makes me sad to see how little empathy and respect kids have today. My biggest goal in life is to raise my kids to be kind respectful people. I wish more people did the same. You Rock!!! emoticon

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ELCORRIGAN118 9/21/2014 8:37AM

    Thats awesome! I'll admit I have a fear of running since my place is filled with kids who always seem to have something unkind to say.
My boyfriend and I were just walking once, and some kids decided to should out "chinese sounds" at my Asian boyfriend. I hope my kids will grow up without this trait so many kids seem to have...

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CRES765 9/21/2014 8:05AM

    Nice blog. At least the boy will realized his done wrong things to others. In other hand to my own opinion telling the truth is really hurtful but we must accepted it because truth is really painful and not good to hear. But it helps you to keep going.

In my life, negative things makes me strong and I learned many things from negative comments rather than positive. To me truth is the most important rather than telling me how wonderful I am and nice even though is not completely true. I can handle negative things in my life and I will make it into positive into my life.

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MM11113 9/21/2014 4:48AM

    I have also noticed while walking that kids cruise in cars in my neighborhood, they feel that shouting insults to pedestrians is fair game. I live in a very affluent suburb and am sad to report, a good percentage of the young people are wonderful when being watched, and something else the rest of the time. This is probably the same everywhere, and for all time. It is just sad.

I love the idea that another child n the household was the disciplinarian? Get real!

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LIVELYGIRL2 9/21/2014 1:38AM

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 9/21/2014 1:23AM

    Wonderful blog! I wish I had both your courage and confidence. Even though you are 40 years younger than me--I look up to you as a role model!

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Day 1020- Never Let Them See You Sweat

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Ever have a person who's negativity or rudeness threatened to bring you down?

I've been dealing with a similar issue, and sometimes it's hard to rise above cattiness, but I'm too happy and blessed in my life to really worry about the craziness that this person brings to every situation.

So I'm choosing to rise above and forget about the negative comments. I hope if you're in a similar situation you choose to do the same.

Bridal shower this weekend, so I'll be sure to post more photos!

Love you Sparkfriends!

  
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MRSRIGS1 9/25/2014 7:38PM

    emoticon attitude and outlook! Can't wait to see your pictures.

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    Downer type people aren't worth being unhappy over, for sure. I hope the shower was great! emoticon

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CAROLJ35 9/21/2014 7:31PM

    Sounds like a jealous person making those negative comments!
So glad you are able to rise above their littleness. That person has the problem, not you!

Looking forward to photos of shower!!! (you must be keeping roads busy between MI and OH)

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JERICHO1991 9/21/2014 5:12PM

    Focusing on the bridal shower, and ignoring the drama, sounds like a good plan to me.

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CICELY360 9/20/2014 7:02PM

  good for you

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    One day at a time
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RAINBOWMF 9/19/2014 1:09PM

    Negativity breeds negativity. Walk away.

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KATHIC2 9/19/2014 9:24AM

  You are awesome!

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JIBBIE49 9/19/2014 3:05AM

    Great to see your blog in the Spark Mail. What an honor.

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JSEATTLE 9/18/2014 5:15PM

  The best way to counter negativity is with profuse Positivity. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this considering all the changes you have been through recently, but your achievements will more than outweigh the negative energy that you face.

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LCRUMLEY81 9/18/2014 3:47PM

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FITTEREVERYDAY 9/18/2014 1:03PM

    I tend to drift away from that kind of person. I bring myself down enough as it is! I try not to but sometimes it happens.

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CATEKNK 9/18/2014 1:02PM

    Well done.

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BEACHCALSIX 9/18/2014 12:59PM

    I have a friend who whenever she sees me ALWAYS makes some kind of negative/sarcastic rude comment. She says its joking/sarcasm but it irks me. "ugh, how much weight are you gonna lose? You're looking all skinny, w/ever" etc
Thanks for the reminder to ignore those types of people. Just gonna keep pushing with my goals and stay positive. We've got this! emoticon emoticon

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NONNAOF2 9/18/2014 12:47PM

  Negative people in your life are just a huge waste of time and energy, they need to be blocked from you as much as possible. Focusing on your bridal shower is something to focus on and to look forward to in having a great time! Enjoy!!:-)

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TINAJANE76 9/18/2014 11:24AM

    Taking the high road isn't always easy, especially when we feel like we really want to defend ourselves, but more often than not, it's the best way to be. Hope you can rise above and continue to be as awesome as you always are!

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PATRICIAANN46 9/18/2014 10:53AM

  emoticon Maybe your positivity will rub off on her!!! One can only hope.....
Have a wonderful time at the Bridal shower.......

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KONRAD695 9/18/2014 10:34AM

    Great choice. Good for you.

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ALEXSGIRL1 9/18/2014 9:47AM

    I love that you don't fall to their level just ignore not worth the trouble hugs

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STEVIEBEE569 9/18/2014 9:08AM

    I'm dealing with this as well. However, let's continue to choose JOY! Have a great day!

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DJSHIP46 9/18/2014 8:24AM

    Hang in there... YOU can do it!

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DIANNEMT 9/18/2014 7:48AM

    Hang in there! Avoid as much as you can--and go ahead and be obvious about it. Others already know why.

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1CRAZYDOG 9/18/2014 7:19AM

    Yes! So much information is thrown our way for our brain to process and WE have the choice to decide -- is it worth pursuing OR should we dismiss it. Lucky us! Easy? Nope, but so worthwhile to really realize that even if someone says something negative, we don't have to think about it any further. That gives THEM the power if we do. I like my power too much! LOL

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FINDINGBOBBIE 9/18/2014 7:15AM

    Great attitude!!!

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LEANJEAN6 9/18/2014 7:03AM

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PENOWOK 9/18/2014 7:01AM

    Yes, In work with one of those... seems as though she does it on purpose, but why would anyone be so mean on purpose...aha! It's a control issue! So be a duck in water and let it roll off your back!

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BESSHAILE 9/18/2014 7:00AM

    Truth is - when I am around someone who is trying to bring me down - deliberately or stealthily or even unconsciously - I pretty much start drifting away. Even family members will be left behind when that happens. I once tried and tried to calmly and deliberately tell a meany person she was wrong and it hurt and please stop. When it didn't work I blew up - which I sometimes regret but just as often feel glad about, because it exposed her to the group. That had consequences too since the group disbanded - and I have stayed close to only some of those people. Obviously - we were the wrong combo.

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SHERYLP461 9/18/2014 6:43AM

    It is a great attitude, sometimes I fall short.

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JOHNWBROCKSR777 9/18/2014 6:03AM

    “attitude determines altitude.”

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LIVINHEALTHY9 9/18/2014 6:03AM

    Those type of people just seem to suck the energy out of you.

Good for you on staying positive and rising above it. That's not easy to do either, especially if you are exposed to that person almost daily.

Can't wait to see the Bridal shower blog!

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TRYINGHARD54 9/18/2014 5:36AM

    yes, I know a person just like that. I even told her she needs to be more positive. I try to stay away from her as much as i can.... have a great day... emoticon

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NINAHAPPYHEART 9/18/2014 3:11AM

    Great attitude!
I'll remember to do the same especially when having these kind of people around all the time!!
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NASFKAB 9/18/2014 12:56AM

  love your attitude its the way to go there are some people who feel unhappy unless they can make at least one person unhappy

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NUTINLOOKSLIKE 9/18/2014 12:20AM

    What a great attitude to have!

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SUBMOM2 9/18/2014 12:12AM

    Great attitude. Negative people can really suck your energy if you engage them. Sometimes it's hard to remember, so thanks for the friendly reminder!

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JAMER123 9/17/2014 10:43PM

    I have seen that a lot. It's hard but what works is a smile on your face and a pleasant "thank you" as you walk away. It has been my fall back on the negative. Keep the great attitude!!
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Day 1017- Another Beautiful Wedding

Sunday, September 14, 2014

As promised, here are my pics from this weekend.









It was a great event, and the last wedding before ours!

November 15th is just 62 days away!

So I'm hoping to really buckle down on my eating and exercising so I look and feel my best for the wedding.

Hope you all had wonderful weekends!

  
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SUPERSYLPH 9/29/2014 7:22PM

    You look stunning in that dress! I'm sure you'll look great for your wedding!

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MEEMA57 9/28/2014 8:54AM

  You look beautiful the dress is perfect!!!!! But the thing that caught my eye the most is how happy and healthy you look!!!! Just imaging how stunning you are going to look in your wedding dress. Thank you for honoring your health and being and inspiration to all of us. Can't wait to see your wedding pictures. I am sure you will be radiant!!!!! emoticon


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MRSRIGS1 9/23/2014 7:44PM

    Beautiful couple!

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ICECUB 9/22/2014 9:47PM

    THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR PICTURES. THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU LOOK AMAZING. THAT IS A BEAUTIFUL DRESS. I LOVE THAT BLUE. IT LOOKS FANTASTIC ON YOU

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BAHAMAMARG 9/21/2014 8:31AM

    You look amazing - and so happy. Thank you for continuing to inspire. emoticon

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CECELW 9/20/2014 9:03PM

    You look amazing! Your going to be a lovely bride!

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REBESANCON 9/20/2014 11:06AM

    You look beautiful, and your amazing spirit shows in your smile!

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SEDONACAT 9/18/2014 7:36AM

    Thank you for sharing. You looked so pretty and the dress...wow. emoticon

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PICKIE98 9/17/2014 2:41PM

    Couple things: First of all, You are gorgeous!
I can hardly wait to see the pics of you two in your wedding garb! How you can get any more beautiful is beyond me.
Second, that bride sure is a teensy little thing!!

Third, I cannot believe it is only a month away from now!! Time sure has flown!

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CATEKNK 9/17/2014 1:57PM

    Beautiful. You are an inspiration and I love your zest for life. Can't wait to see the wedding pictures!

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PYNETREE 9/16/2014 10:32PM

    You both look great!
You have worked hard to get to this point, You won't fall apart now!
You'll make a beautiful Bride & handsome Groom!

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PCASEY7 9/16/2014 9:59PM

    Looking good!

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NUTINLOOKSLIKE 9/16/2014 9:25PM

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FOUNDER3 9/16/2014 9:23PM

    You look beautiful right now. Just keep that beautiful feeling in your heart.

Best wishes for your upcoming wedding.

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AMYG5025 9/16/2014 8:59PM

    You look fabulous! Beautiful, strong, and healthy! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LADYGSC 9/16/2014 8:23PM

    Nice pictures!

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KRYSSCOTT 9/16/2014 8:22PM

    You two look great together.

62 days, you must be so excited!

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POCKETFULOFSUN 9/16/2014 8:10PM

    Whoa! Hubba Hubba What a hottie!

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REDGIRL54 9/16/2014 7:36PM

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ARIANORCHID 9/16/2014 6:49PM

  Thanks for sharing your pics. Your upcoming wedding is a great event to look forward to and something wonderful to keep you motivated.

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AJB121299 9/16/2014 5:48PM

    keep it up

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CHANGING-TURTLE 9/16/2014 5:21PM

    You look great emoticon

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JRRING 9/16/2014 5:16PM

  so pretty!

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GRANDMABABA 9/16/2014 3:54PM

    BEAUTIFUL!

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FITMAMA4EVER 9/16/2014 3:46PM

    You look beautiful! I love that colour! I wish you all the best with the final details before your wedding-remember...don't stress the small stuff..it's the rest of your lives together in partnership that matters most, not just one day -although I'm sure it will be a special day of course!!
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LADYDL 9/16/2014 2:35PM

    Nice! I love your dress.

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JAZZYMOM53 9/16/2014 2:15PM

    You look amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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TANGYTANGERINE 9/16/2014 1:15PM

    YOU LOOK AMAZING!!! emoticon

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46SHADOW 9/16/2014 1:00PM

    you look stunning!

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JLPEASE 9/16/2014 12:36PM

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Thanks so much for sharing. You look awesome -- what a terrific smile!


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KIMBERLY187 9/16/2014 10:58AM

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KOLINA 9/16/2014 10:48AM

    You look absolutely beautiful! That is a great cut and color for you! and JD looks great too!

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MOMMY445 9/16/2014 10:16AM

    you look amazing!

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MCNEALKS 9/16/2014 10:12AM

  You are radiant! Thank you for your inspirational quote about persistence. I need to get with it!

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DISNEY4537 9/16/2014 9:33AM

    Great Pictures! You look fantastic! emoticon emoticon

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VANGO79 9/16/2014 9:16AM

    You guys look great and you are going to be a beautiful bride!

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GWINNER1 9/16/2014 9:09AM

    You're looking good......congrats on your upcoming wedding.

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MAXXIZ20 9/16/2014 9:08AM

    You look fantastic! Keep smiling lady!

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STEPHAM1 9/16/2014 9:05AM

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DONNA_VT 9/16/2014 8:14AM

    Love the dress . . . your wedding is coming up so fast . . . you'll be a beautiful bride!

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LIFESTYLE12 9/16/2014 7:51AM

    You both look and must also feel fantastic - all that effort paying off! After all of the recent weddings you've attended, you deserve the best wedding of all! Like everyone else, can't wait to see the beautiful pictures from your special day!! emoticon

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MAWMAW101 9/16/2014 7:17AM

    Beautiful! emoticon emoticon

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KAREN_01 9/16/2014 6:26AM

    Love the outfit!! You looked absolutely stunning in it! Cannot wait to see your wedding pictures.

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GRAMPIAN 9/16/2014 6:08AM

  Great pictures! emoticon

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1STBUCKETITEM 9/16/2014 2:02AM

  You look wonderful! Loved your dress, too! Can't wait to see *your* wedding pictures, you'll be a beautiful bride. emoticon

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