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One Of Those Moments

Wednesday, April 09, 2014



Have you ever had "one of those moments" in life where that no matter how brief the moment was, it seems to convey a million things? It is kind of like that old saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", but with a moment. Perhaps the new saying can be, "a moment is worth a million things". I had "one of those moments the other day.

I get that "things" is vague. I only use "things" because I am not sure I can put my finger on the proper word that would actually grasp what I was feeling in this moment the other day. In this moment (that lasted about 5 minutes), I had a flood of memories and emotions from this entire healthy lifestyle journey that I have been on over the last nearly 5 years. Hard to believe that it has been that long...but I'll tackle all that in another blog.

I was having issues with my computer. I was trying to get my computer hooked up to my TV via HDMI cable so my girls (Calli & Sydni) and my girlfriend (Lauren) could watch Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban. I was having some sound issues so I was messing with all settings. When I finished, I clicked on a different movie that was on the hard drive to try out the sound.

I clicked on my goal making video from July of 2013.

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(I know many of you have seen the video but if you are newer or want to check it out again, here is the link)

Mind you, it isn't the first time I have seen it since I made it. It isn't even the first time I have seen it this year. I showed the video at the Spark rally meeting I spoke at in Indianapolis back on January 11th.

But there was something different about it this time. Perhaps it was trying to turn it off after a few seconds only for my girls to yell at me, "LEAVE IT ON!" Yes, I capitalized that for a reason! Perhaps seeing it just in that moment for whatever reason...I don't know...it just hit me a little different than it had before.

I had a overwhelming sense of pride that the girls wanted to watch it. They had seen it before but in their eyes, I could see that they were proud of their Dad. I know they don't understand everything it took for me to do what I did and I know they don't understand the reasons I did it (them being the biggest reason), but I hope that someday they will.



But I had many other emotions and memories from that time and the time leading up to the video. All the hard work. All the sacrifice. All of the EVERYTHING that it took and has taken for me to get to the place where I am now!

Happy & Thankful

I have so much to be happy and thankful for these days. I have great kids that make me so proud every day! They are the best of me. They are my heart. I also have the love of an incredible woman that has changed my life and makes me feel that I am the luckiest boy in the world. I have a much healthier lifestyle, that because of the last 4+ years, I have given myself the best chance that I can to enjoy all of it longer!

All of this came to me in the moments that the video was on screen and it was an incredible feeling! It was truly worth a million things! It made me appreciate, just that much more, where I had come from, where I am now, and where I am going in the future. And yes, it brought some tears to my eyes. No surprise there :)

Embrace Your Moments

Embrace The Possibilities

  
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TRIKERBON 4/14/2014 9:38AM

    Thank you, your video has given me hope as I have 200 pounds I am working on losing!
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TRAVELGRRL 4/13/2014 10:57AM

    Thanks for sharing the link. What a journey!

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    Way to Mill Brad!!!! Love this blog! You are amazing! emoticon emoticon

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CICELY360 4/12/2014 11:59PM

  good blog

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CAROL_31649731 4/12/2014 11:15PM

    Of course your girls are proud of you, as they should be! And I'm glad you had a profound sense of pride, watching it with them. You should be proud, too! You have been on an amazing journey, and I feel honored to have shared part of it with you. In case you didn't know, your journey has inspired me daily, on my journey. Thanks for that. emoticon emoticon

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THINANDFITEMILY 4/12/2014 11:39AM

    emoticon for the reminder of the GIFT that is this video- yes Play it! I know I will revisit it. Truly inspirational and give me goosebumps. What I get out of it is this healthy life can be BAD A$$- so often I think it is only for goodie types- just yet another excuse to go down the wrong path emoticon of over eating and over drinking and sitting on my FAT A$$ watching horror movies.
I am ready to shock them!
- I loved the Emerson quote and wrote it down
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WRITERWANNAB 4/12/2014 1:15AM

    I'm so glad you're doing so well & have the love & encouragement of your daughters & your lady! You have done wonders! emoticon

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COLOR-BLUE 4/11/2014 5:12PM

    Brad,

I don't have a video of myself, but I do have pictures of me every month, to show where I was and how far God has brought me.

When I went to my sister's home in February 2014, I received the highest compliment I could have ever gotten from anybody, and it came from my sister. First off, when I walked in the door, she told me that I don't take a good picture, and that I always looked sickly and too skinny in the pictures, but she told me that I looked amazing.

Well, I was trying to encourage her to get on board, and lose some weight, so I left some of my items at her home for her, when I left. She said she would try the DVD out, and see how she liked it. In the mean time, I was also encouraging her husband (Tom) to help her out and to get in there with her. The next thing I know, I get an ugly email from her, chewing me up one side and down the other, about trying to get Tom involved to motivate her. She in no uncertain terms told me that it was her way or no way and no amount of what anybody said or did, would make her change. I agreed with her, and then out of her mouth comes, "Besides the only incentive I ever needed came walking through my front door, and when I saw how she looked, it made me WANT TO TRY!" It took me about 5 minutes to realize that she was talking about ME! Then I began to cry, and I realized just how far God had really brought me! It's such a humbling feeling and all I can say is, "Thanks God!"

I'm very delighted to report that she did try the DVD, and she did better than I did, when I cut my teeth on it. She's lost a couple of pan sizes, and she's happy with everything that's going on except the scale hasn't budged. I did explain all of there to here, and she confessed that she would like to see it go down at east .25 lbs.

Thanks for this blog!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
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HAPPYMENOW58 4/10/2014 6:36PM

    Wow....wow.....wow!! Favorite Brad,,,,,,So happy and proud of you! Enjoy that wave of success.....You really deserve it! Keep on keeping on, buddy! You are the best of the best!! emoticon

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NONNAOF2 4/10/2014 3:12PM

  How wonderful that you have a reminder of all you have been through. Your family must be very proud of you! You most certainly are an inspiration! :-)

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    It's priceless! emoticon on all your success! You really worked hard, and it is rewarding to look back at the journey and feel proud of your accomplishments.

I bet your family is extremely proud of you!

Glad you are doing well!

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LIVELYGIRL2 4/10/2014 1:04PM

  Brad,
I never get tired of hearing your story. It is one of the most positive things I've heard of in a long time. I went out and checked out the video, although I believe I had seen it.

As a parent, I get it, that it means the world for the kids to feel this way( leave it on). Yes, when they are older, they will comprehend that " they" were a major motivating factor.

My sis who has a 10 year old daughter and 2 adult sons, knows this. I mean you can get down and play with them, and so much more energy, right?

So, I'm curious, did you met your girlfriend before this change or during it???

In either case, I'm sure she is loving all the amazing benifits and changes you've made. I do think these things can't help but kick it up a notch ... yah, a bunch of notches, since our quality of life improves.

If I was to meet you ( like many Sparkers ), you'd get a hug, because we are sharing your happiness and success. This is another incredible perk, inspiring those who are at various levels of their journey.

I do believe your experience probably gives others courage to begin or continue. Perhaps, this is one of the biggest rewards, next to your daughters and lady becoming cheerleaders.

By your sharing, we have given us the privilege to sense we know you.

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JSEATTLE 4/10/2014 12:56PM

  That is so neat! I am happy for you and for your girls. I totally understand!

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    Thanks for providing just the inspiration I needed today!

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IDICEM 4/10/2014 9:20AM

  So glad to hear your life is so full and happy. May we all embrace the moments!

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KWING517 4/10/2014 9:18AM

    Beautiful & very well said. I haven't had that moment in a very long time - i've been spending too much time beating myself up for not "ending" my journey by reaching my goal weight (I know it never truly ends, but I want to be able to say I reached my goal).

Thank you for slowing me down and reminding me that we have truly come a long way on our journeys and that I should just appreciate the journey itself and not be frustrated that I'm not at the weight I had hoped to be by now.

This blog also reminded me that its not about how much weight I've lost, but about how I conduct myself that matters, because, while I'm certainly impressed by your weight loss, it was your words and encouragement that inspired me today.

Thank you for my "moment" today.

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CFMOSS 4/10/2014 8:27AM

    Oh how nice - didn't watch the vlog - but greatly appreciate the current story around it - lovely.

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SHERYLP461 4/10/2014 8:20AM

    Thank you for sharing your video.

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DIANNEMT 4/10/2014 7:41AM

    So glad you got to see how great you have been--and how great you will continue to be!

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CHERYLHURT 4/10/2014 7:31AM

  Love this vlog!

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BESSHAILE 4/10/2014 6:36AM

    Oh my. It brought tears to my eyes too. What a fantastic father you are, too. It's obvious because look how proud your girls are. And have no doubt - they're watching a success story right before their very eyes. They are learning one of the most important lessons in life - that work is good and good for you. That bad situations can be changed. that anyone can be successful but he has to work at it and it won't come immediately.

There can be no greater gift a parent can give a child than proof of possibilities. You have given that gift to your daughters. what lucky girls.

and SO happy there is a love in your life too. You deserve it. You deserve all of it.

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LIVINHEALTHY9 4/10/2014 6:10AM

    That sounds like "one of those great moments". Aren't they wonderful?
You should be proud of your girls, your accomplishments, and most of all yourself for all the hard work you have done.
So inspiring!

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TRYINGHARD54 4/10/2014 5:41AM

    thank you for this post

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JAMER123 4/9/2014 11:33PM

    You have a right to be proud and like in the moment with your journey!! I am so glad your girls wanted to watch it as well. One never knows when something sudden;y "speaks" to a soul and the light comes on!!! You have done a fantastic job and I know you love life much more now days!!
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DUXGRL1 4/9/2014 9:33PM

    I just saw the video for the first time and it was so inspiring! I have been working on this for over 3 years now, lost over 50 lbs and have found "the home stretch" to be the hardest part. But seeing you reach your goal...so inspiring! I feel like if you could keep at it for 4 years, I can see this through to the end, too!

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    Moments like that happen just at the right time... it's all the work, time and energy spent getting "THERE" that makes it easier to continue the journey of a life time emoticon emoticon again on your progress and enjoy the fact that your family acknowledges it emoticon emoticon

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SANDYCRANE 4/9/2014 6:28PM

    You are a great example for your kids. Keep up the good work.



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1CRAZYDOG 4/9/2014 5:23PM

  Amazing, inspiring, wonderful!!!

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    You are an inspiration

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ONTHEPATH2 4/9/2014 2:21PM

    Geez, I got teary eyed reading your blog! Loved it! Yep, embrace your moments! Life is far too short not to. I love it that your girls wanted to watch the video again. What a great model of what a healthy lifestyle does for one's body and soul!

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I Used To. I Did. I Am.

Tuesday, March 18, 2014



There are many layers to these healthy lifestyle journey's that we are on. I know for me, when I may be feeling a bit overwhelmed by the whole process or just feeling like I am stuck in a rut, I like to think about what I was, what I did about it, and what I am now doing about it. These are things that you could actually write down or you could just do mentally, whichever works best for you. These are just some ideas that can help get you going again if you currently aren't doing well or perhaps keep you motivated and pushing towards your goals!

The first category is the old Brad of yesteryear, the dreaded "I Used To" list. As painful as the past is and can be, the past can often times serve as a great motivator. In the very least, it can show us how NOT to do things. This list for me could probably take up a couple of blogs worth of content, so I will narrow it down to a few for this...

I used to weigh 509 lbs (still hard to say & believe)

I used to eat a large pizza at a sitting (without much effort)

I used to believe that I couldn't lose weight no matter how hard I tried (I didn't try that hard)

The second category is the "I Did". Depending on where you are in your journey, you may not have a long list with this category but that is ok. Work with what you have. If you have had any kind of success (now or in the past), add it! If a particular diet or routine worked for you, add it! If you have been proud of an effort you made towards your goals, add that! A few I have are...

I did the entire Insanity workout (something I started like 20 times previously!)

I did track my food on Spark (every day I logged in and TRACKED IT ALL!)

I did make my original goal of 299 lbs. (one of the best days of my life!)

The third category is "I Am". This is the one you have control of RIGHT NOW! This is the one YOU CAN CHANGE! This is the here and now! You can not change your "I Used To" and "I Did" lists...those have come and gone. That is your past, you own that. But right now today, you can add anything you want to your "I Am" list! Even though "I Did" make my goal, I have made new goals and am working towards them every day. The "I Am" list never stops for me...

I am going to the gym 2-3 times a week for an hour (mostly cardio with the elliptical)

I am doing core, yoga, and other dvd workouts at home (2-3 days a week)

I am eating as healthy and as clean as possible (more veggies than ever! Yay!)

Those are just some examples that I use for my lists. It always me to remind myself of where I have been and where I am going. I have come a long way but I had a long way to go! This is an ongoing journey. I will be resolute. I will be intrepid.

So if you are just starting your journey, start your "I Used To" now. If you are further along in your journey or have even made your goal, never forget your "I Used To" list. But in that same breath, never forget your "I Did" list either. Be proud of what you have accomplished! And from this point on, concentrate on what you want to add to your "I Am" list and DO IT!



I think we get stuck in the I Used Tos of our past. We let that hold us back from our "I Am" list! I think it is time to forgive ourselves for our past and concentrate on where we are and see the good in what we have done. "I Did" lose 210+ lbs. "I Am" living a healthy lifestyle.

No more "I Used To" and more "I Am"!

Embrace Your Possibilities

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BABYBARNEY 4/12/2014 7:41AM

    great words...I live by lists so I AM...is the best one yet!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/4/2014 8:35AM

    Fabulous! I need to put my list on paper. I need to remind myself of who and what I AM now, not who I USED to be. Thanks Brad! *HUGS*

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IMSMILEY88 3/27/2014 10:25AM

    Love your post! Very inspirational!

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MARIFIREDUP 3/27/2014 9:55AM

    Thank you for the motivation today!

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BELLACUDDLES 3/27/2014 9:40AM

    Amen!!

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HATTIE2012 3/27/2014 9:33AM

    I love your blogs. You are such an inspiration! I am going to make those lists!

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MAESTROSHASHA 3/24/2014 10:19PM

    These ideas really resonates with me. I am doing some very similar things and I can attest to the power in these sorts of lists. In case it is helpful to anyone else, here is a list of some things that are equivalents for me.

The "I did" equivalent is a "Random Accomplishments" list I've started. Shooting for my stated goals has caused me to achieve things beyond what I was shooting for. I wanted a way to capture and celebrate those. I have them listed on my spark page. It is really helpful and encouraging to me review them. The journey is long and that list is like an encouragement snack in the wilderness.

The "I am" accomplishment for me are my "Spark streaks". I just love checking off those boxes in my "Other Goals" areas and tracking the streaks. It simultaneously helps me celebrate what I am doing and pushes me to keep going "just one more time" to keep my streak going.

I don't have an "I used to" list going. I do sort of feel like goals are a future statement of "I will". Again, by listing them, it gives me direction in the future. Even when I "fall short" of my goals, the mere act of reaching for them usually caused some progress to happen.

Anyhow. There's my three cents. My two cents version is: "I TOTALLY AGREE!" =D

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    What an amazing journey.....that should never end. emoticon

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Thanks for the inspiration!
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CAROL_31649731 3/20/2014 3:48PM

    Wow! Your best blog yet, Brad!!! You are so talented & inspiring . . . thank you!!!! I'm going make my lists now. emoticon emoticon

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HAPPYMENOW58 3/20/2014 1:49PM

    wonderful, wonderful, WONDERFUL....FAVORITE BRAD! Will do this exercise....Very nice to read your inspirational blogs again, today.......Thank you, again, for your keen insight.....You rockin, awesome, rock star, YOU!! Hugs... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MPETERSON2311 3/20/2014 7:23AM

    thanks! I reposted a link to this on my blog with my own lists. This is very inspirational for helping me get out of my recent rut.

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JUNEAU2010 3/19/2014 7:31PM

    Thanks for reminding me to take a step back, to think, reflect and get the longer perspective!

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NEWTINK 3/19/2014 5:18PM

    It is amazing when you can think of how far you have actually come . Thank you for a wonderful blog.

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    I LOVE this Brad, thank you so much for sharing!

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Thank you for the inspiration to not stop changing.

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CICELY360 3/19/2014 11:00AM

  You lost so much weight. You should be proud of yourself.

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KCLARK89 3/19/2014 10:37AM

    Awesome blog as always!! I love breaking down the journey into chunks like that and adding and deleting where applicable. It helps to remind me that it isn't a linear process, but rather one where things can and DO shift around as time passes.

Keep up the amazing work! :)

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MIMIDOT 3/19/2014 10:30AM

    Very interesting. Thank you!

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    Thank you--I needed the reminders! Great post!

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SHERYLP461 3/19/2014 9:55AM

    You are Amazing!! Living proof that we can take charge of our life and be our own best motivator!

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  So true thanks for sharing

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BESSHAILE 3/19/2014 7:20AM

    Oh boy! I love what you're doing now.

I love that idea too - and I am going to make my own list. such a great reflection.

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PENOWOK 3/19/2014 6:47AM

    Well said!

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WATERDIAMONDS 3/19/2014 6:17AM

    How wonderful. I am taking your three sentences to write my own story today.

Thank you so much.

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Leave The "Box Of I Can't" Behind

Tuesday, March 11, 2014



How long will it take? How much money will it cost me? How can I do this? Can I do this? If I don't do this, where will I be? What if this, and what if that...

We face a lot of questions along our healthy lifestyle journey. We deal with questions that we answer to either help motivate us to get where we want to be or that will end up sabotaging our own efforts, sending us right back to where we started.

Depending on how you answer those questions that arise, can determine the level of success you will have when it comes to a successful journey into a healthy lifestyle. If you can be positive and tell yourself that no matter how much time and effort it takes, I will meet my goals, then you set yourself up for the best possible approach to achieve the goals you set for yourself. If you are pessimistic about it, your answers to those questions will send you right back into the "Box Of I Can't".



Of course, just having a positive attitude doesn't guarantee you will reach any of your goals. If only it were that simple, right? You and I know that we still have to put in the time and effort it takes to make it, but a positive outlook is certainly a good place to start. On the other hand, if you are negative and answer those questions I posed earlier with excuse after excuse, you will be stuck in that "Box Of I Can't" with nobody to blame but yourself! It is a continuation of the lifestyle that got us where we are in the first place. To get where you want to go, you have to change what you are doing!

No matter what stage of the journey you are on, questions are inevitable, but it is up to you which way you answer them. Will you tackle them head on with a positive outlook and tell yourself that you will reach your goals no matter what, or will you have a negative outlook and make excuses and find yourself perpetually stuck in the "Box Of I Can't"?



The choice is yours.

Embrace The Possibilities

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2BDYNAMIC 3/30/2014 8:46AM

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    WooooooHoooooooooooooo!! Thank you, FAVORITE BRAD!! Love it.......Once again....You are back writing my favorite and the best blogs........You are top notch, buddy....... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RAWCOOKIE 3/18/2014 8:50AM

    Hmm - interesting, and reading the comment from THINFITRAWKIND - I hear myself thinking 'oh, no - I can't resist those cookies' and that's the kind of thought I know I need to change - but thinking 'I can resist those cookies' isn't easy............. not that you said it was! It's like throwing away one's emotional teddy-bears isn't it - traumatic bereavement!



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MYRMEN 3/17/2014 11:30AM

    emoticon I'm happy to see you back again! You are such a source of inspiration!

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MATTEROFHEART 3/17/2014 10:15AM

    So great to see a blog from you, Brad! Thanks for your inspiration!

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NASFKAB 3/15/2014 1:10AM

  way to put "Yes I can" NOT "I cant"

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BESSHAILE 3/13/2014 3:38PM

    Yep yep - we all have one of those boxes. Now and then I peek into mine but I won' jump back inside and live there. I bet you won't either.

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LSDALOIA 3/12/2014 11:18PM

    Yes I can!!! Great blog and it's so good to have you back!

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TINAJANE76 3/12/2014 7:17PM

    So awesome to see you back in the Spark blogosphere again, Brad. You've been greatly missed and I'm glad to see you're still armed with tons of inspiration!

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CHICAMIMI 3/12/2014 4:57PM

    emoticon (At times like this I wish there was a "Word" emoticon).

This is such a great post and something I'm finding really is making the difference in my journey this time. In the past, I messed up and that was it. Now, while it can be hard, I'm learning to stay positive, keep moving forward and not giving up. No excuses.

(That doesn't mean that I won't secretly wish there was a magical pill that would keep me from having to endure burpees!)

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CAROL_31649731 3/12/2014 2:24PM

    So True! Nicely put & a nice reminder to us all. Words of wisdom needed today . . . thanks. Positively yours, emoticon

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STR458 3/12/2014 11:56AM

    Thanks Brad for posting
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KATHY47802 3/12/2014 10:07AM

    Love it!

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BTW, love the pic of the ladies in your life on your main page - gorgeous family!
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SOFT_VAL67 3/11/2014 8:57PM

    yes, i can. thanks for reminding me! had an amazing day in the sun, walking! emoticon emoticon

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SPARKONSKATES 3/11/2014 8:54PM

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I miss your awesome blogs Brad !! Woohoo!!

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COLOR-BLUE 3/11/2014 7:50PM

    Brad,

I choose to EMBRACE ALL THE POSIBILITIES!!! emoticon

I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength! Philippians 4:13

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
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1CRAZYDOG 3/11/2014 3:34PM

  YES WE CAN!!!!

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LINDAK25 3/11/2014 1:07PM

    We really do put ourselves in a box, don't we? We've just got to slap all those negative thoughts down into that box and keep the lid on it. Love the Kermit the Frog meme. Such drama.

Keep Sparking!

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SUSIEMT 3/11/2014 12:21PM

    Good blog Brad! Good questions that we all need to answer and be aware.

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TRINIITY1 3/11/2014 11:59AM

    Ahh, awesome as always and so very true!! I have mourned over that dead fish in for far too long in the past. Upward and onward to my goals!!

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THOMS1 3/11/2014 11:42AM

    You are right as always. I went on vacation for the month of Feb and had the best of intentions but, of course as always some of my old ways got in the way and I let them. Gained 10 lbs so now I start again. Your blogs always make me think. Thank you. emoticon

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HARROWJET 3/11/2014 10:53AM

    Yes, I CAN! emoticon

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CHUBRUB3 3/11/2014 10:51AM

    Great motivation Brad!
Good to see you blogging again.
Hugs,
Angela

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IAMBIZI 3/11/2014 10:50AM

    welcome back, hopefully your back is normal again and that exercise is normal again for you.
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ONTHEPATH2 3/11/2014 10:20AM

    Ahhhhhh, what if........ I think I CAN instead of what if....... Thank you!!!! emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 3/11/2014 10:09AM

    I love the visual image of a box of "I Can't". When I was a teen, my music teacher had us visualize our teen angst as being something in a backpack. We had to leave the backpack and the door and come into the music room without it so we could get the work done that the hour demanded. It was our choice, she said, whether or not we picked up that backpack at the end of the hour. I sort of understood it then, I understand her wisdom so much more now!

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NILLAPEPSI 3/11/2014 9:32AM

    Anything good takes effort, that's for sure. Welcome back! You were missed!! Loved reading your blog today. emoticon

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I'm working to consistently stay out of that box. Doesn't always happen, but I'm getting better and better at it.


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CELIAMINER 3/11/2014 8:52AM

    Yes, I CAN!
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NELLJONES 3/11/2014 8:27AM

    The "Box of I Can't" really means you don't want something as much as you think you do. It's not a crime, you don't HAVE to want something. When you really really want it as much as you WANT to want it, you'll find the way to get there.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 3/11/2014 7:36AM

    I am and I can - very powerful statements. Have a fabulous day Brad!

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ZUMBAOBSESSED 3/11/2014 7:32AM

    I guess in the near future I can't use the "I can't go out because of the snow" excuse. I'll have to switch over to, "it's too hot outside to run" excuse. Would that be ok, Brad? No??

Ok,,ok, fine!!!! I'll get out of the box!

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JUST_BRENDA 3/11/2014 7:30AM

    So true!
Thanks for the reminder

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NANCYTUNBERG64 3/11/2014 7:28AM

    I put the box out at the curb for garbage pickup. Now no box to have as an excuse!!

Thanks

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THINANDFITEMILY 3/11/2014 7:20AM

    Love it! emoticon I did not get the best sleep last night and that box of can't was on the floor by my bedside this morning- so I just kicked it out the door. Your blog helped me today oh and a cup of coffee emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 3/11/2014 7:11AM

    I know several people who have mourned over the death of that fish, and still are... I did for a while, but realized, IT'S JUST A FISH! I had to get over it and get back to MY life, I have things to do! I guess when they say "when you want it done right, do it yourself." That's the only way it's going to get done. True story!
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FELINEBETTER 3/11/2014 6:50AM

    Very well said!!! A great reminder for all us too! Good to see you back! emoticon emoticon

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I hauled the box of "I can't" out to the trash but it does somehow find it's way back in sometimes. I'll keep taking it to the trash as many times at it takes!

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What A Pain

Tuesday, December 17, 2013



As some of you may know, I hurt my back pretty bad in the middle of November doing my new workout program. I didn't hurt myself doing anything really abnormal or crazy, I hurt myself doing a squat. I hurt myself doing a SQUAT?!?! How did I hurt myself doing something I have done thousands of over the last 18 months or so?!?!

For the better part of 3 days, I could only crawl around my house. For the better part of a week, I couldn't walk without significant pain. For the better part of this last month, I have dealt with the pain in my back. Perhaps harder than dealing with the pain is dealing with the mental side of this injury.

I have had minor injuries and pains over the last 18 months or so. I have had knee pain since I was a teenager. I have had foot pain for nearly as long, residuals of having 3 stress fractures in my feet over a six year period in high school and college. I hurt my shoulder back in January working out and was told I likely have a partially torn rotator cuff. I have even hurt my back a few times and that has kept me from working out a day or two at a time. All of those injuries I successfully rested or worked my way through.



This particular back injury in November has been a sobering reminder to me of how fragile this journey is. A reminder of how important our physical and mental well being are to what we can accomplish with our healthy lifestyle changes and how much the two are intertwined. A reminder of how one day or week we can feel like we are on top of a mountain and we will never be stopped on our way to our goal to the next day or week where it feels like we were pushed off the mountain and fell all the way to the bottom hitting every ledge and tree along the way.

I felt that. I felt like I had scaled Mount Weight Loss! I had conquered it! Why would I not think that? I went from a high of 509 lbs. in May of 2009 down to my original goal of 299 lbs. in July of 2013. I had those days, weeks where I felt like I could do no wrong. But, I have also had those days and weeks where I couldn't get out of my own way!

Yes it happens. Yes, it will happen again. There was something a little different this time. I didn't let my diet get out of control so I am thankful for that. I am thankful that my healthy lifestyle changes probably have sunk into my muscle memory enough to where I didn't let my diet be totally derailed. In the past, I am sure I would have drowned my physical pain in pizza and ice cream...and let's be honest, tacos, candy, cookies, pasta, bread...you know where I am going here.

But I did let the injury get to my spirit. I was on track and doing the best workouts I had done since late summer and then boom! No workouts! It was a unwelcomed wake-up that I could have done without. It seemed like an awful time for an injury like that but then I thought about it. When exactly is a good time for an injury like that?

That got me thinking about how fragile our journey is. If I would have had this same injury when I just started Insanity at 433 lbs., would I have kept going or would I have thrown in the towel? I have a sinking feeling, that Old Brad would have thrown in the towel.



But now, I will speak to Old Brad and use the wise words of one Tom Petty, "DON'T COME AROUND HERE NO MORE!" Old Brad won't get me where I want to go!

I am happy to say that my back and mindset are doing much better now and I am getting back on track with workouts! I will use this setback as an opportunity to learn as I go forward. I will use this reminder to propel me on to bigger and better things! I am determined to successfully navigate this holiday season eating minefield, and go into 2014 energized and ready for the best year yet!

Who's with me?

Embrace Your Possibilities

Good Day Sparkville

  
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SUCCESS68 2/25/2014 1:29PM

    Great. Yes, you had me thinking that I feel the same way right now. Picking up the pieces after stopping has gotten so hard. i don't want to keep doing that. emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 2/12/2014 6:41AM

    I haven't seen your name in the Spark hi-lites , for awhile--so thought I'd check in--I've missed you!--How is it going?--Lynda

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K1TT3N 1/21/2014 3:02PM

    Its great this isn't stopping you , your awesome ,keep pushing

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WALKMYWAYTOFIT 1/13/2014 1:58PM

    WE are with ya Brad! You keep inspiring us all!
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KATHIC2 1/12/2014 9:04AM

  Sorry about your back, hope it coming along. You write beautifully and have such great insgiht!

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_JODI404 1/7/2014 1:35PM

    Brad,

Sorry to hear about your back!! I really can relate to what happened to you.

I actually just had something similar happen to me the day after Christmas. I was starting to deadlift, and I really should have known better!! (Learn your lessons the first time Jodi!) My fist 10 reps are very light as a warm up to get into the movement properly. I actually felt mild pain in my lower back on all 10 reps. I should have stopped right there!! Next, just one step up in weight, I started rep #1, felt a super SHARP pain in my lower back, dropped the barbell and said that's it. No more. I did some hanging back extension type stretches on the GHD machine. It was BAD. I don't even know how I drove myself home in that much pain! It was exactly as you describe for the first days and week. Awful. I was actually more worried about the pain level, what damage had I done, and would I heal. I was not really worried about not working out -- it just wasn't even an option!

I had 5 straight days of zero pain reduction. Finally, on day 6, the pain was down some. I was so relieved!! It's been 12 days now, and it is still bouncing between feeling a bit better and feeling really bad! I've made and cancelled two Dr. appts -- not sure I want to go down that path. The better days make me feel like this really does just need time, PATIENCE!, heat, stretching, and rest.

I hope that you are healing up and doing well! I will not resume any strength training until I am completely pain free. I learned that when I am in pain in one area (core: abs or back) that when I try to execute a lift, I overcompensate for that pain in one area and that causes bad form. Bad form will = injury.

I am with you on taking this lesson forward with me always. I do believe we will have a great year in 2014! I'm ready.... as soon as my back is as well!

Take care!!!

Happy New Year! It will be FULL of new possibilities!

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WALLPER26 1/6/2014 9:42AM

    I'm with you! Take care and keep up the good work. Thanks for the inspiration!

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TRAVELGRRL 1/2/2014 7:25AM

    Thanks for the reminder that we are NEVER really done with this journey...it truly is fragile, so we must be ever-vigilant. Good job for you!

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ADF1981 1/1/2014 8:47AM

    Sorry about your injury. I know what you mean about the journey being fragile. I also had an injury a few months ago and it was from stretching. I was like stretching, are you serious?! But, glad that you are doing better and getting back on track. Good luck to you in 2014!

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DOLPHINKARIN 12/27/2013 8:01PM

    Thank you for your wise words. I will be following your lead and telling "Old Karin" to stop talking in my ear. I am not ready to give up or let myself get down in the dumps due to things that are out of my control.

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SHERRYBETH84 12/25/2013 2:56PM

    I am with you! You got me thinking... If I gave up after an injury, I would never be walking, ( broken foot walking the dog), riding a bike, playing volleyball ( broken finger), cooking(sliced the tip of my thumb at Thanksgiving)... Thanks for dealing with the mental aspects of our journey and the problems we create with our old habits of thinking. So, Old Sherry, don't come around here no more, cuz I'm on the road to health and conquering the weightloss mountain with Brad !

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ZUMBAOBSESSED 12/23/2013 8:04PM

    So glad your feeling better lil' monkey. I know what your going through. I have had back issues since I was 18. At least your back went out doing something that was somewhat athletic. A squat. My back has gone out because of the lamest reasons. It didn't go out while I was ski jumping. Nor did it go out while doing a reverse swan dive in the pool. No, it happened while putting dishes in the dishwasher, it happened while toweling off after a shower. And my favorite, it happened once just standing up. Does this make you feel better? I'm pretty sure I've done these things more than a thousand times too! Be proud that you did it in a manly way. Working on your glutes and quads! I actually sneezed and threw my back out once!

What I hate the most about a back injury is that it immobilizes you completely. If you hurt your arm, you can use your legs. Or vice versa. So frustrating. Take it easy and don't over do it. Since it's the holiday season, it's the perfect time. Let those kiddies of yours wait on you.

I'm ready, and I'm with ya. At least I will be after January 1st. Deal? I do my best work between January and May. Can't wait to get started. Until then, if your looking for me, I will be over in the corner nibbling on a xmas cookie.
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Merry, Merry Christmas, Brad.
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Your friend,
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GEORGE815 12/22/2013 3:10PM

    Glad you are back!

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CLEARNIGHTSKY 12/20/2013 10:30PM

    I'm with you, too. YOU ROCK (as does Tom Petty.)

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SIMONEKP 12/20/2013 3:00PM

    I'm with ya!

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MARCYNA 12/20/2013 4:20AM

    I've suffered from backache, too, sometimes. Squats can be dangerous , many trainers allow people to bend which can be quite dangerous, back emoticon should be kept very straight.
Anyway I've read errors pile in our back and sometimes pain is just a consequence of many different small hurts!

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JCERNEK 12/19/2013 9:02PM

    brad, you are an inspiration! i just came back to sp after an illness, and we need to keep pushing forward. thanks for the reminder!
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MRSRIGS1 12/19/2013 12:05PM

    I'm happy to hear you are feeling better. NEVER throw in the towel (I know you won't). It sucks when an injury slows us down. But, we must keep going (moving)! You have the right attitude!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 12/19/2013 9:08AM

    You know how I feel about you... you're a whiney little diva! Er, I mean SUPER STAH!!! LOL! I can't imagine how hard it was for you to NOT work out. You're a machine when it comes to sticking with the plan, and being down like that, I'm sure, was nearly impossible. You're so awesome, such an inspiration, and a truly wonderful friend. I'm so proud of you for not getting derailed with food during all of this, and I'm so glad you're back in the game! I need someone to play with =)

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JENNYDJENNY 12/18/2013 11:12PM

    Hope u get better brad.... I know it might be super difficult but all our prayers are wirth u and u have a super strong mindset that shall bring you back in the game sooner than you think.... Untill that time , take this time on the bench to read up on your injury and see how you can work around it ....

ALL THE BEST !!!!!


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SUSIEMT 12/18/2013 9:30PM

    Brad I am so sorry about your back but glad to see you are on your way back!! I hurt my knee and fortunately for me I also caught a virus at the same time. I say fortunate because that is my reason I am staying out of the gym. I am suppose to not do a lot of working out right now anyway so I have to use the double excuse or I would be at the gym. Some of us are so hard headed. Goodluck to you!

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WEDDWT 12/18/2013 7:29PM

    I love that old (1987) song by Sting "Fragile". Shall I sing it for you? We are indeed fragile, but to the degree we are fragile, we are also incredibly strong. Here's to enduring strength in 2014!
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MOTIVATIONFOUND 12/18/2013 6:43PM

    Yay! I'm so glad you're able to work out again! I'm even happier that you're feeling better - that is great news!

I'm definitely with you for making 2014 the best year yet. I WILL reach my goal weight in 2014 and that alone will go a long way toward making it a great year!

Thank you for being such an inspiration to us all!! :)

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GREGGWEISBROD 12/18/2013 2:46PM

    Dude, I'm so with you. 2013 was a year of many victories, but there's only more to come in 2014. New challenges, new obstacles, new set-backs and new opportunities to learn and reclaim momentum. I look forward to taking every step alongside you. :-D I laughed out loud when you emphasized your injury being the result of a squat - something you've done 1000 times or more - because it's so strange how our bodies can handle these stresses when we're not as strong and more out of shape, only to be slammed by them as we improve and become lighter. The body is a strange and fascinating piece of machinery, that's for sure. I love that all of your experiences have led you to focus your train of thought during this time to be able to grow and reflect, and just learn more about who you are now and your emotional strengths when it comes to dealing with what life throws your way. You continue to inspire me, Brad. So happy you're able to workout again, though I'm sure you're even happier. :-D

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KATHY47802 12/18/2013 2:41PM

    emoticon Brad, I totally understand the pain and dealing with the mental side of this injury. I hurt my ankle and knee this past summer while mushroom hunting (slid down a wet stick on the side of a hill), the mental part was very hard for me because I had to spend the summer not being able to power walk, do jumping jacks, pushups, planks, nothing. It took many, many months - I was thankfully able to continue working my upper body at home but I'm not sure what you can do other than keep a close eye on your diet. We all on Sparkpeople know how strong you are - not only in body but in spirit so you will pull through this. It is scary to realize how fragile our bodies are. Years ago, I was in a car accident, they hit me from behind - I ended up with whiplash. The sound I heard as my head snapped forward and my chin hit my chest is something I'll never get out of my head or ears. It scared me to see how fragile we are. I was wearing a seatbelt and ended up with a bruise from that - it took months for the whiplash to heal. While you are healing - Research - share more of your journey with us and share your injury on what you are doing to help it heal, what we should not do, etc. I kept walking on my foot after I injured it causing me to take longer to recover, when I look back - I would have stopped immediately and allowed it to heal.

Make the new people happy who will be joining in the New Year with their new year's resolution by posting to their page !
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STAY39 12/18/2013 12:29AM

    I am so sorry this happened to you. I can totally relate. On Xmas eve 2007 I was lifting the stroller out of the back of my truck and down to the ground I went. I had reached over with my right arm and pulled the stroller up and whatever movement I did caused my back muscle(s) on the right side to spasm up. I had to crawl in the house and spent the next few days in pain. Well that group of muscles has gone into spasm mode on occasion since. The last time (last summer) after doing some Zumba moves it went out on me. The pain was so bad I can't even describe it but I will never forget it. I couldn't stand up straight for 5 days.

You are right- Worse than the pain though is the affect it has on you mentally. I felt so vulnerable, so not myself. How can I take care of 3 boys like this, be a wife, clean the house, go to work, etc... This episode truly traumatized me and I live in fear of it happening again. What helps me is I now go to a massage therapist every 4-5 weeks and only do exercises that keep my back muscles aligned. Mostly Running and spin. No more Zumba, no twisting, etc.. I also be sure to stretch 3-4 days a week. I am doing the best I can to try to prevent any further spasms.

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JAKENELL 12/17/2013 11:01PM

    Thanks for sharing this with us. It really struck home with me as I am now working through intense muscle pain in both legs. Sometimes I can walk, other times I'm sitting in a chair BUT I do continue doing chair exercises (thank goodness for the Chair Exercise team here on Spark!). I know this is something I will always live with - that's the key - I will LIVE!
Sheila

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JUNEAU2010 12/17/2013 10:37PM

    I hope you continue to heal! Cold weather probably does not help...

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NICKJAROSH 12/17/2013 9:09PM

    Rest up buddy!

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IAMBIZI 12/17/2013 8:54PM

    Oh I am sorry you injured yourself. glad that you are mending!
day at a time that is all we really have.
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JAMER123 12/17/2013 8:41PM

    Brad, your accomplishments are something you can look at on days when you can't do anything. You have done wonders for your body and it sounds like the mind is beginning to understand the process as well. I am one that has much muscle and bone pain 24/7 and I know what you are dealing with to a point. One can only do as much as your body wants to work with. When the pain is there, arm exercises work. With arm pain, the seated leg lifts work, etc. Work around it and the mind keep you in the flow of exercise. You are in a great frame of mind, Brad and keep it going!! Glad to have you back posting!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MOBYCARP 12/17/2013 8:23PM

    Injuries are tough. Sometimes they're tougher mentally than physically. It's not so much changing what you do when injured to manage both the weight and the recovery, as admitting that you can't manage the weight exactly the same way you did before injury.

You have a good attitude, which makes controlling the weight possible. It will still be hard, but you can succeed.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/17/2013 8:01PM

  Brad, you have been through a lot and ACCOMPLISHED a lot. That last part is what's so important. You never gave up and aren't giving up now! You have learned so many lessons along th way, and the best part is . . . you're sharing them with all of us! I applaud you for that. I hope your recuperation is speedy.



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TINAJANE76 12/17/2013 5:12PM

    Like NELLJONES, I once threw out my back trying to pull one of my cats from out behind some furniture. Sometimes it doesn't take much--just a twist in a slightly different way than what you're used to.

What you've described here can be one of the biggest roadblocks for people in this journey, especially people like you who've had such astounding success that's centered around a lot of exercise. Having been where you are before, the best advice I can give you is to work as quickly as you can to realign your eating and exercise routine (if that's even on the table for you at all right now). You've probably been able to eat a good deal more due to your high level of activity and are finding that either 1) your weight loss has stalled or 2) you're actually gaining weight. Exercise also gives you a huge endorphin rush that can squash your cravings for unhealthy food, so try to find something else that will replace that or you might find yourself reaching for foods that haven't passed your lips in quite some time.

Think of this as a valuable training period for future tough spots. The lessons you learn as you push through this time will serve you well as you hit other roadblocks such as other injuries or illnesses, stress and periods of lower motivation. Just being able to push through and not give up is often enough to ensure that you don't get totally derailed if you're willing to be patient with yourself and hang on as best you can. Once you heal up, your stress calms down or your motivation begins to pick up again, you'll be back to your old self and routines as if practically nothing ever happened.

Good luck seeing this through and navigating this little bump in the road and let me know if you ever need anything.

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JANISMKW 12/17/2013 4:27PM

    emoticon Don't forget to warm up, cool down then stretch while your muscles are warm. "Getting older isn't for sissies!" My hubby was having back pain and figured out that he needs to stretch and also strengthen his core.

Thanks for your blog. You are inspiring.
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TRINIITY1 12/17/2013 4:24PM

    Even non-exercise related injuries show how fragile we are. I am with you!!

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emoticon I'M WITH YOU!!! We're ending strong and starting even stronger!!! Oh yes!!! I'm sorry that you were derailed for a moment, but you accomplished something MAJOR throughout this humbling learning experience. You NEVER gave up, you NEVER quit! You kept right on going with your healthy eating, even though you were unable at that time to exercise. You nursed your back into a condition where you could start taking baby steps, again, for working out. Brad, you stared down the face of the devil and you WON!!! You're an inspiration to me!!! I'm so sorry that this happened to you, but you've learned and have grown from this experience. It was turned around into a blessing for you!!! What Satan meant to harm you, God turned it around for his glory and your blessing!!!

Be blessed, my dear friend,

- Nancy Jean -
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MARILYNROBERT 12/17/2013 1:57PM

    I'M WITH YOU! emoticon I'm actually working on my "bounce back" skills since my bounce had become so flat it would just go splat.

I'm so sorry for your injury and I see you've been through a lot of injuries in the past. I'm glad you are much better and can work out again. emoticon

As much as I'd like to be a runner again, after my knee and foot surgeries, I've decided I'm going to be happy to do 1-2 minutes of running alternated with walking, when on my treadmill. That will the extent of my running. My injuries and surgeries these past two years showed me that it's much more important for my mental, emotional, and physical health to be able to walk, bike, and lift weights than to be able to run a few miles again.

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EJB2801 12/17/2013 1:50PM

    I really appreciate your reminder that our journey to good health - and in maintaining good health - is fragile. While it's absolutely justified to celebrate the conquering of fitness goals, it's also important to recall that victories are a gift as well as the fruits of our hard work. We seldom know what another person has battled to get as far as they have. So many life stories her on Sparkpeople challenge me to persevere because I see how members have overcome various health conditions and setbacks. I hope you see continued recovery. I'm going to remember your determination to enter 2014 energized and ready for the best year yet.
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JACKIE542 12/17/2013 1:28PM

    Injuries are such a setback, not easy working through all the pain. Glad you got the proper mindset back. I am working on mine, I have frozen shoulder and I have to work through the pain everyday, and I am moving forward, WE CAN DO THIS!! emoticon emoticon

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CAROL_31649731 12/17/2013 1:17PM

    Brad, you are so right! It is amazing how much your physical and mental well being collide . . . and how fragile this journey can be. You have navigated it so very well, though. Continue to improve physically, my friend. Mentally, you're already on the right path to successfully avoid those minefields! emoticon emoticon

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IMLOCOLINDA 12/17/2013 12:39PM

    Bravo, Brad!! It's so amazing when we can stop and take an honest look at what is happening and grow...move forward instead of retreating back to what is comfortable where our old self lives. You have written a blog that speaks to so many of us. And I agree with the injured spirit being worse than the back injury.

To use a bad joke...going from squats to doing diddly squat...and what a great accomplishment that you didn't let it derail you. Proud to be on this journey with you!!

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MATTEROFHEART 12/17/2013 12:12PM

    Wow! I am so proud of you for not letting your injury derail your diet! That is a HUGE accomplishment! Unlike you, I did let my (emotional) setback affect my diet and am now carrying an extra 10 pounds that I have to lose again! Hopefully, I will be stronger (like you) when another unexpected setback comes my way! Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Brad! You are an inspiration!

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HOPEFULHIPPO 12/17/2013 11:53AM

    somehow, it's not as embarrassing as hurting your butt while doing a squat though. I've done that at the beginning...so hard to explain without everyone laughing "I hurt my butt doing squats and...." yeah that's as far as I've ever made it.


Hope your back is feeling better by the day and we shall continue on the fragile journey :o)

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CHUBRUB3 12/17/2013 11:52AM

    hope you feel better soon Brad.
I'm also suffering an injury and totally understand where you're coming from where you say it injures your spirit.
We just have to determine that we will be successful and carry-on and I know we will as you are.
Keep up the great work!
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Mistakes Happen

Thursday, November 14, 2013



Noted author, minister, and counselor Hugh Prather once said, "I sometimes react to making a mistake as if I have betrayed myself. My fear of making a mistake seems to be based on the hidden assumption that I am potentially perfect and that if I can just be very careful I will not fall from heaven. But a 'mistake' is a declaration of the way I am, a jolt to the way I intend, a reminder I am not dealing with the facts. When I have listened to my mistakes I have grown."

It is easy to talk about my hopes, dreams, and aspirations. That is the stuff that we like to talk about. That is the stuff that we like to read about. Honestly, that is the fun stuff to write about! Don't get me wrong, those are things that we need to to see and hear about if we want to be successful. Knowing the positives and knowing that we can make it happen is very important to our success. But to be successful, we also have to realize and confront that we are not perfect and we will make mistakes.

Mistakes happen.

We are human and we will make mistakes. We always start off with the intention to be perfect and we think we won't make mistakes, but from time to time, we will. We might eat some pizza we hadn't intended. We might skip the gym because we are tired. Mistakes will happen.

How many times have you had a bad day, week, or month and said that today is the day? How many times have you said this time will be different? How many times when you "start over" and have a perfect day, that you think you can do every day perfect, just like that?

I know if you are anything like me, the answer to all of those questions is many times. That is a great attitude as long as we can also accept that we will make mistakes. Life happens and there will be days that are not perfect. Accept that you may stumble from time to time but also know that you won't let that keep you down.

Mistakes are acceptable.

When mistakes happen, do not run away from them. Winner's do not run away from their mistakes. People who are successful, do not run away from their mistakes. Mistakes build character. Mistakes can often offer you the biggest lessons you will learn on your journey.



It can be hard to do, but don't get stuck thinking how you coulda, woulda, or shoulda done things differently! It can feel like one little mistake in your diet or exercise, will undo weeks, months, or even years of hard work. Do your best not to minimize the mistakes. Don't let your mistakes define you or your journey! Let how you rebound and conquer those mistakes define you and your journey!

Remember that mistakes aren't a total failure if you can learn something from it.

So learn from your mistakes. Realize where and how the mistake happened, and do your best not to repeat it. We do ourselves a disservice if we do not continue to learn during our journey. We should never stop learning along this process because the process if forever changing and evolving. You are forever changing and evolving, so your journey should change and evolve right with you.



Keep an open mind. Don't let the fear of making mistakes hold you back. Don't allow one mistake to start you on that downward spiral! Don't keep a tighter grip on the negative experiences more so than your positive ones!

Look at mistakes as an opportunity for growth. Use your mistakes to make yourself even better today than you were yesterday! If we learn from our mistakes, we will conquer them!

Embrace Your Possibilities

Good Day Sparkville

  
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ERLYWA 12/17/2013 8:39PM

    This blog really spoke to me...I so often fail to start anything I want b/c I'm so terrified of failing. This gives me a new perspective...thanks for sharing! :)

Erika


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IMLOCOLINDA 12/17/2013 12:36PM

    Another great, inspiring blog, Brad. Thank you so much for taking the time to write it. I needed to read it today!!

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WHITEANGEL4 12/16/2013 10:16PM

    Without mistakes, we would not know how to correct our errors and move forward positively

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GENRE009 12/15/2013 4:30PM

    Thanks, great. I congratulate you for your perseverance to reach you goals.eva

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MCJULIEO 12/13/2013 3:27PM

    Onward, Upward, Excelsior!

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DIANISHA3 12/10/2013 12:21PM

    Thanks I needed this

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WINDSWEPTACRES 12/9/2013 12:17PM

    There ought to be a statute of limitations on mistakes, a point beyond which they cannot be mentioned again. In our family, mistakes become legends and take on a life of their own, so that incidents barely remembered as occurrences have become often-repeated stories of 'the time that'...' or 'remember when you...' There was never an allowance for a learning curve; you were either good at something from the start or you weren't. Mistakes became something to dread, and new experiences were something to avoid if you weren't pretty sure you could master the task first time out.

I still struggle with the idea of mistakes as learning opportunities. My husband, on the other hand, says that after every military exercise, they would have a Lessons Learned debriefing, going over what had worked well and what needed to be tweaked next time to make it run smoother. That certainly seems like a better idea.

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BELLACUDDLES 12/6/2013 7:12AM

    This is all so true. It's the getting up and starting all over again and not staying down! Positive thinking and acting will get us where we want to be!

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MARILYNROBERT 12/5/2013 8:04PM

    Thank you Brad. I'm my own worst enemy for beating myself up for not being perfect. I'm working on this though because I now see that I use my mistakes as an excuse to binge rather than using my mistakes as a way to learn. I am REALLY working on this and I think I'm making some progress. emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 12/5/2013 6:32AM

    lotza mistakes in my life--but-----one does learn from them--- great blog!--Lynda

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MRSRIGS1 12/4/2013 2:53PM

    Bravo, bravo, bravo [clap, clap, clap, clap]! GREAT blog! emoticon

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POETICJUSTUS 12/2/2013 4:27AM

    Thanx Brad, this is so helpful to me. Blessings
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FORBANDE 11/27/2013 8:56PM

    I wonder where we even get the notion that we are perfect? We are all well aware that those that are around us are not perfect but we seem to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Simply crazy, isn't it?

What a wonderful blog! Like you said, we love to talk about our victories and dreams. There's nothing wrong with it but when you are slipping and sliding, it can make you feel like such a failure when everyone around you seems victorious and on track all the time.

Thanks for sharing and giving me the gentle nudge I need to keep on going. :)

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STEFIGURL 11/27/2013 8:25PM

    this was fabulous!!!
just like you Brad!
thank you Brother :-)

love you so,
stephi

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GREGGWEISBROD 11/21/2013 1:43PM

    This is what makes tracking what you eat so significant to me as well, because you then see how having that slice of pizza actually affects your day of eating. Sometimes we beat ourselves up needlessly over something so small and then just 'commit' to the act of self-destruction thinking we've already done ourselves in. What might have been just a simple indulgence suddenly takes on this sinister form in our minds, and we end up figuring we've already gone that far, might as well eat the whole pizza. This was my life for so long, trying to be smart about what I would eat, and then just giving up after the first bite, the first bump in the road. Your message here is so important, because the more we embrace our imperfections and ability to make mistakes, I believe it gives us the tools to unlock our ability to first pick ourselves back up after said mistake, and even has helped me to cut my mistakes short when I've found myself starting down a path of too much indulgence. We'll never be perfect, we just need to forgive ourselves and get on with the business of being the people we want to be.

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LEANMEAN2 11/21/2013 6:01AM

    Great reminder. Thanks for sharing.

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1CHICK 11/20/2013 8:11PM

    emoticon Wonderful much needed words of encouragement!

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JOANNHUNT 11/20/2013 5:37PM

    AWESOME WISDOM. THANK YOU FOR SHARING. TO ERR IS HUMAN. ENJOY YOUR JOURNEY.

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~INDYGIRL 11/20/2013 3:29AM

    Bravo~

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    Thank you for sharing!

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    Thanks.

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Brad I enjoyed your blog. Perfection sets you up for failure.

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LUCKEE40 11/17/2013 3:03PM

    Wow! That blog sure spoke to me! I didn't have the best week last week, but I already made the decision to learn from my downfalls last week and use them to help me have successful next week and on..

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CICELY360 11/17/2013 1:30PM

  Good blog

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FRABBIT 11/16/2013 11:50PM

  Great way of looking at things!

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KALEWINE 11/16/2013 10:44PM

    Thanks for the reminder that we are all human and mistakes are going to happen.

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    nice

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    Good stuff!!!

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GEOJEANIE 11/16/2013 7:07PM

    Thanks! I really needed this today!

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CLEARNIGHTSKY 11/16/2013 4:58PM

    What a great reminder.

Thanks, Brad.

Maggie

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  Great!

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    I always come across your great blog posts right when I need them!
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KKLENNERT809 11/16/2013 12:36PM

    I couldn't agree with you more. Nothing left to say--you have captured it all!!!

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