Wednesday, September 17, 2014
Like several sparkers lately, I have to deal with my mother’s possessions. Unlike some others, this is a slow process for me.
Partly it’s because my mother saved everything and there isn’t any particular organization to the stuff she saved. Partly it’s because I could only deal with so much at a time.
Still, it’s been 3 ½ years since her death so it’s time I finished this up.
People deal with loss in different ways. In my case there was no reason to rush. I took care of all the paperwork and legal details quickly. I’m good with things like that. It also helped that I’m an only child. It was difficult having all the responsibility, but there was no one rushing me either. I could take my time.
I tackled it in waves.
If something didn’t “tug at my heart” it was donated or discarded immediately.
If it did evoke memories, I put it aside for the next go-round.
Her closets and drawers are empty now.
A few things are saved in my cedar chest. A few things I’m actually using.
Aprons and pajamas. I’m so much bigger than my 5 foot 110 pound mother that’s all I can wear. The aprons remind me of my childhood when that was the standard dress of a “housewife.” Some of the pajamas and nightgowns are brand new. It was a tradition in our family to give nightwear, probably because even if you didn’t like it, you could always sleep in it. I now have enough for decades.
Toward the end of her life she wore flannel PJs. Since she took a blood thinner, she was always cold.
They’re too worn to give away and not useful to me. So why are they here in the last “wave?” Probably because in her final years she wore them a lot. She lived with DH & me so I remember them a LOT.
Then I remembered another tradition of my frugal family. I cut up those PJs into dust cloths. Now they are a neat pile in my laundry room and when I dust my furniture, Mom will be helping me.
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Several times a month my status reads “Brooklyn_Born is singing at a nursing home this morning.”
A Spark Friend blogged today that she was beginning to volunteer at an old folks home. So I thought I would share this story.
A few members of our church visit 3 different homes a few times during the month and hold a service of prayer and song. Afterwards we talk to the residents and over time have come to know them.
One lady told me “You have nice legs.”
This was a comment that I’ve never heard not even when I was much younger and weighed 120 lbs. My legs were always big and strong, at least compared to the rest of me.
I thanked her for the unexpected compliment and her friend continued. “Yes,” she said, “NO VERICOSE VEINS!”
So you see, it’s all in your perspective and visiting nursing homes really helps to put things in perspective.
Sunday, September 14, 2014
I’d like to direct your attention to a great blog by LindaKay228 whose experience and motivation put this common slogan into action.
“Why I Do What I Do”
I believe it deserves a wider audience.
Saturday, September 13, 2014
I must admit that I don’t track my food anymore UNLESS there is an upward trend in my weight.
Weighing myself every day is especially important for me personally since avoiding the scale is how I gained the weight in the first place. Now I want to stay exactly where I am right now. So if there is an upward trend, I want to catch it early.
(Note: I understand “fluctuation” which means up AND down. If there’s only UP, then I’ve got to figure out why and the sooner the better)
After tracking carefully to get rid of a few vacation pounds in June, my weight has been very stable for the last few months so I stopped tracking my food. Yet yesterday morning I began tracking again and it had nothing to do with my weight. It’s fine.
I read a Spark article “5 Diet Mistakes That Derail Your Workouts”
I don’t consider my Spark experience to be “dieting” (the verb). I’m just adopting a healthy lifestyle. I like “diet” as a noun as in eating a healthy diet. But I was attracted by “derail your workouts.”
I LIKE exercise, always did, but I want to do it efficiently. So I clicked on the link.
There was interesting information about balance of nutrients, a lot I actually knew but had stashed somewhere in the back of my mind (and it's cluttered back there)
The food tracker isn’t just about calories, although we tend to focus on that part. The food tracker gives us valuable information about the nutrients we’re consuming. By not tracking I’ve been missing that.
Of course, it’s not perfect. We have a suggested RANGE for each nutrient, just as I have a goal RANGE for my weight. Still, taken all together, it gives me a snapshot of my calorie/nutrient intake.
When I’m out running, I want to know where I am at any time, so I know which direction or path to take next. I can apply that idea to the food tracker too.
Tuesday, September 09, 2014
What most people don’t know about me is that I studied Latin for 5 years. I’ve got big medals to prove it. I would have been a Classics major in college if I thought I could make a living at it, but I’m very practical too.
As a math/computer science teacher, “Age Quod Agis” was posted on the front wall of my classroom, along with “80% of Life is Showing Up.”
The phrase means “Do what you are doing” in the sense that you should concentrate and give full attention to the task at hand.
I would often find my students doing homework in my class for whatever course they had the next period. I learned that they would similarly rush to complete math homework while sitting in some other class.
The obvious result is that they were never giving complete (or any) attention to the class they were in at the time, sadly with predictable outcomes.
Multitasking has become normal in our lives and research is conflicted as to the effect of this. Definitely, one should give full attention to driving and not text at the same time, but other areas seem to be fair game. In fact our pressure filled lives and 24/7 connectivity often seems to require it.
I woke up feeling rather blah this morning. I had a lot on my mind and I wasn’t doing a good job tackling any of it.
Good old Spark People email.
Sometimes I think they read my mind.
One of the links was: “One Minute to a Healthier You”
I took note of the good advice and finally got down to the last suggestion.
#20 Be Absolutely Present
“When we are wrapped up with work, to-do lists, and just getting by, sometimes we can forget to focus on what we are doing in the here and now. Try spending a minute just being. Focus on sounds, smells and whatever else is going on around you; instead of thinking ahead to what you'll do next think about what you're doing right now. You’ll be amazed at how peaceful you feel. Just be!”
So Good Morning Spark Friends.
I’m feeling refreshed and ready to concentrate on task #1.
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