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I cut up my mother’s pajamas this morning

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Like several sparkers lately, I have to deal with my mother’s possessions. Unlike some others, this is a slow process for me.

Partly it’s because my mother saved everything and there isn’t any particular organization to the stuff she saved. Partly it’s because I could only deal with so much at a time.

Still, it’s been 3 ½ years since her death so it’s time I finished this up.

People deal with loss in different ways. In my case there was no reason to rush. I took care of all the paperwork and legal details quickly. I’m good with things like that. It also helped that I’m an only child. It was difficult having all the responsibility, but there was no one rushing me either. I could take my time.

I tackled it in waves.

If something didn’t “tug at my heart” it was donated or discarded immediately.
If it did evoke memories, I put it aside for the next go-round.

Her closets and drawers are empty now.

A few things are saved in my cedar chest. A few things I’m actually using.

Aprons and pajamas. I’m so much bigger than my 5 foot 110 pound mother that’s all I can wear. The aprons remind me of my childhood when that was the standard dress of a “housewife.” Some of the pajamas and nightgowns are brand new. It was a tradition in our family to give nightwear, probably because even if you didn’t like it, you could always sleep in it. I now have enough for decades.

Toward the end of her life she wore flannel PJs. Since she took a blood thinner, she was always cold.

They’re too worn to give away and not useful to me. So why are they here in the last “wave?” Probably because in her final years she wore them a lot. She lived with DH & me so I remember them a LOT.

Then I remembered another tradition of my frugal family. I cut up those PJs into dust cloths. Now they are a neat pile in my laundry room and when I dust my furniture, Mom will be helping me.

  
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PHEBESS 9/18/2014 10:14PM

    If you sew, you can also take some of those cut up items and make quilts - so your mom can keep you warm all winter.

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BOOKAPHILE 9/18/2014 6:23PM

    How lovely that you will be reminded of her when doing everyday things. Also good that you didn't have to rush through the process.

Dad died a month ago, and my sister and I are making our way through his things slowly but steadily. I'm glad to be reminded that there's light at the end of the tunnel.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/18/2014 1:40PM

    This is so heartwarming. My mother too is VERY frugal and I know she cuts up old, soft clothing for rags. This is really such a lovely use of those pajamas, and gives you a while longer to feel your mum's presence. Hugs!

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 9/17/2014 8:59PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know that 6 years after my mother's death, I still continue to think of her all the time. It is so poignant and same things are more heart-rending than others, I know. My mother did not own much "clutter" because she moved through the world from address to address, keeping her life slim and clean and pared down.
I rely on memories.

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MARYJEANSL 9/17/2014 8:45PM

  The first picture that came to my mind was someone taking a sword and slashing those pajamas to bits. (Yes, I have been reading some swashbuckling stories lately.) Then I decided I just had to find out why you would cut them up instead of just tossing them in the trash. Very thrifty move - and I suspect your mother would have approved.

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SANDICANE 9/17/2014 8:04PM

    What a lovely story. Oh yes, it takes time to sort through those kinds of things...I still have 5 boxes untouched.

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DOVESEYES 9/17/2014 7:45PM

    Love the thoughts ...

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/17/2014 6:44PM

    I love that thought... of your mom helping you dust! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 9/17/2014 6:04PM

    So touching, I just love this!! I'm sure your mother is delighted to be helping you!!

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LINDAKAY228 9/17/2014 2:53PM

    My mother passes away 5 years ago and it took me a long time to get rid of some of her stuff. She has gone into an assisted living for about 6 months after 2 months in nursing home after she broke her femur. Before that she has her own apartment but after she broke her femur she was in a wheelchair and she also had severe osteoporosis as well as some other problems. So when I cleaned her apartment when she broke her leg a lot of her stuff went into my storeroom. After she passed away I took care of the stuff at the assisted living right away to get the room cleaned out but the stuff in the storeroom went or got used little by little. I have 2 brothers but one we had no idea where he was, and still don't. My other brother lives in CA and told me just to take care of everything and didn't argue because he knew what I was going through taking care of her even there and also before she left her apartment. I spent hours with her. So he was very supportive and I didn't have any problems with family either. Glad you finally got it done.

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KRISZTA11 9/17/2014 2:16PM

    A nice way to remember your mother - I can totally understand that.
My grandma died 6 years ago, and we have several towels and kitchen clothes from here, and I like to look at them a lot.
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WENDY88855 9/17/2014 1:06PM

    There's a lovely children's story called Geraldine's Blanket. A story about a little girl who loved her blanket but as she got older she couldn't carry around the blanket and her mother found new way of trimming the blanket til when she went off the school the piece she had was now a napkin at snack. Your story of your mother's pajamas brought this story to mind. And from one Brooklyner to another, I hope I will be able to turn to you for advice when I get to maintenance!

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GABY1948 9/17/2014 12:13PM

    SO much of what you say here is exactly what I went through in 06! Same situation. I loved the aprons too and the time of that era!

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SUBMOM2 9/17/2014 11:27AM

    That's a great idea. Good for you for tackling another wave!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 9/17/2014 11:09AM

    Way to go.
I just gave my DD her grandfather's ties (he's been gone 19 years!) He was quite the dandy and must have had over 300 ties. I kept them, thinking I'd make a quilt out of them someday, but when she decided she wanted to wear ties (as well as my mother's scarves), I quickly unloaded the bunch!

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DR1939 9/17/2014 10:29AM

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POINDEXTRA 9/17/2014 10:17AM

    Oh, that's sweet!

My mom also saved everything. After she died, I found a bucket of elastic waistbands that she had saved when my Dad's worn out briefs were thrown out.! It turned out that they worked great for tying up bundles branches from cleaning out the yard:).

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“You have nice legs” said the nursing home resident.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Several times a month my status reads “Brooklyn_Born is singing at a nursing home this morning.”

A Spark Friend blogged today that she was beginning to volunteer at an old folks home. So I thought I would share this story.

A few members of our church visit 3 different homes a few times during the month and hold a service of prayer and song. Afterwards we talk to the residents and over time have come to know them.

One lady told me “You have nice legs.”
This was a comment that I’ve never heard not even when I was much younger and weighed 120 lbs. My legs were always big and strong, at least compared to the rest of me.

I thanked her for the unexpected compliment and her friend continued. “Yes,” she said, “NO VERICOSE VEINS!”

So you see, it’s all in your perspective and visiting nursing homes really helps to put things in perspective.

  
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CRAMPERELLA 9/18/2014 12:56PM

    Thanks for the chuckle!

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MARYJEANSL 9/17/2014 12:24AM

  That so made me laugh! As you say, it's all in your perspective.

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PHEBESS 9/16/2014 9:15PM

    Oh that is too funny!!!!!! I love it!!!

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WATERMELLEN 9/16/2014 8:40PM

    Just loved this!! And: you have beautiful legs, I'm sure of it -- well exercised and attached to a beautiful person, inside and out!!

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GABY1948 9/16/2014 3:53PM

    What a wonderful story indeed...it's always the LITTLE/BIG things that mean the most...and indeed, if you have NO varicose veins (I DO) then you DO have nice legs! emoticon and you ROCK for visiting the old folks!

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DR1939 9/16/2014 2:38PM

    I had a masseuse exclaim "you have strong legs!" Perhaps my best compliment ever. BTW, I was 70 at the time.

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PMRUNNER 9/16/2014 11:26AM

    Too funny! Sometimes when we look at ourselves we overlook the positive and only see the negative. It is nice when someone recognizes the positive and chooses to share.

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SUBMOM2 9/16/2014 10:59AM

    I love this! Yes, it's all about perspective....



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LINDAKAY228 9/16/2014 10:31AM

    When I was a service coordinator I visited elderly and disabled in their homes and also had a number of clients in 2 nursing homes. They can certainly give us a different perspective! Awesome that you are doing that! To many have nobody who really cares about them. Some have good family support but not all.

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WILSONWR 9/16/2014 9:39AM

    I bet the original person was talking about your toned legs, but you're right - everything is a matter of perspective. It's great that you are doing that type of work in the nursing homes.

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LEWILL1982 9/16/2014 8:32AM

    Haha, that's awesome! I wouldn't get that compliment -lots of varicose veins on my legs!

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DENNIS2014 9/16/2014 8:19AM

    Your perspective is your reality.

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KELLIEBEAN 9/16/2014 8:16AM

    How sweet!

I think that is great that you sing at nursing homes. You are inspirational in many ways!



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ONEKIDSMOM 9/16/2014 7:47AM

    emoticon So, so true. Perspective is everything!

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KANOE10 9/16/2014 7:24AM

    I am sure you do have lovely toned legs from all of your running! However, age does give us different perspectives. I think it is great that you are singing in the nursing homes and meeting the people there. I am sure you are bringing joy to their lives!

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Focus on what you CAN do, not what you CAN’T – great blog from a Sparker living this advice

Sunday, September 14, 2014

I’d like to direct your attention to a great blog by LindaKay228 whose experience and motivation put this common slogan into action.

“Why I Do What I Do”
www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5779053


I believe it deserves a wider audience.

  
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SLENDERELLA61 9/15/2014 10:27AM

    Thanks for pointing out that impactful blog. Very motivational. May I always do all I can do. That's the way to live. -Marsha

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FITMAMA_ 9/15/2014 9:13AM

    Great blog!

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SUNSET09 9/15/2014 8:47AM

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POINDEXTRA 9/14/2014 10:24PM

    Thanks! That was very inspiring!

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ALICIA363 9/14/2014 9:51PM

    SO worth it. Thanks for passing the word.

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WALLAHALLA 9/14/2014 9:22PM

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ADRIENALINE 9/14/2014 8:08PM

    Thanks. Great blog.

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GABY1948 9/14/2014 5:23PM

    Thanks, I am going there too!!!!

Have a great week!

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/14/2014 4:45PM

    I loved her blog and tossed my "like" on it... thanks for spreading the news about it around!

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GINIEMIE 9/14/2014 4:42PM

    Oh wow! Thank you for sharing LindaKay's blog, she was on one of the teams I was on back in the beginning. I am ashamed to say that in my crazy life I failed to notice she wasn't on my radar anymore.
She is an inspiration to me. I'm going to walk now.
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MARYJEANSL 9/14/2014 2:49PM

  I agree with you - it's an excellent blog.

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SPARKNB 9/14/2014 1:44PM

    Going to check it out. Thanks for the support! emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 9/14/2014 1:04PM

    Thanks, on my way!

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BOOKAPHILE 9/14/2014 12:46PM

    Thanks. That was worth reading!

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PHOENIX1949 9/14/2014 12:27PM

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LINDAKAY228 9/14/2014 11:06AM

    Oh wow! Thanks so much for this! I really appreciate that it meant so much to you to share it!

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BUSYGRANNY5 9/14/2014 10:20AM

    Thanks for sharing!! It was well worth the visit!!

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DDOORN 9/14/2014 9:49AM

    Thx for the head's up...on my way! :-)

Don

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WILSONWR 9/14/2014 9:42AM

    That was a great blog - very inspirational. Thanks for bringing it to our attention!

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KANOE10 9/14/2014 9:06AM

    It was an excellent motivational blog. I agree and hope it gets a wider audience. She is truly inspirational. Thanks for the info.

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Why, other than weight gain, would I go back to tracking my food?

Saturday, September 13, 2014

I must admit that I don’t track my food anymore UNLESS there is an upward trend in my weight.

Weighing myself every day is especially important for me personally since avoiding the scale is how I gained the weight in the first place. Now I want to stay exactly where I am right now. So if there is an upward trend, I want to catch it early.

(Note: I understand “fluctuation” which means up AND down. If there’s only UP, then I’ve got to figure out why and the sooner the better)

After tracking carefully to get rid of a few vacation pounds in June, my weight has been very stable for the last few months so I stopped tracking my food. Yet yesterday morning I began tracking again and it had nothing to do with my weight. It’s fine.

I read a Spark article “5 Diet Mistakes That Derail Your Workouts”
www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutriti
on_articles.asp?id=2003&page=2


I don’t consider my Spark experience to be “dieting” (the verb). I’m just adopting a healthy lifestyle. I like “diet” as a noun as in eating a healthy diet. But I was attracted by “derail your workouts.”

I LIKE exercise, always did, but I want to do it efficiently. So I clicked on the link.

There was interesting information about balance of nutrients, a lot I actually knew but had stashed somewhere in the back of my mind (and it's cluttered back there)

The food tracker isn’t just about calories, although we tend to focus on that part. The food tracker gives us valuable information about the nutrients we’re consuming. By not tracking I’ve been missing that.

Of course, it’s not perfect. We have a suggested RANGE for each nutrient, just as I have a goal RANGE for my weight. Still, taken all together, it gives me a snapshot of my calorie/nutrient intake.

When I’m out running, I want to know where I am at any time, so I know which direction or path to take next. I can apply that idea to the food tracker too.

  
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ADRIENALINE 9/15/2014 4:56PM

    I love the food tracker and I also weigh myself several times a week. The catch for some people when they weigh themselves frequently is they let the number they see get them miserable all day. If you only use it as more data like we do, it can be really helpful.

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LEWILL1982 9/15/2014 12:36PM

    I still track and I still weigh about 3 mornings per week. It helps me stay focused. Without, I tend to get carried away....I like watching my macros too, I have a habit of getting carb heavy. When the carbs go up, so does my scale!

when people ask me about losing weight, I always start with tracking - it tends to turn them off, but for me and my success -it's what works.

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WALLAHALLA 9/14/2014 9:38PM

    I track everything. I have to keep track of my fiber, due to surgery. I need to keep an eye on calcium, just cause I'm that age. I have to watch protein, cause I really couldn't care less whether I eat meat or not. Our nutrition tracker really helps me keep an eye on a lot of different checks and balances.

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SPARKNB 9/14/2014 1:52PM

    Yep I find the tracker actually more important for nutrients rather than just calories (lifelong calorie tracker in my head cuz lifelong dieter and former math teacher). But as a former veg, I always assumed I made perfectly healthy food choices. As a flexitarian, I'm finding that I am low on most micronutrients! and needing to wrap my head around the concept of more protein, and adding back meat (and as mostly low-fat eater, rarely ate nuts). Was showing the nutrient results to my mother, and she was like "and all that's free?" Sparkpeople has major value for me! emoticon

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DONNELDA22 9/14/2014 9:39AM

    Congratulations on finding what works for you. emoticon

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DDOORN 9/13/2014 10:54PM

    I find it interesting to see trends when tracking. For instance when I'm on target with either weight loss or maintenance I find my carbohydrate intake pretty consistently runs around half of what SP recommends for me.

Don

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EGRAMMY 9/13/2014 10:42PM

    Good article. They should honor it on SP.

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DOVESEYES 9/13/2014 8:24PM

    Love the trackers on SP

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WATERMELLEN 9/13/2014 6:40PM

    I do track -- and not just for calories, a whole range of nutrients. Otherwise with my quasi-vegetarian approach I tend to be light on protein if I don't watch for that, and then there are problems with satiety.

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PHOENIX1949 9/13/2014 4:54PM

    Another angle to nutrients is to use the tracker to check those received through supplements (which usually are not absorbed/utilized as well as those from food).

At the outset on SP, I entered every one of my daily supplements into the tracker -- eye vitamins from eye doc, daily multi-vitamin recommended by primary care doc, supplements recommended by naturapathic doc, few recommended by chiropractor, some picked up after reading articles, listening to friends, . . . you get the idea that I was taking a LOT of supplements (some because I have many food allergies and sensitivities I was trying to make up for).

Then, I printed out each of these results in a size easy to read & compare, running the grand total for each nutrient. Discussed these with a Registered Nutritionist and we kicked around ways to discontinue most of these and get my nutrients through food working around my allergies. I was way overboard on some amounts. What an eye opener.

Emotional eating and physical ability issues have unfortunately kept my weight ticker 'Tomas Tortuga' aka Tommy Turtle, going back and forth on the same 25#'s. Perhaps it is time to trade him in on something that moves faster, ha-ha.


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DR1939 9/13/2014 4:32PM

    Even when I am at my goal weight I track my food. I have diabetes and heart problems and keeping myself aware of what goes in my mouth and how and how often my body moves keeps these disorders under better control. I have tracked for over 15 years. It's just part of my routine.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/13/2014 3:37PM

    Great article! I do look at the nutrient content of my daily diet, but just as information rather than as something to strive for. I generally eat a healthy diet although if I'm short on anything? It's CALORIES, which is probably just as unhealthy as shorting myself on protein or carbs or healthy fat...

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MARYJEANSL 9/13/2014 2:59PM

  I had never thought of tracking specifically for nutrients, but it's a great idea.

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 9/13/2014 12:25PM

    I definitely track for nutrient content, even when I'm in my goal range. By trial and error I've discovered that I do best with 1/3 fats, 1/3 protein, and 1/3 carbs (minimizing starches and sugars)

Here's a breakdown of what makes me feel most energetic and strong:

http://www.fatsecret
.com/diets/member-diet/Default.
aspx?dietid=4355344

50g of fat minimum
40g of fiber minimum
150g of protein minimum
100g of sugar MAXIMUM
(this includes sugar IN my foods, like fruit)

Of course you probably have a different metabolism and different needs but I think it's been extremely valuable to be able to track and watch what happens - without the tracking I would never have been able to get this information for what my individual body likes as fuel and building materials.

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SUNSET09 9/13/2014 11:51AM

  Oh, emoticon continue to track as it keeps me on track, as well as makes me accountable! Do you as you know what's best! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 9/13/2014 11:29AM

    Excellent blog!

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WOLFRUNNERONE 9/13/2014 11:27AM

    That's the only reason why I track is to track the nutrients and the minerals .

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HOLLYM48 9/13/2014 11:13AM

    I do like that aspect at the end of the day when I click to see the full report. It really does help me. Have a great day!

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BOOKAPHILE 9/13/2014 10:45AM

    I'll have to go read that article... Thanks for calling attention to it.

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KRISZTA11 9/13/2014 9:26AM

    I feel similarly about the tracker - tracking everything in the learning phase was key to my success. Now I think of it as a lifebelt I can go to if my weight takes an upward trend.
Have a great day!
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PMRUNNER 9/13/2014 9:17AM

    Like you, I don't use the food tracker that closely unless my fluctuations start getting out of hand.

When school is in session, I tend to get in a groove (ok, a rut) of eating the same thing for breakfast and lunch and have a small rotation of dinners. With the consistent diet, I have a good idea what I am eating calorie and nutrient wise, so I don't tend to get too far out of whack.

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SWEDE_SU 9/13/2014 8:54AM

    a good reminder!

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GINIEMIE 9/13/2014 8:11AM

    When I track, I've been remiss or spotty of late, I watch my sodium intake. It is important that I keep it below the suggested amount on our food tracker. I need to watch my weight-preferably going down-but if I eat to much salty foods that's not what it does, I also need to make sure I don't end up in the high range for my blood presser -that is where too much salt puts me EVERY TIME. So I've learned over the last four years to check my food tracker for at least that along with the calories.
Thanks for the reminder.I need to get back on track-long term.
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KELLIEBEAN 9/13/2014 8:11AM

    I do not track food much anymore unless I feel myself going off the rails.
I do like to watch the nutrients more than calories. I like that the tracker helps me see my habits so I can decide where to make changes.

Excellent blog! Thanks for the link to the article!

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WILSONWR 9/13/2014 8:02AM

    I love the food tracker - it provides a lot of good information. The more we can do to improve our diet, the better we will feel!

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POINDEXTRA 9/13/2014 7:59AM

    Great post! joined Sparkpeople after several years of maintaining on Weight Watchers precisely because I wanted to see how I was doing nutritionally. To my surprise, I learned that I wasn't eating enough fat! I've added fiber, Calcium, and Vitamin D to my tracker. I especially like the pie chart which shows major nutrientbreakdown at a glance. Now, I strive for a 50/25/25 split between carbs, protein, and fat, which I get very close to most days.

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KANOE10 9/13/2014 7:27AM

    I like your humor. The range of nutrients I eat is something I need to look at. I have to smile at fluctuation being up and down..and not only up. That definitely is the time to get tracking and cracking!

Nice informative blog.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/13/2014 7:21AM

    Yes, I use the tracker for the ranges of nutrients, too. It makes a difference... I want to be sure I have enough protein to support my training.

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GABY1948 9/13/2014 7:20AM

    Sounds like a great plan to me. I actually track everything that goes into my mouth (not days I have binged which don't happen often anymore, thankfully) and will probably do it the rest of my life. I actually like it!

Have a wonderful weekend!

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BA5454 9/13/2014 7:14AM

    Hm, hm--you are so right. I tend to look only at the calories and the protein, but because of my age I need to look at a few more things, too. And like you said, SP is not perfect but it does give a good range. Off to add a few nutrients to my list.

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Age Quod Agis – not exactly Carpe Diem – but complementary advice

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

What most people don’t know about me is that I studied Latin for 5 years. I’ve got big medals to prove it. I would have been a Classics major in college if I thought I could make a living at it, but I’m very practical too.

As a math/computer science teacher, “Age Quod Agis” was posted on the front wall of my classroom, along with “80% of Life is Showing Up.”

The phrase means “Do what you are doing” in the sense that you should concentrate and give full attention to the task at hand.

I would often find my students doing homework in my class for whatever course they had the next period. I learned that they would similarly rush to complete math homework while sitting in some other class.

The obvious result is that they were never giving complete (or any) attention to the class they were in at the time, sadly with predictable outcomes.

Multitasking has become normal in our lives and research is conflicted as to the effect of this. Definitely, one should give full attention to driving and not text at the same time, but other areas seem to be fair game. In fact our pressure filled lives and 24/7 connectivity often seems to require it.

I woke up feeling rather blah this morning. I had a lot on my mind and I wasn’t doing a good job tackling any of it.

Good old Spark People email.
Sometimes I think they read my mind.
One of the links was: “One Minute to a Healthier You”

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellnes
s_articles.asp?id=1557


I took note of the good advice and finally got down to the last suggestion.

#20 Be Absolutely Present
“When we are wrapped up with work, to-do lists, and just getting by, sometimes we can forget to focus on what we are doing in the here and now. Try spending a minute just being. Focus on sounds, smells and whatever else is going on around you; instead of thinking ahead to what you'll do next think about what you're doing right now. You’ll be amazed at how peaceful you feel. Just be!”

So Good Morning Spark Friends.
I’m feeling refreshed and ready to concentrate on task #1.

  
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KELLIEBEAN 9/12/2014 10:45AM

    I have read that article many times to remind myself of the important points and being present is something I always need to work on. My mind is always is five or six different directions.

A scene from the movie People Like Us has always stayed with me:

Sam: My father, he always said ‘lean into it.’
Josh: What does that mean?
Sam: It means that the outcome doesn’t matter. What matters is that you were there for it — whatever ‘it’ is, good or bad. Kinda like right now.

This has run through my head on numerous occassions!

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KANSASROSE67 9/11/2014 8:59PM

    Words I need to remember!

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SPARKNB 9/11/2014 7:13PM

    Both wise pieces of advice on your wall! I like the Latin too; my dad, from Europe, learned Latin and Greek in school, and always thought my American education was lacking because I only knew 3 languages (no Latin nor Greek) (he knows 9).

Yep, I find Spark very positive and motivating, pretty much every time.
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PS-I was also a math-science teacher.

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ADRIENALINE 9/10/2014 7:54PM

    Studies have proved that the human brain can't multi-task just switch back and forth from task to task very quickly. I love the Latin. It reminds us to make sure we are giving our all to the task at hand.

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LINDAKAY228 9/10/2014 1:23PM

    This is an excellent blog and so true! We are so busy anymore we never are really present. The old saying about stopping to smell the roses still holds true! We have to relearn to be present in the moment!

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KANOE10 9/10/2014 7:48AM

    That article has good ideas. I am multi tasking at work ,,but that often occurs when you are teaching. I find doing yoga helps me focus on the present and feel more useful.

Enjoy that water in task 1.

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WATERMELLEN 9/9/2014 10:05PM

    Super blog: I've got a small reminder to "Be Here Now" in my room . . . and I try!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/9/2014 7:44PM

    emoticon advice. I shall try to take it more often!

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DOVESEYES 9/9/2014 6:57PM

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TRAVELGRRL 9/9/2014 6:28PM

    Great reminder -- thanks!!

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BA5454 9/9/2014 3:57PM

    As a fan of multitasking at work--it was the only way I got things done--I have a hard time 'allowing' myself to focus on one thing at a time now that I'm retired. It's definitely a work in progress. P.S. Your post brought back memories of conjugating Latin in my 8th grade Catholic school--they were good memories, too!

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SUBMOM2 9/9/2014 3:26PM

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For me, multitasking leads to multifailure.

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CELIAMINER 9/9/2014 11:29AM

    Needed this, thanks.

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GINIEMIE 9/9/2014 11:15AM

    Good advice. I'll go just be in front of the table that I can't see a square inch of because it is covered with papers-most of them important and needing to be logged or filed others need the file 13. I'll go to it-and as I eat my lunch today I'll try to remember that also.
Thanks Elaine.
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IFDEEVARUNS2 9/9/2014 10:33AM

    I'm with you. Multitasking isn't often a good thing.
Be present!

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GABY1948 9/9/2014 10:19AM

    This is definitely the word of the day/week/month I guess. ALICIA363 had in her blog yesterday, "don't eat when eating" (don't shovel another piece of food in before you're done with the one in your mouth) or...as you said, "Be absolutely present" and I for one need this really bad...I have not gotten the mindful eating thing yet!

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LEWILL1982 9/9/2014 10:13AM

    I'm taking a nutrition course right now and the topic du jour is mindful eating. As with being present, eating well, being healthy and focusing on one thing at a time, it's all mental. We have to practice eating mindfully, we have to practice doing one thing at a time, we have to practice being present and not tuning out. Great reminder -that's two today for me, I should take heed!

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