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Just When You Think You Got This...

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Has anyone else had that feeling where you KNOW this is gonna work, that you're in the groove, and nothing is going to knock you off the wagon this time?

I mean, yeah, we all say that all the time, but much of the time it's just positive thinking, hoping we can will ourselves to keep going, even though we don't really think we'll succeed. Nothing wrong with that method... but I'm curious who out there truly believes it?

I ask, because twice this year, I was absolutely convinced that I finally had this down pat. I was sure that nothing could derail me.

Then I moved.

That shook me for a few weeks, but didn't completely stop me.

Then August came. I started slacking. I started my own website. I grew tired. I was busy. [insert lame excuse here].

And this got me to thinking.

What makes us quit?

I feel that for the majority of us, weightloss (and gain) is entirely mental. Yes we have to be active and eat right, but our mind controls us- tells us what to do and when. In order to be active and eat right, we have to be in the right mental place to succeed.

So it seems to me, that if we're convinced we're never gonna stop, and then we do stop, there must be a missing piece. (Keep in mind, I'm not talking about trying and trying and just not losing - I'm talking about quitting).

Maybe we've picked up a routine we can't realistically hold on to. Maybe we resent having to do all this work to get what we want. Maybe we're doing it for the wrong reasons. Maybe we just haven't found THAT THING that will really motivate us.

I don't know what mine is yet, but I'm going on the hunt for it. I feel that I will never truly succeed until I find this missing piece. Of course, that doesn't mean I'm not going to keep trying in the meantime!

What was your missing piece? Have you found it yet?

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JUJIFRUIT 11/30/2012 12:44AM

    For me I think it's just a daily committment, and some days I'm up to making that commitment and other days I'm not. I just think as long as I don't go too many days of not committing before I find the strength again, then I will eventually conquer. And hopefully my "blah" days come less and less often as time goes by.

but I think you're right--we have to find a motivation strong enough to sustain us through the difficult times. And that can take time to find. Good luck on your quest. I'm sure you will succeed if you keep looking.

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CELIAMINER 11/29/2012 8:56AM

    Everyone's comments are so wise! I have to agree with Kaliswalker about motivation and habit. The reason I continue to track is fear that even 21 months of trying to build new and improved habits isn't enough to overcome decades of bad habits. Even in maintenance, I feel like I'm on an uphill climb clinging to every branch and rock to keep from slipping back down the slope, and sometimes I do slide down a ways, but then some little spark of motivation gets me back on the climb.

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CSAGIRL 11/29/2012 7:01AM

    Nice blog. I get derailed when I get overwhelmed -- and moving would certainly overwhelm me! I'm hoping that the key is in what Kaliswalker said: that habits are so strong that they keep you going. The next time I get overwhelmed, I am hopeful that my good habits will be so ingrained that they are automatic, and come without so much thinking.

Thanks for the provocation!

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RYDERB 11/28/2012 10:35PM

    For me it was letting go of unrealistic expectations and realizing that it's a journey. Like most journey's there might be delays, detours, road hazards, but you just have to deal with it, and keep going. It's a lifestyle change, not a temporary fix.
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GRATEFUL_BEING 11/28/2012 6:20PM

  This is really a great blog. My missing piece (s) are consistency & the curve balls life throws me. Or I should say my inability to adapt quickly. Once i'm on the right track I am focused, but if a change such as getting ill, family issues... I fall off the wagon, so to speak. Even that is not so easy. My body hates not exercising in the beginning I hate the way I feel eating crappy food. But I do it how sick is that. It doesn't take long and I have formed bad habits again. And its a whole lot harder to switch from the path to the cemetery back to the highway of health.

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LINDAK25 11/28/2012 5:04PM

    Maybe it's not about one thing or one piece. Life is ever changing and so are we. So it's a matter of adapting and finding our balance again.

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MARTY728 11/28/2012 4:22PM

    My missing piece is me. I mean my wanting to do it. I have found it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KALISWALKER 11/28/2012 2:35PM

    Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeping you going.

Some how we resist making our good actions habits - things you do without thinking about it - whether we feel like it or not.

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October Challenge - Week 1 Recap

Sunday, October 07, 2012

Goal: Burn 2040 calories
Completed: 205 calories

So, yeah, this week was a major bust. I am starting the Fall 5% Challenge well, though. It began yesterday and I got in 45 minutes of exercise and 8 glasses of water. Today I did not exercise, but got 10 glasses of water.

Tomorrow, I will exercise... and the next day and the next and so on.

I haven't considered giving up. It's not an option.

Next week I'll do better.

I had almost considered not posting this, since there is so little to tell... but I promised I would. Plus, I wanted to put this out there in case someone else is struggling with getting in the exercise. I guess I just want to show you that we can't give up when things don't go the way we'd hoped.

Instead we get off our butt and go make it happen.

Hope everyone had a great week!

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CVRONEK 10/28/2012 9:00AM

    emoticon I appreciate your honesty, that you fell short, this week.
We ALL have weeks like that, but not all admit it.
It helps and as you said, we WILL do better this week!

emoticon emoticon Let's roll!

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LOSINGLINNDY 10/8/2012 9:10PM

    I am always struggling with exercise. Thanks for putting your blog out there.


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JEANUT 10/8/2012 10:37AM

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TATTER3 10/8/2012 7:06AM

    Don't give up...it's a daily challenge.....just keep Sparkin'!!

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MLDELANGEL 10/8/2012 12:53AM

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BLUE42DOWN 10/7/2012 11:01PM

    Very wise. emoticon

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October Challenge

Saturday, September 29, 2012

This is my get-your-butt-back-in-gear October Challenge (aka the Alt October challenge in the 50lb Challenge Team)

This challenge has 5 parts:

1st- Goal: Burn 8200 calories by November 1. (This is my weekly goal x 4) I've always focused on specific tasks, and I get bored. Plus, I sometimes, pick "easy" things to get my minutes in, thus never burning enough calories to get anywhere. This will keep me from "cheating".

2nd- Reward: Eh, I'm iffy on a reward. I'm so picky. Food rewards are against the rules (and I wouldn't pick it anyway), but I also don't want to purchase a reward either, as I can't say if I'll even be able to afford (or find) what I would want. So that leaves things like, "read a book", or "take a bubble bath" - all things I already do. I get plenty of alone time. So, eh. I don't know. Hah, I'll take suggestions!

3rd- Quote: I will post a new quote each week. This weeks quote:

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”–Maria Robinson

4th- Blog: I will update my blog once a week (Saturday) to reflect my progress.

5th- Print: Supposed to print it all out and put it somewhere you can see each day, but I don't have my printer hooked up. So.... I'll probably just write out.

And that's it!

Starts Monday!

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KALISWALKER 9/30/2012 8:02PM

    That's a great quote!

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GRATEFUL_BEING 9/29/2012 3:06PM

  Beth that's an awesome idea! Kim how about just taking a mindful walk for a reward?

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SAINTBETH 9/29/2012 11:30AM

    I reward myself with a trip to the local beauty college. I got a pedicure for $5 there for one reward. Good luck.

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DMEYER4 9/29/2012 10:29AM

  Good luck. emoticon emoticon

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Fall 5% Challenge Commitment

Friday, September 21, 2012

Ah it's that time of year again - time for cooler weather (finally!!) and Halloween, and yes, the Fall 5% Challenge!

This will be my third 5% Challenge (I did Spring and Summer of this year) and it's coming at a great time. After falling out of the Summer Challenge, and slowly moving back into Lazy Zone, it's definitely time to get a challenge going round here!

So without further ado...

I give you, My Fall 5% Challenge Commitment:

emoticon I will exercise for 20 minutes a day, 5 days a week at minimum.
emoticon I will follow the Sparkdiet as closely as I can.
emoticon I will record my minutes and points on the team daily, and I will weight in each Saturday.
emoticon I will comment on discussions and blogs as I have time.
And above all...
emoticon I will see this challenge to the end. There is NO GIVING UP!

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KALISWALKER 9/25/2012 12:08PM

    I am glad to see you are doing the Challenge too. I am so ready for the Challenge too.


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When You Think Your Hard Work Isn't Paying Off

Sunday, September 16, 2012

So, you know how I mentioned in a previous post, that I had slacked off on working out?

I did. For about 2 months. And one of those months was spent eating out almost every day.

I'll wait while you pick yourself off the floor.




And guess what? I gained about 8lbs.

But this post isn't to whine about how sorry I am (I'm not - It was a learning experience), or even about how I'll promise to get back on track (which I will). This post is about what happens when you don't even notice it.

I can't tell you how many times I've given up because I just wasn't seeing any progress.

But the cold hard truth is simply that we either a) don't WANT to see results or b) we're so blinded by what we THINK we are that just don't see the TRUTH.

I can tell you that aside from the scale going down a little a time, I did not notice any physical changes taking place.

My clothes didn't fit differently.

My pain had barely diminished.

I wasn't happier.

Oh and all of the above were a LIE.

Did you hear that?


With those 8lbs added back on, I can tell you that WITHOUT A DOUBT, that my body had been changing. Because I can feel it going to back to what it was.

I FEEL my clothes getting tighter.

I SEE my legs are a bit thicker.

I FEEL the pain in my foot returning.

I FEEL my energy evaporating.

I SEE that my boobs don't fit in my bra anymore (Ok, so maybe this isn't so bad) emoticon

Anyway, my point here is that even if you don't feel that change is happening, IT IS.

Just try going the other way, and I PROMISE you, you'll notice a difference!

Oh, and if you're lacking in motivation and need a boost... you HAVE TO READ THIS thinktraffic.net/motivation It may just be the greatest thing I've read in a LONG time!

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BOGUSANNIE 9/19/2012 2:41PM

    LOL...LOVE the link!!! thanks for that!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 9/18/2012 6:37PM

    It is amazing how much easier it comes back on. I am in the same boat. I hate how my clothes are fitting now. But we can get this weight off -- cheering you on!

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IYA_EKUNDAYO 9/18/2012 4:08PM

    Funny how when the pounds are slowly coming off it seems we never notice but when we slide a bit.... BOOM! Hello, where did all this come from.

thanks for sharing the link, great site.


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TAMPATINK67 9/18/2012 12:29AM

    I'm okay - you're okay...

We can do this!

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KALISWALKER 9/17/2012 7:29PM

    Time to get back on track and STAY THERE! We can do it, you know we can. We are getting to 199 by 12/12/12!


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GRATEFUL_BEING 9/17/2012 5:33PM

  emoticon for pulling yourself back into the ways of the healthy. Thanks for the link. I'm headed there next.

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CANDOK1260 9/17/2012 4:26PM

    thanks for sharing

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CELIAMINER 9/17/2012 9:07AM

    Great blog and great link. Feeling fired up...time for my walk.

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SOPHIEDO13 9/17/2012 4:03AM

    Thanks to your Blog I just did 20 min on the exercise bike to Marvin Gaye, I Guess that dates me LOL next I will do my strength training, btw I passed on your link emoticon emoticon

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LINDAK25 9/16/2012 10:08PM

    Instead of gaining weight, I'll just take your word for it! I appreciate the sacrifice you made for me!
Seriously, stop doing that, please!

I am so impatient. I want this change to happen faster! Sometimes I find myself thinking "when I was this weight before I could fit into this, why can't I do that now," and then I get frustrated. It's hard not to want to exercise too much and eat too little. I know if I do that I would end of quitting.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I know it takes time and hard work, I do. I'm just saying that I know exactly what you're talking about. I really do appreciate your blog. Hopefully, I can learn from your lapse! Thanks for the reminder.

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SPEEDY143 9/16/2012 9:52PM

    It sure goes back on a lot quicker than it comes off doesn't it emoticon Stay strong emoticon emoticon emoticon

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