Sunday, August 18, 2013
Donít be happy AFTER success.
LIVE HAPPY and success will come.
Challenge based on this TedTalk:
Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work | Video on TED.com
3 DAILY GRATITUDES:
1) Rest: This weekend has been gloriously restful
2) Time to myself: Most days I am frustrated about my husband's non traditional and never consistent work schedule. I realized this weekend though, that I do treasure the time alone that I have when I do have it. During the summer break, of course there is more but during the school year, I treasure the time a bit more graciously.
3) Letting go (see below)
JOURNALING (A positive occurrence of the last 24 hours): I have spent way too much time in my life being hard on myself for decisions I make that are actually good for me in the end. One current one -- to be ok with not posting my Day 19 blog for this happiness challenge. I still had the experiences I had yesterday, I was conscious of the different things I wanted to do and just becuase I did not want to get on the computer for a day, doesn't make me a bad person. It is what it is and I refuse to get caught up in a silly detail of not writing it down.
Another more serious/long term self judgement was remedied yesterday as well. A toxic relationship I had with a group of family members/girlfriends made me very sick in many ways. I had to let it go a few years ago. Last night, I attended a family function for the first time where it is obvious to all that they still depend way too much on alcohol and each other's dysfunctions to be "happy". It's taken me a long time to forgive myself for hurting them with my decision. I tried to offer my explanations when they were ready to hear me. They never were. Assumptions and judgements and grudges have formed. Last night, I had a new point of view from which to watch things. I am so proud of being a part of the family but at the same time, I'm proud of myself for not being a part of that festering set of wounds. I am not perfect by any means. I have my own wounds but these days, I can forgive the people who hurt me (both intentionally and unintentionally) in the past and just hope they will find their own way around their own issues. Most of all, I forgive myself and celebrate my own good decisions.
EXERCISE: Absolutely not. I have enjoyed a very lazy day and I am not sorry for it in the least. I have my exercise plans all laid out for the week ahead.
MEDITATION: I'm on it right after this post.
RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS: