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Being an inspriation

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

My daily challenge today was to tell about 3 people who inspired me.
3 People who inspire me: 1. I met last week was a 'young at heart' gentleman who was on his way to ND Hesburg Library to do some research on some old maps he had. He was 93, walked with a cane and was going out to learn something new. he had been in the air-force in two wars, and received metals one for saving his unit from being taken over by the enemy.
2. My grandmother. she was her own person and didn't follow the norm like most did in the late 30's. she was a musician. Married a musician that was divorced. that was a big deal back then
3. The third is a type of person who doesn't let their disabilities stop them. for example--Jennifer Bricker was born with no legs, but she didn't let that stop her from following her dreams of becoming a gymnast. :

I have been told that I have been an inspiration to others and that has warmed me. what a great compliment. I went back to school and inspired others to also. either to go for their masters or for their GED. Both have finished. my friend with the GED just this fall!!

I have been a single mom- happy and making it and inspired someone to leave her abusive husband and do it herself.

there are so many people on SparkPeople that have over come obstacles of their own and are inspirations to so many of us.

THANK YOU to all of you to inspire us everyday!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/16/2014 7:25AM

    Agree with TRAVELGO.

Thank you for your blog.

It inspires me!


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GINIEMIE 10/14/2014 8:13PM

    We can all inspire and take inspiration from those around us. It depends on whether we are open to it or not. Nice blog Char.
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TRAVELGO 10/14/2014 7:13PM

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Bathroom behavior- I am not reflecting this

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Bathroom breakthrough.
For those of you that know me and have been following my life at all you will know just what a big breakthrough or transformation or revelation I had today about my attitude and Helene.
A brief background for those that don’t know my story Helene: She is my lead where I work and when I first started she was very nice. Later that first year I was asked to become a full time employee which meant switching to nights. Maybe that is where all her animosity towards me started because she probably felt other deserved full time before me, others who had been then a while before me. Fast forward to when I was able to move back to days. My first day back I noticed something that had to be cleaned and a manager praised me in front of her for noticing it. We have been butting heads ever since. Maybe she thought I wanted her job—I don’t know. She would criticized me all the time and accused me of doing things that I didn’t do.; All in front of other co-workers and sometimes guests. One time he got me so upset I thought I was having a heart attack and I went to the ER. Fast forward 7 years of this kind of behavior towards me. Accusing me to things I didn’t do, interrupting me or walking away when I was talking.
A month ago I was asking her to make some signs for me and she walked away. Later came up while I was talking to someone to tell them where I had put an item and told me not to be so bossy.
A little bit later I went to the bathroom in a stall that had no toilet paper. I heard someone come in and asked for help. I asked THREE times. Never any answer. I finely got up to change stalls, peeked around the corner and it was Helene. After I finished and washed my hands I was about to leave and decided – I would ask her why she is always so rude to me. She replied she didn’t have to help me in the bathroom or something of that sort.
I don’t know anyone who would not give toilet paper to someone. That is how hostile she is towards me.
Now to fast forward to my revelation today:
I am naturally a kind, happy, caring and helpful person. Since I started working at SDH I had begun to reflect people’s attitudes towards me back at them. It was self-preservation or something. If a person didn’t like me for some reason I would just try and stay out of their way. I wouldn’t be as happy towards them.
So I was lying in bed just thinking this afternoon and Thought about my reflecting. I know I would never reflect ‘toilet paper behavior’ on anyone.
Outcome: I decided not to reflect others feeling back at them!
I think I worked on this relaxing in bed. More like a meditation/self-discovery type of thing. When I woke up I felt happy! Like this burden that I had been carrying was gone.
I wanted to go to work and give Helene a hug and thank her. REALLY.
People are in your life for a reason. Sometimes it takes years to figure out why. In my case it was 13+ years. Helene was brought into my life to teach me, to teach me not to take things so personally (another story) and to not reflect back on others.
I pray everyone can figure out why people are in your life and use it to help themselves. It can take years (for me it was over a decade).
Once it comes you will feel lighter, happier and free.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/16/2014 7:24AM


Please read (or if you don't have time to sit down and read - I don't - listen to some of the audio books) by Gregg Braden. He speaks about the same principals that you have intuited in this blog.

And these principals are part of the ancient wisdom that our society has forgotten about and even rejected in our modern rush to do,do,do instead of be,be,be.

Be kind.
Be aware.
Be relaxed.
Be part of all that is.

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PURPLEPEONY 9/24/2014 1:51PM

    emoticon Just pray for her & "kill her with kindness" but don`t let her walk all over you. Miserable, insecure people love to make other people miserable. Whenever she comes around just smile and go on... don`t let her steal your joy!


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MOM_TO_AKI 9/23/2014 5:20AM

Good for you making this experience in to positive for you. I agree with BHENDRICK2 that this person sounds like a real jerk!!

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GOODGETNBETR 9/22/2014 8:48PM

    emoticon blog and true. We may not like the lesson but we need to learn it

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GINIEMIE 9/22/2014 8:59AM

    I'm so happy you've gotten some peace about Helene and the situation. I still find her behavior in the restroom deplorable.
My sister prayed for 6 weeks for her work tormentor and finally saw her reactionary behavior change and the other persons behavior slightly improved. I pray things will get better with your new perspective. Have you gone back to work yet?
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GARDENCHRIS 9/22/2014 7:03AM

    sometimes the best thing to do is ignore people..... it seems harsh but in the end you have to take care of yourself ...... and it is the other persons issue and not your to figure out...

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MILLISMA 9/21/2014 9:55PM

    Wow, this is a fantastic blog! Glad I had time for the friend feed or I would have missed it. What you realized is so true. When you show someone kindness that has been just plain mean, it usually floors them and they don't know how to deal with it. Good for you and hope it contniues to make you feel better.

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BHENDRICK2 9/21/2014 8:26PM

    im glad you took something positive from that situation though that person sounds like a jerk to be honest

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surgery wellness update

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

The pain is not gone but is definitely better and way better than the first two days.
I couldn't figure out what they had done-- it hurts so bad to bend my knee more than like an inch.
Then I forgot about it and bent my knee and the kneecap popped back into place.
Just walking in a normal pace people don't know I had an operation.
Yesterday I had my pinky checked out at the wellness center. It is Just sprained by the way.
I got a little down because I have lost any weight since surgery. I had been eating as much.

Nurse asked have you been exercising.
No, I just had surgery last week. She said “Your knee? (I had been there before) I said yes. She couldn't tell by the way I was taking small steps to have my pinky checked out. Just kidding, it was regular steps for me.
I have only done small stretching and strengthening exercise so far.

Now to get something done the wedding is less than 20 days.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/16/2014 7:18AM

    Glad to hear you are the mend...but now I need to figure out who the wedding is for!

Is it you or a friend or relative.

Ugh! Need to catch up!


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GARDENCHRIS 9/22/2014 7:04AM

    glad you are feeling better!

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2BDYNAMIC 9/11/2014 5:07PM

    I am sorry I missed out sending you a get well note or any words of encouragement ............ I have been on sparks very little past 10 days or so ...... (It's in blog today) .......... I am still really tired and reeling .......... But will just rest as I hope you too will do and do not push too soon ........... a body just needs to rest and fully mend .................. emoticon ......... You and I will both be back at em before we know it ............. ((Hugs)) ............ Jan

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GINIEMIE 9/11/2014 11:01AM

    Sounds like your recovery is advancing. Hope you are well enough to enjoy the wedding.
BTW, gentle walking a wee bit at a time might help.
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MILLISMA 9/10/2014 9:06PM

    Sounds like you are really on the way! Good for you! emoticon

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GERRYH2 9/10/2014 8:59PM

    Hang in there. Hope you recover in time for the wedding!

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Surgery Day: A scene from a comedy movie

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

So are you ready to hear about my day of surgery? I am finely ready to share it. If you saw that in a comedy you would've laughed.

My surgery was her personally supposed to be at 1 PM. Got moved to two and then three. My mom picked me up at 12:30 to take me to the surgery center. I put my crutches in the backseat and climb in the front and off we went. She pulls up underneath the awning to let me off. I got out open the backseat to get my crutches out and she started driving. I yelled and fell to the ground.
She stops the car on top of my shoe. Luckily I had to slip-ons that I slipped out of so my toes were not under her tire.
Someone from the medical complex walks right by me talking on the phone and doesn't even offer to help. Nobody from inside came out either. I fell on my left knee and hurt my right pinky.
I tell what happened when I go to the registration desk and was informed they would tell the director of the facility
The waiting room wasn't comfortable and I'm sitting there thinking my left knee hurts more than my right knee that I'm going in for. I mentioned it to the doctor when I went for the results of the MRI- he said it should get better once my right knee can do its share. I need to insist that he looks at it when I go back to get the stitches out of my right knee. I get taken back at 1:30,go to the bathroom and while I'm changing into the lovely down that was provided to me the director says 'knock knock' and walks in. He was more embarrassed than I.
Tell him what happened he says they've been looking into getting Cameras of the doors just in case gunman would come. I said it's a better idea for helping people that would fall. My doctor checked my hand when he came to see me. He said if it still swollen in the week he would take an x-ray of it. It's crooked, swollen and hurts. I don't think I want to wait another week. I will have to check and see how to get it checked out the fastest.

I was really thirsty and asked for ice chips because I still have 45 minutes before surgery.
No is the reply I received because the doctors ahead of schedule and I've been moved up. I have but 10 minutes.
I said I need to make a phone call then-- That the change of time- changes my ride situation.
I wanted somebody with me when the doctor came in after the surgery to talk to me.
I walk to the surgery room, climb up to the table my arm got cold and I was out.
I wake up in a chair in the recovery room and my mom just coming in.
I got water and a blueberry muffin. I got Dressed and left. No visit from the doctor.
The Surgery center called the next day to see how I was.
I'm hurting! It hurt a lot more than it did last year on my left knee. I had my FMLA form filled out and he has me off until October 13. I only have two weeks between vacation and sick time.
Originally I was hoping to put it off for a couple months like I did with my left knee.
When I went into see him he said "no you should have it as soon as possible, it will just keep getting worse"
So I gave work a weeks’ notice, scheduled my surgery knowing I would have almost a month without any pay. I called the doctor’s office today because it was hurting more than last year plus I was getting pain down my leg. Wanted to let them know and made a comment must be due to the other work he had to do. I was informed he actually didn't do anything more than he did last time. Why did I have to hurry to have it done? I could've built up some vacation and sick time. Maybe put a little money back.
"No the sooner the better. Next week would be good" said the doctor. I guess the sooner the better was for the doctor so he could fill up his surgery schedule.
Yes there is some unhappy attitude there….just about having almost 4 weeks without pay. Getting it taken sooner is a good thing. I am going to apply for help from the compassion fund to help with my mortgage and utilities. Hopefully they will be able to help because 4 years ago I asked for help but there was no money available.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/16/2014 7:15AM


I commend you for telling this story with such a "straight face!"

I hope you take it (or have already taken it) and print it out and mail it to the directors of the hospital. I don't think people do these things because they are "bad" they do it because they are overwhelmed or calloused from over-work and they need to be gently reminded of their purpose and how they effect those in need around them.

You could do that beautifully because you don't do it in an angry way.

I'm catching up on blogs and can't wait to read the "next chapter" and see how you are doing.


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GINIEMIE 9/11/2014 11:10AM

    Sounds like a comedy of errors, but it wasn't funny. Sorry about the mishaps. I do hope you can get some help. Check with the St. Vincent de Paul group closest to you. Maybe they can help you.
No matter from where I hope you get some help, a month with no income is very difficult and when you are in pain-it consumes your mind.
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LE7_1234 9/10/2014 11:27AM

    Glad you can find some humor in it after the fact!

Feel better soon!

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GARDENCHRIS 9/10/2014 6:51AM

    sorry all this happened this way....

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SHAMROCKY2K 9/9/2014 11:51PM

    Aww. Your Mom was obviously not thinking straight to leave you there. It's always good to look at the light side of things. Now submit it to CBS or somewhere.
Feel better soon. Keep updating us.

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GOODGETNBETR 9/9/2014 6:37PM

    Almost forgot :)


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GOODGETNBETR 9/9/2014 6:36PM

    Not really that funny but everyone has their own sense of what's funny. I can only assume your mom was nervous as to why she pulled off so quickly but it's a lesson to me as I usually get hurt or hurt others when I move too fast and don't take time to notice what's going on around me. A shame the doc was only looking out for #1 so good luck getting the help you need

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LILORITA 9/9/2014 5:44PM

    This really sounds like a scene from a comedy movie! How are you feeling now? emoticon emoticon

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Daily Challenge: Move your alarm

Thursday, August 28, 2014

How to do it
Move your alarm clock so it's across the room from your bed, or at least far enough away so that you have to get out of bed to turn it off. Be sure to test the volume to make sure you can easily hear it from bed!

Why it matters
Are you getting late starts in the morning because you continually hit snooze when the alarm goes off? Moving your alarm clock across the room, or far enough away that you have to get out of bed, will make it more likely you'll get up and stay up. You might as well get up right away and use that time to prepare for the day! You'll feel less stressed and may have a calmer start to your morning that way.

I moved my alarm so I would have to get out of bed years ago.
It doesn't help 100% of the time.
Mostly in the winter when I want to get back underneath the warm covers.
I have this awesome Way to wake up in the morning. I have a Dawn simulator. It slowly gets light in my room and then by the time it's full sunlight I'm awake. It does have a back up buzzer that goes off. And I know if I wake up with the booze or I'm not getting enough sleep.
I absolutely love it! Hate to be woke up with a horrible beeping noise or buzzer or somebody loud talking to loud music you don't like . The new alarms on some alarm devices or cell phones are nice.
You can get one relatively cheap to add to your own light fixture.
I have one with the special light that I can sit in front of for 'sunlight'
I used to sleep with my cell phone on my bed stand.
I do not anymore.
I had heard it can cause headaches. So I moved it away and now I hardly get them anymore. I have it at the end of the bed and across about 4 feet where my on simulator alarm is.
If you don’t do that and you frequently get headaches or migraines you really should try it.

Things went smoothly at work and I wasn't hurting as bad as I was on Tuesday when I got out of there. Plus Helene was not rude in any way today. That was a good.

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WUMPASTAR 8/29/2014 9:52AM

    Mine has always been away from the bed ever since I started using one when I was a teen. But most of the time I get up, turn it off, and go back to bed -_- I think the dawn thing you have is AWESOME! I totally want one now!

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GINIEMIE 8/29/2014 7:42AM

    I like the idea of the dawn simulator. I have a double alarm I use when I have to get up, but since I'm retired I set only one to take my meds. I'm going to move my phone for the night too, we'll see if I have less morning headaches too. I know it doesn't even pay to have it near-I don't hear when someone calls after I'm asleep.

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UMBILICAL 8/28/2014 8:40PM

  Great idea

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